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So my FI is a GM in a wedding in December.  Well, he just started a new job that is pretty well-known for their Christmas parties, which happens to be on the same day as his friends wedding.  So he called his friend and let him know that he thought about trying to make it to the Christmas party after the wedding since the Xmas party goes on pretty late, so we may or may not leave his reception at about 9-9:30 (after a 5PM wedding).  Also keep in mind that this was a 'maybe depending on how the night goes' kind of thing, not we are going to leave no matter what, he just wanted him to know it was a possibility.

Another thing FI let him know what that because he just started his new job, he didn't have an official schedule yet since it's just training.  He told him there is a possiblility that he might have to work weekends and if that's the case, won't be able to make it to his bachelor party in Vegas (which groom is demanding they get him VIP in a club, a suite at a hotel, etc etc)  Groom was upset about it because 'he's known about it for a while and he can't just back out'.  Like FI is supposed to turn down a great job just to make sure he can make it to his bachelor party and spend a bunch of money on him.

His friend apparently flipped out and said how 'disappointed he was in him' and how he really needed to be there until at least 10:30 to 'help', etc etc.  Meanwhile, him and his new wife will also be leaving their reception at 9PM to catch a flight.  So he called last night and 'demoted' him from a groomsman to an usher because he wasn't 'dedicated enough' to this wedding.

He doesn't seem to get the addage that "No one will ever be as excited for your wedding as you are".  Anyways, FI is actually glad to be only an usher because he's tired of all his friends demands.  He acts like the whole world has to stop just because of their wedding.

So you guys have any crazy bridezilla/groomzilla stories??
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  • meamollymeamolly member
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    edited December 2011
    WTF!!?? Wow. never in my life have i seen this happen.
  • edited December 2011
    Umm... WTF?  Honestly, I'd refuse to be an usher if I were your FI.  In fact, I'd be pretty damn tempted to not attend the wedding at all.  That is serious BS.

    While I don't know if I would have told someone I had to leave their reception early (really, it's none of their business, *especially* if the couple is leaving at 9), your FI was just trying to be considerate.

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  • Wrkn925Wrkn925 member
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    edited December 2011

    I think this qualifies as groomzilla.

    Your FI has to do what he has to do.  Just tell him to be grateful that he doesn't have to participate much in the ceremony.

    Although I know that doesn't do much for hurt feelings...

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  • loopy82loopy82 member
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    edited December 2011
    Wow. That sucks. If I was demoted I would probably just not even want to be in the wedding. I have not dealt with a groomzilla. Good luck to your FI.
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  • edited December 2011
    That's just crazy.  My FI and I are just so happy that we have such good friends who want to share our wedding day with us.  The only thing I've really asked for on the day of the wedding is for my MOH to stay the whole reception (it's not her, it's her step-dad and since she's mentally challenged and doesn't drive, I'm afraid her step-dad will try to pull his usual wedding reception routine and leave as soon as dinner/lunch is done and I really want her to be there for the bouquet toss, etc - her mom said she may just take 2 cars so he can leave if he wants to) and I've asked the best man to make sure his toast is "nice".

    We've both been adamant that we don't want anyone to go broke over anything having to do with our wedding.  I told my MOH's mom that I don't care if the plates at the shower are my colors, just get the cheapest things.  FI didn't really want a bachelor party - he rarely drinks - but one of his single groomsmen insisted upon it - so they're just going to some sports bar for wings and beers 2 nights before the wedding - FI will probably end up nursing one beer the whole night.

    At least as an usher, your FI gets out of having to pay all that money for a trip to Vegas...although if he came and lost a bunch of money, it really helps me out cause it helps the economy hereWink
  • deburnindeburnin member
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    edited December 2011
    I find skipping out on a friends reception early when you're in the WP a bit odd, not gonna lie. I mean, if you're good enough friends for them to ask you to be in the WP, why would you not want to be there and enjoy the evening with them? I know my friend would have been really hurt if we had told her we wanted to leave early for another party... That being said, since the bride and groom are leaving at 9 as well then I don't see why the groom would be so upset by it. I'm assuming there are more people in the WP and parents who would be willing to help clean up. And the whole Las Vegas and demoting thing is ridiculous.
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  • leia1979leia1979 member
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    Hmm...well, the only time I was a BM, the groomsmen didn't do jack other than show up and drink. They didn't help out at all (yes, all the BMs were a bit miffed at the guys). So I'm not sure what this groom is epecting the guys to help with.

