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deleted 'cause porscha deleted the spammer ad so my note is no longer appropriate
I had a big list that my FSIL was picking from, but the formatting all disappeared! So I deleted it. And then it did it AGAIN....if you can parse it out, the poem my mom is reading is: James Kavanaugh To love is not to possess, To own or imprison, Nor to lose one's self in another. Love is to join and separate, To walk alone and together, To find a laughing freedom That lonely isolation does not permit. It is finally to be able To be who we really are No longer clinging in childish dependency Nor docilely living separate lives in silence, It is to be perfectly one's self And perfectly joined in permanent commitment To another–and to one's inner self. Love only endures when it moves like waves, Receding and returning gently or passionately, Or moving lovingly like the tide In the moon's own predictable harmony, Because finally, despite a child's scars Or an adult's deepest wounds, They are openly free to be Who they really are–and always secretly were, In the very core of their being Where true and lasting love can alone abide.
All that comes to mind is the following exchange:"I Unfriend You.""That's not how that works. That's not how any of this works!"
One of the issues with X was that he wanted kids and I was very on the fence, leaning toward no (we started both on the fence.When I met FI, it didn't take long for me to WANT KID(S) NOW. I think I didnt see X as a good parenting match, but I do see that in FI.
I appreciate all the thoughts.I do feel like I've reached out already. I've checked in several times to see how she'd coping and haven't gotten the same in return at all.I suppose it might have been too hard to deal with the RSVP beyond in the most basic manner possible. I do still feel like the better answer would have been to make some acknowledgment of the reason (and to recognize that it will be hard for me too), but I guess sometimes we just dont have the strength to do the best thing and opt for what we can handle.