Dear Prudence,
My husband and I are expecting our first child in a few months, and we have had conflict over visits with his father. I have never gotten along well with his father, who lives in a different state. This year his father was arrested for possession of child pornography. My husband believes this was an innocent offense, some sort of unintentional mistake, and would like his father to visit us when we have our baby girl. I am very against this. Admittedly, he has not been convicted yet; his legal strategy is to postpone the trial ad nauseam. My husband thinks that I’m just using this new information to be punitive, since I never liked my father-in-law to begin with. I don’t have the full details of the crime in question, but my husband thinks it’s a good sign that my father-in-law’s girlfriend was shown the images in question by police and is staying by him. Also, my father-in-law continues to babysit his grandchildren who live locally. Can you help moderate this? Am I crazy for wanting to protect my baby and not wanting this man to be in our home or alone with my baby?
—Creep-in-Law