Catholic Weddings — The Knot Community

Need help understanding this please

TeamBaby — Sat, 27 Nov 2010 23:42:17 +0000

FI and I want to have mass with our ceremony, and would obviously like to choose the readings. I copied the following paragraph from the church's website. Is this saying that we cannot choose the readings if we decide to have a mass? We're not marrying at our home parish (we're military and live out of state), and although this church is allowing us to marry there, they have/are not easy to work with at all, so I don't particularly want to ask them just yet.

Thank you!

SATURDAY EVENING WEDDINGS, THE SUNDAY OBLIGATION and READINGSIn our diocese, any Mass that begins after 4 PM on Saturday is considered a Sunday Mass. Therefore, wedding Masses on Saturday evening are also Sunday obligation Masses. This also means that Catholics that wish to attend this Mass (even though not invited to the wedding) cannot be turned away. Strictly speaking, for wedding Masses on Saturdays after 4 PM, the readings for that Sunday are to be used. If the ceremony is a wedding ceremony without Mass, then other readings may be chosen.

Need music suggestions

CrazyMary77 — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 14:13:33 +0000

We're planning out the music for our ceremony. We're stuck on finding songs for the Offertory and the Communion Hymn. For the Communion I really like How Beautiful by Twila Paris, but FI isn't crazy about it. Another choice I really like is On Eagles Wings. I want something that's a little upbeat, cheery, and prefer not to go with a classical piece like Panis Angelicus because the Ceremony is already filled with classical songs. What are you using/did you use for the Offertory and Communion?

We have a new priest to perform our ceremony!

LouWho19 — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 20:28:56 +0000

A few weeks back, I posted that the priest who was supposed to perform our wedding was transferred to another parish. Thankfully he got us in touch with his friend, who is a chaplain at a local hospital. My fiance and I met with him for the first time Sunday and he is awesome!

First Meeting With the Priest Tonight

klee3 — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 18:43:01 +0000

Hi Everyone,

My fiance and I have our first meeting with the priest tonight. My fiance was married when he was younger and so we'll need to do annullment paperwork tonight (however it was never blessed by the church and the priest said it was not the same annullment process as if he had been married in the church- not sure what the actual name is). Anyway, I'm not sure what to expect, and I'm a little nervous. Anybody else have experience with this?

Thank you!!!

Paris, France Wedding

NY128 — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 06:19:42 +0000

Hello,

My fiance and I have just started planning a Catholic church wedding and reception in Paris for April or May, 2012. We reside in New York but fell in love with l'Eglise St.-Merri in the Marais district during a prior visit, and are thinking a River Seine dinner cruise for the reception. We would also consider a small bistro with a room that could be rented out. We want to keep it simple and although we were hoping for no more than 30 guests, we will likely have somewhere around 50 to 70 people coming.

I have already sent requests to the the church and some companies that offer cruises. Has anyone planned or attended a wedding in Paris before? I would love to hear suggestions on the planning or reception shttp://forums.theknot.com/default.aspx?path=http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideasites! Thanks in advance!

starting NFP online! a little vent.

wifeandmommy0609 — Fri, 03 Dec 2010 15:53:01 +0000

Not looking for feed back just needed to vent. Thanks for reading.

Yesterday in the mail i got our package to start our NFP online. I was reading and it says there is 3 sections. You complete 1 section and then chart for 2 weeks and move on to section 2 then chart ofr 2 weeks then section 3 and chart for two weeks. ( section one took me about 2hours to compleate due to my kids and having to stop to do stuff for them). then I read you have to send in 6 charts. not so bad by our wedding is 4 months away and i am now freaking out we won't have this done in time. I Emailed them 5 months ago to see when we should start and they said 3-4 months before your wedding day.. So i hope i can get this all done in time...

Sorry ladies i just needed to vent a little i am super stressed as we are having issues with the bakery our venue recommended. I will be starting school on Dec 6th ( wrong time to go back to school but it needs to be done). and Dec we have 4 birthday's right before christmas so DEC is a very stressfull month for me right now.

Annulment update

lmeade62 — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 04:07:35 +0000

Finally - news! No decision yet, but at last...forward movement! The tribunal called me today & said the reports from the psychological expert & the Defender of the Bond have both been submitted. She said: "We hope to have good news for you in January." If it is affirmative, it still has to go the second instance, but we actually should be able to start making real plans!!! I know it's a small thing compared to what some others are experiencing, but if you have a spare lil' prayer...please send it up. Linda

NWR: FI is getting baptized Catholic next week...any gift ideas?

annie6672 — Thu, 09 Dec 2010 23:45:08 +0000

Hi! So FI is getting converting and will be brought into the church next week. He totally did this on his own and not thru any pressure from me at all. Our wedding is in February, yay! I wanted to get something special gift-wise for him on this special occasion but cannot think of anything. Any ideas?

