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  • Re: What to do with my engagement ring?

    CMGragain said:
    ernursej said:
    Ask your kids who would like it. Alternatively, you could get your H to sell it and then split the money between the two kids to get something to remember you by. That would be the most equitable. 
    The idea sounds good, but have you ever tried to sell a diamond?  Not easy!  I cringe when I think what Grandad must have accepted for the family heirloom.  We would have doubled whatever offer he took!  I won't be around to help with the deal, either, and I am the go-to jewelry person in the family.  Daughter will inherit some really impressive pieces from me already.  I'm going to give her some of the stuff I don't wear much when she visits next week.  I'm keeping the pearls for later, though!  ;)
    Yes, actually! That was why I suggested it. If you get it appraised ahead of time and go to a reputable diamond buyer, you should be able to get up to 90% of the value of the diamond (not the band). When my Gran died, I received the majority of her jewelry as my cousins and aunts were not into that. There were a few pieces that I kept as is (they are exquisite) but the rest I sold. I then took the money and bought a beautiful necklace that I wear at least once a week. Both my aunts and cousins preapproved of the process and my cousins received some of my share of her money that was being split among us to make it fair.
    charlotte989875
  • Re: What to do with my engagement ring?

    Ask your kids who would like it. Alternatively, you could get your H to sell it and then split the money between the two kids to get something to remember you by. That would be the most equitable. 
    OurWildKingdom
  • Re: Engaged but no not really?

    H didn't propose with a ring but he did agree that if I wanted a ring, we could get one. I shopped, brought him to the store that I liked and he paid. Our "will you marry me" was not what a lot of people would consider romantic but it worked for us. H does not want to wear a wedding ring (we didn't even buy him one to exchange in the ceremony) and since it isn't my hand, I didn't push it.

    I agree with PPs that you need to have a discussion about feelings with your partner. If you are not feeling heard or respected, work needs to be done. You may want to google "Languages of Love" as you might be on very different pages of what you see as  = love. Perhaps you are words of affirmation and he is acts of service. That might explain a few things.

    charlotte989875
  • Re: MOH still doesn't have her dress...

    Enjoy the wine! Provided she shows up in something (i.e. not naked) it will probably be fine. Kudos for letting her pick style/+/- colour.
    missJeanLouisecharlotte989875short+sassySP29charlieray-2
  • Re: God laughs when you make plans.

    I think you have a very positive attitude despite the day not going as planned!

    Have you actually sat down and really grieved what you lost? It may be helpful to have a pity day/weekend full of ice cream, wine and crying. If you haven't done that, it may be cathartic to do so.

    I would also try and find 3 things that were 'perfect'. Perhaps your flowers were amazing (they looked beautiful) or saying your vows made it feel like it was just you and your H alone or even that the dessert was so fantastic that you dream of having one more bite. Try to think about these things as what made your wedding.

    I'm really sorry that this happened to you but glad that you still got to marry your H.

    OurWildKingdomholyguacamole79SP29Australian_girl_in_Paris