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CMGragain said:ernursej said:Ask your kids who would like it. Alternatively, you could get your H to sell it and then split the money between the two kids to get something to remember you by. That would be the most equitable.
Ask your kids who would like it. Alternatively, you could get your H to sell it and then split the money between the two kids to get something to remember you by. That would be the most equitable.
H didn't propose with a ring but he did agree that if I wanted a ring, we could get one. I shopped, brought him to the store that I liked and he paid. Our "will you marry me" was not what a lot of people would consider romantic but it worked for us. H does not want to wear a wedding ring (we didn't even buy him one to exchange in the ceremony) and since it isn't my hand, I didn't push it.
I agree with PPs that you need to have a discussion about feelings with your partner. If you are not feeling heard or respected, work needs to be done. You may want to google "Languages of Love" as you might be on very different pages of what you see as = love. Perhaps you are words of affirmation and he is acts of service. That might explain a few things.
Enjoy the wine! Provided she shows up in something (i.e. not naked) it will probably be fine. Kudos for letting her pick style/+/- colour.
I think you have a very positive attitude despite the day not going as planned!
Have you actually sat down and really grieved what you lost? It may be helpful to have a pity day/weekend full of ice cream, wine and crying. If you haven't done that, it may be cathartic to do so.
I would also try and find 3 things that were 'perfect'. Perhaps your flowers were amazing (they looked beautiful) or saying your vows made it feel like it was just you and your H alone or even that the dessert was so fantastic that you dream of having one more bite. Try to think about these things as what made your wedding.
I'm really sorry that this happened to you but glad that you still got to marry your H.