Catholic Weddings — The Knot Community

All my ducks are in a row!

hvcfringe — Fri, 30 Dec 2011 20:29:10 +0000

So I finally had a meeting with Father today and everything is all set now! all the paperwork, preliminary, all the info! Gosh it feels so good to have it all so I know the direction that is needed to be taken next! And on top of this I got so many things done for the wedding over winter break! next big thing are flowers and then save the dates!

bibli

ootmother2 — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 02:34:03 +0000

I just noticed that the moon, the tides and the stars aligned somewhere recently ;)

Congratulations!

Please pray for my sister

jfellows82 — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 12:53:56 +0000

Her baby is due on January 27th. She went for her regular doctor's appointment this morning, and her blood pressure is way up and they think she may have preeclampsia. They're running a lot of tests right now. Also, the baby is measuring small so they have to do an ultrasound tomorrow to see if something is wrong with the baby. My aunts both had preeclampsia and almost died, so I'm really worried. Your prayers would be very appreciated.

catholic nuptual mass invitation - alternative to "honor of your presence"?

verdesiempre14 — Fri, 30 Dec 2011 19:49:43 +0000

Hi ladies,

My FI and I are preparing to order our invitations. We are having a Nuptual Mass and I am not sure how I feel about "..request the honor of your presence" in our invitation because we don't want people to only be present at the Mass..we want them to participate!

Maybe this is just a matter of symantics and I'm over-thinking this.

So my question is if anyone has used alternative wording, and, if so, if I could please see what you used?

Thank you kindly!!

I set a date!

afrenchprincess — Fri, 30 Dec 2011 06:53:20 +0000

Yay! I got approval that I can set a date. Were planning on the next 5 months don't want to wait. Yay!

Bitter sweet holidays

DaisyJaime — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 03:17:15 +0000

I have'nt logged on in a bit, but I wanted to share and vent out a little. Unfortunately my loving grandmother passed away on the 12th of Dec. My father is still coping with the loss and these holidays were like they've never been before. But thank God we were able to be together to show support to one another during Christmas.

I need to have a conversation with my parents regarding any plans or thoughts about postponing our wedding this coming August.

It doesn't worry me to pospone it, the only thing that brings me down besides the loss of my grandma is the loss of interest towards any wedding details or plans. The joy of it all seems to be numb right now and don't kniw how long it will last.

Thanks for reading this.

0% divorce rate in this town

agapecarrie — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 12:07:47 +0000

http://www.catholic.net/index.php?option=dedestaca&id=2888

Sister/Baby Update

jfellows82 — Fri, 30 Dec 2011 16:56:54 +0000

My sister got diagnosed with preeclampsia and had to be checked into the hospital this morning for round the clock monitoring. They'll decide whether to deliver the baby now within the next 24 hours. The good news is that she and the baby aren't in any immediate danger. The baby is 5 lbs 9 oz.

I really appreciate all the support and prayers. Please contine to keep them in your prayers. I might get to meet my niece this weekend! I'll keep you all posted.

~ caitrona ~

Jasmine&Rajah — Wed, 28 Dec 2011 21:08:59 +0000

Many hugs and prayers.

*Bibliophile

professorscience — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 01:35:52 +0000

The other thread is so serious I didn't want to take away from the content. However:

EEEEEEE!

Congratulations. =)

Let's Talk Prenups

afrenchprincess — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 18:37:12 +0000

So do any of you all have prenups or would consider prenups? I know that even the word prenup can make people very uncomfortable. However, prenups can be about protecting your family or children (from previous marriage) in the unfortunate case of a divorce. Say you are part owner of a family business and if you divorce in certain states your former spouse could have rights to the family business. Yo want to protect your family's assests. What do you all think?
Secondly, I don't really think people go down the aisle thinking this is (prenup) is my get out of jail free card. But let's be honest all marriages won't last and yours may be one of them. Why not have a contract in place as protection?
Lastly, how does this sit with your religious and faith beliefs about marriage?

Anyone walk down the aisle to the bridal chorus?

tmeyer621 — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 00:51:13 +0000

I've been dreaming of walking down the aisle to this song since I was a little girl! I heard most Catholic churches won't allow it. Ours is pretty flexible with rules so if other churches have allowed it, there's a good chance ours will! If you didn't walk down the aisle to this, what did you use or will you use?