    Yeah, I might be a bit annoyed that one of my bridal party wanted to leave the reception early, but I wouldn't be leaving the reception early either (unlike this groom). I don't think that's a reason to demote someone, though.

    And unless your FI really wants to be an usher, he should "demote" himself all the way to guest. Then you guys can just show up and enjoy the wedding.
  • PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
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    edited December 2011
    This is bull. 

    1) I wouldn't leave a wedding early if I was in the WP.  BUT under the circumstances (the bride and groom leaving earlier) then I don't think it's an issue.
    2) You can't just demote someone.  Unless you want to end the friendship...because that's what usually happens.  I hope this isn't the case for you two.
    3) This is BULLSHIT.  I wouldn't even want to be part of the wedding anymore.
    4) This groom is demanding.  I'd cut a bitch.
    5) I'd just like to reiterate that I think this is bull and I'm sorry your FI is in this situation.

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  • Roo726Roo726 member
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    I was just in my best friends wedding a month ago, and there was a girl i WISH she had demoted during the process.  We were all there to help, and we attended every single event.  We helped the week before, we did everything with a smile on our face.  but this chick, made everything about her...i can't make it to this because of this...im going to be late to this...i don't want to have my makeup done...i don't like my dress...im moving so i can't come to the rehearsal...the excuses just drolled on.  She didn't respond to emails, she complained about the money she had to spend around every corner.  Honestly, she was a drag.  HOWEVER your life circimstances changed (new job) so I think that is entirely different.  And it is work, afterall.  I do find it weird you would cut out early for a work party though.  If you obligate yourself to something, yet something more fun comes along, you can't flake.  Thats not what friends do to eachother IMO.
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_demoted?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a0f35305-f6c8-4604-ac64-891566a51bb9Post:d66ae4cd-46d7-4543-bb64-d19aea786566">Re: Demoted</a>:
    [QUOTE]I was just in my best friends wedding a month ago, and there was a girl i WISH she had demoted during the process.  We were all there to help, and we attended every single event.  We helped the week before, we did everything with a smile on our face.  but this chick, made everything about her...i can't make it to this because of this...im going to be late to this...i don't want to have my makeup done...i don't like my dress...im moving so i can't come to the rehearsal...the excuses just drolled on.  She didn't respond to emails, she complained about the money she had to spend around every corner.  Honestly, she was a drag.  HOWEVER your life circimstances changed (new job) so I think that is entirely different.  And it is work, afterall.  <strong>I do find it weird you would cut out early for a work party though.  If you obligate yourself to something, yet something more fun comes along, you can't flake.  Thats not what friends do to eachother IMO.</strong>
    Posted by Roo726[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Normally I would agree with this but given the circumstances (of the bride and groom leaving before them) then I don't think it's such an issue.

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  • Roo726Roo726 member
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    edited December 2011
    well, i would just leave.  Ya know just kinda casually stroll out rather then ask permission- then no harm, no foul, they won't even know.
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_demoted?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a0f35305-f6c8-4604-ac64-891566a51bb9Post:5f046796-c9bd-43d2-8e65-a7eba9d5af8a">Re: Demoted</a>:
    [QUOTE]well, i would just leave.  Ya know just kinda casually stroll out rather then ask permission- then no harm, no foul, they won't even know.
    Posted by Roo726[/QUOTE]

    <div>This! Agreed!</div>

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  • calindicalindi member
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    edited December 2011
    Meh, I just wouldn't have told them at all that you planned to leave early.  For all they know, you got a stomach ache and went home.  It's really not their business, and you only technically have to stay for the ceremony and ideally the dinner.  Once it becomes dancing, no one's going to notice or care.  But yeah, I wouldn't have told them because obviously they're not going to be happy you'd rather do something else on their wedding day than hang out at their wedding all night.

