Thursday...?

ShesSoCold · May 2018

How's everyone doing?

I finally worked out last night. I'm sure I'll be up this week but oh well. We have chicken marinating for tonight, the house is clean and I feel like I got a good night sleep. So hopefully will be a good day! I've already finished my work for today, so I'm really hoping for juicy Prudie.

charlotte989875 · May 2018

I hate my neighbors. I don't know if I've posted about this before but they moved in a few months ago to our previously-very quiet building. Since then they have been loud. At first it was just loud music, well past quiet hours. Then the drunken fighting started. Every few weeks they yell and scream at each other. Usually in the middle of the night (well, around 4-4:30 and conveniently the bars in our county close at 4am), but usually always on the weekends. We've called the police a few times (so have the other neighbors on our floor) and complained to management. Well last it happened again last night around 4:30 and then when I went to the gym at 6 this morning he is throwing all of her clothes (unpacked) in the hallway. I'm super annoyed; H less so but he could sleep through a train running through the apartment. I can't wait to move.

6fsn · May 2018

Just stalking my email for offers and sleep overs:) I need to get in a work out, go to the grocery, and clean bathrooms. Everything just takes longer with the kids around. I've been trying to shop on the weekends, but the food just doesn't last a week.

mrsconn23 · May 2018

I'm here. Tired. Reading Prudies and doing 5 frillion other things. I really need to get my shit together and put in a pick up order for groceries.

Jen4948 · May 2018

My morning migraine seems to have finally gone away.

I hope today ends up better than yesterday.

ShesSoCold · May 2018

charlotte989875 said:

I hate my neighbors. I don't know if I've posted about this before but they moved in a few months ago to our previously-very quiet building. Since then they have been loud. At first it was just loud music, well past quiet hours. Then the drunken fighting started. Every few weeks they yell and scream at each other. Usually in the middle of the night (well, around 4-4:30 and conveniently the bars in our county close at 4am), but usually always on the weekends. We've called the police a few times (so have the other neighbors on our floor) and complained to management. Well last it happened again last night around 4:30 and then when I went to the gym at 6 this morning he is throwing all of her clothes (unpacked) in the hallway. I'm super annoyed; H less so but he could sleep through a train running through the apartment. I can't wait to move.

Ugh that sounds terrible! Has management done anything about it? From a third party, I'm kind of laughing at him throwing all her clothes in the hall, but that's not funny when you actually live there (and it's 6:00 AM!)

This might be TMI. Years ago at our apartment, we shared a bedroom wall with another bedroom wall - a single guy lived there. One night H and I are going to bed and we can hear him having sex. It didn't sound like they were pounding on the wall or she was screaming or anything loud, but we could definitely hear it. I was SO EMBARASSED because if I could hear that, I'm certain he heard us all the time. I was never able to look that guy in the face again.

CharmedPam · May 2018

@shessocold, done already! lol Sometimes I walk into the office with nothing to do, but usually some job comes my way throughout the day. Do you have jobs that could be handed to you or it is what it is?
@charlotte989875, that sounds super annoying but also scary if it can get out of hand! Hopefully they're done done?
@Jen4948 hopefully sleep helped!

Have you guys ever been annoyed with someone that even their voice annoys you? Yup. That's me and my coworker is only getting worse and worse since she came back from medical leave in January. Maybe it was because I realized how annoying my coworker was after a 6 month hiatus? Or maybe she's just gotten more annoying since her 6 month hiatus but her voice is nails on a chalkboard with me now. Never mind the work things she does to piss me off.

charlotte989875 · May 2018

ShesSoCold said:

charlotte989875 said:

I hate my neighbors. I don't know if I've posted about this before but they moved in a few months ago to our previously-very quiet building. Since then they have been loud. At first it was just loud music, well past quiet hours. Then the drunken fighting started. Every few weeks they yell and scream at each other. Usually in the middle of the night (well, around 4-4:30 and conveniently the bars in our county close at 4am), but usually always on the weekends. We've called the police a few times (so have the other neighbors on our floor) and complained to management. Well last it happened again last night around 4:30 and then when I went to the gym at 6 this morning he is throwing all of her clothes (unpacked) in the hallway. I'm super annoyed; H less so but he could sleep through a train running through the apartment. I can't wait to move.

