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Air Force Engagement

bluebug1726 — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 18:10:20 +0000

My boyfriend and I have been talking about getting married for a while now, but are waiting to get engaged so that we aren't engaged for years. How do I plan a wedding while finishing school and while he is in AFROTC? He doesn't have a whole lot of information about future plans after graduation.

I need...

joiner521 — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 02:41:21 +0000

Hey girls Navy Fiance here. I am looking to meet some new military fiances or wives. When I go to military events with my fiance, the other women do not speak. I speak, wave and try to make chit chat. They stare and go off to their little huddle. WOW. He is 43 and I am 33 so it has nothing to do with my age and being able to click. My fiance notices it too. It would be nice to become friends with other military wives to maybe do some things in the community. Message me if you like.

Don't Know What To Do

seasidebride24 — Wed, 15 Dec 2010 08:50:55 +0000

So, my FI is currently deployed and I am going through hell. I am sick, but the doctors don't know what's wrong with me. It could be really bad, like really really bad, or it could be something relatively minor. But even just the possibility of it being something bad is getting to me. I am in the middle of studying for the last finals I will take for my degree and the only thing I can think about is how bad this could be. Anyway, I get to talk to my FI in a few days and it's been hard enough not telling him what's going on in the emails, but I don't know how I'm going to keep it from him when we talk. I've never been good at hiding things that are bugging me and I just know he'll be able to hear it in my voice when we talk. I really don't want to tell him because he doesn't need to worry about this while he's stuck on a boat and can't do anything about it. I just feel stuck between a rock and a hard place and I need some advice. My family is nearby and they try to be supportive, but it's not the same and they won't let me just freak out while I wait for the next set of test results. Is it really bad to tell him or should I try to hold out until I know more?

Newbie

MirandaLorene — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 21:19:06 +0000

I got engaged the day before Thanksgiving, so I've just begun the wedding planning. My future husband is in the Air Force and currently stationed over a thousand miles away from me.

Anyways, just figured I'd pop in and say "hi" since I'm sure I'll be on here more as the months go on with questions, concerns, and opinions.

-Miranda-

i think im gonna be sick...

daydreamer2188 — Wed, 15 Dec 2010 05:31:48 +0000

FI is gonna be home in less that 24 hours, I havent seen him in almost 6 months (he is stationed in germany). He is lookin SUPER sexy too... hes been doin the p90x workout thingy and well... its workin. I have been planning the wedding to keep me busy while he was gone. I was talking about it earlier today about how everyone has been so worried about me because they thought i was going to be a nervous wreck and very stressed out, but it just felt like another day. Im so excited about him coming home and ive been counting the days HOWEVER reality hit me as i was falling asleep. I am getting married in less than 72 hours, so im finally stressed out, nervous, and i feel sick to my stomach. How could i not think about the wedding? I was so side tracked about him coming home it actually slipped my mind. i decided to work in the morning and im very seriously regretting not requesting it off. My goodness, its gonna take me like 30 to 45 minutes just to shave my legs (i didnt really see the point, no one was gonna be touching my leg anyways) OH and i still need to clean the rest of the house, what the heck was i thinking?! I should have asked for the day off, they would have givin it to me had i asked :(. Looks like ill be pulling an all nighter...

our wedding

mrhbabe00 — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 18:55:09 +0000

ok so were getting married after he gets back in 2012, but im haveing his kid an the only way they will add our child to his insurance is if we get married. Hes wanting to get married b4 he leaves in march... BUt wouldnt that make the big day not such a big day...

change of wedding date?

miriamhaws — Thu, 16 Dec 2010 03:23:48 +0000

My fiancee is deployed and wants to change our tenative wedding date (in 2012) to when he's on leave. I"m ambivalent. I'm only worried about the impact our being married might have post-deployment. I have two kids from a previous marriage (full custody) and he has three from his previous marriage (partial custody). My house-where we'll be living once married-has room for us all but I want to make sure that he still is able to have the space he might need to adjust. I need advice! All of the mliitary wives I know are going through their first deployment as well....

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Getting married on base...

Fionnualasmyth — Thu, 09 Dec 2010 17:08:14 +0000

Hi everyone! This is my first post. My fiancée is in the army, we live in Virginia. We are having a ceremony and the reception at a beautiful historical mansion in NY, where we are both originally from. We are doing the ceremony before the reception at the venue. I don't want to get married inside a church, the venue is gorgeous and I love the idea of everything being in one place.

