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FI's mom

kimmykupcakes — Tue, 26 Apr 2011 19:42:05 +0000

So here's the latest with FI's mom. She still hasn't seen my ring. It's been 2 months, she lives 15 minutes from us and we've seen her more than once since the engagement. However, she is now starting to act how we thought she was going to, but than were completely shocked when she acted like we didn't get engaged. Now she's asking a million questions and doesn't know when to stop. She's driving FI crazy. As well as me, of course.

She calls FI on Easter to ask about the engagement party, when she can start inviting ppl to it, when she can start giving ppl the information for it and when she can give out our website to others. Bless FI's heart, but he isn't the best with these kinds of details, so he's having to tell her to hold on and ask me the answers. I'm getting annoyed with having to deal with that stuff right than because it's Easter and we are at our neighbors's house as their guests for a very short amount of time before we leave for dinner. Yes, I think he should have not taken her call at that time and instead should have called her back after dinner.

So he's putting her on hold and asking me the answers, back and forth, back and forth. I actually can't even believe what she is asking. First of all, the engagement party is being thrown by my mom, not us. Second, does she really think that she can invite whoever she wants to a party being thrown by someone else and that it's alright for her to be giving out this information to whoever she wants? Especially after saying her and FI's dad would only help us with strings attached and FI has already told them that we will be paying for and planning everything ourselves.

He relays everything that I have told him which is that my mom is throwing the party, his mom is not to invite or give out the information to ANYONE, everyone who is invited will get an invitation in the mail and on the invitation will be the information for the party, website and how to RSVP. So she comes back with asking what if ppl happen to randomly find the website all on their own and just RSVP to the party without getting an invitation. More likely is her telling ppl about it even though we have told her not to.

It's highly unlikely that any of FI's family members would think to randomly look up to see if we have a wedding website. They are all much order and not very skilled when it comes to the Internet or even computers for that matter. Of the few that are younger, only 1 has gotten married and that was over 4 years ago. They did not have a wedding website. Besides, the RSVP section on our website says "Once you have received your engagement party invitation from the mother of the bride" and you also need the password on the invitation to be able to RSVP. We are also having a password on the pages with all of the Maui wedding information just in case. Even if ppl happen to "randomly" find the website it's not like it has the time and address of the party or that they would even be able to RSVP to it.

She was probably just trying to keep FI on the phone like usual since he kept telling her he had to go and that she needed to wait for her invitation and all other information she needs to know will be posted on the website following each invitation that goes out. She just wasn't listening to what he was saying and kept asking him the same questions over and over. He's also not able to tell her anything that we want to stay a secret because she will tell others.

UGH! I'm already tired of this stuff and we have only just begun. I can see why ppl run off and elope.

Check List Roll Call

motoLyn — Tue, 26 Apr 2011 15:54:10 +0000

Good Tuesday Morning Ladies!

I'm trying to kick off Tuesday on a good note so I wanted to come and ask everyone how they are doing on their checklists. Any big ones? How many left? What are you most relieved to have checked off?

I'm still in the beginning stages, but I got the coordinator, venue, photographer, caterer and officiant all checked off. Yay! Time to take a breather and get back into the game later this summer. How about you ladies?

Hair Salon Help!

melmac26 — Thu, 21 Apr 2011 21:26:47 +0000

Hi girls,

Got some bad news today...my brother & his GF broke up :( Feel bad for him...really bad. Even worse b/c she was supposed to come to hawaii & was doing all our hair! Me & the 4 maids :P SO, where should I begin to look for a salon? Any recommendations? Need to get me & 4 bridesmaids done. Let me know! Thanks in advance!

New Oahu Bride - location suggestions :)

loznyc — Mon, 25 Apr 2011 23:48:36 +0000

Hi Everyone!

I am new to the boards and honestly super overwhelmed with planning a wedding. I actually thought I would never get married!

My fiance and I decided on Hawaii as its halfway between our two home towns New York and Melbourne Australia. I have been to Hawaii several times and love it! We have decided on May next year.

Are there any recommendations that anyone has on locations? We are leaning more towards a private estate just as the hotels tend to seem pretty open and not private and my best friend got married in Halekulani so I want something different. I really want something oceanfront, I have looked at the estates advertised on here but was wondering has anyone rented a property before?

Thanks I apprecaite any help! :)

LJ

Engagement Invitation proofs

kimmykupcakes — Tue, 26 Apr 2011 18:30:19 +0000

I'm super excited because last night I got the proofs for our engagement party invitations. I love them! There's just a couple things that need to be changed and then they will be ready to print. I can't wait to have them all done. I'll make sure to post photos after they are!

