Hey there!
I'm in the middle of a dilemma and don't know what to do. So fiance and I have a friend, or maybe friend-of-a-friend, I'm not sure anymore. We used to hang out regularly and over time we stopped talking and really only saw each other when friends planned something and brought this guy along. So when we made the guest list he was on our "maybe" list along with his gf as a plus one whom we don't really know.
When we announced our engagement online, after not hearing from him for a long while, all of a sudden he is really interested in talking to us and asking about the wedding and such, kind of like fishing for an inviation? Not sure but I didn't say anything.
Fast forward a few months later and we go on a trip where our mutual friends invited him along as well. We were having many drunken experiences over that weekend. I try not to talk about the wedding (which is 1.5 years away) in front of people who aren't or might not be invited, but it was brought up by mutual friends who are invited and in the wedding party.
So basically he came out and said that all he asks is that he's invited and instead of saying "oh we haven't figured out our guest list yet" like I should have, I said "of course you're invited!". Ugh why?! Now I'm having second thoughts - I realized that I wouldn't expect to be invited to his wedding should he decide to marry current gf.
So considering that, first it was a flat out on-the-spot presumption or ask (in front of said mutual friend as well), and also considering that I messed up and said yes (albeit buzzed at the bar when i was feeling especially welcoming), if it turns out that we don't talk to him much over the next year when I send out save the dates, what should I do? Should I send him a message explaining that while I thought we'd have the space to invite all our frinds, turns out we don't? Or because I verbally confirmed am I stuck to that? And maybe the friendship will be completely re-kindled and we'll see him all the time so it won't be an issue? And for the record we do enjoy his company and value the friendship (though we enjoy many peoples company and value friendship and just cant invite them all). Help!!! What do I do??