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• Sammy0709 member

  

  January 2013

  I would do this as a vow renewal if I were you. Although our situations were very dissimilar I did basically the same thing. We had our vow renewal on our 1 year anniversary. We did not have pre wedding parties as those are typically meant for unmarried people. We did not expect gifts and you probably shouldn't. We pieced together parts of a wedding that our family wanted or would appreciate as guests since this was their request anyway. We had attendants, my father walked me down the aisle, we had a preacher, cake, white dress. Really, it's your party and you know your families to know what they would expect. I think the biggest thing though is just to make sure everyone knows exactly what is going on: you have been married for 2 years and want to celebrate the joining of your families. You could even just have a big party/reception if you want. I probably would have had just a big barbeque to get everyone together if my family hadn't been so pushy about a VR. Like I said I did something very similar so if you have additional questions regarding how to word invites or what not feel free to PM me.

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• manjermj member

  

  January 2013 edited January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_advice-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:ea6e63ec-1221-4ff0-8fcc-21530b19b625Post:69d40fa6-19d6-419a-9850-674dabfaf55a">Re:Advice Needed</a>:
  [QUOTE]I would do this as a vow renewal if I were you. Although our situations were very dissimilar I did basically the same thing. We had our vow renewal on our 1 year anniversary. <strong>We did not have pre wedding parties as those are typically meant for unmarried people. We did not expect gifts and you probably shouldn't.</strong> We pieced together parts of a wedding that our family wanted or would appreciate as guests since this was their request anyway. We had attendants, my father walked me down the aisle, we had a preacher, cake, white dress. Really, it's your party and you know your families to know what they would expect. I think the biggest thing though is just to make sure everyone knows exactly what is going on: you have been married for 2 years and want to celebrate the joining of your families. You could even just have a big party/reception if you want. I probably would have had just a big barbeque to get everyone together if my family hadn't been so pushy about a VR. Like I said I did something very similar so if you have additional questions regarding how to word invites or what not feel free to PM me.
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  </div><div>I agree with this. As long as you are up front and honest with everyone that you are in fact, already married, then you can have a vow renewal (not a "wedding"). And like Sammy said, do not expect gifts and honestly I'd say to not register for gifts/have the traditional pre-wedding parties at all because if I were invited, I'd see it as you're just looking for gifts. Keep it just as a celebration of your marriage and not make it as a traditional wedding, because it's not.
  
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