Church wedding?

wondermom05 — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 17:38:10 +0000

I did post this in another forum, but I didn't know this one existed (I'm new to the message boards) so I figured I'd post it in here as well so I get your input as well.

My fiance and I (still so WEIRD saying that lol) are both Catholic. We even went to same Catholic school as kids and while we aren't ultra-religious we know it'd mean a lot to my parents and grandma that we get married in a church. To be honest it isn't something either of us are opposed to, we just hadn't thought we would be able to.

And here's why; while neither of us has ever been married before I do have a six year old son from a previous relationship and by the time we get married Little Man will be 8. I know that sex before marriage and children as a result are a big "no no" for the church, so I didn't think we'd be able to get married in one. I don't want to start calling churches and priests asking questions if we're just going to be denied in the end.

Any insight would be greatly appreciated :)

While, as I said, we aren't ultra-religious, we do make it a point to try and get to church once a week at least, but work schedules don't always allow that. Also, my faith is important to me, especially after I had my son, and it's continued to be important throughout the past year and a half as between my fiance and I we lost four very important people in our lives. I guess my point is that it wouldn't just be to please my parents/grandma for us to get married in a church, but something we've discussed as well.

Catholic Ceremony Music

mricard19 — Wed, 21 Dec 2011 22:28:45 +0000

My fiance and I have to meet with our church to decide our music for the ceremony. Is there any advice on how to choose the music for the ceremony? There are so many choices.

Merry Christmas!

afrenchprincess — Sun, 25 Dec 2011 16:46:45 +0000

Merry Christmas to you and your loved ones!

NWR: Nook v. Kindle

jfellows82 — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 14:49:04 +0000

Does anyone have either of these? If so, how did you pick the one you ended up with? The Nook seems to have more titles and better prices (especially on spiritual books), but everyone I know seems to have the Kindle. I've been holding out so long on getting an e reader (i love real books!) so I want to make the right decision. Thanks for your help!

Rehearsal Dinner...At a Casino???

sam5202 — Wed, 21 Dec 2011 12:06:42 +0000

Hi ladies,

I've been lurking on this board for a few months now. My fiance and I are planning our wedding for memorial day weekend. I have a little dilemma and wanted to get the opinion of some other Catholic brides.

My fiance's father has graciously offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner, but he wants to host it in a banquet hall at a racetrack/casino. I have seen the banquet hall, it is very pretty and it overlooks to horse races. For any other event (reunion, birthday, anniversary) I would say it was a fun, unique place to have a party, but I'm a little uncomfortable having my rehearsal dinner there.

I'm just not sure a casino is the right venue for the night before the ceremony. It seems, I don't know, sinful?

My mother thinks that I should just roll with it because my fiance's father is being gracious enough to host the event. My fiance doesn't really have a strong opinion. He sees my point, but doesn't want to seem ungrateful and, doesn't see it as a major issue. ("It's only a dinner, we're not getting married in a casino...").

So, the question is, are my misgivings warranted? Do you think other guests will feel uneasy about it? Should I let it go and be thankful for his father's generosity?

Merry (almost) Christmas, everyone!

doctabroccoli — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 17:23:34 +0000

I don't know how much I'll be online the next few days, so I wanted to wish everyone a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year slightly early! I hope you all have a wonderful time celebrating this sacred season with your families and friends.

The other point of this post is to let you all know that I'm stepping down from my co-mod post. As you've probably noticed, I'm not around as much as I used to be due to my new job that I started back in August. I haven't felt like a very good mod as of late because of that, so I am leaving you in Riss' capable hands. I'll still be around as a poster in my spare time, so I look forward to more thoughtful discussions in the future!

prayers please

Calypso1977 — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 11:26:52 +0000

ladies, id appreciate your prayers right now. im grappling with a pretty significant personal issue right now and quite frankly i can use all the help i can get.

thanks.