    That said, crazy groomzilla.  Any demands on bachelor(ette) parties is just ridiculous, except if it's, "I don't want X" as in "I don't want strippers" or "I don't want alcohol" if those are your preferences.  But dictating an expensive trip?  Hell no.

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  • breezerbbreezerb member
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    All I have to say is Groomzilla.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_demoted?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:a0f35305-f6c8-4604-ac64-891566a51bb9Post:272d18d8-aadc-43a2-9f55-76dd66f6f295">Re: Demoted</a>:
    [QUOTE]All I have to say is Groomzilla.
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    My thoughts exactly.
  • jemmini6jemmini6 member
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    edited December 2011
    I told him not to tell him either, but since he knew they were leaving at 9 as well, he didn't think it'd be an issue, so he just let him know.  Normally, we wouldn't cut out early either, not even for a Christmas party, but I don't really count 9 as being too early to leave a wedding reception for a 5PM ceremony.  We went to a wedding a few months ago and left around the same time because we were both tired...

    He's also not that 'close' of a friend.  They went to HS together, but the groom graduated 3 years before FI did.  They hang out maybe once or twice a month, if that.  But they wanted an equal bridal party, so that's the only reason FI was asked.

    AND...he still EXPECTS FI to make every effort to attend his bachelor party and rent a tux to be an usher.  So he's still looking at at LEAST $300 to attend the bachelor party, just to cover his cost of travel, room and the VIP for the club...then the groom still wants to split his costs among his friends, regardless of whether FI ends up going or not.  Then the tux is another $150 because he had to have Calvin Klein because his wedding wasn't cheap.

    So ridiculous.  So yeah...needless to say, FI was actually relieved to be 'demoted'. I just can't believe that for something so relatively small (the slight possibility of leaving at most 30 min early) justifies removing someone from your wedding party...
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  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    edited December 2011
    I think it's weird that the couple would expect people to stay later than they were. I don't think I'd really want to stay at a wedding reception any later than the couple. It would feel.. kinda odd. Maybe that's just me.

    That guy is crazy though. I don't have any stories close to that level of craziness at all. But my friend did ask me if I would consider using a tanning bed because the colour she liked in BM dresses looks better with "tanned skin". But she left it alone after I kinda laughed and said "no."
  • PandaBurrPandaBurr member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_demoted?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a0f35305-f6c8-4604-ac64-891566a51bb9Post:d66ae4cd-46d7-4543-bb64-d19aea786566">Re: Demoted</a>:
    [QUOTE]I was just in my best friends wedding a month ago, and there was a girl i WISH she had demoted during the process.  We were all there to help, and we attended every single event.  We helped the week before, we did everything with a smile on our face.  but this chick, made everything about her...i can't make it to this because of this...im going to be late to this...i don't want to have my makeup done...i don't like my dress...im moving so i can't come to the rehearsal...the excuses just drolled on.  She didn't respond to emails, she complained about the money she had to spend around every corner.  Honestly, she was a drag.  HOWEVER your life circimstances changed (new job) so I think that is entirely different.  And it is work, afterall.  I do find it weird you would cut out early for a work party though.  If you obligate yourself to something, yet something more fun comes along, you can't flake.  Thats not what friends do to eachother IMO.
    Posted by Roo726[/QUOTE]

