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  • Re: Heartbroken

    I know you love your SO and want to make this work, but it's also important for you to look out for yourself right now. It sounds like you guys have been through postponing your marriage at least once before - how many times are you okay with doing that? Because of what your SO has already been through, there is a possibility that she may never be ready to get married again. Once the shock and hurt of this has softened a little bit, I think you need to think about whether you're okay with that. Do you want to be with her enough to forego an official marriage, or is it essential to you to have that legal commitment? (It's okay, by the way, to decide that you need that. Be honest with yourself.) 

    Obviously when you love someone, you want to do whatever you can to help them through hard times and to make them happy. But at a certain point, you also have to ask yourself what that process is doing to you, and whether it's making you give up too much of your own happiness.  I think you are at a point now where it's okay to ask yourself that question, and whether you still feel this is a relationship in which you can be happy and healthy. Sadly, love is not always enough to fix the situation. 

    I am truly sorry that you are going through this. Don't be shy about coming here for support if you need it. *hugs*

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  • Re: inviting that guy

    I agree with @SP29 that security is something to consider, since you can't be sure this relative won't come anyway no matter what the invitation says.  Your reference to "more than inappropriate" behavior makes me think that you feel very unsafe around this person, so you should not just have to grin and bear it if he shows up. I'm sorry this is something you even have to think about.
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  • Re: October baseball, anyone?

    I never, ever expected this Yankee team to get anywhere near this. I would've laughed at anyone who told me in April that they'd be going to the ALCS. I am so proud of them. 

    Congratulations to the Indians on an excellent season. You guys were a more than worthy opponent.
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  • Re: October baseball, anyone?

    Game 5 Wednesday night!!!!!!!
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  • Re: October baseball, anyone?

    banana468 said:
    Yankee fan here, and I fully expect that they'll be done after tonight's game. I'm still mad at Joe Girardi for what happened in last night's game. But in all honesty, I am so proud of the team for being so much better this season than anyone expected, so while nobody likes seeing their team lose in the playoffs, I still think this was a great year for the Yankees regardless. 

    @MobKaz, seeing the Cubs finally win it all last year was truly one of the best experiences I've ever had as a baseball fan. I think that's one of the greatest World Series any of us will ever see. 
    Game 4 baby!!  

    YES! So glad I was wrong on this one! 
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