Please scilence your cell phones

bookmaiden17_ · June 2017

So I have read a couple posts on here about this topic but couldn't quite find a clear answer to my question. My mom is being instant on wanting to tell people to silence their cell phones during the ceremony. The ceremony will be outside and my Uncle, who is a pastor, will be officiating but it won't be a religious ceremony. She wants to have him make an announcement prior to the start of the ceremony. We are not doing programs so putting a small line in there isn't an option. She did say she would be okay with a sign near where the ceremony will take place. Have other people done this or seen it done? Would you be okay with either of these options or find it odd?

DrillSergeantCat · June 2017

Yes, I've seen a sign done and I thought it was rude. You need to trust that adults know how to behave in a serious setting.

STARMOON44 · June 2017

I have no problem at all with your uncle making an announcement.

kwiksilver · June 2017

I wouldn't think it odd or rude for the officiant to say a quick word about silencing phones. That's likely the most polite option, as they are presiding over the ceremony and it wouldn't seem bossy coming from them.

MobKaz · June 2017

bookmaiden17_ said:

So I have read a couple posts on here about this topic but couldn't quite find a clear answer to my question. My mom is being instant on wanting to tell people to silence their cell phones during the ceremony. The ceremony will be outside and my Uncle, who is a pastor, will be officiating but it won't be a religious ceremony. She wants to have him make an announcement prior to the start of the ceremony. We are not doing programs so putting a small line in there isn't an option. She did say she would be okay with a sign near where the ceremony will take place. Have other people done this or seen it done? Would you be okay with either of these options or find it odd?

Just prior to the official start of the ceremony, I see no reason why your officiant can't make one simple statement reminding guests to silence their cell phones. Our pastor often does it prior to Mass. It is done in theaters. Although I am typically vigilant about quieting my phone, I appreciate the reminder.

charlotte989875 · June 2017

I've often seen officiants/pastors make a quick announcement and I think that's fine. I'd totally side-eye a sign.

downtondiva · June 2017

Go with a quick announcement at the beginning. The sign is too much.

flantastic · June 2017

"Scilence." That's new to me.

I think the announcement would be fine.

southernbelle0915 · June 2017

I never have an issue with a quick reminder from the officiant. ("We are so pleased to see all of you here today. If you haven't already, please silence your cell phone before we get started...."

The signs are too much - it implies you don't think people are gracious enough to do this. The verbal note is a soft reminder.

justsie · June 2017

Agree with all PPs and I posted this question prior to my wedding, the officiant made a quick announcement before he got started and all was well.

Jen4948 · June 2017

A quick announcement at the beginning of the ceremony would be fine.

bookmaiden17_ · June 2017

Thank you all for your input. I just wasn't really about the idea of an announcement, having never seen it done. @southernbelle0915 thanks for the example wording. The quick announcement before the start seems to be the way to go.

beachwedding2017 · June 2017

I don't see anything wrong with making an announcement. Some people just forget or have multiple kids to watch. I wouldn't consider it rude at all

ei34 · June 2017

An announcement made by the officiant- fine.
Something written when I arrive at the ceremony (in the program/on a sign)- annoying
Something written months before on the wedding website when I first receive the STD- sit down and stop you're making me consider not attending your wedding

*NOT saying you're doing this OP, but I just had the third experience a few weeks ago and I'm still pissed

ScottishSarah · June 2017

Our celebrant made a similar announcement. I do think a sign is rude though.

InLoveInQueens · June 2017

eileenrob said:

An announcement made by the officiant- fine.
Something written when I arrive at the ceremony (in the program/on a sign)- annoying
Something written months before on the wedding website when I first receive the STD- sit down and stop you're making me consider not attending your wedding

*NOT saying you're doing this OP, but I just had the third experience a few weeks ago and I'm still pissed

A friend posted on facebook that she got all of her ceremony signs and one of them is telling people they can't take pictures until after the first dance is done. I just didn't comment because I don't want to deal with all the "it's her day!~!~!" comments from the peanut gallery.

[Deleted User] · July 2017

InLoveInQueens said:

eileenrob said:

An announcement made by the officiant- fine.
Something written when I arrive at the ceremony (in the program/on a sign)- annoying
Something written months before on the wedding website when I first receive the STD- sit down and stop you're making me consider not attending your wedding

*NOT saying you're doing this OP, but I just had the third experience a few weeks ago and I'm still pissed

A friend posted on facebook that she got all of her ceremony signs and one of them is telling people they can't take pictures until after the first dance is done. I just didn't comment because I don't want to deal with all the "it's her day!~!~!" comments from the peanut gallery.

I hope her pro photographer doesn't crash her computer or just get bitchy and run away with the ONLY photos of the day.

