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......and also we are not trying to get entitlement or whatever. My husband and I want to have and experience each moment such as me walking down the aisle with my dad, saying our vows in a different manner but still saying them. Yes we are married legally but I still dont feel fully married if you will. I feel that the vows are the most important part and what makes a marriage. I want to give him my promises from my heart and I want my family there to experience it with us. We also want the first dance, wedding cake, toasts, garder, bouquet, father/mother dances etc. Its about the experience with my husband and family and sharing it together. I dont care about presents and am not asking for them. We just want the memories together. You all take this to a different level than need be. It is about celebrating us together, yes we may be delayed and chose to do a quick marriage due to military timing but that is only because my husband knows that I want and DESERVE a real wedding and we didnt have the time with his schedule to make my dream come true.