Member of Wedding Party Death
One of my best friends--he was going to be on my side of our wedding crew--died very unexpectedly just over a month ago. (Our wedding is in November.) When we started planning, I had a number of other friends who I wanted by my side, but my FH didn't, so we decided to keep it limited (we each have 4 crew members). I'm having a hard time figuring out what to do--I absolutely don't want another friend to feel like they are a runner-up (though I know who I would ask if there's a way to do this?), and I'm also afraid that more noticeable acknowledgements of his absence (things I've seen like leaving a space for him, having someone carry his photo, etc.) will make me sad during my wedding day, and when I look back at photos later. Also, a lot of our guests were friends with him too, and I don't want to trigger their grief either. I know I'm going to wear a locket with his photo in it, as a more private way to keep him close that day. Any other creative ideas or suggestions?