Catholic Mass - Non Catholic FIL's

JillP34 — Mon, 06 Dec 2010 19:14:38 +0000

I am Catholic and my Future Hubby is in RCIA and we will be having a full Mass for the Ceremony. His family however do not practice any religion really. For our mass, my sisters will be doing readings and my niece and nephew will be the flower girl and ring bearer. Is there any way I can get his family involved as well? I was thinking his mom and dad could present the gifts, but is this allowed if they aren't Catholic? I want to involve them, but don't want to offend the Church either.

Also, how do you do communion? My whole side of the church will be receiving communion, but I don't want his side to get confused and take communion when they shouldn't!!

Any advice is appreciated!!!!

Prayer Request (XP)

kbarker719 — Fri, 10 Dec 2010 19:39:26 +0000

I posted this on my wedding month board too, but wanted to reach out to all of you here as well: My MOH is going through an extremely difficult time. Her husband had a skin cancer diagnosis approximately 6 months ago, but they thought he was in the clear after surgery because no further signs of the disease could be detected. She learned last week that it looks like it has gotten into the bones and the liver. She learned last night that it is now in the lungs and the brain. They are immediately beginning a radical treatment plan instead of waiting until after the holidays. Please pray for them and their family (they have 2 kids in grammar school). Thanks everyone!

Any CSH alums here?

ootmother2 — Thu, 09 Dec 2010 08:46:03 +0000

curious

Bouquet for Mary question

rcj2rcd — Mon, 06 Dec 2010 01:53:57 +0000

Hello all!

I met with my florist yesterday and she mentioned that the bouquet we present to Mary is usually three roses wrapped with a blue ribbon. Is this correct? Does anyone know the significance behind the blue ribbon?

Thanks!

Curious about a myth that was in a post awhile back.

k8ly — Fri, 03 Dec 2010 19:11:09 +0000

Something about overpopulation. I think the poster was saying they were pro-bcp because the world was overpopulated and some of you replied it was a myth.

I'm curious to hear more because I know people who are convinced this overpopulation thing is a crisis.

Thanks!

Christmas Poll?

Riss91 — Thu, 09 Dec 2010 17:31:53 +0000

10 questions:

1) Do you have white lights or multi-colored lights on your Christmas Tree?

2) Star or Angel on top?

3) Midnight Mass, Christmas Day Mass or Other?

4) What do you do on Christmas Eve?

5) What do you do on Christmas Day?

6) How many people are you buying gifts for this year?

7) What are you looking forward to this Christmas?

8) What are you not looking forward to this Christmas?

9) What's your favorite Christmas song?

10) What's your favorite Christmas movie?

Blusher veil for the ceremony

CaylaSummer — Thu, 02 Dec 2010 15:04:06 +0000

Hi ladies,

Since I'm getting married in a Catholic Church, Im curious if I need to wear a veil that has a blusher. Am I suppose to have my face covered as I walk down the aisle then have it lifted when I get to the front? I have no idea whether people still do this or not.

Thanks

Music for Mass

clearheavens — Mon, 06 Dec 2010 19:03:52 +0000

I'm choosing the music for our Mass and want to pick mostly religious and traditional classical music. That's why I'm posting on this board because I may find people with similar tastes as mine.

What were the songs that you picked? These are what I need to choose for our musicians:

5 Prelude music songsMothers PrecessionBridesmaids PrecessionBride & Groom PrecessionLighting of the Unity CandleRecessional

NWR: BCP to NFP

mcdol3 — Wed, 08 Dec 2010 18:37:15 +0000

Has anyone on here gone off BCP and switched to NFP?
I stopped taking my bcp in early November and I'm still waiting for my period to come. How long did it take for yours to come back?
There's no way I'm pregnant, so I'm just curious.

happy feast of the immaculate conception!

Calypso1977 — Wed, 08 Dec 2010 13:01:15 +0000

i really hope to get to mass today, but im not sure my work schedule will allow it...

Riss91

ootmother2 — Thu, 09 Dec 2010 01:05:57 +0000

PM

tia

Legal marriage before church marriage

melevebald — Wed, 24 Nov 2010 12:47:23 +0000

It is possible that my fiance and I may need to get married legally about 2 months before our actual Catholic wedding because I may be losing my jog and I may need to join his company's health care plan. Does anyone have experience with this and have a sense as to how our priest might react? We definitely see the church wedding as the true wedding - the legal marriage would just be a slip of paper in order to afford health care.

Wedding song ideas - Catholic wedding

nalaqueentwo — Thu, 02 Dec 2010 19:41:25 +0000

We are getting married next October and my niece is going to be singing a song while me and my fiance pray to the Blessed Mary. Any ideas as to what is appropriate to sing? She already knows Ava Maria but I was wondering what else could be sung?

~ ~ virgincita ~ ~

ootmother2 — Sun, 28 Nov 2010 02:18:11 +0000

Did you by any chance google virgincita before you used it for your knot name?

I didn't think so.

Ceremony music (Accidental XP)

MandK9 — Sun, 05 Dec 2010 17:43:27 +0000

How many opportunities are there for songs in a Catholic "non-mass" ceremony?

