Hi All,
My parents are having some disagreements over the budget for my FI and mine's wedding. For context, our budget is pretty close to national average, perhaps a little below. My Dad and FMIL both agreed that we shouldn't have to pay for the wedding, but my Mom isn't able to contribute as much to the wedding as either of them. Dad has already said he will cover whatever she isn't able to, but I'm worried that she will feel embarrassed since she isn't contributing as much. I have told her that It isn't about the money, and I am grateful for whatever she is able to contribute, but I am worried that it will cause tension between all of the parents.
For a bit of background, my Dad and FMIL get along great, but my mom doesn't have a close relationship with either my Dad of FMIL. I just don't want her to feel left out, embarrassed, or unvalued.
Also, we did talk our parents into letting us cover the photographer and stationary costs for the wedding, so we are contributing some, but it isn't the bulk of the costs.