1 more day…and you will not believe my day

McBeags — Mon, 25 Apr 2011 19:19:01 +0000

Wow sorry if this is long, but worth it!

Tomorrow is our last day before we leave. My parents are coming to our house and we fly out at 6am Wed. Last night my parents call that my dad is being taken to the hospital. (too long for all the details but if you ever need a good laugh PM me. totally will make you cry from laughter) He may need surgery.

Cut to today. Still waiting on our rings to get here. And oh yeah I was just laid off.

10am this morning. Dad was discharged and home all is fine.

10:15am our rings arrived and will be ready for pickup tomorrow

10:20am I got a job offer.

ummmm time to buy a lotto ticket!! It has been a good day.

charlottethebride

Tanq&Tonic — Tue, 26 Apr 2011 17:27:06 +0000

HOW WAS IT? :) Inquiring minds are dying to know. CONGRATULATIONS!!!! Hope it was wonderful!

Did anyone use Adorn.com for jewelry?

syoun — Thu, 21 Apr 2011 21:29:29 +0000

Has anyone tried renting jewlery from adorn.com? It's a great idea and the price is about i'm paying to buy jewelry (that i'll never wear again). Just wondering if any destination brides tried it. It looks like they don't even ship out the jewlery until the week of your wedding, so I'm curious how that works if you're flying out to your wedding earlier and staying at a hotel.

Reception dinner in Maui for small ceremony?

ariemue — Mon, 25 Apr 2011 20:07:37 +0000

Our ceremony will be very simple, 10 guests total. We will be in Maui one week from today, sqqquueee! ...which means I waited until the last minute to do this. I have reservations at Sarrentos on the Beach, but I don't know. Gannon's is closed for a private party. Any other suggestions in the south maui area? Must be outdoors.

New Maui bride first post~Dilemma!! (lengthy...)

memegrace — Thu, 21 Apr 2011 08:05:24 +0000

Hi ladies,

Im new to posting though I have been scouting out planning posts for a few months and would like to say THANKS for sharing all of your info!! It has been SO helpful so far. Also, Jen (akawinterbride) sent me some PM info that was so great! I have little spurts of time here and there to plan our special day as we have a 6 month old babe (during some naps when Im not napping and occassional late nights..!) I do have a few pressing dilemma's I would like some advice for!

We will be married on our 13 year anniversary next march. yay! Im sure you can imagine all the questions we have been getting for years about the big day...especially following our engagement last year! ( which i was 5 months pregnant at the time so the answer was always simple...we'll get married..when the time is right for us)

The problem at the moment is that we have a fairly large core group of friends who have all had large weddings at home, as well, I have been in 4 gf's wedding parties...and to their baby showers...and their childrens birthdays..etc...

Everyone has known that we would be getting married away and that was that. Now that we have set a date...I am getting bombarded with questions!! More so...automatic "when can we book?" , "we are so excited to go to maui", "we wouldn't miss it for anything.." Which is awesome but not awesome when we do not want a large wedding!!

I am in the process of making a webpage (thanks to all the good idea's on here!) that will be our informal formal invite as well. We have decided to have a weekend of camping at a ranch next summer to celebrate with all of our friends. We are undecided about whether or not to extend the invite for maui to everyone thinking many will not be able to come (we live in Canada and several have young children) or to seperate the close ones out of the group to ensure numbers dont get too out of hand! ..when a few commit..then...all want to try and make it...which includes their families/children as well!!

The problem with the website is that once you send it out..the info is out for all to see!

Do we just send it out to just family and closer friends? If so, how do we tell everyone else about the ranch celebration?

Do we put who is invited on the guest list to Maui for everyone to see?

Also, we plan to put a reply deadline to allow us to choose a venue that will suite our numbers and budget. Is two weeks reasonable? Should we send it out to family only first..then get a general number count, then close friends, then all friends who are invited to ranch weekend?

This is all just getting too complicated for a simple wedding!!! sheesh!

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

thanks in advance for listening to my rant!

M

Good Morning everyone!

breaness — Mon, 25 Apr 2011 13:13:14 +0000

It's been so quiet over here lately! How is everyone? Did you all have a good holiday weekend?

We saw Cirque du Soleil: TOTEM this weekend and it was incredible! And we had an epic Monopoly game last night :)

How do you know which dress is THE ONE??

maniac0511 — Sat, 23 Apr 2011 21:48:04 +0000

I just started shopping for dresses a week ago and I have 6 months left. :( Most stores told me that I'm okay, but I need to order soon. So .. I gave myself 2 weeks to look. Last week, I visited 5 stores. Saw probably 6-7 dresses that I like.

I went shopping alone last week just to scan for my favorites. Then my sister (MOH) will be flying in from FL to help me make a decision .. and she'll be here only for 2 days .. so .. I'm short on time.

