South Asian Weddings — The Knot Community

Wedding videography

SonaliPop — Sun, 12 Dec 2010 05:48:06 +0000

Hi girls :)

If you don't mind me asking, do any of you mind throwing me a ball park figure of what you paid for your wedding videography?

I have some questions!

Did any of you do something with a cinematic style?
Did you do a high light video or a same day edit?
How many people came to do the shooting? 2?
Do you mind sending me a link to the company you used? I'd love to see what people are into.

I personally love this guy based near me. I really want to use something like that but I am unsure of what is too expensive. I want a video that'll not only be memorable, but something different...and unforgettable.

http://www.3rdstreetfilms.com/

Product question

SonaliPop — Tue, 21 Dec 2010 18:44:04 +0000

Do you girls use night cream or eye cream? They say once you hit 25 you need to start using anti aging products so I'm starting to look into investing in those things. I'm a skin and (good) product junky. What do you use? Do any of you know of any scar removal gels or creams? I want to lighten my skin from previous blemishes without having to do a chemical peel unless I have to and I know other women on this board can relate as dark skin scars more easily. What do you guys use and what would you avoid? Sephora is my go to store for everything lol...and I'm ready to hit it up and increase my beatuy insider points!

Change of Plans...

LeilaR — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 18:42:44 +0000

We were set on having a destination wedding but because the fiancee is going back to school, we had to do the wedding here in the states. I'm really disappointed but on the bright side, we're getting married in Vegas at the Bellagio.
I hope every guest will be on time for the wedding...I dont want to catch them on the slots or at the poker tables!

Plans for the week

DFWIndian — Mon, 20 Dec 2010 15:23:46 +0000

What are doing this week?

Christmas is almost here...!

MrsBM — Wed, 15 Dec 2010 18:00:28 +0000

Hey girlies!

Ugh I'm in a lunch meeting and need distraction...

Are you done your christmas shopping?
Have you decorated your home for the holidays?
Anything fun that you've got planned: baking, holiday parties, kris kringles?
Vacation time off?

AW Friday!

DFWIndian — Fri, 17 Dec 2010 19:05:02 +0000

So I changed Friday! I thought since we do plans for the week on Monday no reason to do another...

Do you have anything to AW about??

TGIF!! - plans for teh weekend

MrsBM — Fri, 17 Dec 2010 16:35:21 +0000

Hey girlies
So glad it's Friday!
Only one week left until christmas :)
Yea for family/friends, vacations, chocolate and food!

I plan on sleeping LOL and wrapping presents!

Confessions/Lurker Thursdays

trueleo818 — Thu, 16 Dec 2010 19:42:19 +0000

Hey Lurkers, Introduce yourselves today!
Ladies, let's hear those confessions, you know you wanna spill!

Desi Clothes or Not? Advice Appreciated

temurlang — Thu, 16 Dec 2010 17:45:43 +0000

DH and I are invited this weekend to a dinner at his friend's home welcoming us as a married couple. DH describes it as "traditional" and a "ritual" so it's not just a regular dinner because we're back from India. However, DH is absolutely no help on what to wear.

Some background in case this helps: The hosts are Marwari. Unlike most of DH's friends, the wife wears jeans most of the time, so normally I would wear jeans to their house unless it's a big party. We have no idea who's going to this dinner, but I think it's small. DH also hates silwar kameez, although I wear it more often since saris are more difficult for me.

Am I supposed to wear Desi clothes? Am I supposed to dress up (like pants and shirt or dress instead of jeans)? If Desi clothes are appropriate, silwar suit or sari? And how dressy?

Thanks!

Average costs for...

mimosa1977 — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 20:54:58 +0000

What are/did you guys pay for the following:

1. Pandit Services

2. Photographer/Videographer

3. DJ

We are trying to keep within our budget and have already cut out the horse, doli, and CUT our guest list in half....I don't want us to have any arguments with each other or parents at the end of it all....Thanks!!

Recently Engaged! Need Help!

rc127 — Wed, 15 Dec 2010 22:58:15 +0000

Hi ladies!

I just got engaged the day before Thanksgiving and have started planning. We have set June 11th as the date (soon, I know!).

I have been browsing through your posts today and had a couple of questions.
1) Do any of you have a planner? Any recommendations for one? What is a reasonable estimate of pricing for one? (I've been getting super high quotes for design/planning $25k - doesn't include any vendor fees!)

2) I saw the recommendations for mandaps but I actually wanted a really modern looking mandap (more of flora and flowy fabric)

3) I have planned a trip to India in January but only have 5 days to get outfits and jewelry. I'm planning 2 1/2 days in Delhi and the equiv in Mumbai - any store recommendations? Do you think its posisble to get the outfits?

4) What is a reasonable budget for decor? Centerpieces?

