My son is getting married for the second time, to a very nice woman. We are very happy for him & offered to help any way we could. I am suffering from a tramatic brain injury and I cannot handle stress. I also have a lot of other difficulties from this injury that make me VERY uncomfortable in social situations. I explained this to my son.
He is an unforgiving person, who holds grudges for the most unreasonable reasons. So with that being said, the trouble is the ex's family. They were very mean to me after the divorce from his father. Spreading awful rumors, telling my then 8 & 10 yo son to tell me to F off, stealing things from my home, constantly harassing me. I minded my own business, and just lived with it until both boys were grown and then moved out of state, to live my life in peace.
I have been happily married now for almost 25 years to a man who has always helped & loved my sons as his own.
I was discussing the invitation list with him and he was inviting the ex and their whole family (there are a lot of them) and he was not inviting either of his brothers, my sister & her husband, one of my two brother, or any of his 1st cousins on my side of the family. From my side it would only be one of my brothers, my MIL and me and my husband.
We went up to visit this summer to visit and meet her family, we never got to meet them after driving over 1,200 miles.
My mom died two years ago, he was the only family member that did not attend & he only lives an hour away. He said he had to work, I checked, they said he could have using a bereavement day.
I have been there for him since the day he was born, always supporting & helping him through some very rough times (from 1,200 mi away) when his father lives just 20 mins away. When his first wife left him & his son, he needed a sitter to watch him over winter vacation. NONE of the ex's family helped him. I flew up there (with an injured back & broken foot from a car accident) and took care of my grandson.
I am heartbroken that I cannot go & he is so mad he won't talk to me.