InLoveInQueens · July 2017

adk19 said:

InLoveInQueens said:

eileenrob said:

An announcement made by the officiant- fine.
Something written when I arrive at the ceremony (in the program/on a sign)- annoying
Something written months before on the wedding website when I first receive the STD- sit down and stop you're making me consider not attending your wedding

*NOT saying you're doing this OP, but I just had the third experience a few weeks ago and I'm still pissed

A friend posted on facebook that she got all of her ceremony signs and one of them is telling people they can't take pictures until after the first dance is done. I just didn't comment because I don't want to deal with all the "it's her day!~!~!" comments from the peanut gallery.

I hope her pro photographer doesn't crash her computer or just get bitchy and run away with the ONLY photos of the day.

I kind of am expecting a giant meltdown afterwards, since her photographer is definitely not a pro. Maybe an amateur hobbyist hoping to go pro one day, but wedding photography (and photography in general) isn't their full time job.

I am going to suggest not using them for that reason alone (because the whole "it's rude, you're guests are smart enough to figure out when to take a picture and when not to" will fall flat for sure) and leave it at that. I'd hate for that to happen to her, she's sweet, just caught up in the ridiculous expectations some people place on weddings.

She also posted a rant about how terrible of a "best" friend her MOH is because she wasn't feeling well and don't go to their flower and flip flop assembling "party".

flantastic · July 2017

InLoveInQueens said:

adk19 said:

InLoveInQueens said:

eileenrob said:

An announcement made by the officiant- fine.
Something written when I arrive at the ceremony (in the program/on a sign)- annoying
Something written months before on the wedding website when I first receive the STD- sit down and stop you're making me consider not attending your wedding

*NOT saying you're doing this OP, but I just had the third experience a few weeks ago and I'm still pissed

A friend posted on facebook that she got all of her ceremony signs and one of them is telling people they can't take pictures until after the first dance is done. I just didn't comment because I don't want to deal with all the "it's her day!~!~!" comments from the peanut gallery.

I hope her pro photographer doesn't crash her computer or just get bitchy and run away with the ONLY photos of the day.

I kind of am expecting a giant meltdown afterwards, since her photographer is definitely not a pro. Maybe an amateur hobbyist hoping to go pro one day, but wedding photography (and photography in general) isn't their full time job.

I am going to suggest not using them for that reason alone (because the whole "it's rude, you're guests are smart enough to figure out when to take a picture and when not to" will fall flat for sure) and leave it at that. I'd hate for that to happen to her, she's sweet, just caught up in the ridiculous expectations some people place on weddings.

She also posted a rant about how terrible of a "best" friend her MOH is because she wasn't feeling well and don't go to their flower and flip flop assembling "party".

Oh, I don't know. Being upset about your MOH not coming and thinking it's part of being a good friend? Wrong, and self-centered, but could just be ascribed to being too caught up in BS wedding expectations.

Posting a public rant about how terrible a friend is? Just being an awful person, IMO.

InLoveInQueens · July 2017

flantastic said:

InLoveInQueens said:

adk19 said:

InLoveInQueens said:

eileenrob said:

An announcement made by the officiant- fine.
Something written when I arrive at the ceremony (in the program/on a sign)- annoying
Something written months before on the wedding website when I first receive the STD- sit down and stop you're making me consider not attending your wedding

*NOT saying you're doing this OP, but I just had the third experience a few weeks ago and I'm still pissed

A friend posted on facebook that she got all of her ceremony signs and one of them is telling people they can't take pictures until after the first dance is done. I just didn't comment because I don't want to deal with all the "it's her day!~!~!" comments from the peanut gallery.

I hope her pro photographer doesn't crash her computer or just get bitchy and run away with the ONLY photos of the day.

I kind of am expecting a giant meltdown afterwards, since her photographer is definitely not a pro. Maybe an amateur hobbyist hoping to go pro one day, but wedding photography (and photography in general) isn't their full time job.

I am going to suggest not using them for that reason alone (because the whole "it's rude, you're guests are smart enough to figure out when to take a picture and when not to" will fall flat for sure) and leave it at that. I'd hate for that to happen to her, she's sweet, just caught up in the ridiculous expectations some people place on weddings.

She also posted a rant about how terrible of a "best" friend her MOH is because she wasn't feeling well and don't go to their flower and flip flop assembling "party".

Oh, I don't know. Being upset about your MOH not coming and thinking it's part of being a good friend? Wrong, and self-centered, but could just be ascribed to being too caught up in BS wedding expectations.

Posting a public rant about how terrible a friend is? Just being an awful person, IMO.

Totally agree, though she did keep her complaining to our private fb group (has ~30 people in it) so no one on her feed or who knows any of them directly saw her rant. I just hope she kept her disappointment reasonable and to our group.

