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So my best friend's sister-in-law and brother have been trying to have children for multiple years. They went through IVF and had a miscarriage at 8 weeks, and then they were trying to adopt a little girl but the adoption fell through. A few months ago, after their second round of IVF, they found out that they were pregnant with twins (a boy and a girl).

Fast forward to the 20th week of her pregnancy. She went into get an ultrasound and found out she was 3 cm dilated and her membranes were bulging. She was sent to the hospital and began contracting. She was allergic to multiple medications that they tried to stop her labor, but eventually they found one that worked. They stopped her labor and did a cerclage (sewed the cervix shut). She has been on strict bedrest at home since then.

Fast forward to yesterday (23 weeks 6 days into the pregnancy). She went in for another ultrasound and they found her cervix had thinned to .8 cm which is extremely thin (normal is between 3 and 5 cm). Once again she was admitted to the hospital and right after she was admitted she began contracting again. Her contractions were a minute and a half apart all night, recently they have slowed to every 4 minutes. The doctors don't think that she will make it until 28 weeks (they aren't even sure if she'll make it to 25), but it would be best for the babies to stay in as long as possible. If they are born now they have a 50-60% chance of surviving, but they could also have a lot of medical problems such as blindness, cognitive delays, speech delays, respiratory issues, etc. Anyways, this couple has been trying for 6 years and they really deserve these babies. Just hoping for thoughts, prayers, whatever you believe in they could use it all! They have been asking for prayers so I know they'd appreciate it. Thank you guys!

ETA: Posted under wrong sn. Will delete this account soon.

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  • I'm so sorry your brother and his wife are going through this. I will keep them and your family in my thoughts.


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    [QUOTE]I'm so sorry your brother and his wife are going through this. I will keep them and your family in my thoughts.
    Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]

    <div>It's actually my best friends brother, but thank you so much for keeping them in your thoughts! </div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: T&P's Please! : It's actually my best friends brother, but thank you so much for keeping them in your thoughts! 
    Posted by xpromise1thingx[/QUOTE]

    Ooops sorry I read it wrong.


  • I'm sorry your BFF's brother/sister in law are going through this, but it seems kind of strange for you to post this here.  We don't really know you, and that was a lot of excruciating medical detail...
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  • I'm very sorry your friends brothers wife is going through all this, but who are you?
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    [QUOTE]I'm sorry your BFF's brother/sister in law are going through this, but it seems kind of strange for you to post this here.  We don't really know you, and that was a lot of excruciating medical detail...
    Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

    <div>Sorry it was so "excruciating." I posted on the board about a year ago under a different name. And I re-introed under this name a few weeks ago when you guys were having your big get together or whatever. Sorry feel free to ignore the post, just looking for good vibes for the babies.</div>
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    [QUOTE]I'm very sorry your friends brothers wife is going through all this, but who are you?
    Posted by jorja86[/QUOTE]

    <div>I used to post under a different screen name. I intro'd under this name a few weeks ago. </div>
  • omg sorry I just realized that I posted this under my old one. my new screen name on here is himymlover. I did intro under that one a few weeks ago
  • That sucks.  I will be praying for them
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    [QUOTE]That sucks.  I will be praying for them
    Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]

    <div>Thank you!</div>
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  • The loss of a child, no matter when it happens, is the most devastating thing a parent can experience. I will be keeping your friends and their precious babies in my thoughts and prayers.
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