Caught Bridesmaid Cheating on Groomsman :(

DixieNormous330 · December 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Caught Bridesmaid Cheating on Groomsman :( : <a href="http://www.thenest.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.thenest.com/</a> You're welcome! ^.^
Posted by amanda0543[/QUOTE]

Bless your heart.

baconsmom · December 2012

TWO PAGES!

And Varuna gets ALL the points for her condescending use of "Darling".

mrsconn23 · December 2012

YAY 2 pages!! YAY!

AuntFlo · December 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Caught Bridesmaid Cheating on Groomsman :( : <a href="http://www.thenest.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.thenest.com/</a> You're welcome! ^.^
Posted by amanda0543[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh no, she didn't!</div>

VarunaTT · December 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Caught Bridesmaid Cheating on Groomsman :( : <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.thenest.com/">http://www.thenest.com/</a> You're welcome! ^.^
Posted by amanda0543[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh Dixie, you were TOLD!</div><div>
</div><div>END OF REPLIES!!!!!111ELEVENTY!!!!</div><div>
</div><div>ETA: *bows at BMom* It seemed appropriate.</div>

DixieNormous330 · December 2012

My hands have been severely slapped. ~sigh~ This one is young and inexperienced in the ways of the Force.

VarunaTT · December 2012

I always wonder who the brides think are going to stick around and give them tried and true advice. I usually go to my mom b/c she's been through it. I don't usually go to friends who haven't been through whatever "it" is.

ETA: We should all make our siggies, "Once a bride, ALWAYS a bride, giggle". Maybe that would save us?

DixieNormous330 · December 2012

Forget siggies. We need SASHES!

mrsconn23 · December 2012

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[QUOTE]Forget siggies. We need SASHES!
Posted by DixieNormous330[/QUOTE]

And tiaras!! I want to get a tiara one day so I can have an Amy Farrah Fowler tiara freak out. :)

thejucheidea · December 2012

One of my fiance's exes is in the wedding party on his side. I guess I should keep them separate so they don't make a scene~.

If they're adults, they'll just Deal With It. If you think they aren't adults, then why are you friends with them in the first place? That would make them high school drama incarnate.

ETA: Has anyone noticed that there have been a lot of serious newbs from Idaho lately? What happened in Idaho besides nothing?

DixieNormous330 · December 2012

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[QUOTE] ETA: Has anyone noticed that there have been a lot of serious newbs from Idaho lately? What happened in Idaho besides nothing?
Posted by ahstillwell[/QUOTE]

Potato Famine and wide spread boredom?

thejucheidea · December 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Caught Bridesmaid Cheating on Groomsman :( : Potato Famine and wide spread boredom?
Posted by DixieNormous330[/QUOTE]

Sounds legit.

Majide · December 2012

A friend of mine had a similar situation with her wedding. A bridesmaid and groomsman were going through a divorce because he cheated on her.

Nothing changed, and both were in the wedding, walked down the aisle together (which I thought was strange to still pair them up), and still behaved like mature adults.

amanda0543 · December 2012

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[QUOTE]A friend of mine had a similar situation with her wedding. A bridesmaid and groomsman were going through a divorce because he cheated on her. Nothing changed, and both were in the wedding, walked down the aisle together (which I thought was strange to still pair them up), and still behaved like mature adults.
Posted by Majide[/QUOTE]

<div>That's good to hear. :)
I googled the topic before posting on here, and a lot of what I read were basically "mini horror stories" that ended with the bride and groom losing either one or both of their friends. So, it's nice to hear that everything worked out well for your friend.</div>

Peledreamsofrain · December 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Caught Bridesmaid Cheating on Groomsman :( : Potato Famine and wide spread boredom?
Posted by DixieNormous330[/QUOTE]

I can totally vouch for the 'boredom' theory. For reals. T_T

mdupon70997 · December 2012

Why do you and your FI have to tag-team her? Who's friend is she? Also, I just get the feeling the meeting is less about her happiness and a 'what's going on with you?' thing and more about wedding damage-control.
Posted by mrs.conn23[/QUOTE]

What's going on with her DOES have a lot to do with OP's wedding...especially if they were supposed to walk down the aisle together. You wouldn't think that would be awkward for the BM and GM? Duh.

