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  • Re: Legally married before the wedding?

    I know I'm a little late here, but this is kind of irritating.  I'm a Christian.  I know that even as Christians each of us STILL have different beliefs, but I feel like if your religion is THIS important to you then you will wait.  I'm waiting until August.  We've been engaged for over  a year, yeah it would be nice to have the extra income to help pay for it, but you're right, it's not right and it doesn't coincide with my beliefs.  My faith is important to me.  Doing things the right way is important to me.  Times are hard.  It's hard paying for a wedding.  I struggled finding jobs for a long time, but I'm not going to compromise my beliefs and morals because I don't have enough money to pay for the wedding of my dreams.  You have to sacrifice things.  That's a part of life.  Now I have an amazing job and am able to actually pay for a lot of things.  I didn't give up.  I kept my faith and didn't give in to what would be "easier."  I ALSO realized that marrying my FI is the most important part.  It doesn't have to be a HUGE EXPENSIVE wedding.  The reason for my wedding is to marry my FI and that's all that should matter. 

    I don't want to get into a "religious" debate with you, but the things you say don't add up.  What I've read from the bible, what constitutes as being married is 1) being legally married, as in submitting government documents as long as the documents don't go against God's word 2) having a ceremony... doesn't even  say what size... so a JOP, or an elopement (like MANY of my friends) or a HUGE wedding are ALL ceremonies.  and well 3) 2 become one flesh... you can figure that one out...

    I know you have your beliefs and if your beliefs are to have a huge ceremony in a church, then stick to your beliefs and wait.  Especially if you can't recognize that if you get married before your wedding then you're married and therefore it wouldn't be a wedding and you would be lying to everybody.  And getting married for money?  That's doesn't go against your beliefs?  YOU OBVIOUSLY know what's right and what's wrong, you even said it in your first post! 

    You're not going to get the answer your looking for here. Maybe try another board with  less morals.