Christian Weddings — The Knot Community

what reading are you using?

StacyJenniges — Mon, 16 May 2011 02:27:08 +0000

I'm trying to decide what bible reading we should do for our wedding. I know that the "Love is Patient Love is Kind" verse is used often and it is good, I just want to find something that's not used as often. Any ideas?

Thanks Ladies.

AW: meeting with my wedding planner

amongthelilies25 — Sun, 15 May 2011 18:32:32 +0000

Me and my wonderful FI met with our wedding planner yesterday to look at our venue.

Oh i am sooo happy! she explained to us where everything will basically go and how it will look like. She also brought some samples of the colors...i am soo in love with my deep purple and pink scheme! (:

i am sooo ready for this!!! (:

only 97 more days to go! lol

AW: OMG. <20

joyfulbride424 — Sun, 15 May 2011 22:41:34 +0000

WHAT? In less than 6 hours I will be 19 days away from getting married. OMG! That is all I have to say. I don't have a ton to do but I almost wish I did so I could distract myself from being freaked out!! :D

Inspiration Mondays

amongthelilies25 — Mon, 16 May 2011 14:45:40 +0000

What has inspired you this past week?

It could be a verse? a sermon? a quote? a person?

let us all know and inspire us. (:

Just out of curiosity...

sessionswedding — Tue, 03 May 2011 01:31:20 +0000

How old is everyone and their FI/DH? And how old were you/will you be when you got/get married? How long have you been together?

I am 23 and FI will turn 23 on November 14, we are getting married on November 19. FI and I have been together over 3 years as of March 30.

We're mailing Invitations tomorrow!!

kellya01 — Sun, 15 May 2011 20:42:07 +0000

I'm so excited!!!

We are mailing the wedding invitations tomorrow!

And we have our first shower -- a couples' shower - this Saturday evening! We're going down to where his family is to have it down there. Should be really fun to meet people that I STILL haven't met!! :-) And I already know I'm getting at least 1 gift at some point ... whoops, peeked last week! Well, no more peeking at the registry for me this week, I want to be totally surprised because I don't have any expectations and would love to be genuinely surprised.

Let the counting begin, right!?!! :-D

When to thank guests at wedding

GJones27 — Sun, 15 May 2011 12:19:23 +0000

For you married girls (or for those who have been to a lot of weddings), when did you socialize with your guests and thank them personally for coming? We're not having a receiving line, and there will be a sit-down dinner. For example, do I go around tables after people have finished eating? I haven't really been to any weddings.

NWR: Need Prayers for Summer Classes!

FaithCaitlin — Sun, 15 May 2011 15:05:34 +0000

So, I think I'm a crazy person. I decided to take 3 classes this summer.. But the classes only last 6 weeks! I'm cramming a semesters worth of work into 6 little weeks.. Ahh! I just printed out two of my syllabi and I already feel super overwhelmed. I know I have at least 2 lesson plans, a unit plan, an hour PowerPoint presentation and a 12 page paper to write. Of course, I still want/need to make time to see FI. I'm just freaking out and need someone to pray for me-- I need sanity and to remember to put my fears in Him. Thanks ladies!

NWR: New Home Church (long)

SoonToBeGenao — Sun, 15 May 2011 12:38:56 +0000

Long story short- FI and I belonged to a non-denominational Christian church in our area. This was my first ever "home church" since I was not raised in a God-centered house or family. I saught Christ and was saved when I was 22 years old (about 3 years ago now). This was my first church, my favorite place. I taught Bible sunday school there, volunteered, went to my small group, even got baptized there- you name it. When FI and I planned to get married we thought of no where else to do it than this church. Unfortunately the church had other ideas and for a very judgemental and hurtful reason- they told us they would not marry us. We were very very hurt by their decision. After prayer, forgiveness and a second chance- we realized that we still needed to move on and find a new home church.

