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Wow this is interesting... We also got legally married last year and will have a church wedding next year. Everyone knows we are married, but for us, the church wedding will count as our real wedding.For me this is a no brainer, since where I come from (Germany) you HAVE TO do both since the German government does not recognize a church wedding as a legal marriage. EVERYONE has to go to the court house before the church ceremony, which is usually with close family only. Some do it the same day, a week, a month or a year in advance of the church wedding.But yes, we did not lie about this. I already have his last name and everyone knows we are married, BUT we also tell everyone that our REAL wedding will be next year.So as long as you are open about it and let everyone know your plans, I do not see a problem??Guess this is not as common in the US though, took me a little bit of explaining to hubbys family, whereas my side never asked a single questions since it is normal for us. But especially in the military I know a lot of people that did it that way, especially for mil/mil couples so they could get joint assignments.