Ugh that sounds terrible! Has management done anything about it? From a third party, I'm kind of laughing at him throwing all her clothes in the hall, but that's not funny when you actually live there (and it's 6:00 AM!)
This might be TMI. Years ago at our apartment, we shared a bedroom wall with another bedroom wall - a single guy lived there. One night H and I are going to bed and we can hear him having sex. It didn't sound like they were pounding on the wall or she was screaming or anything loud, but we could definitely hear it. I was SO EMBARASSED because if I could hear that, I'm certain he heard us all the time. I was never able to look that guy in the face again.

HA. I'm totally sure our neighbors have heard us having sex. Our bedroom window looks out on the balconies and then the parking lot, so when the weather was just getting warm, but still too cool for AC we'd leave the windows open. Pretty sure anyone on their balcony or in the parking lot heard us.

CharmedPam said:

@charlotte989875, that sounds super annoying but also scary if it can get out of hand! Hopefully they're done done?

Yeah, that's why we've call the police. A few times she said she thought he was going to hurt her, so as soon as we heard that we called 911.

We email management each time this happens, and I just got a response saying they are going to court in early June about this, so hopefully they'll be out of the building soon. I feel bad because it's clearly a bad situation, but I also like feeling rested, and it's pretty scary because who knows what either of them would do. Last time the police said they though drugs were involved, but each time this happens they're definitely drunk. I just hope they break up this time and go their separate ways.

banana468 · May 2018

Morning! It's Chiquita's last swim lesson this session. Now to figure out if we sign her up for the last cram session before the pool is closed for the summer (it's in the high school and they're doing renovations).

We hired a guy to mow our lawn about two weeks ago but the grass is now a foot tall and it's tick paradise. I cannot freakin wait to have a yard that looks like gross people don't own it.

Jen4948 · May 2018

Thanks @CharmedPam. Actually, Excedrin helped (the only thing I've found that does).

@charlotte989875, I'm sorry to hear about your noisy neighbors. The other night I had a problem with noise, although not as bad as yours (my apartment is above a dog run). Unfortunately, sometimes loud people use it at night and I had to complain to my building management. I hope you are able to move soon. Anything happening with your job offer?

STARMOON44 · May 2018

Jen4948 said:

Thanks @CharmedPam. Actually, Excedrin helped (the only thing I've found that does).

@charlotte989875, I'm sorry to hear about your noisy neighbors. The other night I had a problem with noise, although not as bad as (my apartment is above a dog run). Unfortunately, sometimes loud people use it at night and I had to complain to my building management. I hope you are able to move soon. Anything happening with your job offer?

Excedrin is so good.

thisismynickname2 · May 2018

ShesSoCold said:

charlotte989875 said:

I hate my neighbors. I don't know if I've posted about this before but they moved in a few months ago to our previously-very quiet building. Since then they have been loud. At first it was just loud music, well past quiet hours. Then the drunken fighting started. Every few weeks they yell and scream at each other. Usually in the middle of the night (well, around 4-4:30 and conveniently the bars in our county close at 4am), but usually always on the weekends. We've called the police a few times (so have the other neighbors on our floor) and complained to management. Well last it happened again last night around 4:30 and then when I went to the gym at 6 this morning he is throwing all of her clothes (unpacked) in the hallway. I'm super annoyed; H less so but he could sleep through a train running through the apartment. I can't wait to move.

Ugh that sounds terrible! Has management done anything about it? From a third party, I'm kind of laughing at him throwing all her clothes in the hall, but that's not funny when you actually live there (and it's 6:00 AM!)
This might be TMI. Years ago at our apartment, we shared a bedroom wall with another bedroom wall - a single guy lived there. One night H and I are going to bed and we can hear him having sex. It didn't sound like they were pounding on the wall or she was screaming or anything loud, but we could definitely hear it. I was SO EMBARASSED because if I could hear that, I'm certain he heard us all the time. I was never able to look that guy in the face again.

I used to share a bedroom wall with a single gal (who eventually got a steady boyfriend). Her headboard would bang against the wall. One Monday/Tuesday early night/early morning (1:30am) it was so obnoxious I took out my puppy & kitten stationary and wrote her a strongly-worded letter. Slid it under her door the next morning, spent the day worrying she'd like vandalize my door or write me something nasty back. Nope- she actually moved her bed. Could still hear the relations but at least the headboard bang was over. Edit- typo.

charlotte989875 · May 2018

Jen4948 said:

Thanks @CharmedPam. Actually, Excedrin helped (the only thing I've found that does).

@charlotte989875, I'm sorry to hear about your noisy neighbors. The other night I had a problem with noise, although not as bad as (my apartment is above a dog run). Unfortunately, sometimes loud people use it at night and I had to complain to my building management. I hope you are able to move soon. Anything happening with your job offer?

