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  • Re: God laughs when you make plans.

    Thanks, everyone. I know that we will eventually be able to laugh about it but it's hard to think that now.

    climbingwife We were very lucky with the backup venue - the group that owns our original venue had just bought this new place and were planning to start some renovations on the following Monday so it really was lucky (for want of a better word.)

    LondonLisa We said that actually that we could throw a party in the original space for one 1st anniversary! We are having a celebration of our wedding in Australia for my family who couldn't travel to France. So I do have that to think about but it seems to keep my mind on the French catastrophe.

    holyguacamole79 I just said that about SATC to a friend last night! Here's hoping it rings true (We had a Jewish wedding too ha!)
  • God laughs when you make plans.

    Waring this is going to be long.

    Lots of people told me before our wedding to manage my expectations - that something would go wrong and to try not to get caught up it in. I don't think that they meant this. It's taken me quite a while to sit down to write this because I still can't really believe it. Our reception venue that we spent weeks looking for caught fire and a good portion of it burnt in the early morning of the day of our wedding.

    The venue contacted my (now) husband around 9am to inform him to say that they had a backup venue and that they were moving everything that could there. He then called me. 

    Our bridal party and my BIL were amazing jumping into action and going to the new venue to try to get everything ready in time. They were able to save the flowers and table settings, the table map sign but everything for our religious ceremony that had been in a different room was burnt. 

    They were able to set up at the new venue. The venue was on the Champs Elysees in Paris (would be nice if it wasn't so tacky now) but it was the same days and the Journe de Patrimoine - a day when all public buildings like the president's residence etc are open to the public. This meant that the street and access was limited to 300meters away meaning my disabled father and any older guest had to walk that! Not terrible considering.

    The staff were able to pull off the general order of the event we had planned in terms of time after that.

    Secondly, the top button on my dress popped during lunch (we had a break between our legal civil wedding and out) I was kind of crucial in keeping the top from falling open. As a few of you know I work in Fashion so I texted a friend to bring a needle and thread to the reception to fix it which was annoying but ok - However! the photographer decided it was important to take all the group photos whilst I was away (for only like 15 minutes) I know this because even though we haven't gotten them back yet my FIL who stood near her taking photos at the same time sent us his photos this week and all the group photos with my husbands family and his friends were taken whilst I wasn't there!! Awesome!!!

    Honestly, my feelings about all of this are really complicated. 
    I got married to a guy I love and who means the world to me. But I feel like I was on auto-pilot the whole day. I had a bit of a cry when my button popped but I mostly kept it together I think by not really being in the moment. 
    And yes we got married on the Champs Elysees which others might think it amazing but its the exact opposite of what we wanted! We looked for an 'industrial' looking place for ages because I love all the amazing 19th-century factories they have here. And I really dislike the fancy frou-frou Frenchy places and that's exactly what we got. 

    I spent 2 years planning this wedding - every single thing I planned. So much effort, so many people coming from over 10 different countries. and although they were able to transport most things (only a prayer shall and an extra shirt for just in case anything got spilt) nothing looked exactly the way I thought it would. I spent 3 hours at the original venue the day before going over everything and all I can feel now is that we didn't do it yet. People keep telling us how much they liked the place we ended up which is soooo annoying to hear because we didn't want anything like that. I'm so fed up with hearing it!! 

    To add insult to injury I just found out today that our venue in Australia for our celebration at home was meant to have renovations finished in July and apparently they're not and won't be finished in time.

    I'm sorry this is such a rambling post but I'm so all over the place about it.
    Of course, I happy about being married but I just so desperately sad about everything that happened.
    I'd like to know if anyone else had anything this dramatic happen to them and if or how long it too them to feel ok about it.

    I'm putting a few of the photos that people have given us just so you can see but they're not the ones from our photographer. 

    Us walking down the stairs at the town hall in a cloud of bubbles.

    My dress, jacket, obi and wonder woman hair!

    The steps of the Town Hall from the civil ceremony

    Our religious ceremony
    Our amazing Chouppa that was made especially was burnt up so we had our religious ceremony under this thrown together version that was just kinda ok.

  • Re: plus one advice pleaseeeee!!!

    We went to a wedding just recently with a friend who was in a kinda similar situation with a broken love triangle of all things. 
    Everyone went they were seated on opposite sides of the room they avoided each other but didn't make it awkward for anyone else (people who knew anyway) The girl involved was in the bridal party so the 'other' guy left a bit early and didn't attend the Sunday brunch.

    It was very grown up which is what I'd hope you could expect from your friend. I'd send everyone an invite but make sure they know who is invited so they can make their own choices. 
    I have another friend who chose to not attend a wedding because her ex was there. It was a whole weekend thing so a bit more difficult.

    I think you give everyone the information and then it's their choice to decide what they do.

    Good luck!!
  • Re: Jack and Jill Party

    I find it so so weird to ask people to pay. 
    Like if you can't afford your wedding you shouldn't be doing it.

    In Australia, we call a bachelor party a Stag night and a bachelorette a Hens night so that's similar - but I wouldn't ask anyone to pay!
  • Re: Close friends decline invitation

    CMGragain you talking about 40 years ago - of course things are different...... 
    The 70's also had bell-bottoms so..........