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Mom forgot to add "and guest" to invitations/RSVP's - Help!

Knottie091c4e29aec8d33aKnottie091c4e29aec8d33a member
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Hey folks, my mom sent out all of our invitations.  The RSVP cards themselves had no spot to select "guest", just a blank line to write who was coming.  I assumed my mom knew to right "Mr/Mrs xxxxx and Guest" on the envelopes themselves, but she did not.  She just put the name of the individual we wanted to invite, with no sign that their significant other was invited.  I'm looking for suggestions for what to do at this point since I think some people may be confused and unwilling to be rude by RSVPing with an extra guest that isn't mentioned.  Would you send a follow up letter to clarify, make a phone call, or do nothing and hope for the best?   Any ideas appreciated. 
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Re: Mom forgot to add "and guest" to invitations/RSVP's - Help!

  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Actually, it's not appropriate to use "and guest" on invitations. Everyone's "and guest" should have been invited by name.

    That means that if you haven't already ascertained who was planning to bring an "and guest" and gotten that person's name, you would need to do that now.

    I think your best course of action at this point is to contact anyone you wanted to invite "and guest" and let them know that they are welcome to bring someone. I'd do whatever you can to get the actual names of the "and guests" so you can put them on escort cards and/or seating charts.
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  • STARMOON44STARMOON44 member
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    Jen4948 said:
    Actually, it's not appropriate to use "and guest" on invitations. Everyone's "and guest" should have been invited by name.

    That means that if you haven't already ascertained who was planning to bring an "and guest" and gotten that person's name, you would need to do that now.

    I think your best course of action at this point is to contact anyone you wanted to invite "and guest" and let them know that they are welcome to bring someone. I'd do whatever you can to get the actual names of the "and guests" so you can put them on escort cards and/or seating charts.
    It's fine to use "and guest" for someone truly single. 
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  • SP29SP29 member
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    If someone is in a relationship (whether that be married, engaged, dating), then their SO should be invited by name, on the invitation.

    And guest is appropriate for people who are truly single and means they can bring ANYONE of their choosing.

    OP- I would call up anyone who you meant to invite with their SO or anyone who you meant to give a plus one too. A simple sorry for the confusion, you of course meant to invite their SO/ let them know they are welcome to bring a guest, and to let you know on the RSVP card if they will be attending, will work.
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    edited September 2017
    Sorry, OP, but the fault is yours.  It was up to you to give your mother a COMPLETE guest list.  Obviously, you forgot to write down the significant others on the list you gave her.  (I addressed my daughter's invitations, so I sympathize with Mom.)
    You can telephone the people concerned and tell them that their partner/spouse/SO is invited, too.  Don't delay.
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  • ernursejernursej member
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    I would start calling everyone and letting them know that the invite was meant to include their significant other by name (or guest in a truly single person) and apologize for the oversight. Let them know to write in the names of both individuals if they are able to come. Be prepared to follow up with a lot that don't follow the verbal instructions.
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