Yes! Signed the offer yesterday. I have to have a background check and drug test (which I went for yesterday, too), so I'll probably put my resignation in next week. I have a start date of June 25!

ShesSoCold · May 2018

charlotte989875 said:

HA. I'm totally sure our neighbors have heard us having sex. Our bedroom window looks out on the balconies and then the parking lot, so when the weather was just getting warm, but still too cool for AC we'd leave the windows open. Pretty sure anyone on their balcony or in the parking lot heard us.

Last couple weeks when the windows have been open, we've gone in the basement.

Apparently I'm scarred from when I was a teenager and my boyfriend's neighbors clapped for him when we left his townhouse.

banana468 · May 2018

I once left chocolates under the door of a neighbor that I shared a wall with. I had to let them know that I heard it all when it was bedtime and well....they argued afterwards too!

charlotte989875 · May 2018

ShesSoCold said:

charlotte989875 said:

HA. I'm totally sure our neighbors have heard us having sex. Our bedroom window looks out on the balconies and then the parking lot, so when the weather was just getting warm, but still too cool for AC we'd leave the windows open. Pretty sure anyone on their balcony or in the parking lot heard us.

Last couple weeks when the windows have been open, we've gone in the basement.
Apparently I'm scarred from when I was a teenager and my boyfriend's neighbors clapped for him when we left his townhouse.

As a third-party, that's hilarious! If it were me I doubt I'd think it as funny as I do right now.

Jen4948 · May 2018

charlotte989875 said:

Jen4948 said:

Thanks @CharmedPam. Actually, Excedrin helped (the only thing I've found that does).

@charlotte989875, I'm sorry to hear about your noisy neighbors. The other night I had a problem with noise, although not as bad as (my apartment is above a dog run). Unfortunately, sometimes loud people use it at night and I had to complain to my building management. I hope you are able to move soon. Anything happening with your job offer?

Yes! Signed the offer yesterday. I have to have a background check and drug test (which I went for yesterday, too), so I'll probably put my resignation in next week. I have a start date of June 25!

Awesome news! Best of luck with the new job.

ShesSoCold · May 2018

Congrats, Charlotte! That's great!!

Pam, most of my work is given to me throughout the day, probably 25% isn't. I've finished the daily stuff and I'm really hoping that I'm given a lot today. LOL I can't wait until we get busy again. My days are SO LONG.

short+sassy · May 2018

charlotte989875 said:

Yeah, that's why we've call the police. A few times she said she thought he was going to hurt her, so as soon as we heard that we called 911.

We email management each time this happens, and I just got a response saying they are going to court in early June about this, so hopefully they'll be out of the building soon. I feel bad because it's clearly a bad situation, but I also like feeling rested, and it's pretty scary because who knows what either of them would do. Last time the police said they though drugs were involved, but each time this happens they're definitely drunk. I just hope they break up this time and go their separate ways.

When is the closing for your all's house? At least there is a light at the end of the tunnel for you all, either way!

To be fair, it sounds like the management is being responsive. They probably gave a warning. Maybe a few. The first legal step would be a "Cure or Quit" notice, ie "cure the problem you are causing or GTFO". If it's not "cured", then they need to file for an eviction hearing. That's at least 2 weeks for the next court date, possibly a lot longer.

I believe NY state is pretty tenant-friendly. It's possible the court will rule against the management company and their hands are tied after that. They'd likely need to wait for something more egregious to happen and take the people back to court. Or non-renew the lease, but that happens more toward the end of the current lease. Which is probably a year.

Do I have a doozy story for you all:

The previous tenants I had for my next door unit, the ones who moved because they couldn't pay Feb.'s rent, were EXACTLY like you are describing. Except with the domestic violence cherry on top. They were drunk, a lot. And they were anger drunks, who had screaming fights all the time. They each racked up at least one DUI while they were here. Neither of them could hold down a job for very long, probably because of the drinking. Yet, they had looked fantastic on paper when we were vetting them.

We never personally witnessed the domestic violence. The wife told us about it a couple times. She sometimes talked about leaving. We encouraged her to. But it was obviously a step she wasn't anywhere near ready for and, tbh, probably never will be.

