Catholic Weddings — The Knot Community

Precious Idea for New (or Future!) Parents

Nickie431 — Tue, 14 Aug 2012 22:23:03 +0000

I came across this on Pinterest and had to share with ladies who'd appreciate: photograph your baby with the medal of the saint for whom he or she was named. (Photo credit goes to Pinkle Toes Photography.)

Anyone ever heard of Maryann Van Hoof?

chelseamb11 — Tue, 14 Aug 2012 19:42:49 +0000

She is a woman several decades ago who claimed to have had visions/visits from the Virgin Mary and a shrine was built where these visions happened. Eventually her claims were refuted by Rome, but the shrine is still up and running as a functioning church (while it claims to be Catholic, it actually has no connection with the Catholic Church).
Apparently it caused a huge ruckus in the Catholic community several decades ago.

I just found out she's H's great grandmother (Mom's mom's mom).
No joke.
I found out from a family friend who knows someone who lives in the area where this shrine is. H didn't even know this. We looked more into it and sure enough, the name of one of Maryann's daughters and the birthdate of the daughter lines up with H's grandma.

Idk whether to be scared or to laugh lol.

Finally, wedding pics!!

Eliz77 — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 22:37:16 +0000

Now that I have FINALLY figured out how to post pictures (so silly how easy it is...)

One of the many happy, easy-going moments during our ceremony, love our Deacon, hate my sleeve wouldn't stay put!

Haven't gotten all our pictures back yet, but our photographer got many nice pictures of the Church. I had thought it was kinda plain and non-descriptive, but he managed to get some beautiful pictures.

Remember, Wednesday is a Holy Day! . . .

Jasmine&Rajah — Tue, 14 Aug 2012 00:33:37 +0000

. . . and if you're like DH and me, and always try to attend vigils, that means that you're getting to Mass tomorrow! (Where did the summer go?)

Catholic vow renewal?

monkeysip — Tue, 14 Aug 2012 17:10:22 +0000

Obviously I'm not even married yet, so I'm not planning a vow renewal, but with all the talk about vow renewals on the other boards, I was just curious as to how a Catholic would have a vow renewal if they wanted one.

I'm not talking about convalidations... completely different thing.

But just out of curiosity, if a Catholic had a Catholic wedding, and years later they wanted to renew their vows, would this be a religious thing, like in a church with a priest, or could they do it anywhere with anyone?

Renewing your vows doesn't seem to really fit in with the idea of marriage in the Catholic church, so it seems kind of weird, but I've never heard that it's prohibited or anything. So if a Catholic did want to do that, what would be proper decorum?

Resa

chelseamb11 — Thu, 09 Aug 2012 13:46:00 +0000

The past few weeks have been one heck of a blur to me. DId you get married yet? If so, how was it!!?!??! If not, ignore me, I"m making things up apparently.

With only 2 months to go, my Priest backed out.

Simply_Caitlin — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 16:18:38 +0000

I've been working with my Priest for a year, with my fiance. I had left the church many years ago for many reasons, which some of you may remember me mentioning months back. This priest has been amazing through the whole process and made me (finally) feel welcomed in a Catholic Church.

In what was going to be our last appt to iron out all the details, at the very end he mentions that it's no big deal but he'll be out of town so the Deacon will do the ceremony. I'm hurt and angry. To have it dismissed like it's nothing is so horrible to me. I have never even met the Deacon. Part of the reason we have met so many times and had such candid conversations was because I wanted a personal ceremony by someone who actually knew us. The Deacon's sermons have a far more political agenda to them and make me very uncomfortable. I am heartbroken right now and when I voiced my concerns to my priest he said he'd talk to the Deacon about my concerns. My concern is my Priest who made a commitment to us, just as we did to him, a year ago is bailing on us. Not much the Deacon can do about that.

Friday Thread

professorscience — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 14:15:54 +0000

Good morning ladies!

Anyone have any special plans for the weekend?

It's the first day in a LONG time that it's actually been pretty cool in the morning, so I'm taking advantage of it and getting some watering done. Then I'm off to buy some stuff for my classroom and hopefully find a new desk.