Jen4948 · July 2017

InLoveInQueens said:

flantastic said:

InLoveInQueens said:

adk19 said:

InLoveInQueens said:

eileenrob said:

An announcement made by the officiant- fine.
Something written when I arrive at the ceremony (in the program/on a sign)- annoying
Something written months before on the wedding website when I first receive the STD- sit down and stop you're making me consider not attending your wedding

*NOT saying you're doing this OP, but I just had the third experience a few weeks ago and I'm still pissed

A friend posted on facebook that she got all of her ceremony signs and one of them is telling people they can't take pictures until after the first dance is done. I just didn't comment because I don't want to deal with all the "it's her day!~!~!" comments from the peanut gallery.

I hope her pro photographer doesn't crash her computer or just get bitchy and run away with the ONLY photos of the day.

I kind of am expecting a giant meltdown afterwards, since her photographer is definitely not a pro. Maybe an amateur hobbyist hoping to go pro one day, but wedding photography (and photography in general) isn't their full time job.

I am going to suggest not using them for that reason alone (because the whole "it's rude, you're guests are smart enough to figure out when to take a picture and when not to" will fall flat for sure) and leave it at that. I'd hate for that to happen to her, she's sweet, just caught up in the ridiculous expectations some people place on weddings.

She also posted a rant about how terrible of a "best" friend her MOH is because she wasn't feeling well and don't go to their flower and flip flop assembling "party".

Oh, I don't know. Being upset about your MOH not coming and thinking it's part of being a good friend? Wrong, and self-centered, but could just be ascribed to being too caught up in BS wedding expectations.

Posting a public rant about how terrible a friend is? Just being an awful person, IMO.

Totally agree, though she did keep her complaining to our private fb group (has ~30 people in it) so no one on her feed or who knows any of them directly saw her rant. I just hope she kept her disappointment reasonable and to our group.

Are all the other members of the group likely to take her side and trash you, or are any of them likely to take your side and tell her to put a sock in it?

InLoveInQueens · July 2017

Jen4948 said:

InLoveInQueens said:

flantastic said:

InLoveInQueens said:

adk19 said:

InLoveInQueens said:

eileenrob said:

An announcement made by the officiant- fine.
Something written when I arrive at the ceremony (in the program/on a sign)- annoying
Something written months before on the wedding website when I first receive the STD- sit down and stop you're making me consider not attending your wedding

*NOT saying you're doing this OP, but I just had the third experience a few weeks ago and I'm still pissed

A friend posted on facebook that she got all of her ceremony signs and one of them is telling people they can't take pictures until after the first dance is done. I just didn't comment because I don't want to deal with all the "it's her day!~!~!" comments from the peanut gallery.

I hope her pro photographer doesn't crash her computer or just get bitchy and run away with the ONLY photos of the day.

I kind of am expecting a giant meltdown afterwards, since her photographer is definitely not a pro. Maybe an amateur hobbyist hoping to go pro one day, but wedding photography (and photography in general) isn't their full time job.

I am going to suggest not using them for that reason alone (because the whole "it's rude, you're guests are smart enough to figure out when to take a picture and when not to" will fall flat for sure) and leave it at that. I'd hate for that to happen to her, she's sweet, just caught up in the ridiculous expectations some people place on weddings.

She also posted a rant about how terrible of a "best" friend her MOH is because she wasn't feeling well and don't go to their flower and flip flop assembling "party".

Oh, I don't know. Being upset about your MOH not coming and thinking it's part of being a good friend? Wrong, and self-centered, but could just be ascribed to being too caught up in BS wedding expectations.

Posting a public rant about how terrible a friend is? Just being an awful person, IMO.

Totally agree, though she did keep her complaining to our private fb group (has ~30 people in it) so no one on her feed or who knows any of them directly saw her rant. I just hope she kept her disappointment reasonable and to our group.

Are all the other members of the group likely to take her side and trash you, or are any of them likely to take your side and tell her to put a sock in it?

Most definitely would tell me just how wrong I am. Another member is also getting married and posted some succulent pots that said "Thank you for being my Bridesmaid" from etsy, asking for our opinions. I was v polite in my sharing of the thought that gifts should be personal and unrelated to the wedding and I'd only consider that if one or everyone loves succulents and she'd get them as a gift for any occasion, not just her wedding. Everyone else went with "Those are so cute!"

A couple or few had total PPDs multiple years after actually getting married and they constantly talk about bridesmaids duties and "It's your day!" so I'm p sure I'd get scolded and my opinions on proper etiquette shit all over.

knottie41689bf2ca341c17 · July 2017

Just a quick announcement at the beginning.

knottieb4c19094377681e9 · December 2017

Maybe you can address that on the invitation

Jen4948 · December 2017

knottieb4c19094377681e9 said:

Maybe you can address that on the invitation

Nope. The invitation is not the place to address this. The appropriate thing to do is let the officiant make a quick announcement and/or make a short one in a program.

In any case, this is a very old thread. Please start a new one rather than reopening one that's six months old.

MairePoppy · January 2018

Please scilence your cell phones

Re: Please scilence your cell phones

Choose Another Board

Search Boards