There are a few things I would like to squeeze in here, and I'm starting to wonder if it's possible. The song "Con Te Partiro" by Andrea Bocelli is what I would love to walk down the aisle to. My sister, who is the MOH, has a beautiful voice and I would like her to sing "Make You Feel My Love" by Adele at some point. Also, my parents and my FI's parents both used "The Wedding Song" by Peter, Paul, and Mary in their ceremonies, so it would also be nice to somehow incorporate that.

I have yet to meet with the music director at my church, and I'm sure he can answer these questions and then some, but I thought maybe some of you lovely ladies would know something beforehand :)

Wedding Mass Rundown

waitingformay — Tue, 30 Nov 2010 20:12:18 +0000

I am having a mass for my wedding but I haven't been to a Catholic wedding before. I've been to Christian ceremonies but not Catholic.

So I was wondering how wedding stuff is integrated into the mass. For example, does the priest process in? When? When do we say the vows, get pronounced husband and wife? Can someone give me a rundown of the order please?

Annulment Woes

lmeade62 — Wed, 10 Nov 2010 00:07:41 +0000

My groom and I both are Catholic and both divorced. We thought his annulment would be our nightmare, but it's actually gone more smoothly than we dreamed - it's been granted in the first instance, and we should hear about the second instance. Then we hold our breath to see if it will be appealed by the other party, but so far, so good.

Mine, however, has been the nightmare, which is absolutely unfathomable to me. I was married for less than two years, we weren't married in the Catholic Church - we weren't married in any church, but in a civil court! My husband was an alcoholic and abusive, and I was clinically depressed at the time of our marriage. We thought this one would go through in no time at all.

I started my annulment in my home diocese, but we couldn't find my ex-husband. I kept trying things and they kept telling me to try something else. Finally they said they couldn't establish jurisdiction, so months later I transferred the case to the diocese where the marriage took place. In August, they told me the case had been given to the psychological expert who apparently is involved in all the cases where there are psychological factors as part of the reason for the nullity. When I called today - nearly three months later - they said the expert still has my case. It still has to go to the defender of the bond, then finally to the decision stage. Each of these stages could take two months - so I won't have my first decision until four months from...who knows when? Then it has to go to a second instance, which they said could also take four months. Without a doubt, this annulment will take longer than the marriage lasted!!

I am so discouraged, I just burst into tears when I called today. The woman I spoke with was very nice and said she would try to nudge the expert and to get the case put at the top of the lists at the next two stages, but this just is so depressing. We want to plan an October wedding, but most Catholic churches ask for six months notice before the wedding, so we just don't know what to do.

More than anything, I just needed to vent and cry a little about the whole thing...thanks for listening...

So what was the marriage prep required by your church?

k8ly — Fri, 03 Dec 2010 19:04:02 +0000

Seems as though it varies.

We just have the weekend retreat we have to go to, and an optional test if we want a discount on our marriage license. I'm getting the sense this is unusual? There's usually more?

I'm back!

IrishBrideND — Fri, 03 Dec 2010 14:51:19 +0000

I know many of you have no clue who I am, except for my name being listed as the mod. I haven't been around since I got pregnant. I left, basically, when the board switched to the new format. I've been lurking, but I haven't posted.

I apologize. I promise to be around more now. I'm now used to the format so it doesn't bug me like it used to :D

So, basically, you are stuck with me. But let me know if you need anything. Feel free to PM me. If its time sensitive, post something letting me know I have a PM. I only check them every few days or so.

If you need anything clarified, like how bannings occur and such, feel free to ask. Overall, I'm a pretty hands off mod. I also moderate a board on the nest and a board on the bump. I try to let people be unless they blantantly violate a rule. But if you specifically ask me to, I can always take an issue to the knot gods and let them decide.

Thats all!

Rosaries equate to Gangs?

catarntina — Thu, 21 Oct 2010 15:53:17 +0000

I heard on the news this morning that a local school district was banning Catholic rosaries in their schools. Apparently, Catholic rosaries are now being associated with gangs, and since the schools have a zero tolerance policy on gang paraphernalia, they are banning rosaries. I guess if you bring it to school, but keep it hidden, they won't take it from you or make you leave school.

Still, it just made me really sad to hear that. I had this image of my grandmother when she died holding her rosary. And now I feel like it's kind of tainted.

rosaries from flowers

mlhw NH — Tue, 26 Oct 2010 21:09:09 +0000

We just got married two weeks ago. I saved my bouquet and now want to have a rosary made from it to hand down for years to come. Does anyone have any companies they can reccomend to do this for me. I found one online in MA, but I wanted to check in with you gals to see if anyone had done this and worked with any company in particular. Thanks!!

First RCIA Class

monicajae — Wed, 17 Nov 2010 01:31:08 +0000

I went to my first RCIA class last night! I thought it was a great experience and very informative. I do have a couple questions that I was hoping some of you may be able to answer:
Seeing that I am so late starting, will I be able to complete the RCIA program in time for my wedding in July? I understand that baptism occurs over Easter, which isn't far off!
It seems that the class is a progression and I am wondering if I can catch up with the others or if I am going to have to wait until the following Easter?