So H and I got married last month. We invited some friends to our wedding (let's call them Sarah and Jim). We attend their wedding in early July. I brought an expensive boxed gift to their wedding ($120ish). To date, we have not received a thank you card.
A few months ago, there was a debate (I think on E) about the etiquette of giving boxed gifts at wedding receptions. Sarah and I happened to be texting at the time so I texted her that I had just learned it could be considered bad etiquette to bring a boxed gift to a wedding and apologized if I inconvenienced anyone the night of their wedding. She responded that it was probably bad etiquette not to have thank you notes out by that point. I responded that people understood. I had hoped it would spur them to get out the thank you notes. It did not.
Sarah and Jim attended our wedding and did not send a gift prior, bring a gift, or bring a card. Now, we all know that gifts are not required, but it would have been nice to receive at least a card from them.
I would like to be petty AF and send them a thank you note for their attendance but H thinks it's a terrible idea. Please talk me off the ledge and convince me it's a bad idea!!!