I'm sure I will have more questions but would love to hear your opinions. Thanks!

we are finalists for an engagement shoot in italy! :)

neetuandsachin — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 15:21:27 +0000

Hi Ladies -

I'm relatively new to the board... but was hoping you might be willing to support me! My Fiance and I have had a very, very tough year but we got some exciting news this week - we are finalists in a contest to have an engagement shoot done in ITALY! :)

Click the link below to learn more about us and to vote for us! Voting closes Dec. 23rd (UK Time). Please feel free to pass on to any others as well!

http://theweddingvine.com/news-events/prewedding-photography--vote-for-your-favourite-couple

it's definitely all bittersweet as i remember entering this contest on one of my many insomniac nights after losing my dad... i couldn't sleep and figured might as well start the wedding planning, came across this contest and voila! now, somehow, we are finalists. bittersweet for sure but i'm looking forward to a brighter future.

Did you Have Catholic and Hindu Ceremonies?

laurlaur414 — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 21:49:32 +0000

These questions are for Knotties who held (or will hold) Hindu and Catholic ceremonies.

Did you throw them on the same day? same weekend? or a couple days, weeks, or even months apart from each other?

Did it matter which came first? Which one did you have (or will you have) first?

Was your Catholic priest receptive to you participating in both ceremonies?

Thanks!!

Need some suggestions on movies!!!

Hinaj — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 20:15:15 +0000

Okay........so I have got like a little over two weeks left with FI without school and soem days of thanks to the holidays that I get to spend with him. One of the things he wanted to do was go see a movie in theatre. In the beginning when we were dating we used to go see a lot of movies, but since then we rarely have time to do this and me even less so, because I usually don't have time to go see one. The last movie I saw in theatre was the Simpson movie and I think that was a while back. I usually just watch the movies I really want to see on DVD, so I have no clue as to what's good that is playing on Theatre. Any recommendation, Indian or English? We have a Theatre that plays a lot of Indian movies so either/or. When I looked at the movies playing, nothing really seemed all that interesting. Anyone has seen something recent that they can recommend. It would be much appreciated!!

Slow Cooker!

MrsBM — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 16:29:29 +0000

Hey Girls
Do you have any recepies for indian food cooked in a slow cooker...or if you know of any good websites...please pass along !!

:)

Where is kpwedkk??

MrsBM — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 13:46:16 +0000

I haven't seen KP post in a while...anyone in touch with her?

dj help

billbills — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 04:48:05 +0000

i need an indian dj for my wedding in the pittsburgh/morgantown area .... anyone has any suggestions ?

Centerpieces

SonaliPop — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 19:51:15 +0000

If you've already had your wedding, or have a picture of the centerpiece you are planning to use, please post! It's always fun to see what other people are having!

Hey SA Knotties...Selling my new artificial jewelery sets and some new clothes and shoes!

Noorie — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 02:50:52 +0000

Hey Girlies!
As a part of my wedding gifts, I got lots of brand new desi clothes (mainly salwar kameez), a few artificial jewelery sets and matching shoes/purses as gifts from my HUGE family of inlaws :) but I don't really need them or use them (plus I gained like 30 lbs after I got married so a lot of them don't fit boo :(

would like to find them a happy home. email me at blushingbride11@gmail.com if you are interested in purchasing. Thanks for your time :)

Is there a SA Nest?

temurlang — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 18:49:15 +0000

Hi! Congratulations to all of you and happy planning!

I didn't really visit this board before while planning my wedding because I only planned the one here, which was Christian/American. DH is from India and did the planning for our wedding over there.

Does anyone know if there is something like The Nest focusing on the SA community? I'm looking for somewhere where I can float questions... yes, mostly IL-related questions/support.

We live in a place with a large SA community, but it's not diverse. DH's friends all came to the US 10-15 years ago, do the same job, and had an arranged marriage inside their own community. So I don't always feel comfortable to ask stuff.

TIA!

The meeting with SIL

MrsBM — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 18:30:56 +0000

Hey Girls

So I thought I should give a small update on the Friday meeting with BIL and SIL.

First thanks to all who have helped me deal with this and with you advice...it helped me stay more calm then I would've been had i not asked for opinions on the situation :)

soo...

As we were getting there, the hubz and I were so anxious, our hearts were beating so fast

I started off bad lol....there was yelling and rudeness.

But then at around 10:30pm, Hubz, BIL and myself and gotten everything out that we wanted to and we were at the point that we felt that arguing more wouldnt do much...but not SIL. She was still trying to cope with the whole meeting...obviously things went far beyond what they though they would and it was hard for her to handle. She left the room a few times and cried. And at those times I told BIL to go with her b/c at this point I started to feel sorry for.

Even though thhe meeting was very -ve the over all feeling going fwd is +ve.

HOWEVER I came into work this morning and in my email was a loong email from SIL and she talks about several points that we brought up that she couldn't give a response to...which we were fine with as we weren't looking for a response or an excuse.