We plan on marrying before the "Wedding" but I would like it to be recognized by the church without having to have the ceremony at a church. We were thinking maybe getting married on base at the chapel, but not sure if that would be recognized by the Catholic Church? Anyone know? Did that make sense?

Both of us are military

littlesergeant — Wed, 24 Nov 2010 18:37:27 +0000

I'm in the Army and FI just finished his time in the active duty Navy. I feel like friends and family do not understand how hard it is for us to have the huge wedding (catholic) THEY want to have. My schedule and paycheck don't really make that possible...plus FI is disabled (somewhat) so we have a lot going on. I wanted something small and my mother went off and invited a ton of her estranged family members while I was away...I was uspet that she never asked what either of us thought. Now I'm about to be flooded with a million people and I'm sort of stuck with some of that bill....I wish we had just gone to the court like my platoon sergeant had suggested! UGH!

Should we make it legal before the wedding date?

reina72985 — Sat, 13 Nov 2010 21:57:43 +0000

My fiance and I are playing around with the idea of signing the papers before the actually wedding date due to the amount of money we'd save if I wasn't paying for my own health insurance/prescriptions/etc. We'd still have the wedding with ceremony in July and keep that as our actually anniversary but I'll admit I'm worried our July wedding will lose something if it's already legal. Has anyone done this before or have advise??

Opinions on this dress

Vraechel — Sun, 12 Dec 2010 05:17:35 +0000

http://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://www.astrabridal.co.nz/images//Gowns/carrie.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.astrabridal.co.nz/shop/popitem.asp%3Fitemid%3D1073&usg=__WlV4gAOUvwP1PY4Asa95O-esFcQ=&h=522&w=384&sz=58&hl=en&start=24&zoom=1&tbnid=cXkkGn0w7XLEIM:&tbnh=141&tbnw=105&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dmaggie%2Bsottero%2Bcarrie%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26client%3Dsafari%26sa%3DN%26rls%3Den%26biw%3D1280%26bih%3D633%26tbs%3Disch:10%2C519&um=1&itbs=1&iact=hc&vpx=125&vpy=79&dur=1128&hovh=262&hovw=192&tx=136&ty=172&ei=mlQETfDlN8qTnwffuZXICQ&oei=h1QETeaIC4Xgngecs5zoDQ&esq=6&page=2&ndsp=23&ved=1t:429,r:0,s:24&biw=1280&bih=633

I ordered it and now I'm worried it's too much....

Thoughts

Thanks

If the link doesn't come up it's Maggie Soterro Carrie

Question about a certain color

DollBaby052510 — Sun, 21 Nov 2010 21:13:01 +0000

Hey everyone I am Candice and my fiancée is Justin. He is a specialist in the Army. We have been madly in love since the day we met. We are shooting for our wedding to be around March of 2012 but, we still are not completely sure. I know that wearing Class A's aren't the "proper" uniform to wear but, my fiancée and I are contemplating it as of right not. So I really don't want to hunter green and golden yellow as my wedding colors. So my solution is it use their shirt color instead of the jacket color. What color is their shirt? I was thinking it was pistachio or melon but, I am not completely sure. Does anyone know? If so please let me know so I can coordinate my colors.

FI assigned -- He is not happy :(

shan87 — Mon, 06 Dec 2010 00:27:10 +0000

My FI is in the process of graduating Undergraduate Pilot Training for the AF. Assignment night was Friday and he learned he will pilot the KC 135 a refueler aricraft. His top was the C-5 and he is really bummed he didn't get it. The KC 135 was not in his top 10.
I'm having a hard time cheering him up, none of my tricks are working-- he is bummed that he will never ever get to pilot his dream aircraft now. Personally, I'm happy we know where we are headed for first 4 yrs of our marriage and the fact that he is a Pilot in the USAF is enough for me to be proud of :) He is also worried because its an aircraft that has high deployment rate. (For me, the deployment doesn't worry me as much because it comes with the being a Military Spouse)

Anyone else have experience with anything similar? Or at least have advice for ways to cheer him up a bit?

TIA

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Kassyleh — Thu, 02 Dec 2010 20:23:05 +0000

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Save The Dates!

MilitaryFiancee — Sat, 11 Dec 2010 04:15:59 +0000

I will be getting married in July, 2011... I know I need to send out save the dates pretty soon... I can't seem to find a site where they are pretty cheap. I am on a really tight budget and definitely do not want to spen a lot on save the dates... Does anybody know of a good site with cheap ones? Thanks! =]

Umm.. Seriously!?