So here is my questions to you guys .. what did you do when you have several favorites???? What's your process of elimination? How do you know which one is the one? Soooo tough!

I still have 1 week left to shop before my sis gets here. Should I continue looking while I'm waiting? I'm afraid that it would just add more favorites to my list! :D Then it would be hard to decide later on.

My parasol arrived!! (PIP)

TashaK24 — Wed, 20 Apr 2011 01:33:11 +0000

The writing is purple, but it's hard to see in the picture. I'm so excited, it turned out so cute!!

What is the best nail salon on Maui?

vvolen — Mon, 18 Apr 2011 17:51:55 +0000

I'm looking for one in the kihei/ wailea area, since that is where we will be staying. Probably gonna go for the fake nails just so the polish will stay on longer, but of course I want them to look really nice. Any recommendations are greatly appreciated? And if info. I need an appointment or not would be lovely =)

Wedding Gown Travel Bag

[Deleted User] — Wed, 20 Apr 2011 00:47:55 +0000

Hi Hawaii Knotties!
I was just wondering if anyone could suggest a good wedding gown travel carry-on bag? Something affordable but will keep my dress somewhat not wrinkled.
Thank you!

Married Couples

sld0618 — Wed, 20 Apr 2011 16:28:10 +0000

Random, but if none if your friends are married....then how do you find married couples to be friends with? FI and I are wanting to get a few different married couple groups that we hang out with sometimes. He brings it up all the time. So I tell him to start going up to couples at dinner with wedding rings on. haha. He'll never do it, but it's funny to image!

I just feel like everyone else that I'm friends with have kind of stop hanging out with me as much because I'm more about doing happy hour or dinner rather than going out until 2-3 in the morning getting wicked trashed.

Ideas?!?

4 months today!

meldyan84 — Sat, 23 Apr 2011 21:54:09 +0000

Just realized that we have exactly 4 months to go. I still do not have a dress or shoes, let alone any idea of what I want to wear. Guess I better start looking! Before I know it, I will have run out of time. Congrats and peoples dates getting closer. I think I am just now starting to get nervous about being so lazy in the beginning.

Dress not ready for 2nd fitting

Berryluv81 — Sat, 23 Apr 2011 00:18:45 +0000

Ughh, my work day stunk and tomorrow I was supposed to have my 2nd fitting at noon. Then at 6pm the shop owner calls me and asks if she can move my spot. "Sure" I say, my voice not hinting at the little flutters in my stomach. The shop owner goes "Great, the seamstress wasn't done cutting". Just as I was about to question that she hung up. My first fitting was 3 weeks ago. WTH, shouldn't the dress be ready?! Now I'm all worried about tomorrow's fitting and I have to wait all day to see the state of my dress. Every little bump that's come along I've been so relaxed but 2 weeks from the wedding, I find myself just stewing a big pot of worry.

For Sale Items

55pawsh — Fri, 22 Apr 2011 01:42:15 +0000

Hi Ladies!

I have a bunch of stuff for sale from my October wedding. All located on Oahu.
http://cd101010.weebly.com/for-sale.html

Thanks!

suggestions for bachelorette outing in oahu?

kriskrispies — Thu, 21 Apr 2011 19:43:32 +0000

my BMs are organizing my bachelorette, but asked if I had any idea/preference of where we could party. We'll be in about 15 girls, ages 22-39, and we were looking for a place that has a good vibe for a Wednesday night.

I thought of Downtown Honolulu, so if one place is not too exciting we could find another or even bar-hop, but not sure which bar/nightclub would be a good option to start with. I've been to Indigo for dinner before and I remember they had a fun bar area that got crowded at night, but I have the impression it gets busier only on Fri/Sat nights. Another option we heard of is Pearl, I think in Ala Moana, but know nothing about it.

Any suggestions?

One thing I'm excited about is that we will get a limo to take us from the hotel in Waikiki to whichever bar/club so we can start warming up... fun fun!

Random question from a newbie/lurker...

imJacksPGbelly — Thu, 21 Apr 2011 20:01:24 +0000

So, I just kind of lurk on here to glean info.. you gals are great for that. :)

anyway, I post more over on the NEY board b/c BF hasn't popped the "official" ring-included question yet. He's asked, I've said yes, we know we want to get married next summer sometime (probably June/July), and we are most likely going to do a small Hawaii wedding. It's a second wedding for both of us, and we each have a child who would LOVE to go to Hawaii (not to mention being devastated if they found out we went there on a honeymoon and they didn't get to go. lol). So, this way, they can be there with us for part of it.

