South Asian Weddings — The Knot Community

True Life: I'm a Newlywed

SonaliPop — Thu, 27 May 2010 21:01:15 +0000

I was watching MTV's True Life documentary shorts series and the episode was about newlywed couples...and I think it was interesting to watch, but the couple that got my mind jogging the most was the super-Christian Southern couple who planned to save everything - including their first kiss - until their wedding day!

I respect beliefs, but wow...that's dedication!

They said they didn't want to kiss on the lips because they didn't want temptation to arise!

Has anyone else seen this? Thoughts?

Check it out!!!

Hinaj — Fri, 28 May 2010 16:09:42 +0000

http://marigoldsandmithai.blogspot.com/

Check out their post today of the wedding. I just love the bride's sari and her wedding cake looks so pretty!!! Looks to be such a fun wedding.

NWR: Sex and the City II Movie

Bhanu&Anuj — Fri, 28 May 2010 14:38:56 +0000

Hey hey hey!

Any other SATC fans here? (I'm a HUGE-HARD-CORE fan...lol)
I saw the movie last night and I was so happy! It was GREAT. Much better than SATC 1 and more like the series :)

I know it's not wedding related...just had to share my excitement :D:D:D

NWR - So proud of my man!

HisBelovedOne — Fri, 28 May 2010 02:21:43 +0000

He's turning 21 in July. His friends keep alluding to a night of drinks and parties. He doesn't want to do that. I mean, prior to meeting me he was a social/party drinker - I've heard plenty of stories - but over the last year and a half he's stopped drinking all on his own without any prodding from me. Just two weeks ago he was telling me that he wanted ME to tell his friends that he wasn't going to drink. I refused, because if I was the one to tell them that, they'd ignore it and say that I was the mean bitchy fiance who wouldn't "let" him go out and party. I told him that he had to tell his friends himself, and if they didn't want to listen, then he had to stand his ground, because they wouldn't respect it from me.

This afternoon he took me to go play with reptilian things that I'm not allowed to have till I move out of my mom's home (I was bored and wanted to get out of the house for a little while). While we were there he got a phone call from a friend. I only heard his half of the conversation, but it turned to plans for his birthday and he had to tell the friend a couple times that he didn't want to go get wasted. His exact words the last time he said no were, "You know, dude, I don't think that a person's 21st birthday should be about going and getting trashed and not remembering anything the next day. A 21st birthday should be about becoming an adult and taking on mature responsibilities."

I had been sitting on the floor watching a snake follow my finger through the glass (waiting for the shopkeeper to unlock the cage lid) when I heard him say that, and I looked up at him and just stared with a smile on my face. Not to say that I didn't think he had it in him, but it made me SO very proud to hear him say something like that out loud.

Most ridiculous thing you've seen on the other boards

SonaliPop — Thu, 27 May 2010 13:48:22 +0000

Since we love OUR board so much...what is the most ridiculous thing you've seen on the other boards?

For me, it was the idiot bride who thought it was 'cost-effective' to have a reception in which she asked everyone - from near or far - to bring a dish to the reception. She called it a 'covered dish reception'. Of course it was cost effective for her - her a$$ wasn't paying for the reception food! People could have been sick off of food sitting in the car for too long or worse - OFFENDED! I would be! The guests at your weddings are just that - guests, and they deserve to be treated with respect. She got such a lashing but still didn't understand it. What a dumb dumb. I tried to point out that it was rude, that she wouldn't know what everyone was bringing, if anyone had an allergy they may be screwed, the food may spoil in the car, etc. Nothing worked.

The one REALLY nice thing about our culture is that we properly know how to treat our guests.

FREAKING OUT

SonaliPop — Thu, 27 May 2010 01:18:04 +0000

I am seeing my boyfriend on Wednesday for the first time since MARCH.

Someone slap me. Or get me a martini...!!!

I keep going frantic with packing (I'm only going to be in TO with him for a few days before we come back here) and my room (as well as all the other rooms in the house) have yet to get done.

Someone snap me out of my paralyzing excitement and push me towards a vacuum, mop, duster, and organization!!!

Funny website

SonaliPop — Fri, 28 May 2010 15:52:34 +0000

Have any of you guys ever been to badindiangirl.com?

It cracks me up. Check it out if you want a laugh that bases on those stereotypical (albeit, exaggerated) figures you may find in your respective Indian / South Asian community...the pervy Uncle, the nosy Aunty, etc.

It's just a laugh, no one should take it seriously...but for all of you with that nosy Aunty who won't lay off your wedding planning or that girl in the community who your parents want you to be just like - especially in terms of her wedding - you'll snicker a little :)

xoxo

help w/ Venue!

trueleo818 — Tue, 25 May 2010 04:27:24 +0000

I have so many places in mind for the venue in Sri Lanka. I know I haven't checked it out personally but from what I can see online, these are my choices!