A neighbor called the police once about the domestic violence, when the couple had one of their screaming matches on the porch. Instead of at least inside the house, smh. We weren't home, so I'm not sure if the neighbor actually witnessed it or strongly suspected it. Either way, the police came and spoke to both people (the tenants) and arrested the H for domestic violence. They took the wife to the hospital. Not because of her injuries, but because they felt she was too drunk to be home by herself and could potentially have alcohol poisoning. Yes, it was that bad.

And the wife's reaction once she sobered up? Super, super upset that her H was in jail. Begging her dad for money to pay his bail. When she attended her H's hearing, she came home livid and cursing the judge up and down for levying a judgment against her H. He didn't spend any more time in jail, so I suspect his punishment was a financial one and/or community service.

charlotte989875 · May 2018

short+sassy said:

charlotte989875 said:

Yeah, that's why we've call the police. A few times she said she thought he was going to hurt her, so as soon as we heard that we called 911.

We email management each time this happens, and I just got a response saying they are going to court in early June about this, so hopefully they'll be out of the building soon. I feel bad because it's clearly a bad situation, but I also like feeling rested, and it's pretty scary because who knows what either of them would do. Last time the police said they though drugs were involved, but each time this happens they're definitely drunk. I just hope they break up this time and go their separate ways.

When is the closing for your all's house? At least there is a light at the end of the tunnel for you all, either way!
To be fair, it sounds like the management is being responsive. They probably gave a warning. Maybe a few. The first legal step would be a "Cure or Quit" notice, ie "cure the problem you are causing or GTFO". If it's not "cured", then they need to file for an eviction hearing. That's at least 2 weeks for the next court date, possibly a lot longer.
I believe NY state is pretty tenant-friendly. It's possible the court will rule against the management company and their hands are tied after that.  They'd likely need to wait for something more egregious to happen and take the people back to court. Or non-renew the lease, but that happens more toward the end of the current lease. Which is probably a year.
Do I have a doozy story for you all:
The previous tenants I had for my next door unit, the ones who moved because they couldn't pay Feb.'s rent, were EXACTLY like you are describing. Except with the domestic violence cherry on top. They were drunk, a lot. And they were anger drunks, who had screaming fights all the time. They each racked up at least one DUI while they were here. Neither of them could hold down a job for very long, probably because of the drinking. Yet, they had looked fantastic on paper when we were vetting them.
We never personally witnessed the domestic violence. The wife told us about it a couple times. She sometimes talked about leaving. We encouraged her to. But it was obviously a step she wasn't anywhere near ready for and, tbh, probably never will be.
A neighbor called the police once about the domestic violence, when the couple had one of their screaming matches on the porch. Instead of at least inside the house, smh. We weren't home, so I'm not sure if the neighbor actually witnessed it or strongly suspected it. Either way, the police came and spoke to both people (the tenants) and arrested the H for domestic violence.  They took the wife to the hospital. Not because of her injuries, but because they felt she was too drunk to be home by herself and could potentially have alcohol poisoning. Yes, it was that bad.
And the wife's reaction once she sobered up? Super, super upset that her H was in jail.  Begging her dad for money to pay his bail. When she attended her H's hearing, she came home livid and cursing the judge up and down for levying a judgment against her H. He didn't spend any more time in jail, so I suspect his punishment was a financial one and/or community service.

This is exactly what happened last time. Although he wasn't arrested (I don't think anyway, the police calmed everyone down and we went to sleep). She was taken in an ambulance because of alcohol and/or drugs. We've never seen, or heard, him hit her, but she has said (screamed) she's afraid of him, that she thinks he'll kill her (which is when pretty much everyone in the building calls the police). We've heard him slam doors, lock her out of the apartment, and scream at her. So, I don't know, something is clearly going on here. The police have been good each time separating them, talking to them one on one is separate areas. I really feel bad, but also I'm exhausted.

NY is definitely a tenant-friendly state, and my guess is you're right; as long as they are paying rent and nothing egregious happens they could be allowed to stay. It's probable the lease is a year, but it's a large complex that does month-to-month, 3-month, 6-month, and custom leases, so it's possible it's longer/shorter than a year.

charlotte989875 · May 2018

Thanks @Jen4948 and @ShesSoCold! I'm really excited.

It's also a little weird at work because I haven't told anyone yet. I'm waiting to get the final all clear on the background check and drug test, even though I know both will be good. I don't want to close things out here until I know everything is set. But that means I can't really tell anyone here, either.

charlotte989875 · May 2018

We won't close on the house until the end of July at the earliest @short+sassy. Closing in NY takes FOREVER because both sides need attorneys and everything takes too long. I think 60 days is the quickest.