    TBH, I don't really see anything wrong with the BM you're talking about. She doesn't have to attend every single event, nor does she have to agree to shell out cash to get her make-up done, especially if she had to "spend around every corner".I would complain about having to pay for a dress I don't like, and will never wear again too. I don't even care what dress my BMs will wear, as long as it's remotely close to the color I end up choosing. I guess I'm a bad friend though, because my idea of a BM is to just show up on my wedding day and stand up there with me. Maybe the occasional bouquet holding.
  • LizzyTish88LizzyTish88 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_demoted?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:a0f35305-f6c8-4604-ac64-891566a51bb9Post:49992bcb-e826-4571-b5b5-742b14ebd799">Re: Demoted</a>:
    [QUOTE]This is bull.  1) I wouldn't leave a wedding early if I was in the WP.  BUT under the circumstances (the bride and groom leaving earlier) then I don't think it's an issue. 2) You can't just demote someone.  Unless you want to end the friendship...because that's what usually happens.  I hope this isn't the case for you two. 3) This is BULLSHIT.  I wouldn't even want to be part of the wedding anymore. 4) This groom is demanding.  <strong>I'd cut a bitch</strong>. 5) I'd just like to reiterate that I think this is bull and I'm sorry your FI is in this situation.
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  • Roo726Roo726 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_demoted?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:a0f35305-f6c8-4604-ac64-891566a51bb9Post:c58f1053-9566-465a-b237-f4bf57859ee0">Re: Demoted</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Demoted : TBH, I don't really see anything wrong with the BM you're talking about. She doesn't have to attend every single event, nor does she have to agree to shell out cash to get her make-up done, especially if she had to "spend around every corner".I would complain about having to pay for a dress I don't like, and will never wear again too. I don't even care what dress my BMs will wear, as long as it's remotely close to the color I end up choosing. I guess I'm a bad friend though, because my idea of a BM is to just show up on my wedding day and stand up there with me. Maybe the occasional bouquet holding.
    Posted by PandaBurr[/QUOTE]

    The bride didn't require us to pay for all this- that is the point.  She was just being stubborn about weird things. She paid for our hair, and makeup was optional but the bride was concerned because this girl doesn't wear makeup and the wedding was outdoors and it really for photo purposes was imperitive that some be worn. Her mom offered to pay and everything and she said no mom, I don't want you to be burdened.  So we all dealt with it, I offered to do her makeup.  Then on the day of, she changed her mind, and had to write a check to the makeup artist and got it done but we had to squeeze her in because there wasn't much time.  To me, that is causing an obstruction- and that is miniscule in comparison to the rest of the stuff.  She even planned a BBQ on the night of the bachlorette party, and invited the bride.  WHO DOES THAT.  You can always decline being part of someones bridal party if you don't have time or don't think you can participate.  But don't be a bummer if you decide to.  ALSO she didn't come to the dress appointment, where she would have been able to pick out her own dress lol.  None of us matched, it was a color scheme, and if she had showed up to the appointment and not flaked, her concerns would have been heard.

    Anyway, i agree that this groom sucks and that the situation is extreme. yay for being an usher now you can get drunk and don't have to worry about the photos.
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  • PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_demoted?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:a0f35305-f6c8-4604-ac64-891566a51bb9Post:fa33d8e9-f536-4f97-9ff0-0dfa94a9b279">Re: Demoted</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Demoted : Hahahaha. And this is why Paige is awesome!
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_demoted?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a0f35305-f6c8-4604-ac64-891566a51bb9Post:49992bcb-e826-4571-b5b5-742b14ebd799">Re: Demoted</a>:
    [QUOTE]This is bull.  1) I wouldn't leave a wedding early if I was in the WP.  BUT under the circumstances (the bride and groom leaving earlier) then I don't think it's an issue. 2) You can't just demote someone.  Unless you want to end the friendship...because that's what usually happens.  I hope this isn't the case for you two. 3) This is BULLSHIT.  I wouldn't even want to be part of the wedding anymore. 4) This groom is demanding.  I'd cut a bitch. 5) I'd just like to reiterate that I think this is bull and I'm sorry your FI is in this situation.
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  • edited December 2011
    Wow. Yeah, ditto PPs - this guy is a groomzilla and I wouldn't even want to be involved in the wedding at this point. It sounds like your FI is doing everything in his power up to the point of risking his job to make sure his friend has a nice time.

