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Ketubah Question

Michelle828 — Mon, 11 Oct 2010 22:30:59 +0000

Hi,

I was wondering what the typical cost of a Ketubah is? Thanks so much!

Michelle

AW: Married and PIPs!

october010bride — Tue, 12 Oct 2010 12:11:59 +0000

My wedding was on Sunday (10/10/10) and was amazing! Although a few things went wrong, in the end it was fantastic.

Thank you to everyone for your advice and guidance. This board was a true resource to myself and my H during the planning!

Now for some pics...:

Getting Ready

All done up

Ketubah signing

Bedeken

Walking to the Chuppah

Married!!

There are a ton more in my bio, thanks for looking!

Hello :)

rxjen — Sun, 10 Oct 2010 17:43:50 +0000

Hi my name is Jennifer. I got engaged July 2010, Fi and I are getting married October 14, 2012.My Fi is jewish and I am right now going to the conversion process.
I just wanted to stop by and finally say hello since I have been lurking for a while

:))

Does anyone want to take over "This Week's Kallahs?"

Rachiemoo — Mon, 04 Oct 2010 12:50:45 +0000

So I have been slacking a bit on the "This Week's Kallah's" post - sorry! I've been doing it for a little over a year now, and I've been a bit preoccupied with other things. I was hoping that someone else would want to take it over. Just a warning - the last two people who did it got pregnant :)

Hope everyone's holidays were fantastic - now we can relax a bit until Hanukkah!

This Week's Kallahs

Musicheals71 — Fri, 08 Oct 2010 20:46:04 +0000

Hello, everyone! I have volunteered to take over the Kallah's list for Rachiemoo.

Congratulations to october010bride on her wedding this Sunday! Mazel Tov from all your Knottie friends!

Best wishes to srwren, Nuit, almostmrsE, 2dBride & NotFroofy, hbrynn, cros8380, LindsayHeather, and Chuppa08 on their anniversaries this past week and this weekend.

I hope that everyone has a wonderful weekend and a peaceful Shabbat!

Our Future Kallahs:

2010

10/16/10 - Lynniearudner: Lake Placid, NY

10/23/10 - Shasha3100: Denver, CO

11/14/10 - jnj111410: Boca Raton, FL

11/27/10 - leoraanna: Akron, OH

2011

3/6/11 - sari5765: Phoenix, AZ

3/27/11 - mickeypotter: Washington, DC

9/4/11 - MrsMLRB: Chicago, IL

Anniversaries:
1/13/08 - Aliza131
1/18/09 - mmedov01

2/14/09 - A&Aa
2/15/09 - SydSk8Gr8
2/28/09 - angie74; BenandDina

3/1/08 - Cyndi&Matt
3/2/08 - kjbfchapin; loutowedcraig
3/6/10 - BallAndChain10
3/7/09 - yankeegirl125
3/8/09 - marclovesme
3/9/08 - sms-lovett, TheBachelorette
3/13/10 - Liz4444
3/15/09 - jhdance111
3/19/10- joesbby
3/20/10 - singingjulie
3/29/08 - DC+PittsburghBride
3/30/08 - Mrs_W_Pookie

4/4/09 - Krisrolo
4/6/08 - melibean; jessicarajs
4/12/08 - MAtoNC
4/24/10 - courtneybrooke921
4/24/10 - reddie36

5/2/10 - jojod1075
5/4/08 - 2LOVE4LIFE
5/15/10 - zobo410
5/16/10 - Mimi63
5/16/09 - Princess Irachka
5/17/09 - tamaries
5/18/08 - AmyinBensalem
5/21/06 - olechka
5/24/09 - becca.coleman
5/24/09 - mhalpern16
5/29/10 - abrown351
5/30/09 - bekijoy
5/30/10 - katester25
5/30/10 - goldgold
5/30/10 - jendawn80
5/30/10 - browneyed bride
5/30/10 - lacebride
5/30/10 - vlevitt
5/30/10 - slbriz34
5/31/08 - LaurenAndDan

6/1/08 - mjwtexas
6/6/09 - jenvalet
6/7/08 - lnallis
6/10/10 - jewishmilitarybride
6/13/10 - ChemPhD_2012
6/13/10 - miazotani
6/14/09 - daventamara
6/15/08 - Soon2BMRS615
6/19/05 - LBR_NJ
6/20/10 - RainLaurel
6/21/09 - betsyherm
6/22/08 - robynlesley
6/27/10 - talgirl84
6/28/08 - dglatstian; jrl2929
6/28/09 - RedZee; penaltyshot
6/29/08 - Princess Buttercup Bride; aspade

7/2/09 - teamAandE
7/4/08 - oiler02
7/5/09 - rblucy; amt912; deborahandsteven
7/6/08 - FutureIsGold
7/11/10 - girliegirlral
7/12/09 - emerlyn