:: afrenchprincess ::

Riss91 — Fri, 16 Dec 2011 13:33:04 +0000

In Response to Re: No wanting children and getting married in Catholic Church:
[QUOTE]Riss I am sorry that you are a drone for the Catholic Church. While I love the church I do not agree witha few teachings this happens to be one of them! That to me does not make me wrong it makes me smart! This does not match my lifestyle and I am very sure that God will let me enter heaven because I will NOT have children! Sheesh!
Posted by afrenchprincess[/QUOTE]

In Response to Re: No wanting children and getting married in Catholic Church:
[QUOTE]Some of you ladies are the reason why I have to defend being Catholic to some people. Lots of people think that we all don't read the bible and are oblivious to what it truly means to be a Christian. When we pull hairs over having children and birth control. Though I am not happy with what some of you ladies believe/think I will continue to grow as a Catholic and pray for my fellow Catholics that they will not be such drones and think for themselves!
Posted by afrenchprincess[/QUOTE]

I am sorry that you mistakenly equate being a believer with being a drone. You are quite wrong on that. Like many of the other ladies on this board, I have studied and challenged the bible and doctrine of the Church.

I would never, ever spend so much of my time and energy defending something that I hadn't put so much thought into. I was raised sort of "cradle Catholic" and basically learned to hate the Church. That was pretty much the status quo of those around me (even most Catholics). We would show up to mass, barely focus, leave after communion like most of the parish, because quite frankly, none of us truly believed. Or maybe our believe was just shallow. "If I go to mass, receive communion and check off the sacraments, then I will make God happy and get into heaven"

Clearly, that was an empty belief system and it didn't keep my attention. I drifted away from the Church, attended youth groups at other non-Catholic Churches. I dated a Mormon for many years, and learned a lot about their faith.

Then, I met my now husband. At that time, he also had left the Church, studied other religions, studied Theology in college and did his homework. A couple years into our relationship, he returned to the Church. I questioned him. I questioned the religion. I questioned EVERYTHING. With his help, I disected the faith. Speck by speck. And one by one, all those things that I thought made no sense (like birth control) started to sit right. And one idea could be carried over into others - they were all linked. You couldn't falsify one idea, without falsifying them all. That is because truth is truth. And Truth will never be inconsistent with itself.

I can understand those who are still at odds with certain teachings... because I was there. Like you, I guess I was "smart". So, please don't make an assumption that I am not a human being, with free will and a functioning brain. That is quite rude. If you truly think I am a "drone", then challenge me with questions, go ahead - stump me! I welcome it. Don't just throw out nonchalant insults.This is how my (our) faith grows. Challenging ideas is how we find Truth.

But, when it comes to those things that we can't control/know for sure - like the day of judgment and what God will do with our soul - I think it's foolish and irresponsible to assume that "eh, God will let me in - I haven't done anything that bad". He might. He might not. I'd rather keep my standards as high as possible, and give myself the best chance, then to rationalize away all of those "iffy" situations.

I hope you and your family have a blessed Christmas and New Year.

My first between save-the-dates and invites guest!

ElisabethJoanne — Wed, 21 Dec 2011 16:44:18 +0000

With cousins starting young families and lots of hardcore Catholic friends, I knew there'd be babies between sending save-the-dates 1 year before the wedding and sending invites/the wedding itself. Well, I just got word of the first one. My cousin is due with child #3 in June, five months before our wedding. The joys of planning a wedding amidst Catholics!

Living Together

Kari1353 — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 15:20:28 +0000

My FI and I have been living together for a year and 3 months. I am Catholic, he is Baptist. Now looking for churches, a lot of the pastors are saying that they will not marry anyone who is living together. He and I both share costs on the house, and ALL of his things are in the house. Some of the churches are saying that if we live in different households, they will still perform the marriage. We're getting married in October of next year. I was wondering if anyone else has run into this and what you are doing.

Note: I'm not looking to be belittled and talked down to just because I'm living with my FI.

I did it!

Resa77 — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 12:11:23 +0000

I registered for our Engaged Conference and NFP courses!

I'm really nervous for NFP, because I get emotional talking about my cycle. It's been a huge source of stress and anxiety for me since I was 12, and I sometimes can't stand being around people who talk about their normal cycles. I'm trying to be positive, though. Maybe I'll have a really awesome teaching couple and it'll be a better experience than my countless dr visits, etc.

