My mom has several times expressed an interested in throwing a party/bridal shower for me and inviting friends because she wants to share her excitement about the wedding with them. Some of these friends I have known since I was young, but they are not invited to the wedding (which is several states away). She mentioned that a lot of her friends had expressed an interest in giving us a wedding gift/celebrating with us even though they wouldn't be able to go to the wedding.
I didn't really think about this before and I was planning to let my mom just throw the party and host because she was really excited about it. I don't think I'll have a bridal shower if she doesn't because we recently moved and I am states away from any friends/family. But I was reading some things about only wedding guests being invited to the bridal shower. How hard and fast a rule is this? If they are friends of my mom, does that matter?
Scratching my head over here... I don't want my mom to be sad about not being able to throw the party she wants to throw or celebrate with her friends but our guest list is already pretty big. I don't *think* any of the people would be able to attend the wedding even if we invited them, but that seems like a pretty crummy reason to invite someone to a wedding, and also feels like we are grubbing for gifts from people we don't know that well (mom's friends, not mine).
Any advice or thoughts are appreciated!