Dear Prudence,
My best friend Kit recently started to date Larry, a man with a history of domestic violence. I lived near him when he put his then-girlfriend in the hospital. I told Kit about this, but she said that he’s changed and deserves a second chance. After I saw Larry yell at Kit’s 8-year-old son, I told the boy’s father about the situation. Kit and her ex have had custodial disputes since they broke up, and now her ex has taken her back to court.
I’ve admitted that I was the one who told her ex, and now everyone is furious with me. Our friends agree Kit made a bad choice in boyfriends, but they say that if she loses her son she’s less likely to leave Larry. At the time I thought it was the best decision, but now I wonder if I jumped the gun? I don’t think Larry has ever hurt Kit’s son, but I didn’t want to wait until he did. This is a man who beat his ex with a chair. If he did lose his temper with a little boy, he might have killed him. On the other hand, did I make Kit more likely to be a victim?
—Did I Overstep?