8/1/10 - parker624
8/2/09 - abbydonde
8/8/09 - foozzle
8/8/10 - razdazzle
8/8/10 - lenabear813
8/9/09 - LeoraVeShimon
8/9/09 - bayshale
8/9/09 - Danaz1
8/15/10 - samara267
8/16/09 - Shosh816
8/23/09 - alinaandjared
8/24/08 - jessicajoy
8/30/09 - ozziejules
8/31/08 - JoelsGirl07; Rachiemoo; sunshine7388; 2Travelerz; AEMShiksa; & LylaWedding

9/5/10 - Musicheals71: Marlton, NJ
9/5/10 - viewfromheaven05: Atlantic City, NJ
9/6/10 - DaniMiriam: Crown Heights, Brooklyn, NY
9/6/09 - dianas76/phkesner
9/9/08 - nservidio
9/9/07 - Mrs.Knit/Chocolate Soda
9/14/08 - fish24

10/2/10 - caraellen23: Philadelphia, PA
10/3/10 - mosli: Pittsburgh, PA
10/4/08 - srwren
10/5/08 - Nuit
10/6/08 - almostmrsE
10/6/09 - 2dBride & NotFroofy
10/10/10 - october010bride: Boston, MA
10/11/09 - hbrynn
10/12/08 - cros8380, LindsayHeather, Chuppa08
10/17/09 - The Little One
10/18/09 - mickeyisagyrl
10/19/08 - BlueberryVal
10/21/07 - Shoshie
10/25/09 - chicagoamber
10/26/08 - jessicaskyy

11/1/09 - bonniebrett
11/1/09 - salyse530
11/1/09 - NovBridie09
11/2/08 - Lauren9317
11/3/07 - GollyMolly/MoFree
11/8/09 - arcmtg
11/15/09 - dsm111509
11/17/07 - jblue20032003
11/22/08 - exhibitv
11/22/09 - Jennifer and Luis
11/23/08 - BetsyandDan

12/12/09 - anna.oskar
12/19/09 - rmfriedman
12/27/09 - Stahlop
12/31/09 - StarryIce

1/16/10 - beachprincess23
1/17/10 - lilbit255

As always, if your name is not on this list and you would like to be added, please reply to this post with your date and location.

Theketubahcompany.com

Ark2 — Fri, 08 Oct 2010 16:37:05 +0000

Hi Everyone,

I am new here, getting married and looking for a ketubah (amongst other things...).

A good friend of mine recommended Theketubahcompany.com . Her ketubah was beautiful and she said they were very easy do deal with, and very quick with shipping.

I was wondering if any of you had any experience with buying from them and which design do you like best, as we have to choose one from our shortlist very soon.
their website is: http://www.theketubahcompany.com

Thanks for helping,

JJ

Married!

caraellen23 — Sun, 03 Oct 2010 18:52:04 +0000

Hi ladies,

My wedding was yesterday and it was a beautiful day!! Thank you all for all the help over the past months of planning. Our ceremony was beautiful and personal. Sadly, my cousin Sharon who had planned to officiate as a Cantor, passed away two days before our wedding. I know she was there in spirit and the Rabbi did a wonderful job. From start to finish, it was a great night! I think one of my favorite parts was the ketubah signing. They forgot to turn off the piped in music, so we ended up signing our ketubah to "Margaritaville", haha. Good thing the Rabbi has a sense of humor! The yarmulkes from mazeltops were a hit and we received many compliments on our ketubah from mpartworks.com.

Here's a picture of our first kiss under the gorgeous chuppah:

DIY Bencher?

reebsreebs — Mon, 04 Oct 2010 01:24:05 +0000

Anyone make their own benchers? The cost of them is rediculous, so we are thinking perhaps we can lay them out on the computer and get them printed on cardstock. Are we crazy? Anyone do this? I'l love to make them inter-linearly translated and with the matriarchs as well. Any templates? Leads on how to?

Son and his fiance are finally starting wedding planning!

2dBride — Sun, 03 Oct 2010 04:37:33 +0000

My son proposed to his girlfriend last March, and they plan to get married this March. I warned them at the time that they really should start looking at venues, etc., since they often get booked a year in advance. However, they really didn't start planning until this week. Fortunately, it turns out that a venue that I suggested months ago is still available on their date. So it looks like they will be able to get married on Purim as they planned.

Who held your chuppah poles?

reebsreebs — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 00:08:15 +0000

We are having a mild debate about who we want to have do this honor. We both originally assumed the 4 parental units (my two parents, his mom, his mom's partner). But the partner and my mom both have occasional health issues that may or may not make it uncomfortable for them to stand that long. We each have a sibling who would step in with no notice, so back up plan is there. But now I'm wondering if we should honor friends with this instead. We don't have bridesmaids or groomsmen, so the chuppah holders will likely be the only folks standing up there with us (and possible the two siblings).