My Organist Abandoned me!!

BTCarolus — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 04:16:10 +0000

My organist just backed out on me this morning, so I'm scrambling for a replacement. He just didn't feel comfortable playing my music selections, since it's been too long since he's done a wedding (he is a family friend who is extremely close and does church music, but in a different capacity than organist now). So I'm trying to get the church organist, but not sure if she can do it on short notice.

PS, after about a month of hectic preparations and travel, I am back in the US permanently. Yay!

This Weekend's Knottie!

professorscience — Thu, 09 Aug 2012 00:10:46 +0000

Congratulations! Your big day is almost here!

mattylovesmilly

8/10/2012

I hope it's beautiful!

Anyone out there?

professorscience — Thu, 09 Aug 2012 18:56:04 +0000

We have been DEAD this week!

Anything exciting going on?

Returning to church

rooney2012 — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 02:12:28 +0000

Hi all,
This is my first post and I see that things can get a bit heated here, so please understand that this is not meant with any disrespect.
I was raised a Catholic, but my family stopped going to church after my Communion (I was about 10yr old). I am starting to get involved with the church again but have a LOT of brushing up to do. I cannot remember anything about the teachings! Only some of the prayers. I am working with the church to find out what classes I need to take to get back up to speed, but in the meantime, as an adult, I have a few questions:
1) Are all Catholics against homosexuality and gay marriage? Again, please be kind and know that I am just looking for the Catholic perspective.
2) Are Catholics prohibited from having recreational sex?
3) My priest wants FI and I to think about what will be different for us after we become a married couple. FI and I live together and are taking care of my adopted son together. How do you all view this as Catholics?
Once again, I do not mean to offend anyone. I'm just looking to learn. FI was also raised Catholic but, like me, stopped practicing as a child.

XP: honeymoon (or vacation) ministry

verdesiempre14 — Thu, 09 Aug 2012 00:27:46 +0000

Hi ladies,

My husband and I honeymooned in Mexico, and the resort had a 'library' room, filled almost exclusively with romance books and thriller/crime books. I think the collection was comprised solely of books that previous guests had left behind. I checked my bags to see if I had brought along any religious books that I could leave behind, but unfortunately didn't (I just brought along books from my public library). That said, I'm going to bring some along the next time we vacation. If the hotel or resort doesn't have a library, I'll leave them in beach/lounge areas and God to give them to someone who needs them (-:

Invitation wording

kgrawedding — Tue, 07 Aug 2012 21:54:24 +0000

I know it's been asked a hundred times, but now it's my turn....Is the following wording okay, I just don't want to send something out that is somehow theologically incorrect!

request the honor of your presence

at the Nuptial Mass celebrating the union of

{me}

and

{FI}

in the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony

I have a place to live!

jenjlgsings — Fri, 03 Aug 2012 18:52:24 +0000

I know I shared with you ladies that I am relocating on short notice to the Pittsburgh area. My parents and I went down there on Tuesday and spent the day apartment hunting. I got a call last night that the townhouse I had put in an application for was approved! Move in date is August 18th. I'm thrilled that it is a two bedroom, multi floor unit that feels very much like a home and that will be easy for my fiance to move into once we get married. I am excited yet completely overwhelmed at the same time. I've been getting a headache thinking of all that I need to do before I move out on the 18th. The furthest I've moved was about 20 minutes from home so this is a huge deal to me!
Thankfully my finace is a calming influence and has also done much bigger moves (Pittsburgh to Seattle) so I'm not quite as freaked out as I might have been.

Anyway, thanks for those of you who did pray and send support. Guess it worked. :)

Q for the moms re: timing of your LO's baptism

christyhal — Mon, 06 Aug 2012 21:30:03 +0000

Hi Ladies,

Our little guy is due to arrive at the end of September. We're living in Seattle now due to my husband's job, and don't really have any local friends/family. We really want my SIL (DH's sis) to be the baby's godmother. My in-laws (MIL, FIL, & SIL) will be in town for a few weeks over Christmas, but this is the soonest we can get them here - they're coming from overseas. The only person from my family who will be around post-baby is my mom, who is planning to fly in from the east coast for a week just after the birth to help out. We're not even sure what to do about a godfather, as there won't be anyone who will be in town at all who could fit that role-we would choose DH's cousin, but he is also overseas and won't be coming to visit. (I only have a godmother, so I am not sure having one and not the other would actually be an issue.)