mellycat429 · December 2012

Ladies, I don't know why you're giving this girl so much grief over a perfectly valid question. Why can't you understand that these are wedding concerns as well as friendship concerns? She obviously cares about both people if she doesn't seem willing to toss one over the other to easily avoid a possibly dramatic scene, but she does (naturally) want to avoid any possible drama. And really, you're calling her out for being a newbie? You must feel so powerful ganging up on someone who simply has a question. How long have you been trolling these boards? I don't know about you, but even with as much help as this site has been with the planning of my own wedding, I really don't plan on visiting the site after I get married, let alone commenting on subject boards that have nothing to do with me. It's called having a life. So, strap on your sashes and your entitlement tiaras and bully someone else. Internet bullies are the biggest cowards ever. Amanda, I understand where you're coming from. I'm going through a similar situation myself, with married friends that will probably end up divorced before my wedding, and their daughter (my goddaughter) is our flower girl. I'm hoping they can settle things enough so that we don't feel like we have to make an awkward decision. Its an awkward situation indeed... just try to consider both of their feelings before making a decision. if they end up broken up, and you keep them both, the GM may feel awkward especially if others know about the situation, like people may feel sorry for him or whatever, or the BM may feel awkward if people know about her indiscretions, and brand her with a scarlet letter. You're getting married, and taking the ultimate vow promising loyalty, dealing with a cheating scandal just kind of muddies that. Good luck with the situation, and you have every right to voice concerns on here, you're not the one smoking crack!!

NYCMercedes · December 2012

It's a crack party! Hope it doesn't interfere with the processional.

thejucheidea · January 2013

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[QUOTE]Ladies, I don't know why you're giving this girl so much grief over a perfectly valid question. Why can't you understand that these are wedding concerns as well as friendship concerns? She obviously cares about both people if she doesn't seem willing to toss one over the other to easily avoid a possibly dramatic scene, but she does (naturally) want to avoid any possible drama. And really, you're calling her out for being a newbie? You must feel so powerful ganging up on someone who simply has a question. How long have you been trolling these boards? I don't know about you, but even with as much help as this site has been with the planning of my own wedding, I really don't plan on visiting the site after I get married, let alone commenting on subject boards that have nothing to do with me. It's called having a life. So, strap on your sashes and your entitlement tiaras and bully someone else. Internet bullies are the biggest cowards ever. Amanda, I understand where you're coming from. I'm going through a similar situation myself, with married friends that will probably end up divorced before my wedding, and their daughter (my goddaughter) is our flower girl. I'm hoping they can settle things enough so that we don't feel like we have to make an awkward decision. Its an awkward situation indeed... just try to consider both of their feelings before making a decision. if they end up broken up, and you keep them both, the GM may feel awkward especially if others know about the situation, like people may feel sorry for him or whatever, or the BM may feel awkward if people know about her indiscretions, and brand her with a scarlet letter. You're getting married, and taking the ultimate vow promising loyalty, dealing with a cheating scandal just kind of muddies that. Good luck with the situation, and you have every right to voice concerns on here, you're not the one smoking crack!! ;)
Posted by mellycat429[/QUOTE]
JIC

amanda0543 · January 2013

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[QUOTE]Amanda, I understand where you're coming from. I'm going through a similar situation myself, with married friends that will probably end up divorced before my wedding, and their daughter (my goddaughter) is our flower girl. I'm hoping they can settle things enough so that we don't feel like we have to make an awkward decision. Its an awkward situation indeed... just try to consider both of their feelings before making a decision. if they end up broken up, and you keep them both, the GM may feel awkward especially if others know about the situation, like people may feel sorry for him or whatever, or the BM may feel awkward if people know about her indiscretions, and brand her with a scarlet letter. You're getting married, and taking the ultimate vow promising loyalty, dealing with a cheating scandal just kind of muddies that.
Posted by mellycat429[/QUOTE]

<div>Thanks for sharing, it's nice to hear from someone who is actually going through a similar situation. I just love how people immediately jumped on the assumption train and started accusing me of not caring about my bm and gm, and wanting to be in the middle of their relationship troubles, because my initial post was dry on background details (makes perfect sense that I would ask about a question involving how to keep their relationship problems out of my wedding as I'm obviously so desperate to be involved in their business...). As I believe I've mentioned, I have reasons to think that things are going to get ugly (that I'd rather not discuss here), and it has nothing to do with them being immature (what she told me that night was REALLY REALLY bad).</div><div>
</div><div>Also, funny story, something came up and I wasn't able to go with my fi to talk with bm. She was upset we weren't both there. I guess she likes to be "tag teamed"... or maybe it's just that I know more about the emotional needs of my friends then a random group of internet strangers?? Hmm... idk. O.o</div>

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