Let me know which tops all of these

*Mount Lavinia Hotel, Colombo, Sri Lanka
*Cinnamon Grand Hotel, Colombo, Sri Lanka
*Sri Lanka Taj Exotica, Bentota, Sri Lanka

Im sure that when I come back from the trip, I'll have more options..but so far, out of these 3...which one is the best? IMO, i think Mount Lavinia is the best.

Father-in-Law and I

trueleo818 — Mon, 24 May 2010 21:45:28 +0000

Do you think it'll be weird to have a Father and daughter in-law dance? Not sure of how FI's dad will react when I ask him

HAHA

SonaliPop — Thu, 27 May 2010 21:45:23 +0000

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/37339251/ns/today-today_weddings/?GT1=43001

Crowd pleasers/big hits--help!

vindaloo — Thu, 27 May 2010 16:59:46 +0000

Hi all,

I know that this has been addressed a bit before, but it was in the context of "entrance music".
We will have some time to play SA music in between the band's sets, and I'd love to play something that will get the uncles and aunties up and dancing. Unfortunately, my knowledge of popular SA music is pretty limited.
Can anyone help me out with some sure-crowd-pleasers and big hits? Oldies, new songs, whatever!
I already have "Beware the Boys," "Desi Girl," and "Jimmy".

Changing, Abbreviating or Keeping

Bhanu&Anuj — Wed, 26 May 2010 17:18:32 +0000

...your last name????

- Are you gonna do it right away?
- Are you going to wait until you have kids?

What's FI's opinion about it.

FI wants me to change it, and initially I didn't want to but I will do it....eventually hahahah

NWR- VENTING

trueleo818 — Thu, 27 May 2010 22:31:55 +0000

It's FI's birthday and I feel like smashing my head into a wall because of his bipolar-ness. AHHHH!!!!

I hope you ladies are enjoying your Thursday.
BTW, Sex and the City 2 is out!! anyone planning on watching???

Table names or numbers?

Hinaj — Wed, 26 May 2010 13:58:59 +0000

So I posted a questions on my month board, as to what people will be doing and now I am wondering what my SA knotties are planning to do....Are you just using table numbers or are you naming you tables?

I want to name them, but I am at a loss to what....Do we use all the the places we have visited? Since we take a lot of road trips, do we name them after the highways we have been on like I-80. LOL. Or do we do something bollywood naming the table after our favorite bollywood movies, although I like the idea, a few hurdles that I see are, that some titles are going to be long and not fit on the escort cards and second, we really don't have a bollywood theme so will it just look awkward?

Don't ask me why I am worrying over such a small detail, but its keeping me entertained at work and not miss FI. LOL.

Facebook

SonaliPop — Thu, 27 May 2010 00:45:26 +0000

Since I'm not engaged yet and I hate speculation, I don't have any public picutres on FB of my boyfriend and I. Does anyone else have nosy family members? As nice as they are, they always ask questions...at the weirdest times, ever.

My family in the US is limited, so our family in Canada / The UK is always creepin' on FB. It's soooooooooooooooooooo desi.

NWR- iPHONE!

trueleo818 — Thu, 27 May 2010 03:35:11 +0000

Sooo, I just wanna say that.. the iPHONE is good for everything else BUT posting stuff on TK. I was trying to post all night while I was out BUT my phone didn't let me. I AM NO LONGER IN LOVE WITH MY PHONE!

Sorry, just needed to vent. =)

WR: Music

Hinaj — Thu, 27 May 2010 12:49:14 +0000

So Ladies,

I know most weddings have a Do not play list which includes like the Chicken dance or the YMCA song and many other. But it made me wonder, do we have a do not play list for desi songs??? What would you tell your DJ not to play at your wedding?

Table numbering Idea

jnsaini — Thu, 27 May 2010 03:19:25 +0000

Hina and Ladies!

My photographer put up pictures of this couple that took pictures holding table numbers..and also their wedding date card..they are so cute since you girls were looking for ideas to number tables. Here is the link- http://www.mariciphoto.com/index2.php?v=v1#/gallery2/1/

The link doesnt take you the page directly so if you click on it then click on proposal then sonal and mehul
www.mariciphoto.com/index2.php?v=v1#/gallery2/1/">

Where are these funds coming from?!

kingofpop — Thu, 27 May 2010 03:22:10 +0000

I am really stressed right now . . .I just got a new job as well as being in school and we are in the process of purchasing a house. My parents were kind enough to provide us with the funds for a down payment for said house which means FI and I will just have to provide the monthly payments. I am excited about looking but this means the wedding will have to be put on hold for a while.

