South Asian Weddings — The Knot Community

Home sick

DFWIndian — Thu, 11 Nov 2010 13:42:41 +0000

I don't know if any of you guys visit India or were actually orginally from there, but I was and I still have a lot of family there. I realized even though I've lived here my whole life, India feels also like home. I have a month and a half until I leave and I feel a little homesick. I really want the trip to happen now! I wish it was just here.

invitation wording

merene36 — Tue, 09 Nov 2010 20:11:52 +0000

my FI and are having separate invites, with my parents at the very top as hosts on mine and his parents at the very top as hosts on his. we also want to include best compliments from our siblings. should we include all of the siblings names on both cards or just my siblings on my card and his siblings on his card?

Do you celebreate Christmas & Thanksgiving?

MrsBM — Thu, 11 Nov 2010 13:28:43 +0000

Hey Ladies

Quick Poll...just wondering what the SA knotties do for these events :)

OL Tuesday

DFWIndian — Wed, 10 Nov 2010 13:02:00 +0000

Write your letters

Home Interior Deco - Inspiration

MrsBM — Wed, 10 Nov 2010 19:20:36 +0000

Hey Girls

Where do you get your inspiration for when you are trying to design or decorate a room?

I'm sick of looking on thenest...plus I don't like their images.

Any good website recomendations?

Thanks!

B&M Tuesdays....

DFWIndian — Tue, 09 Nov 2010 13:25:34 +0000

What are your rants girls?

Hisbeloved go ahead..lol

Found a sari!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HisBelovedOne — Sun, 07 Nov 2010 04:11:06 +0000

Today I went wedding-clothes shopping with my best friend A and her daughter Little A, and found something I loved in the right color and the right price range! I'll have pictures up as soon as I can take them without FI seeing. The sari is currently hiding in my mom's house where he can't sneak a look at it before the wedding. The sari is red with silver and pale gold beadwork on it. I'm going to ask my seamstress of a great-aunt to help me with the blouse (the blouse fabric is attached), because I'm not really ok with shelling out $30 to have the sari shop's seamstress do it for me when I have family who can do it for me.

A found herself a gorgeous chocolate-brown salwar kameez with gold beading, plus bangles and a neckace set to match. Little A got an adorable teal-and-purple salwar kameez with gold accents, and purple and gold bangles to go with it. J (roommate/bridesmaid) was too sick to come with us today and is in a tight spot, money-wise. She's more than likely going to borrow my green sari; we're just going to make her a skirt and plain top to go with it because we don't wear the same size.

In other news... one of FI's coworkers has bunnies that need a home in a few weeks. J has been complaining that she's "turning 27 and in need of something to mother," so he asked her if she wanted a bunny. Well, now she's bouncing off the walls happy, lol. The plan is still to get a couple of kittens after the baby arrives, but we figure a female rabbit is less likely to be territorial about a newborn, while 4 months is plenty of time for a cat to stake its claim to the house. I've been told by many cat owners that it's easier to bring a new kitten into a home with a baby than it is to bring a new baby into a home with a kitten.

...Yes, we're starting a zoo, and no, I have no issue with this. I've never lived in an animal-free home - even my own apartment had at least one pet-type critter in it.

Monday: Week plans!

DFWIndian — Mon, 08 Nov 2010 15:42:04 +0000

What are you doing this week?

Interfaith Wedding? kinda long this time.

indonesian+hindu — Mon, 08 Nov 2010 14:45:03 +0000

Ok.. I'm going to celebrate my father's heritage in the reception. I have the idea boards for that already. My mothers heritage is Christian, so I'm thinking that we can have a Christian ceremony, she has her heart set on that. No, my parents are not together.. just in case anyone was wondering.

