My mother has seemed to have a rule when it comes to my wedding – either she does it all, or she does nothing. I personally wanted my wedding to represent ME, so I decided to do it.
All that’s left is the reception decorations. My future mother-in-law has been an enormous help without being overbearing. She has offered me tons of decorations like tulle, bows and candle votives.
My mom and my fiance’s mom met for the first time, and my fiance’s mom showed my mom all the decorations she had that we were free to use.
My mom did NOT like this. She later said to me “She seems to think she is going to be involved in this…” And told me we are NOT using any of her decorations. Without my knowing she recruited all her sisters and cousins to come decorate the day before the wedding. She does not want my fiance’s mom to be a help whatsoever, insisting that she is supposed to be a guest.
And NOW suddenly, 40 days before the wedding, she is trying to completely take over the reception. She told me that it’s not about me and Zach, it’s about the parents throwing a party for their daughter so it’s HER job to do the decorating. She is being very pushy and acting like I will have nothing to do with it. I said, “But it’s MY wedding!” and she said “It’s not about what you want.”
What do I do?? I had everything envisioned, and so far I haven’t liked any of my mom’s ideas. Part of me wants to give up. My mother is very overbearing and hard to stand up to. She’s trying to stress me out to the point where I DO give up.
What do you guys think? I leave it in her hands? She’s only doing it out of spite now but maybe she’d try super hard to make it beautiful to show up my fiance’s mom.. I just don’t know.