Lol so I posted in another board about my eco-friendly wedding one of the things we are doing is not having a gift registry (consumerism.) Instead we created an "adoption fund" similar to a honeymoon fund, but it is obviously to help us adopt in the future. I got an overwhelming response about how unacceptable it is. If you think it is unacceptable and want to tell me that I don't really care tbh. Because I think it is absolutely absurd that people are allowed to "request" for specific items down to the T of what colored monogramed pillow they want but that it is considered rude to have a fund. (not knocking those who have a registry, just saying it seems hypocritical for people to be okay with that, but not a fund) Knowing that it is going to help cover the extensive cost to get our son I think is way more special than a plate set, and yet it is "under no circumstances ever acceptable" according to some on here. Can someone actually logically explain to me, with a real tangible reason why it is okay to ask for a list of items, but not a non-item gift?! Truthfully I feel like this goes into the category of people are being brainwashed by consumerism, because I have to hear an actual reason why it is bad to believe it. Stating something is rude, or tacky isn't a reason, unless you can explain WHY it is rude/tacky, and why on top of that, asking for physical items are not rude or tacky. I created the fund because I want them to know where their money is going to go and how valuable their contribution is to us for those who feel the need to gift us something.