(In the meantime we decided to get married at a friend's church and do our pre-marriage counseling with her Pastor who we love- but this church was never going to be "home" just a nice place to have the wedding)

We found a new church, about the same distance from us as our original one. We've been there a few times and we LOVE it. Everyone is so welcoming and warm. It turns out that next Sat they are having an "Extravagent Love Brunch" which is for married/engaged couples to hear a sermon about keeping an Extravagent love with God and with your spouse in your marriage. They have a HUGE marriage ministry and I think this is the PERFECT place to finish off my engagement and start my wedding! Pray that this place is where God wants us to be as we embark and this very special journey :)

I just wanted to share with you girls :)

it's so good to be back!!

yarmik89 — Sun, 15 May 2011 08:01:48 +0000

life got a little crazy these past few weeks with finals and moving, but i'm GRADUATED and all moved in to our new place!! there's still unpacking to do but i'm glad to have at least a little more time to spend with you lovely ladies on TK, you're all so encouraging!

Prayers, please

mrandmrsbrist — Sun, 15 May 2011 04:57:18 +0000

Warning: this is going to be whiny.

FI got an internship in our hometown, two and a half hours from where we go to school. He finished finals yesterday and I moved him home today. I'm happy for him. I know it's good experience, good money, and something he's excited about, but I'm so sad. I was snappy when we were packing, I cried as we pulled out of the driveway, and I'm sitting at my parents house right now totally upset.

I have two and a half more months of this. I know i can do it. I survived the four months he was in Norway and this is going to be easier than that. But I'm just feeling helpless and stupid right now...

Will you pray for strengh for me and for FI? He hasn't really shared how he's feeling about it yet, so that makes me nervous. Thanks, ladies!

Should have listened to people's advice...

GJones27 — Sat, 14 May 2011 23:25:42 +0000

Should have listened to people's advice of not to do anything drastic to your hair so close to the wedding. I had done highlights last December, and I couldn't even tell they were in there. So I thought I would go a little stronger this time. I hate the result so bad, I've been crying this afternoon. It looks unnatural. When I showed a picture to my mom, she was like, "Yeah, make an appointment to try to tone it down." I don't know how it's going to turn out. I should NOT have tried saving money by doing this only once more before the wedding. Now I have to spend more money and time to fix it. :-(

Prayer Request

sprtychick10 — Sat, 14 May 2011 18:27:43 +0000

My FI just called me and told me a really great coach at a local high school just lost his mother. A couple months ago, his dad passed away so I can't even imagine how he is feeling. Thanks ladies.

i'm back with all smiles!!! (:

amongthelilies25 — Sat, 14 May 2011 14:22:55 +0000

hey ladies!!!

Thank you sooo much for your prayers!!!! (: i appreciate that soo much!

Things are going really really great. it was a little awkward at first, and my FI and i had some serious things to talk about. But after a few days of just enjoying eachother we are even more in love!!! (:

I had a few days off of work (which is why i wasn't able to update you all sooner) which was nice because i got to just spend so much quality time with him. He is an amazing man!!! he changed (in a good way) soo much! we had great conversation and just an overall wonderful time together!

he did hurt his back tho...so if you all could pray for him. He went to the chiropractor but the chiropractor said it'll take a few times before he is all better. so..please pray. (:

so........ we did kiss. hehe. i was thinking (when he was gone) that we were gonna wait. but because we already have.... it was hard... and something that we didn't feel morally wrong of. We did have a GREAT conversation about physical boundaries though. And tonight we are going to talk about wedding stuff. (:

Overall things are wonderful and i am on cloud 9 just because he is home and i am able to hold his hand and hug him again. (:

Baby baptism questions...

bourgehm — Mon, 16 May 2011 02:02:37 +0000

FI and I have been thinking about it a lot. If you have verses, awesome!

Here is the main question we have:

If a baby dies, does it go to heaven? If it was baptized as a baby, does that change the outcome?

I know this topic is debated a lot. I am just seriously curious on biblical evidence to back up thoughts on this and different views.

Thank you so much, ladies!

Favorite uplifting, encouraging bible verse?

sprtychick10 — Mon, 16 May 2011 01:01:59 +0000

What is your favorite bible verse that always encourages you when you?