Needing advice!

amber&19 — Wed, 21 Dec 2011 00:46:11 +0000

My fiance and I took our introductory session of NFP last night at our parish. The method we learned was the Creighton model. Our instructor went through the material a little too quickly for our liking and although we are having a follow up meeting, I'd like to know if any of you ladies can tell me anything about the method? Has it worked for any of you? Has it not? Our biggest concern is that I want to finish school before we have a baby and my fiance completely supports this. He wants us to wait as well because, as he puts it, he wants his time with me before we begin a family. We're looking at maybe two years to wait but at the same time...we want to be able to enjoy and share in that intimacy that comes with being newly weds. I'm torn between what to do and I need some advice please! What can any of you tell me?

Question for STM girls:

professorscience — Wed, 21 Dec 2011 13:32:46 +0000

Do your temperatures ever NOT change?

I use Billings, which doesn't really rely on temps, but I have an app on my phone that lets me record my temps anyway. Plus, when we are ready to TTC I'd like to have the temps to know for sure.

My problem is that lately I've been recording a steady 97.2/97.3 with absolutely no change. I think the .3 was on my peak day, and now it's back to .2. Temp issues was the reason I switched to Billings in the first place. Obviously it's not a big deal -- we've been quite successful without the temperature "confirmation," I'm just curious if anyone else has experienced this.

I'm just using a regular thermometer -- is that my problem?

Presenting flowers for Mary during ceremony?

vondalee — Sat, 29 Oct 2011 17:30:36 +0000

I have heard of this being done and would like to incorporate this into our ceremony... has anyone here done this or seen it done? Is it a "regular" thing or occasional? Neither my fiance nor I have ever been to a Catholic wedding. Thanks in advance!

re-introduction

Danidawn20 — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 16:51:24 +0000

Hi ladies,
I used to post on here quiet a bit, but then got tied down with school. I think it's been about 6-7 months since I posted, so I figured I would do a reintroduction. My Wedding is in about 5 months, I'm getting married at the catholic church right across my college campus, and ... what else do people want to know.

Follow-Up to NFP Post-Partum

catarntina — Fri, 16 Dec 2011 15:42:33 +0000

Last week my work bought everyone tickets to go to a dinner theater. When we sat at our table, the other couple just happened to be our NFP teaching couple. The husband works in my building, but on different floor in a different department so we never communicate.

His wife is pregnant with their 4th and I started talking about NFP post partum because I knew they used NFP to space all 4 of their kids. I was telling her how I couldn't find a class to attend. She told me to just buy the book, that it was pretty simple, you can learn the basics from the book, and she'd be willing to answer questions if I had them. She also said that she'd try to put a class on the CCL website, but no guarantees since she was pregnant herself.

So I went home and ordered the book on Amazon (link: http://www.amazon.com/Natural-Family-Planning%C2%AE-Postpartum-Student/dp/0926412329/ref=sr_1_8?ie=UTF8&qid=1324060598&sr=8-8). You can read the entire thing in one sitting -- it's only about 50-60 pages long.

It was very informative and ended up answering a lot of questions I had. Just word of caution -- the rules in the CCL books are slightly different than the rules in TCOYF. I think if you understand TCOYF or the CCL material, you'll be able to understand this as well.

If anyone is looking for more information on NFP Post Partum, I definitely recommend ordering this book for a reference!

Happy Feast of St. Nicholas!

newlyseliski — Tue, 06 Dec 2011 20:14:50 +0000

Anyone have any traditions?

My mom always used to put chocolate and other treats in our shoes...

November/December Family Foundations is about NFP postpartum!

Jasmine&Rajah — Sun, 18 Dec 2011 16:57:21 +0000

It's a GREAT issue! If anyone wants contact info for the Couple to Couple League's order center, here it is:

http://ccli.org/shop

Ways to order (online, phone, fax, mail) — You can purchase CCL materials, books and other items right here with secure online ordering. You may also phone in your order to the CCL Order Department at 1-800-745-8252 (local calls, 513-471-2000) during business hours 8:30 AM to 4:30 PM Eastern time, Monday-Friday. For those who prefer to order by mail, you may fax or mail the printable Order Form.