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  • Re: Question: picking up a bridesmaids dress--do I need to try on?

    MandyMost said:
    I think you should try it on just to make sure it is the size you ordered and that there is nothing wrong with the dress.
    I feel like I can look it over to see that nothing is wrong and that it's the correct size. If I ordered the correct size and it doesn't fit, that's my fault and they won't do anything about it no matter what, I assume?

    I guess the question is really--what are the chances that anything I find with the dress is something that David's Bridal will give a rat's ass about and do something for me LOL. 
    This is why you try it on before you leave the store, so you can make sure they actually did order the correct size based on your measurements. 

    It's like with a rental car and how you always look over the car and make sure to write down any nicks, dents, scratches, etc., before accepting it. Once you drive that off the property it's too late.
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  • Re: How much is reasonable for a guest to spend on hotel room?

    Hotel blocks are not required. They're just a convenience to try and get people in the same location at a decent price. 

    That said though, you can book what's called a "courtesy block" at no cost or obligation to you. Usually it's just a few rooms (10 or so and they'll add if rooms are available), but it might be nice to have a cheaper option even it is a little further. 
    This is what we did. The hotel right by our venue is about the same price point as the OP mentioned but we also blocked a set of rooms at a slightly cheaper hotel a little further away.
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  • Re: Gifts shipped not brought??

    MobKaz said:
    I have yet to see any source that considers bringing a gift to a wedding an etiquette RULE and/or faux pas. 

    Rude is NOT the same as annoying.

    Pinterest card boxes were all the rage in the early 2000's.  The biggest questions/issues from brides?  How can I put a lock on them and/or make sure no cards are stolen?  Can I have someone "have the honor" of guarding/taking care of it?  Will my venue lock it up after the reception begins?  These are not questions or concerns limited to boxed gifts.

    Just because a person is "older" does not mean they are stupid or out of touch.  My 90 year old mother in law is an avid online shopper and knows how to ship gifts.
    Okay, well, now I feel like you're just being obtuse because the Miss Manners quote I posted on the first page didn't use the words "rule" or "rude" 
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  • Re: Gifts shipped not brought??

    banana468 said:
    redoryx said:
    I'm actually surprised no one has does this yet, so I went and checked Miss Manners' Guide to a Surprisingly Dignified Wedding and she says "....Wedding presents -- properly sent to the bride's home before the wedding or to the couple's home afterward -- are a nuisance when brought to the event, where no one has time to deal with them and there is a danger of their being lost, the cards disappearing or, Miss Manners regrets to say, the packages being stolen."

    She goes on to say in another letter that "When the bride's parents were likely to be receiving, and perhaps even holding the wedding at home, presents were displayed on tables covered by white damasak clothes with, or more discreetly, without, the cards of donors" as "etiquette did used to sanction the display of wedding presents."

    So it seems like maybe the old tradition of boxed gifts brought to the bride's parents' home (where, in many instances, she had been living prior to marriage) has been transferred to the more contemporary trend of weddings at other venues. 

    I can't remember a wedding I went to where there weren't at least some boxed gifts brought by guests. And you'll note in the very top portion she does advocate even sending cards to the house, not taken to the reception either. 
    That's why I'm so confused by people arguing this is some new-fangled rule!
    Me too!  Especially when stated by someone who loves to quote Miss Manners!!  


    That had me SO confused. 
    banana468
  • Re: Gifts shipped not brought??

    I'm actually surprised no one has does this yet, so I went and checked Miss Manners' Guide to a Surprisingly Dignified Wedding and she says "....Wedding presents -- properly sent to the bride's home before the wedding or to the couple's home afterward -- are a nuisance when brought to the event, where no one has time to deal with them and there is a danger of their being lost, the cards disappearing or, Miss Manners regrets to say, the packages being stolen."

    She goes on to say in another letter that "When the bride's parents were likely to be receiving, and perhaps even holding the wedding at home, presents were displayed on tables covered by white damasak clothes with, or more discreetly, without, the cards of donors" as "etiquette did used to sanction the display of wedding presents."

    So it seems like maybe the old tradition of boxed gifts brought to the bride's parents' home (where, in many instances, she had been living prior to marriage) has been transferred to the more contemporary trend of weddings at other venues. 

    I can't remember a wedding I went to where there weren't at least some boxed gifts brought by guests. And you'll note in the very top portion she does advocate even sending cards to the house, not taken to the reception either. 
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