I am trying to mark as many in my bible because I know I am going to need these in my near future. My brother deploys on Wednesday and my nerves are strung so tight. My emotions are all over the place. I go from fear, to pride, to tears and everything in between.

TIA.

My MOH is refusing to do a toast :-(

GJones27 — Mon, 16 May 2011 00:08:44 +0000

I just learned that my maid of honor (my sister) refuses to give a toast at our wedding. I feel really hurt. She has depression and a bit of anxiety, and giving a speech makes her too anxious, she claims. I don't really understand it, because she used to do speech and debate and won all sorts of awards. She also had to give class presentations when she was at Princeton. But now she won't do a five-minute speech for us. Our Brazilian best man is giving a toast, and he doesn't speak English well.

I feel really upset, because I feel my mom isn't really encouraging her. Whenever my sister wants to run away from something, my mom says okay, and it reinforces the anxiety. If I ever suggested not giving a speech if it were my sister's wedding, my mom would throw a fit. And how will it look if my sister won't even give a simple toast?

Do I have reason to be upset by this? I feel so let down.

Am I being immature?? (long)

kalizoomba — Sun, 15 May 2011 02:39:33 +0000

My grandpa died last October. He and his newest wife (I think it was his 4th) had only been married for 3 or 4 years at the time. I'm not that close to her, but I know she was greiving after his death, so I went out of my way to check on her at least a few times a week, visited her, and she continued to promise that she'd come to my house for lunch sometime. She's not even came once - and when she sees me in the store or somewhere, she pretty much ignores me.

She does that to pretty much the entire family. Well, for Christmas, She got my brother a gift, my cousins a gift - and pretty much everyone a gift. Except me. She said it was because she didn't want to just buy a generic gift for me because I was so special to her- and she was looking for the perfect gift and could never find it -- then she forgot to buy me anything.

So, being the Christian I am, I forgave her. She ended up giving me a check a few days after Christmas. (And I know - christmas is not about the gifts - I was just a bit stunned when everyone but me got something).

In janurary, it was my brother's birthday. She got him a card and some money. No issues there.

Anyway, in Februrary (on my birthday) she sent me a message on Facebook, saying that being friends with me and seeing me and talking to me was just too hard on her and so she was going to unfriend me. (and the rest of the family.) Again, I was a bit sad because she had forgotten my birthday, but I knew she was still greiving, so I forgave her again.

So. Today, we had a graduation party for my brother and I. He's graduating from high school, and I'm graduating with my bachelor's degree. We invited just our grandparents, and my gradpa's widow. Everyone came. My grandparents gave both my brother and I a card with money in it. Chris gave only my brother something. She didn't even acknowledge me. She didn't say hi when she came in, didn't say bye when she left, and didn't give me a hug (but she gave everyone else a hug....)

Am I'm just being immature? I really feel hurt. I'm not really concerned with the gifts - after all it's the though that counts. She didn't think of me. I don't care if she would have gotten me a roll of toilet paper - at least it would be something!! Even a hug would have worked. I'm so fed up with her and I don't want to invite her to the wedding.

I'm back...I think!

mrandmrsbrist — Sat, 14 May 2011 00:43:14 +0000

So, last week I moved out of the dorms and into the apartment FI and I are going to be living in after the wedding...and then I started my new lab job which is between 40 and 60 hours a week.

It's been pretty bare bones so far and one of the things I'm without is internet. There's supposed to be internet for the entire building but I can only access it one room of the apartment and it kicks me off every 15 minutes. Great, huh?

FI's apartment (which is right down the hall from mine) gets great signal, so I'm camping out here for a few hours :P

Between that and being so completely exhausted from my job, I haven't had time or opportunity to get on TK. I'm reading through posts from the last couple days now. Missed you guys!

Week of 5/8 - Praises & Prayers

iamjoesgurl — Sun, 08 May 2011 23:33:00 +0000

Any prayer requests or praises for this week?

