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  • Re: Charity donation as favor

    If you want to do it, do it.

    I don't think anyone would be offended by your choice of charity. I think it's a lovely gesture. I also don't think it's horrible to mention it at the wedding. It'd be drawing other people's attention to the charity. It will possibly make them consider donating.
  • Re: MOH

    In Response to Re: MOH:
    I dont even want to start dress shopping yet i feel its way to soon for the exact reason that peoples bodys do change over time she wanted to go look at them so we went. Im putting pretty much everything on the back burning with the exception of the hall cattering church photographer and dj on the back burner for a while bc i feel its way to soon to actually start doing much else. The only only reason im even doing those now is bc i know places book soon and dont want to miss out. And she was baptized but doesnt follow any sort of religion the same as both my parents and they agree theres nothing wrong with getting married in a church. Its not like im having religion in my ceremony at all bc my whole extended family is catholic and his is all christian. But neither of us were raised at all religious. 
    Posted by RWhitesell
    I don't think you understand how church ceremonies work.
  • Re: MOH

    In Response to Re: MOH:
    If  it came down to me taking vows i wouldnt do that. But i think most churches are very pretty buildings and want to get married in one. Plus most non-religious people  still get married in a church. Which i guess would mean they use it as a backdrop then. However it still happens and i just admit that its something i would do.
    Posted by RWhitesell
    No actually. Churches are not just pretty buildings. They are places that people are baptized in and married in and have funerals in. They MEAN things to people. The people inside them means things to people and what the church represents is what some people use to help guide the way they live their lives.

    My FI and I are not religious people but we were raised in religious families. Would I like to get married in the gorgeous church that my parents were married in and that I've attended for many years of my life? Yes. But I don't believe the things that the church represents anymore and I would never cheapen what that means for other people. I would feel insanely guilty saying my vows in a context that does not feel "true" to me.

    You're seriously messed up.
  • Re: Bouquet toss but not a garter toss?

    I'm only tossing my bouquet. The garter tradition is creepy IMO.
  • Re: Atheist wedding ideas

    Here's the reading we used for our wedding. Maybe it is too sappy for you but I think it fits well if you like the Marley song...very much about how love and marriage isn't perfect.

    "Love is friendship caught fire; it is quiet, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection, and makes allowances for human weaknesses. Love is content with the present, hopes for the future, and does not brood over the past. It is the day-in and day-out chronicles of irritations, problems, compromises, small disappointments, big victories, and working toward common goals. If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you lack. If you do not have it, no matter what else there is, it is not enough."


    by Laura Hendricks Back


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