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  • Re: What to do with my engagement ring?

    Man I wish there were a matching service for people with too much China and silver and those of us old fashioned young-uns who have none!
  • Re: The BIG question, how to politely put Adults only

    No one needs you to recommend or explain how to bring a sitter with you. 
  • Re: Engaged but no not really?

    Why do you want to marry someone who doesn't care how you feel about this?
  • Re: Am i going crazy?

    kaos16 said:

    He did have a paralegal a few years ago who was male.  He'd buy him shirts and ties. 

    He did ask flat out if I wanted him to fire her. . . . which I said no to, because it would put him in a bind needing to find someone new and to train him or her. 

    Also firing her is still punishing her for his failure to draw appropriate boundaries. 
  • Re: Am i going crazy?

    kaos16 said:
    mrsconn23 said:
    Agreed with all of the above.  Since he does run his own office, is he free to set his hours?  Can he do work from home? 

    I don't see anything wrong with expecting him to be home in evening more often than not and having to help share the kid/dinner/bath/bedtime load.  If there's an issue or they're slammed, that's one thing...but work can be never-ending and it should not be an excuse to escape just because.  

    Also, make a plan to go out with a friend or two in the next month.  Put it on your calendar/communicate it to DH and get out of the house.  

    Furthermore, she can flirt with him all she wants.  But it's on him to have the appropriate reaction to her.  If you have an issue with his interactions with her on his end, it's OK to tell him that him doing X thing makes you uncomfortable.

    Yes.  I trust that he wouldn't act on anything she does.  Maybe I'm just annoyed that someone would be so flirty with a married man.  I know she's not the only one, plenty do it. . . . but she is the first person I've personally encountered doing this in my life.

    He is absolutely swamped at work. . . it's all him.  Some stuff he can do from home once the home office is set up (we just moved) but he gets less done at home because he ends up wanting to veg out on the couch with me in the evenings even thought I don't mind at all if he wants to go into the other room to get work done.  Yesterday he had to be at the office for the computer guy.  (who I've been told spends a lot of time cheating on his wife and being completely inappropriate with most females, to the point of being accused of sexual harassment a few times).  Maybe it was just a perfect storm of bad influences yesterday that brought everything to a head for me!

    See I'd say the opposite. I don't see her being flirty, I see him being inappropriately personally involved with a subordinate. He, and you, need to talk about his conduct and his boundaries, not so much hers. Absolutely not suggesting I think he is having an affair, but does he agree that as a boss maybe buying her clothes and taking her to run errands just looks bad? Is he willing to dial back the unnecessary contact?