Seven Praises

daniarielle — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 15:04:24 +0000

In addition to the sheva brachot, which will be done by 7 male family members, I also want to add the sheva shevahot (seven praises) to be done by 7 female members. Have any of you done this? What praises did you use? Thanks!!!

Chuppah help!

nikikarabetsos — Tue, 28 Sep 2010 14:18:31 +0000

Our Chuppah is a white fabric decorated one, from our florist ( photo below), but we still want to use my fiance's family chuppah cover, it is just a shear square made out of his mother's bridal gown.
Would it be ok to just drape it on top of the florist's chuppah?

Thanks for any opinions/help! :)

invitations

peggyo10 — Tue, 21 Sep 2010 17:30:31 +0000

hi ladies,

does anyone have a recommendation for an invitation vendor who did a nice job including hebrew names on the invites?

some of the invites we've been looking at don't seem to be able to include them.

thanks!

song to walk down the aisle to

Jami86e — Mon, 13 Sep 2010 04:53:53 +0000

ideas?

we have a pianist/singer and a violinist

chanukah wedding

Jami86e — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 14:42:54 +0000

is anybody else getting married during chanukah this year? if so, how are you incorporating it into your wedding?

Timing of Rehearsal

RachAisle — Mon, 13 Sep 2010 20:44:38 +0000

Our wedding will be on a Saturday night and the Temple is saying the rehearsal will be right before the ceremony.

I had been assuming/thinking it might be Friday (before sundown), as the day of the wedding will already be pretty hectic and I figure it'll be easier to go through the rehearsal in regular clothes...

For any other Jewish brides having a Saturday night ceremony, when is your rehearsal being held?

(Our Temple is Reform).

Thanks!

I hate my ketubah... any suggestions?

bellebride116 — Sat, 18 Sep 2010 21:33:30 +0000

Ugh, so now that the wedding is over I really would love to hang our ketubah in the house.... but I hate it. I purchased a "blank" ketubah from MP Artworks which I love... the wording is beautiful, etc... but we had paid a company to custom design the artwork and hand paint around it... and I absolutely hate the work. It looks crappy and it arrived with under 2 weeks before our wedding so there was nothing we could do about it. After the wedding we contacted the company and DID get some money back and the designer even agreed that is wasn't very good. Well, that's great, but I'm still stuck with crappy work.

So it's already signed and everything... do you think it would be bad to sort of cut it out and paste it on another ketubah or what? Can I get it somehow transfered onto a new one or something? Can anyone recommend anything? Do I have any options? Thoughts? Help!

This is the ketubah currently:

Tzom kal

slbriz34 — Fri, 17 Sep 2010 18:57:17 +0000

For those of you who fast, hope it is an easy and meaningful one full of reflection and healing. May we all be inscribed in the Book of Life.

Programs?

dn2151 — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 16:24:41 +0000

Hi all,
I've been reading everyones posts for months now and I wanted to thank you all for teaching me lots of stuff. Now that my wedding is just a few weeks away, I realized I need to get my programs together. Here is where is gets complicated: I was raised Modern Orthodox and my fiance was raised Conservative. I'm trying to strike a balance between explaining everything that will be happening to the people who have never been to an Orthodox wedding before with not boring the people who have.

Any ideas?

If possible, I would appreciate it if you could send your programs over so I can mix and match what makes the most sense for us.

Thank you for all of your help!

flowers for chuppah

Jami86e — Tue, 14 Sep 2010 18:35:28 +0000

what flowers did you use to decorate your chuppah poles? our poles will be made of bamboo and i had wanted to cover them in willow branches and orchids, but it is looking like the budget will not allow for that and we will need a more simple arrangement. any ideas?

Cool Kippahs

Tasianab — Tue, 29 Jun 2010 19:35:19 +0000

Has anyone used coolkippahs.com? We just found out yesterday that the recycled kippot we were going to order from another company are no longer available () and we are now looking for other options. Coolkippahs has some really nice raw silk ones but I don't know anything about the company at all...

L'shana Tova!

LBRM_NJ — Wed, 08 Sep 2010 13:32:35 +0000

I just wanted to wish each of you and your families L'shana Tova, Gut Yontif, Happy New Year!

Wedding toast surprise

2dBride — Mon, 13 Sep 2010 02:34:12 +0000

I loved this surprise toast!

Marriage Cert.

bondingofsouls — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 03:24:12 +0000

Is a Ketubah the same as a marriage certificate in the sense that it is a legal document with the government? Or is one not legally married when they sign one and it is only for religious reasons?