    Although I have to disagree with the "you shouldn't leave the reception early if you're in the WP." I was a BM in a wedding last year and I left the reception just before cake was served to go to a work function (and I heard the cake was bad anyway, so I'm kinda glad I missed out). Maybe I'z just a beeyatch.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_demoted?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:a0f35305-f6c8-4604-ac64-891566a51bb9Post:90fe6ceb-d04d-4be4-8682-bc978f6c254f">Re: Demoted</a>:
    [QUOTE]I told him not to tell him either, but since he knew they were leaving at 9 as well, he didn't think it'd be an issue, so he just let him know.  Normally, we wouldn't cut out early either, not even for a Christmas party, but I don't really count 9 as being too early to leave a wedding reception for a 5PM ceremony.  We went to a wedding a few months ago and left around the same time because we were both tired... He's also not that 'close' of a friend.  They went to HS together, but the groom graduated 3 years before FI did.  They hang out maybe once or twice a month, if that.  <strong>But they wanted an equal bridal party, so that's the only reason FI was asked</strong>. AND...he still EXPECTS FI to make every effort to attend his bachelor party and rent a tux to be an usher.  So he's still looking at at LEAST $300 to attend the bachelor party, just to cover his cost of travel, room and the VIP for the club...then the groom still wants to split his costs among his friends, regardless of whether FI ends up going or not.  Then the tux is another $150 because he had to have Calvin Klein because his wedding wasn't cheap. So ridiculous.  So yeah...needless to say, FI was actually relieved to be 'demoted'. I just can't believe that for something so relatively small (the slight possibility of leaving at most 30 min early) justifies removing someone from your wedding party...
    Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]

    Does that mean that she has to kick out a BM now?
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Demoted : Does that mean that she has to kick out a BM now?
    Posted by MLekathLEEN[/QUOTE]


    Could you imagine that conversation?

    "Ummm... I'm sorry, but you can't be in the wedding anymore because this jerk groomsman chose employment over MY day - who does that?! So we had to demote him, and now the numbers will be uneven if I let you stay in the WP, ok?"
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  • jemmini6jemmini6 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_demoted?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a0f35305-f6c8-4604-ac64-891566a51bb9Post:b5c0a945-7279-4fb9-ba7e-2f4976c81c2c">Re: Demoted</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Demoted : Does that mean that she has to kick out a BM now?
    Posted by MLekathLEEN[/QUOTE]

    No...FI is trading places with one of the ushers.  So he's now an usher and the usher is now a groomsman
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  • LadyMadrid08LadyMadrid08 member
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Demoted : I agree with everything Paige said... except maybe the cutting part, I'd punch him in the sack!
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    <div>Ditto. </div>
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    edited December 2011
    Your guy may have been demoted but this groom is demented!!!! Some people go nuts when they get married and it becomes this huge expensive push for perfection thing. One of my best friends is a latina and another good friend of mine is a latino. I don't know if this is a cultural thing but they both told me about a mutual friends wedding where they were asked to be a godmother, and godfather respectively. Both were honored and all proud to be asked until the details came out. My female friend was asked to be the Godmother of the Dress, which translated to the brides family expecting her to pay for the dress!!! And my male friend was asked to be Godfather of the Cake, and yep, you guessed it, he was expected to lay down the money for the cake. Needless to say, both my friends declined this "honor" and didn't bother even going to the wedding.
  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_demoted?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:a0f35305-f6c8-4604-ac64-891566a51bb9Post:297a71ef-d467-4d31-a85c-d50ffd601709">Re: Demoted</a>:
    [QUOTE]Your guy may have been demoted but this groom is demented!!!! Some people go nuts when they get married and it becomes this huge expensive push for perfection thing. One of my best friends is a latina and another good friend of mine is a latino. I don't know if this is a cultural thing but they both told me about a mutual friends wedding where they were asked to be a godmother, and godfather respectively. Both were honored and all proud to be asked until the details came out. My female friend was asked to be the Godmother of the Dress, which translated to the brides family expecting her to pay for the dress!!! And my male friend was asked to be Godfather of the Cake, and yep, you guessed it, he was expected to lay down the money for the cake. Needless to say, both my friends declined this "honor" and didn't bother even going to the wedding.
    Posted by Nichole5150[/QUOTE]

    People have godparents for weddings? Is that actually a cultural thing (I have no idea, I'm not trying to presume)? And they just pay for that stuff?
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