So, when picking our bridal parties we decided to keep it small. I have two friends I’ve known for 20+ years, his sister and a friend from work.
Now, I’ve known this friend from work for about two years and we became really close. When I was talking about who to have in my bridal party, she said “you should make me a bridesmaid” and I was thinking yeah, that sounds like a really good idea. So time passes, and my fiancé and I plan a get together to ask everyone to be in our bridal party. I unofficially asked everyone beforehand to make sure that’s something they’d be comfortable with, including her, and she said yes.
Three months later and her and I are kind of on the rocks. She’s come to me and said that other people at work have made comments about her being in the wedding, that it’s “weird,” and she’s been gossiping heavily about other people in our friend group. So that leads me to the obvious conclusion that if she’s gossiping about them, I’m sure she’s gossiping about me, and sure enough she told the people that told her it was “weird” that she’s in my wedding that she didn’t know why I asked her, that she didn’t see it coming, and that she already has a lot to do with her best friends wedding. (Her best friend is getting married in 2019. My wedding is 2018.) She’s also made other comments like “guess I should try to get that day off...pfff” and then laughed.
Im not really sure where to go from there? How do I confront her? What do I even say? It’d be awkward to try to replace her at this point—she was supposed to have her dress last month and she still hasn’t gotten it, but everyone already knows our bridal parties. I don’t know what to do