The problem I'm having is.. I am not going to start planning really (other than daydreaming and brainstorming), until there is an actual ring on my finger. But that may not be until Fall. How difficult would it be to plan a destination wedding in Hawaii in 6-8 months?

I know that one of the major considerations would whether our close loved ones could make it on that short of notice, so I've "whispered it" to a few of my closest friends, and parents, so the idea is in their heads for next summer. And hopefully that will be sufficient for now, since we don't have a date to STD for..

So, back to my main question.. what kind of obstacles might I run into with leaving only 6-8 months to plan a destination wedding in Hawaii?

TIA
-J

Officiant / WC follow up

breaness — Thu, 21 Apr 2011 20:08:39 +0000

I just sent an email to the WC and he said that he'll communicate the change.

Nice and easy :)

Not sure why I built it up to be this big 'thing'

Congrats to everyone coming close their dates...5 months to go for us today!!!

maui2011 — Thu, 21 Apr 2011 17:12:39 +0000

So exciting...can't wait!!! J. :-)

NWR: Heartbroken

breaness — Wed, 20 Apr 2011 15:26:18 +0000

So I'm sure you ladies remember me posting about working at the Super Bowl. It was the most incredible experience of my life and the people I worked with there were amazing. I was one of two freelancers there, the rest of the crew were their employees.

I ABSOLUTELY HATE my FT job... but I can't make a move into a new job now with the wedding flights already booked and a vacation in July booked. If I were to start a new job there's no guarantee that I'd get that vacation time so I need to wait until after to start the job search.

Well, when I was at the Super Bowl, the owner of the production company I was working for kept making comments about wanting me to work for them. When he drove me to the airport he actually said that we should move to Raleigh, NC or Los Angeles, CA (where their offices are located) and if Steve was willing to move they would love to hire me. He then continued to tell me about their benefits.

Daydreaming about working there has been all that's gotten me through these past few months.

They asked me to work the Final Four a couple of months ago and I had to turn it down because I couldn't take any more time off work.

Well, the other guy who was freelancing with them along with me at the Super Bowl went to the Final Four... and he just quit his job and moved to Raleigh to work with them.

I am so heartbroken. This is my absolute dream job, and it was almost real.

Kimmy

TashaK24 — Wed, 20 Apr 2011 18:44:41 +0000

I saw this and totally thought of you! Are all these real tiki drinks?

http://drinks.seriouseats.com/2011/04/tiki-week-9-best-tiki-drinks-recipes-how-to-make-tiki-drinks.html

Man, I want a mai tai...

Today is....

sharkbitemiller — Wed, 20 Apr 2011 21:31:50 +0000

My one year mark until the big day! HOLY WOW!

Oh all the reminders

sld0618 — Wed, 20 Apr 2011 07:07:39 +0000

Forgetting Sarah Marshall is on TV right now. Such a freaking tease to me. 57 more days and I'll be there. Why can't it be sooner!! I'm in a weird stage where I'm like let's go time, bring it on...but yet, I want to cherish the moments of saying Fiance. Reminders are everywhere, I swear! At the tanning salon, there's a palm tree sticker. So I put it on my butt today as a joke to FI, haha. I think I'm going to keep doing it for a little bit! Then I get random emails about Hawaii. Anything about the beach brings me straight to thinking about Hawaii. It's getting to the 100's here and I just want the cool salty breeze! I feel like obsessed or something! Anyone else feeling this way, are we all obsessed?!?

What's your next "event"?

Tanq&Tonic — Mon, 18 Apr 2011 23:15:19 +0000

I'm always motivated by being excited about something else that lies ahead. For us right now, it's the AHR this weekend and our honeymoon after that. I know for many of you planning, it's the wedding. But what else lies ahead that has you excited? They can be major milestones like babies and marriage, or minor like dinner at a great restaurant this Friday...

PIP: Ooh! So I bought a BM dress!

kaesha — Mon, 18 Apr 2011 02:05:14 +0000

I've been so MIA lately (I've been surplussed from my teaching position so life has been ker-azy) that I forgot to post pics of the dress I bought. I'm sooo madly in love with it - the colour especially, because it matches my eyes perfectly.

Anyway, I got this Jenny Yoo number in jewelled green (not the blue shown below)

Did I mention that it has pockets? And it's light and floaty and going to be perfect for our very belated honeymoon to Kauai in August?

It may also be the reason I'm coveting the items on that Kate Spade page...

I need help finding a shirt for FI

kimmykupcakes — Fri, 15 Apr 2011 21:59:33 +0000

FI wants to wear a white long sleeve with embroidery on the front shirt for our ceremony. He got already got sand colored linen pants to wear. Anyone know where I could find these kinds of shirts? I'm not having any luck looking on-line.