We also won't move right away. We're having some structural work done and we need to fence in the backyard. I'd like to paint as well, but we can do that once we're in if we have to.

MissKittyDanger · May 2018

Quick update cuz things have been insane for the past week!

I did a thing on Monday morning

I know some of you saw it on instagram and i'll be back with a better photo - but I took this Monday night.

We're both fine. Small complication and I was actually induced Sunday.

Thursday started having contractions. Mild but weren't going away. Had weird intense braxton hicks the day before, so wanted to make sure all way okay. Went to hospital - yup all good and 2cm dilated. Dr said he expects about 24hrs {LIES LIES LIES}

Friday had more contractions and they were getting more intense but again, not going away. Started not feeling great also - not sick, just off.
Still having contractions, no change in dilation. But BP high. Ran tests, all normal. They asked me to come back Sunday to retest. {note: bp has been normal through entire pregnancy - not even slightly elevated!}

Sunday - go in. BP lower than friday, but blood work came back slightly off. They made a decision based on entire picture and that I was 38 weeks, 2 days that day it was just safer to induce.
Broke water at 2:45pm Sunday. After doing hard labour from 6-9:30pm, I wasn't past 5cm and dr suggested considering epidural to help.
I was in horrible pain - contractions 2-4min apart and not past 5cm?
Cue meltdown and had epidural at 10pm.
Midnight - 7cm.
1am - fully dilated and she moved down {nurse could feel her head right there}
1:55am she was born

I'm glad I made the decision ahead of time for M to take her right away, because I just kinda lost it. I couldn't stop crying and I had no idea why. It's basically assumed it was a mix of hormones and overwhelmed.

No tearing, no stitches. I have abrasions that hurt, but could be worse.

Opted out of breastfeeding because I just don't have the energy.
Couple nights she wasn't doing too great on sleeping. Really fussy, was up every hour.
Last night she slept feeding to feeding, so we're both feeling much better.

ShesSoCold · May 2018

Congrats, MKD!! You're both beautiful!!

short+sassy · May 2018

charlotte989875 said:

This is exactly what happened last time. Although he wasn't arrested (I don't think anyway, the police calmed everyone down and we went to sleep). She was taken in an ambulance because of alcohol and/or drugs. We've never seen, or heard, him hit her, but she has said (screamed) she's afraid of him, that she thinks he'll kill her (which is when pretty much everyone in the building calls the police). We've heard him slam doors, lock her out of the apartment, and scream at her. So, I don't know, something is clearly going on here. The police have been good each time separating them, talking to them one on one is separate areas. I really feel bad, but also I'm exhausted.

NY is definitely a tenant-friendly state, and my guess is you're right; as long as they are paying rent and nothing egregious happens they could be allowed to stay. It's probable the lease is a year, but it's a large complex that does month-to-month, 3-month, 6-month, and custom leases, so it's possible it's longer/shorter than a year.

OMG, yes! My previous tenants both played that game with each other, many times when they were arguing. The H never knocked on our door when he got locked out, but the wife did a few times. We obliged the first couple times, but then had a discussion with them...when they were both calm and sober...that if they want to play childish games with each other, that's fine. But don't disturb us any further with it. We also strongly suggested they just hide a key somewhere outside. Super simple solution, but they never even bothered doing that (shrug). They at least didn't bother us again with it.

mrsconn23 · May 2018

Congrats @MissKittyDanger! What a cutie. Rest, relax, and take care of you and baby.

charlotte989875 · May 2018

Congratulations @MissKittyDanger!! Hope you both are getting some rest!

6fsn · May 2018

Congrat @MissKittyDanger!!! Lovely photo and glad you are doing well.

Jen4948 · May 2018

@MissKittyDanger, congratulations!

thisismynickname2 · May 2018

Congrats @MissKittyDanger !!!

Those hormones are killer. My kid was born at 5:30pm. That night I was fine, but the next night (middle of the night too) I just had this epic meltdown. My unsolicited advice- keep in tune with your thoughts/mood. I've never struggled with depression before but damn, that month after birth was brutal. I'm not sure if it was just extended baby blues, actual PPD, or PPA; it took about 2 months total to feel back to normal mentally. My uneducated opinion is that sleep deprivation really contributes to that too. So, take care of yourself

short+sassy · May 2018

@MissKittyDanger, Squee!!! Congrats! I'm so glad to hear that, overall, you and BabyKitty and are doing well.

Unfortunately, I can't see the pic . I'll try seeing it from home later. TK and my work's internet don't always get along.

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