Ideally, I'd have liked to have the baby baptised much sooner than three months old, but this is the best we can come up with so far. I have a message in to our church to find out the specifics of what pre-baptism class is required, and what the church's baptism schedule is and what other info/requirements we may need, but when we spoke with the priest after mass yesterday, he kind of looked at us funny when we said we were asking about a December baptism for a September baby.

Does anybody have any experience with a situation like this? How did you handle it? I'm sure we'll get more info when we actually meet with the priest for specifics (we didn't go into great detail about the whys and the international travellers and such after mass), but I am just curious what others may have done.

"Friendship Evangelization": Loving People Into The Church

Nickie431 — Mon, 06 Aug 2012 17:23:19 +0000

I just viewed the website of A Simple House, a Catholic charitable organization named for memorial contributions in my brother's friend's obituary. They offer an explanation of their mission of "friendship evangelization," which I find to be beautiful and wanted to share:

"Christ is transmitted through relationship with others, and human relationship is a necessary precondition of conversion. God has willed that we know Him through each other.

"A Simple House believes that the most effective evangelists of history have worked through personal relationships and friendship evangelization. In this sense, we do not try to argue someone into the Church. We strive to love them into the Church. When Christ is our intimate friend, it feels natural to introduce another friend to Him. If Christ is not our friend, we are talking about someone we do not know and an awkwardness results. Friendship evangelization starts by developing friendship with Christ and ends with a natural, effective, and loving evangelization." (emphasis mine)

Their website is http://www.asimplehouse.org/index.php if you'd like to read more.

Catholic Infertility article from Chicago Tribune

ellen73 — Tue, 31 Jul 2012 20:30:21 +0000

A friend sent me this and thought some of you might be interested!

http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2012-07-30/news/ct-met-catholic-infertility-sidebar-20120730_1_fertility-care-ivf-reproductive-technology

This weekend's Knottie!

professorscience — Wed, 01 Aug 2012 12:53:29 +0000

It's finally here! Hurray for you!

Resa77

8/3/2012

hvcfringe 8/4/2012

I'm so excited for you! Good luck, congratulations, and may you have a blessed day and marriage!

Just curious...

Nancy00714 — Sun, 05 Aug 2012 18:16:47 +0000

Hi everyone! I'm already civilly married (July 13th) but my husband and I are having our Catholic wedding ceremony in Italy (where we live and where he is from).

In Italy, they post bans outside of the church, do we do this in the States? Or would this be similiar like when it is announced in the church bulletin?

And were you "questioned" individually by the Pastor or as a couple?

I was just curious because we met with the pastor yesterday and I wasn't expecting a full on interrogation.

Contraceptive Mandate Goes Into Effect Today

Nickie431 — Wed, 01 Aug 2012 16:31:41 +0000

With the Olympics, Romney's potential VP pick, and Chick-fil-A in the news, I haven't seen as much as I'd like about today being when the measures of the Affordable Care Act that impinge on our religious freedom go into effect. I encourage everyone to continue praying, contacting elected officials, and expressing your protests! "We cannot, we will not comply." (Oh, and originally being a Kansas girl, please accept my apologies that my state ever elected HHS Secretary Kathleen Sebelius governor!)

Thursday - who's looking forward to the weekend?

erin5286 — Thu, 02 Aug 2012 16:23:59 +0000

This girl! I"m hoping the expected rain will hold off on Saturday, I"m really looking forward to going to a baseball game with FI and our parents. If the game is rained out, maybe we can just all head down and hang out at the billiards/gastropub place where we're planning on having our rehearsal dinner.

FI will be at work after-hours finalizing our invitation design, so i"m home alone tonight. Maybe I'll get around to setting up our wedding website.

What's up with everyone else?

