(CN at bottom - didn't expect it to be this long. Sorry.)
Well, FI and I have been working things out, have started going to couples counseling, and things are going much much better for us... thank you to everyone for the support in my previous posts. However, invites are going out and have apparently caused a HUGE problem.
Background: my [divorced] parents are paying for everything related to the wedding.
Invites say something along the lines of
Mr. and Mrs. Stepdad/Mom
and
Mr. and Mrs. Dad/Stepmom
request the honor of your presence at the wedding of their daughter
NOT A REG
to
NOT A REG'S FI
on date/time/place....
FI's parents are horribly offended that they are not listed. It started yesterday as "no one on FI's side will know who he is without their names!" (We sent STDs to every one of them and those only listed mine & FI's names.)
Then it became a sign of disrespect by my family, with FFIL telling FI that they "now see how my family feels about them". And because FI tried to defend my family/myself, they have shut off all contact with him - told him they do not want to talk to him, don't want to see him, and they have apparently cancelled the rehearsal dinner that they had been planning to host (and will instead be inviting only their family members to their house following the rehearsal). His father went so far as to say "Don't be surprised if we don't show up [to the wedding]."
I'm really not worried about the rehearsal - my parents or even FI and I can cover that. But FI is very upset at how his parents are treating him, and I am looking for a way to help smooth things over. FI had nothing to do with picking out the invites or the wording, so his parents' reaction against him is totally unfair. What's done is done - we can't have the invites reprinted at this point. Any tips for moving forward?
CN: Brides parents are paying for everything related to wedding ceremony & reception. Invites only list bride's parents names (no "son of" for groom). Groom's parents are horribly offended & feel completely disrespected that their names were not listed and have cut contact with groom, cancelled the rehearsal dinner they were hosting, and have told groom they may not show up to the wedding. Groom had nothing to do with invite wording (bride & bride's parents ordered them). Were bride's parents in the wrong? What can be done now to help smooth things over?
TYIA.