I just found out that my Husband's EX wife spent $800 bucks on their only child for Christmas. My hubby always lets her do the shopping and he pays half. He about flipped when he heard the price tag and refused to pay half, but he is paying $300 without complaint, on top of the nearly 1K per month child support he pays and pays with honor and never never complains about supporting his son...... one of the many reasons I love him.
My son's father is MIA at Christmas as usual and rarely gives me any money to support him.
MY Step son has always been spoiled rotten with the material things of life. He wears designer clothes, and shoes, was given a car when he turned 16, (his parents pay the insurance bill) has every new electronic phone, computer, gaming device, games and gadgets. When a new phone comes out he has to have it, If he doesn't like it he gets a new one. It's always his mom that buys it for him. My hubby refused to and refuses the data package too. The kid has barely worked a day in his life, he's 17. And when he did he complained about it. Granted it's hard to find a job as a teen when many adults are out of work. I know he has responsibilities at his mothers house as far as keeping his room spotless and cleaning up after himself and she makes him do volunteer work every summer. My hubby gives him no responsibilities. He also is expected to make well ABOVE AVERAGE GRADES in school and he does.
He's not my kid and I have always stayed out of their business with him. I don't parent him in any way because he has 2 perfectly great parents, but I think they give him too much. How will he get along as an adult when he has been given to lavishly all his life?? I don't say anything ever, not my business, not my responsibility.
But I grew up dirt poor with nothing, scrapped my way to the top of my career,
and I value the dollar. My son always has a nice Christmas, but never $800 + nice.
When my hubby and I had been together for a quite a few years, I was at his house on Christmas and he brought a pile of gifts out for me. His son had to leave the room and stated " he couldn't watch this" I knew it meant he was very jealous his dad was giving me gifts. This was after he got everything his little heart desired for Christmas. I never had gotten gifts for many many years as my sons father is a douche bag. My hubby always takes my son to get me a gift and did so every year before we were married. I would get something small here and there, but I don't really care. My most cherished Christmas gift ever was my engagement ring.
I try to use teaching moments with my son when he gets jealous of all of his step brothers "stuff" I tell my son he will know how to get along well as an adult, and not take things for granted. He also is quite charming and knows how to speak with people because he is socialized, unlike his stepbrother who always has his face straight in an electronic gadget.
I don't agree with it, and my eyebrows went way up when I found out the price tag for his Christmas. That is just from his parents, not all the other family members that will be giving him stuff and money.
Rant over. Comments welcome.