Destination Weddings

Can I have my best friends help plan my wedding if they are not invited...

My fiance and I have decided to elope out of the country for our wedding in about a year. I would love for my best friends to be a part of the wedding planning process but they are not actually getting an invite to the wedding, as it is just the two of us. They have also expressed wanting to be a part of this process. Is it ok for them to help and should I have a formal type discussion with them prior to them starting to help. I want to decrease any chances of feeling getting hurt and keeping my friendships strong.
Amber Ahrens, Future Mrs. Brown

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  • Thank you for the advise. They have expressed a huge desire to help but I will ensure to keep the friendship from turning into wedding only stuff.
    Amber Ahrens, Future Mrs. Brown
  • I don't understand. They want to help you plan a vacation where you'll be getting married? Are they travel agents? 

    I would just say "you are so sweet. I'll let you know as things come up." And then maybe invite them to go dress shopping with you or to pick out your old/blue/borrowed/new stuff (if doing). Or to say "these are the two venues we're between, what do you think?" KWIM?

    All that is really different from having them actually "help" as in call places, arrange things, research things for you, etc.
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  • Eloping means that a couple gets married without telling anyone of their plans.  You are not eloping; you are having a private destination wedding.

    I don't understand how your friends can help you plan this.  There isn't much to a private wedding ceremony, but, of course, you will need to make sure that you are able to get legally married at your destination country.  Some countries are impossible; others are easy if you check the rules.
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  • I am with Banana. If my best friend was getting married privately I would want to “help”, whatever that may be. Most of the planning should be done by you and your FH but if they offer no reason why they can’t. Just be honest and up front about your plans and don’t get mad if they are no longer interested in planning your vacation. You’ll be surprised how little there is to actually do.
  • You don’t need help or a year of planning to get married just the two of you. 
    InLoveInQueensCMGragainahoywedding
  • I guess I looked at the planning side as, "Oh - you're going to go shopping for a dress?   Let's go together!"  

    Don't turn this into more than it needs to be but I would be happy to do stuff like that with a friend planning a small wedding. 
    charlotte989875ahoyweddingSP29
  • Jen4948Jen4948 Houston
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    Oops! Posted by mistake. Sorry!
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