So I have idea boards that I'll use for the reception, I'll upload those soon. Now, I need to create some for the Christian ceremony. I think some of the elements for the reception may need to change a little. I don't know quite how I'm going to get all of this to come together without looking or feeling disjointed..
Catholic weddings do have restrictions on them as far as what you can or cannot do.. yes I am Catholic, that didn't go over well with my mom for a while after I converted years ago. She's a little more comfortable with it now. Me and my fiance have a son together, Mica. Mica and I are the only Catholics on both my mom and my fiance's side of the family. Interesting! He (fiance) wants to convert. I don't believe we'll be in time to do a Catholic wedding next year as you have to give the church 6 to 12 months notice. I don't want to take the Eucharist on my wedding day all by myself.
Ok now I'm rumbling on.. well.. I'm going to peruse this site to see what other brides are doing.

I wonder if I can get a Priest and a Protestant minister to officiate and that way we can both take part of the Eucharist and so can our families. The Eucharist is of supreme importance to me. I don't see a wedding without it.

Oh, I do plan on doing the wedding website thing. I think that can help both mesh our ceremony and reception together but also help me be able to see where I'm going (creatively).

WR: Fotoflexer - Images

kpwedkk — Sat, 06 Nov 2010 08:05:09 +0000

I started playing around with some of the images that I've taken or was taken at our wedding / reception with a free tool at www.fotoflexer.com

What do you think?

Link

My Sister In law hates me

MrsBM — Mon, 08 Nov 2010 19:25:40 +0000

Hey Girls...most of you know about my 'situation' with my sister in law.

Since the day I got engaged, she's been acting like an indian girl who get's jealous, behaves rudely and creates drama for no reason.

Now it's even worse. I was completely willing to let it go of what she did to me ( she called me some pretty harsh words on my wedding day) but now she's IGNORING me....which is pretty immature.

The other day, there was a family event at her house, and I was helping to clear the table, and then she was standing infront of her sink and I just wanted to rinse my hands, I asked her if I could just get to the sink to wash my hands, she didnt respond to my question. One would think she'd respond with an "oh sure go ahead"... but she just walked away in a hissyfit. :\

We'll be in the same room and she won't say a word and when I ask her questions she gives me one word answers and give a cold shoulder.

She'll never smile around me or engage me in any conversation...she's just a real witch.

Why is she like this? My only guess is that during my wedding i was involved in the wedding planning and b/c her wedding was in India she didn't really plan hers...and she calls me controlling ...because I was the bride at my wedding and I was clear with everyone around me on what i wanted...sue me! (During the reception, her husband - hubz brother - told my sister that I'm controlling and that my sister could never make a decision for herself)... my sister was just doing everything she could to make me happy...especially as she knew that it was my special day and she knew what i wanted.

I'm about ready to tell her off and rip her head off...but I know I shouldn't ...any advice?

Indian DJ in Cleveland

ARMathai — Tue, 26 Oct 2010 22:15:40 +0000

Does anyone know a good Indian DJ in Cleveland? Or even Columbus ares who is willing to travel. I'm gettin married in Cleveland next Spring but no longer live there, seems there are few Indian DJs? Thank you!!!

Have any of you had this experience?

rsmehta — Mon, 08 Nov 2010 15:42:23 +0000

Hi ladies! I am curious if any of you have had this experience with South Asian weddings and maybe have some suggestions as to how to make the situation better. My family is Gujarti and apparently one of the things we have to do (on both my mom and dad's side) is to pay for accomodations for our entire family for the whole time they are at my wedding. We have a huge family and this means my parents are paying for about 20 rooms, for 3 nights. This is a huge cost outside of our wedding budget, but my parents are adamant that this is culturally expected (I guess all their brothers and sisters expect to be taken care of when they come). I think it's absurd that we have to pay for hotels for everyone and I really don't like this tradition. Especially because I am getting married in Newport, RI where you cannot find a decent hotel for less than $200 per night (unless you want a dumpy motel)...