I have NO idea what to do...if I respond I don't want the response to be too long and I don't want to say things that werent said during the meeting....

All advice is appreciated!

2 vents (long)

DFWIndian — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 14:30:49 +0000

Ok since I'm really annoyed and needed to just get this out here it goes!

I know I've B&M, FFF, and SA Wednesday this, but I think I hit my breaking point. I am so DONE with people asking to come to my wedding!!! I had a girl from High School who I decides on my birthday to send me a message on facebook asking to come to the wedding.
She said," Hey I know you aren't suppose to do this, but I wanted to know if I can come to your wedding... Sorry but can I have an invite? Hope your doing well and Happy birthday" Honestly!!! So I asked in my blunt, tired of dealing with this way. "Why do you want to come to my wedding? Since we haven't talked or seen eachother in 8 years?"
her response, " I thought it was be a pretty wedding" REALLY!! This is why.. Not because we use to be friends and you want to be there for me or something remotely personal. NO you want to come because it will be PRETTY! I haven't responded because I was so blown away and pissed as you can tell. Does anyone else deal with this many people asking to come to your wedding? I've had at least 20, then you have to add the plus on and that's 40 extra people. Are you kidding?

Second.. My sister still hasn't turned in my VISA request for my trip to India in two weeks. I gave her the application two weeks ago and she is just now getting around to it. She said she thinks it can be done in one day and I hope she's right. If she's not it will take 3 weeks like I read and then it will be too late. Thus, $2000 plane ticket down the drain. The only reason I found this out. She can't find my pics for it. I had to go get new ones made yesterday and overnight them to her today. I would get mad about this but getting mad at her will accomplish nothing. I should have just taken a day off and done it myself. I'm really kicking myself for not doing it. My older sister is normally so reliable, I have no clue what happened. I will just send it to her and pray it's done. I would hate to miss my cousin's wedding over something so stupid.

Thank you for letting me vent. I feel a ton better!

FI got me a new phone!!!

Hinaj — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 14:27:13 +0000

He got us both the Droid X, I have wanted the droid since it came out, apparently so did he. I love my phone!!!

Bridal Shopping in ATL

Rainbow17 — Sun, 12 Dec 2010 20:32:15 +0000

I'm from Miami, which has very few Indians (Ft. Lauderdale has more). I hear Atlanta is a good place to go Indian Bridal shopping since there is a large Desi population up there. Is it worth me taking a trip up there to buy a wedding lehenga? If so, what stores should I check out?

where to get varmalas

reshma82 — Tue, 07 Dec 2010 01:55:48 +0000

Hi
I have been trying to Goggle where I can get Varmalas shipped to me in Michigan but can not seem to find a site that is located in the US... where did you get your varmala from??

Hardest member of FI's family to befriend

SonaliPop — Tue, 07 Dec 2010 21:19:50 +0000

Which member of your fiance / husband's family has been hardest to befriend? Which has taken the most time and has had the most distance with you? MIL? FIL? SIL?

Prayers for Trueleo

DFWIndian — Thu, 09 Dec 2010 15:57:34 +0000

Stephanie's aunt passed away yesterday. She has been going between School and her home for a couple weeks now because of it. She has finals this week and is trying to just make it through until she can return home Saturday to take care of everything. Please pray for her and her family.
I know most of you guys know her personally and she really just wants to get through this week. If you do text or message her please just do condolenses, I don't think she can handle questions right now. (I don't mean to be rude)

Update

HisBelovedOne — Wed, 08 Dec 2010 23:18:06 +0000

Really really really long story short... Kidlet, Dog and I have moved back in with my mother for the time being. It got to the point where I felt we needed to live separately to work out our problems. It's nothing so bad that absolutely cannot be fixed, but we're way past the place where we can work it out without non-biased third-party input. So we're working on finding affordable counseling, but we're looking at probably 6-12 months of work, which means that we likely won't be living together when the baby arrives in April.

It sucks. And it hurts. And I don't think I have cried so much in a very, very long time. And that's about all I want to say about it.

San Diego Advice?

mikelew — Thu, 09 Dec 2010 02:33:09 +0000

Hi,

I'm trying to plan a wedding in San Diego from afar, and am stumped trying to find a few things -- mainly a DJ familiar with all musical styles, hair/makeup/mehndi artist, and a Muslim officiant. Any suggestions?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!

Reception centerpiece ideas?

rsmehta — Tue, 07 Dec 2010 22:03:58 +0000

Hi ladies! I was wondering if any of you had an good recs or websites for centerpiece ideas? I went through all of the centerpieces on the knot, as well as several other websites, but still have not found exactly what I am looking for. Our reception colors are pink (fuschia) and silver and I was looking for some high and medium centerpieces. For a wedding reception of 250 people (25 tables), what do you think is a reasonable number of high centerpieces to have? I was thinking about 8 but not sure- don't want the room to look bare, but also don't want to overdo it. Any suggestions?