Fi is half indian and filipino and I am Sri Lankan. Combined we have a decent size family and a fair amount of friends. I was considering keeping it small to keep funds down but now I am just worried about bringing up the topic of wedding funds to my parents. I really feel guilty about asking them for money when they are basicially spending their savings on our first starter home. His parents are strapped with paying for his student loan. I feel that we have not had the time to establish ourselves financially and I really don't know where to begin. I know we can save a decent amount in a few years but it will be hard and I hate to blow it on one day.

Do you have any advice on how I can either approach them or should I consider paying for it ourselves? Are you guys paying for it yourself or are you having help from parents?

Honeymoon locations

SonaliPop — Mon, 24 May 2010 16:04:33 +0000

Just out of curiosity, ladies, where are you and your darling husbands going on your honeymoons?

Clothes.......

Hinaj — Tue, 25 May 2010 20:34:45 +0000

Ladies tell me what are you wearing for all your events/pre-wedding parties that you are having???

Bachelorette party - No Clue
Mehndi/Mayon - Thinking about doing dress changes. A simple yellow for the Mayon so I don't ruin my clothes while they put that stuff on me and like an Anarkali outfit after that.
Shaadi/Ceremony - Lengha that my sister and I are designing in red and cream with gold work.
Reception - Lengha in pink maybe with some blues. Still up in the air.....

Am I forgetting any other events??? Love to see pics for those who have any. :)

Indian cooking: Being the bahu who throws down in the kitchen

SonaliPop — Wed, 26 May 2010 23:18:38 +0000

How many of you guys cook Indian food? Or are learning?

I'm learning. My rotis no longer look like Africa...holla!

I can make a few things.

What about you girls?

I think it'd be cute if we post our favorite recipes. I can't wait for my BF to get here. As modern as he is, he likes to eat his shaak and rotli like a good Gujarati boy. So, I'll be making him a proper dinner! Learning to cook is something I fought so hard before but it's not so hard if you stop trying to fight the concept of domestication so hard and just practice. It's a sense of accomplishment for me.

I can cook other things, but Indian cooking...it's more of a labor of love, you know?

NWR Questions....

Hinaj — Wed, 26 May 2010 20:03:36 +0000

I think I am exhausted thinking aobut wedding related stuff....so lets get to know each other. So I am going to throw some random questions out to get to know you guys. Feel free to throw some of your own in the mix....

Jeans or dress?
What is your biggest pet peeve?
What was the last book you read for fun?
heels or flats?
What do you do with your free time?

Indian sweets/Bengali Sweets

trueleo818 — Wed, 26 May 2010 20:34:12 +0000

I'm going to Little India with FI and some friends, what are some good sweets??

Uh oh....

trueleo818 — Wed, 26 May 2010 03:59:51 +0000

I dont know who else to talk to about this but um...I'm 2 weeks late on my period. =(
Im afraid to jump into conclusion...Should I just wait a few more days or take a test?

Finished the paper stuff design.

HisBelovedOne — Wed, 26 May 2010 03:15:36 +0000

Went with elephants instead of peacocks. Save the Dates, invitations, programs, and a booklet with the ceremony wording for our friend who is officiating. Here's the background:

An article on the Saas-Bahu relationship

SonaliPop — Mon, 24 May 2010 14:44:02 +0000

http://yourdreamshaadi.co.uk/articles/bride/SaasBahu.html

Trueleo

SonaliPop — Thu, 27 May 2010 00:46:34 +0000

Hey!

I sent you a PM...too bad I won't know where to go when / if I receive one.

:) Giggle.

Wedding clothes update....

Hinaj — Wed, 26 May 2010 18:10:04 +0000

so I have been emailing back and forth with the designer or rather the designer's assistant that she can make my dress from scratch based on what my sister and I had designed. YAY!!! Very happy today!! I am so excited, I wished I was getting married sooner, so I can have my dress sooner.

But while I was on her website, I saw some more dresses and I wish I had an excuse or an occassion to buy it for....I think one of them would be good for the mehndi. But I just had to share with you guys...Pics below...

Seating at Ceremony Question

mkjasani — Wed, 26 May 2010 23:03:51 +0000

Hi Ladies... I am thinking this may be a SA issue but wanted to see if any of you encountered this situation with your parents... My parents said to me - oh, we have to reserve the first 3 rows for family only. I said - well that is fine but the 5 seats of the first row on both sides (groom & bride) is going to be our bridal party. We just need to leave the first 5 seats free for them so if there are 10 seats to a row, only 5 will be available (on each side). My dad said this was not acceptable, etc... and I told him it was important to FI and I - if they are being a part of our special day then they should be right up front. My dad said we would 'discuss'... this is one battle though I won't let them win... I just wanted to see if anyone else had encountered this issue? (I have very traditional parents with these things - yet I am not at all traditional - hence lots of issues as I am sure you all can imagine) Thanks!