So at my brother's wedding, we had the same issue. But he got married in NJ where the room rates were much cheaper. What ended up happening for my brother's wedding was that we rented rooms down the street from the hotel where the wedding was (since the rooms were cheaper there). Some of my cousins weren't happy with the hotel we chose, so after a day, they went to another hotel without telling us. So my family ended up paying for a few rooms for them for 3 nights, when they didnt even tell us or stay there. This really bothered me because the least they could do was tell us that they were going to another hotel so we wouldn't have to endure the cost! Anyways, I am afraid the same will happen for my wedding. And I am really worried about the cost that my family will have to pay since mine is in a more expensive area. I thought about getting hotels further away and then having a bus going back and forth. The problem with this is that I think all the younger cousins will want to stay out after the wedding and not everyone will go back to the hotel at the same time. Plus, FI's family and friends are staying in Newport and it would be more fun to all be together. Any suggestions? Anyone else have a similar situation?

Hiya!

AquarianDragon — Fri, 05 Nov 2010 04:00:16 +0000

While I formally introduced myself over the weekend, I figured today would be a good day to share a little more.

First, I like to use smileys (or is it smilies?)

When I sign-off email, I use :o)

I also sign letters to patients and outgoing faxes with a smile.

Anyway....

We have known each other since Jun/Jul '01, but didn't upgrade our friendship until Jan '08 (although some would say we had an "unofficial" upgrade before that time). We've been living together since Sept '08 (much to his dad's dismay).

We are newly engaged, but have not made a formal announcement. My mom, sister, a few friends, a co-worker, and a recently retired co-worker know. Oh, and FI told one of his aunties (via email), and is counting on her to tell his dad. If his mom was alive, he would of told her first (and she would have told his dad). We are waiting to see what happens when his auntie tells his dad. We think it will be ok... apparently his dad told his auntie at the beginning of this year we need to get married. Also, the last time FI and his dad had a discussion that involved me as a topic (spring this year), his dad told him flat out... we had to get married or break up.

Back to happy stuff...

Instead of diamond engagement ring, it is a sapphire, but there are micropavé set diamonds in the band (which is platinum). Currently, my ring is being created. It is expected to be done by the weekend before T-giving.

I'm am wondering if I can wear it when I get it (and we have made a formal announcement) or if I have to wait until the formal engagement ceremony? Does it matter? I think FI plans to ask his auntie.

I'm overwhelmed with the planning process. I had always figured *if* I got married, it would be something low key. I have accepted this won't be the case, but it's still overwhelming to consider. Yet, I know FI's aunties are gonna go all crazy on us in terms of the planning -- since his mom is deceased, his father is the patriarch, and he's *finally* getting married! I'm tryin' to brace myself for it.

Ok, that's it for now.

Cheers!

Oh, yeah.... P.S. We live in the Bay Area, but are planning to marry in Tucson, AZ (where I grew up). FI thinks his dad won't like that.... FI grew up in Houston, TX where his dad continues to reside.

Friday: Weekend plans

DFWIndian — Fri, 05 Nov 2010 15:17:19 +0000

What are you doing this weekend?

Happy Diwali!

raangoli — Fri, 05 Nov 2010 13:28:53 +0000

Here's wishing my fellow South Asian Knotties a Happy Diwali and a Prosperous New Year!

It's me: witchydna

indonesian+hindu — Fri, 05 Nov 2010 15:30:36 +0000

I had to create a new profile because I couldn't change my profile name. What's up everyone.. hope the wedding plans are going well. I have several idea boards done at home already.

Confessions/Lurker Thursday

DFWIndian — Thu, 04 Nov 2010 14:09:04 +0000

Come on tell it girls!

You Lurkers Introduce yourself! We want to know who you are!

AW: Formal Engagement pics

DFWIndian — Thu, 04 Nov 2010 14:10:00 +0000

I got my pics!!! This is from the Formal Engagement! All of them have Proof on them so it's kind wierd, but they look great and I finally have photos from the actual Ceremony!
http://monicasalazar.smugmug.com/Portraits/Deepthi-and-Jeff-Formal/14408854_zx6S9#1068242252_XUTys

Zodiac Sign

kpwedkk — Mon, 01 Nov 2010 15:58:18 +0000

What's your zodiac sign (taken from another thread, well inspiration from another thread)?