Jewish Mama woes

cushie2 — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 01:29:59 +0000

Hello there my fellow brides-
I need some outsiders' advice on dealing with my mother. I am Jewish, and my fiance is not. He was raised Christian but after becoming a religious studies major in college he does not identify himself as Christian, or as any specific religion for that matter. Apparently, my parents were under the impression that he would convert once we got engaged, and my relationship with my mom has become quite strained since they found out this was not the case. Despite explaining to her that my fiance and I are quite happy, that we discuss religion/spirituality all the time, we plan to raise our children Jewish and have Judaism as the religion in our home, she continues to give me a hard time and insinuate that it's not too late for me to call things off.

It would have been foolish of me to believe that I would be the one Jewish woman in history to have her family be totally cool with their oldest daughter marrying a
"shaygitz" (I prefer to think of him as a 'righteous gentile'). That doesn't make it any easier. I'm now considering having a totally secular wedding, since I feel that proceeding with a Jewish wedding (for whom we already have rabbi to officiate) will only remind my mother that things aren't going her way. Any advice from someone who's been through this before?

Hora question

Frozenpenguin — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 20:27:46 +0000

When is the hora typically done? I was thinking that after our introduction and our first dance that we would go right into the hora and get the party started. Is this typical? Does it interfere with the flow of things like speeches, challah blessing, etc?

Neither FI or I have been to a Jewish wedding so it makes for interesting planning.

Ketubah Help Needed

caraellen23 — Thu, 09 Sep 2010 23:59:58 +0000

Hi Ladies,

I hope you all had a nice day today! I am planning to reach out to mpartworks, but thought I'd ask here as well. I have a problem with our ketubah. As I've mentioned before, my cousin is a cantor and was officiating our wedding. We were having her co-officiate with my parents' rabbi. Due to the time contraints, the plan was to have my cousin do our ketubah signing, then start the ceremony once the rabbi arrives.

Due to sad and unfortunate circumstances, my cousin is no longer able to officiate our wedding. My question is....our beautiful ketubah says "Cantor" for the officiants line. Our rabbi is hard to reach right now, understandably so, due to the holidays. I will reach out to mpartworks. But what do you think of the rabbi signing where it says Cantor? Is that an issue? Can he just write "rabbi" next to his signature? Do you think I need to get a new ketubah? Our wedding is 3 weeks away. We got our ketubah a few months ago, so we are past the time limit for any changes without fees.

I appreciate your responses and ideas. Thanks!

I'm Married!

Musicheals71 — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 00:49:44 +0000

Thanks to all of you lovely ladies for your helpful tips and loving support on this board. Happy to now be part of the "Mrs. Club!"

Officant Questions:

Vickytoria1803 — Wed, 01 Sep 2010 23:24:30 +0000

So my fiance and I will be having an inter-faith ceremony. I'm catholic and he is Jewish. I don't know a lot about the Jewish faith so I'm hoping to get some basic information. He is not religious what so ever and neither is his family. However, my mother is dead set about having a priest and a rabbi. Not having a priest and rabbi is not an option. So we are doing this to please her.

So my question is, when are you allowed to get married. Our ceremony is set for Sat Oct 22, 2011 at 4:15pm. I know you can't have it on a Friday - but this time/date should be ok right?

Also he doesn't belong to a synagogue so typically what is the fee? We are going to have to pay both officiates and don't have tons of money to be spending on this. We already have to pay $600 to have the ceremony at the venue.

Finally, do the Jewish require any pre-martial classes? We don't want to do this either.

Any help would be great. I'm tried reading websites but they don't really answer the questions I'm looking answers for. If this fails, we will get a justice of the peace. Thanks!

Jewish wedding and civil wedding separate in time

reebsreebs — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 16:01:41 +0000

This is in follow-up to a question on another thread, where I said my FI and I are separating these two events by as much as a few months.

Jewishly, our Conservative rabbi has NO problem with it. My FI is a real stickler for Halacha, and had a long conversation with the rabbi before we agreed to do it this way. Many of our friends here in Seattle have separated their ceremonies for various reasons-- health insurance, marriage equality (wanting to marry legally in BC where gays and lesbians can marry) or whatever. We are going to separate the two by as much as 6 months for immigration reasons, we want to start the legal immigration process as soon as practical.

Our plan is to have just two, non-jewish, witnesses at the legal ceremony. My mom is a bit disappointed about this, but we really want to community to recognize the Ketubah ceremony, not the BC legal ceremony, as our wedding. Both ceremonies are important to us (to some extent the Jewish one is more meaningful to us than the civil one) so we have no problem having them a few months apart. We will recognize the Jewish ceremony date as our anniversary.