Don't forget to pray for Drama1308 for her surgery on Monday and subsequent recovery.

officially FREAKING out!

amongthelilies25 — Wed, 11 May 2011 20:40:51 +0000

okay........ so, yesterday i had a very very confusing conversation with my FI and i only have 3 hours until i am joining his family to picking him up and i am completely freaking out!!!!!

prayers would be appreciated.

Inspirational quotes/verses about marriage

sessionswedding — Fri, 13 May 2011 01:16:56 +0000

I got the idea last night to put inspirations quotes, lyrics, and Bible verses about love and marriage on each of the table number cards. (I plan to create and frame 5x7 cards with the number on the top and the quote on the bottom, so there is plenty of room.)

I have a few so far, but I was wondering if you ladies could help me out? Here's what I have so far.

Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.
- James 1:19

Don't follow your heart, lead it.
- UNKNOWN

Love is not a place to come and go as we please.
It's a house we enter in and then commit to never leave.
- Warren Barfield

The promise, made when I am in love and because I am in love, to be true to the beloved as long as I live, commits me to being true even if I cease to be in love. A promise must be about things that I can do, about actions: no one can promise to go on feeling in a certain way. He might as well promise to never have a headache or always to feel hungry.
- C.S. Lewis

amongthelillies

sessionswedding — Fri, 13 May 2011 15:32:19 +0000

How are things going?

Things I learned about invites...

GJones27 — Sat, 14 May 2011 01:03:12 +0000

Just wanted to share what I learned about invites:

When selecting an RSVP date, don't just consider when you have to give a headcount to the caterer. Also remember to think of the florist! He/she will need a table count, and they have to order flowers early and bill you. I was totally caught off guard by that.

Whoever said that there was a 90% acceptance rate for in-town guests and 80% acceptance rate for out of town guests was lying. Mine was much lower. I'm too lazy, though, to count up the exact percentages. Only 110 people are coming after we invited about 200 people.

You will be surprised by who comes and who doesn't come.

My RSVP date was three weeks before my wedding. So many people give me the answer "don't know." Two weeks out, I'm still getting "don't know." And I sent out save-the-dates 8 months prior. Even if you give ultimatums, people will find excuses.

You will receive bizarre excuses about why people haven't sent RSVPs. The worst was someone who told me he never received my invite, after he had emailed me two months prior saying that he had received it.

FUTUREMRSBARRON*

sprtychick10 — Sat, 14 May 2011 12:21:05 +0000

May you have a wonderful wedding day! Have fun. We can't wait to hear about it!!!

Update?

loves2shop4shoes — Fri, 13 May 2011 13:14:58 +0000

Anyone have an update from Monica? I'm worried about her.

veggygyrl

DramaGeek — Fri, 13 May 2011 16:59:10 +0000

I noticed in another thread you mentioned having a reunion with D and that you're going to his graduation. How are things going? I hope you're doing ok. <3

Spiritualy Married?

SpokenVows — Fri, 13 May 2011 01:30:38 +0000

So, my mum and [almost] step-dad were supposed to have a joint wedding with FI and I. However, she may lose her Medicaid if they do legally get married. Hopefully, that won't be the case, but it may turn out that way. In the case that it does, I suggested they could still have a sort of spiritual marriage. I guess it would sort of be the same concept as vow renewal? Does anyone have any ideas, suggestions, advice on how to go about doing a spiritual ceremony without legally marrying? Perhaps a verse/passage from the Bible? =/

Encouraging Thought

ravenray — Fri, 13 May 2011 21:02:22 +0000

So I was thinking today about Ester, one of my favorite biblical women. I was thinking about how all the old testament saints (to some of us) all had these chances to trust in God and do the right thing the first time, and how a lot of them messed up and didn't trust God. God keep giving them second chances to make things right and they do. But what I love about it is that God keeps on giving chances even when you don't do or feel like you did anything right. He always gives you another chance to do the right thing and thank God for His grace. I just wanted to share that with you guys because it gave me hope. :)

Anyone else have something encouraging happen today?

Dear Fi/DH Friday

LeahVB2011 — Fri, 13 May 2011 12:01:33 +0000

And go!