Do you think zodiacs describe behaviors / dominant traits in others? Or it is what it is?

I'll go first, I'm Aquarius, and DH is Gemini. I think sometimes it is what it is. DH keeps telling me, that because he is Gemini, this is how it is.

What do you think?

Debate- Puppy or No Puppy

trueleo818 — Wed, 03 Nov 2010 17:34:23 +0000

So, i live alone and i get really bored when Im not baking or doing school work. I've been reallllyyy itching for a dog. REALLY BAD! and im asking myself, "Should i get a pup or no? Can I take care of him/her? Am I READY to take care of another person??" -SIGHS.

What do you ladies think? Btw, i want this little pup. Maltese Poo

Invite questions

sugarsoul — Wed, 03 Nov 2010 17:08:40 +0000

I'm Pakistani. In our culture, we have a number of wedding traditions, which makes our weddings last more than one day (it's more like a wedding WEEK haha). Anyways, the mehndi night happens before the wedding day. This is where we have dances, singing (dholki), food, drink (no alcohol since I'm muslim), and just fun in general. Now and days, brides are starting to have mixed mehndi's, but I'm still kind of conservative in that aspect, and want my mehndi to be women and girls only. How should I word my invitations? I know it's early, but since I'm getting my invitations custom made from Pakistan, I need nail the details down now.

Also, even though a good chunk of my family is Pakistan, and in other countries overseas, I still want to send them invitations knowing most of them won't attend. How far in advance do you think I should mail out the invitations? For those in London, Australia, etc. I'm not really worried, but the postal system in Pakistan isn't the greatest. I'm just worried if I take the normal 10-8 weeks, they might not arrive in time, or at all.

wedding planner/coordinator needed - NJ

merene36 — Wed, 03 Nov 2010 13:20:37 +0000

does anyone have any recommendations for a good wedding day-of coordinator in the NJ area? i'm doing most of the planning myself, but i'm shopping around for a good day-of coordinator, who can handle a crazy Desi wedding!

OL Wednesday!

DFWIndian — Wed, 03 Nov 2010 15:14:55 +0000

Write you letters!

Any suggestions for books?

trueleo818 — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 20:03:21 +0000

I'm trying to get back into reading again but havent found A good book.
What are some good ones?

Found my invites

DFWIndian — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 18:46:27 +0000

So we finally decided on an invite! My cousin is ordering it from India and then we will go pick them up from her when we are there in Jan. I just need to figure out the wording, but I'm excited to have this done!

http://www.regalcards.com/interfaith_display.asp?card=IF10

I couldn't get just a picture of it.

Website Obsession?

MrsBM — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 15:20:33 +0000

Hey Ladies...so when you are online which websites do you check most?

I'm always on my gmail and lately websites like styleathome.com and organize.com lol

When I was planning my wedding I was on maharaniweddings & theknot/SA board a lot!

Share!

B&M Tuesday!

DFWIndian — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 12:33:04 +0000

Let out your rants girls!

Introductions and Info

DFWIndian — Thu, 21 Oct 2010 13:39:08 +0000

Hey ladies,

I'm still kind of new to this board.. Well I feel new at least I think I've been on here for 6 months at least. Either way. I thought for someone of us newbies we could do a whole Introductions.
Questions
1. How did you and FI meet?
2. Are you both S. Asian or just one or the other?
3. When is/was your wedding?
4. What is one thing you are/did look forward to?

Information

DFWIndian — Mon, 01 Nov 2010 16:32:02 +0000

Hey guys,
I'm trying to do something and I was wondering if I can get some information from you.

Board Name:
Real Name if you want to give it:
Wedding Date:
Location City/State:
Link to you bio:

TIA --- Hopefully I'll be able to show you soon!