Article about Marriage

agapecarrie — Tue, 31 Jul 2012 22:55:17 +0000

My friend I met at the TOB Institute wrote this awesome article:

http://www.hprweb.com/2012/07/liturgy-the-foundation-and-strength-of-marriages/

Prayers please

jenjlgsings — Mon, 30 Jul 2012 16:31:53 +0000

Hey ladies,

In a complete whirlwind of events, I applied for a job in PIttsburgh (where my Fiance lives - I'm in Buffalo, NY). I interviewed for the position on Monday and had an offer Monday night. I start there on August 27th. I'm excited about the job and the move, but at the same time I am terrified.

I am driving to Pittsburgh with my parents tomorrow to look at a few different places. I'm hoping that by the end of the day...

Regardless of all of that, I am nervous and sad about "closing up" here in Buffalo. I knew I would be doing it, I just wasn't planning on doing it until closer to the wedding in May.

Because of the short time frame, I am sort of freaking out about the move. Getting everything done, having a place to live, adjusting to a new city, etc. Not to mention wedding details. (although thankfully most of that has already been planned and taken care of).

Long story short, I'd appreciate some additional prayer support to guide me through this transition in my life.

Thanks!

Contraception for the Mentally Handicapped?

Nickie431 — Wed, 01 Aug 2012 08:21:22 +0000

My mind wandered to this question a couple nights ago when I couldn't sleep, and it's something I'd never considered before...

What do you think would be the Church's position on girls/women who have severe intellectual disabilities being placed on contraception? When an individual has the mental age of a child, she cannot give consent to sexual activity, so would contraception be for her own protection in case she is taken advantage of? (I learned in school that such assaults unfortunately probably happen more than is realized.) Would it be sinful for a caregiver to place such a woman on contraception with only this intent? Or does the role of hormonal contraceptives as potential abortifacients override the protective intent?

Cool Website Arguing for Natural Birth Control

MedStudent13 — Mon, 30 Jul 2012 17:56:33 +0000

My aunt posted this website on facebook, I thought it was worth sharing:

http://www.1flesh.org/

Tuesday!

professorscience — Tue, 31 Jul 2012 13:36:34 +0000

Just some WR questions:

What was/will be your first dance song with your husband?

What about father/daughter song (if you did it)?

What was/will be the last dance song?

Or, what was/is a special song for your reception?

First dance was "Would You Go With Me?" by Josh Turner. (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uFz61X2PQTw)

Father/Daughter was "Father and Daughter" by Paul Simon (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=COQPSoRFdwg)

And last dance was "Iris" by The Goo Goo Dolls. It was played as the last dance song at the end-of-summer dance at the camp where H and I met the second year we were there, and then it became a tradition (that is still going, 12 years later) for all of the "third-years" to stand in a big circle and dance together while it played, so I have these great pictures of H and me and all the friends we've known for half our lives just hugging and dancing and it. was. awesome.

What about you guys?

Cohabitation.

sarahdactyI — Sun, 29 Jul 2012 00:45:04 +0000

Do we have a thread on it already? If so, point me there? Otherwise, please discuss...

Did you live with your spouse before marriage/do you live with FI now?

Is there any appropriate way to say, "We are moving in together, but I promise we will abstain until marriage, please marry us anyway?" without being . . . bratty/trying to subvert the church?

I just packed up my entire apartment post-bar exam today, and I really never, ever, ever want to do that again.

The Bible goes Hollywood...

Calypso1977 — Mon, 30 Jul 2012 15:22:37 +0000

http://news.yahoo.com/bible-translation-screenplay-format-085746946.html

NFP Reassurance, please

mattylovesmilly — Mon, 30 Jul 2012 14:52:25 +0000

Hi all!

My fiance and I have been charting and learning Creighton for about six months now. We're getting married in 11 days, and it's pretty clear that I will be in my fertile phase on our wedding night and most likely the first half of our honeymoon.

It's hard not to be disappointed about that, because we have waited so long. Married ladies, if you had the same experience, would you just remind me that it's going to be okay, we have our whole lives to be together, etc. etc? Because right now, it's just bumming me out :(

Thanks!