Luke&Sam625 — Sun, 05 Dec 2010 23:16:34 +0000

My wedding is in 2 weeks. Yay!! but.. One of my bridesmaids has now decided that she wants to bring her boyfriend. It wouldn't be a problem, but we've already given our venue the final head count. She's now saying that if he can't come she doesn't have a ride, but when I offered to pick her up she was like "no, I have work and stuff". Personally, I hate Hate HATE her boyfriend. He's controlling and abusive and I know that him trying to weasel his way into my wedding is just another control tactic for him. FI and I both hate him. He wants to wear his uniform even though FI and I decided that we wanted FI to be the only one there in uniform. He wanted to wear jeans with holes in them!!! Hello!! This is not a back yard bbq!! This is my wedding! in a nice hotel, where everyone else is wearing suits and nice dresses, and this douche bag wants to wear holey jeans!! I asked her before I sent out invites, if she wanted him to come with her, and she said "No, we probably will break up before your wedding anyway". Now, after everything she's saying, I want him there. I don't know what to do!!! Do I say no, He can't come and risk ruining my friendship and being short a bridesmaid? Do I say sure! he can come, there just won't be a plate for him at dinner. Maybe if he were a nicer guy, I would be more willing to work things to have him as a guest, but I just can't stand him. FI says whatever, if she was really a friend she would understand and she wouldn't try to put me in this position. I just don't know how to handle this situation. Help!!

davids bridal

futuremrsabe — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 01:10:42 +0000

since this is the military board i was wondering if anyone knows if davids bridal offers a military discount? i got my dress for free through brides of america (amazing program!) but i still need to get my veil and bridesmaids dresses. i plan on buying everything in full the day i go in for my appointment. but it would be nice to know if i can get a discount on everything else even though i already have my dress. also does anyone know if i can bring in my dress to try on veils with it? i dont know if they would let me or not since i didnt get my dress there.

So excited!

MilitaryFiancee — Sat, 11 Dec 2010 04:49:24 +0000

FH comes home in about 6 days! He is only in A school (so not breaking OPSEC rules haha) But anyways I am getting so nervous! I want to pamper myself before he comes home, like doing my nails, shaving EVERYTHING haha, and all that good fun stuff... I am thinking about buying some lingerie to wear for him, but I am so self conscious about my body and I don't know if I would be able to. But I am wondering if anybody has any ideas on "special" things I could do for him when he comes home?

who pays for the move?

micheleq1702 — Mon, 22 Nov 2010 18:06:34 +0000

Hey ladies,

I've got a question about moving and Pcsing and I don't know who/where to ask.

So FH is stationed in Germany right now, we'll be married on his Christmas leave, he's already informed whoever he needs to about having his orders amended so I'm on them for his PCS in March.

That being said, FH doesn't have anything anywhere except the clothes he's got with him in Germany. So, will the Army pay to move 'our' (my) stuff when he pcs's? or Do I need to make other plans for after he reports and checks in at the new unit? We are technically moving together because he's coming here for pcs leave first before he reports, does that make a difference?

I'm so confused! Help? :)
Thanks ladies!

With the arch of swords

SamiGraceT — Mon, 06 Dec 2010 04:44:52 +0000

Ok, what exactly are the rules? One board I'm on is hell-bent that I would always be welcomed in by the highest ranking officer there always, no changes, but that's the only place I'm finding that, and right now, it's looking like it'd be FFIL who will be highest ranking, tho' he's retired. FFIL, DF and I don't like that idea, but I'm getting confused and flustered.

Any help?

Army Cake topper

lbassett — Fri, 03 Dec 2010 21:31:44 +0000

My FI is in the army and is wearing his uniform for the ceremony. So I would like to find a cake topper that has him in his uniform and me in a wedding dress. Any suggestions of where I can find something like that??

FI wants a list of questions for the recuiter

lr4425 — Sat, 13 Nov 2010 12:38:46 +0000

He wants me to make a list of all the questions I may have that I want to ask. I had a lot in my head at one point, but I never wrote them down. Can yall please help me. I am supposed to ask things that are important to me.

about to deploy

SMS1110 — Tue, 07 Dec 2010 10:47:57 +0000

Hi
I have a question, my fiance will be getting his orders for his deployment on to Afghanistan (ARMY). I know with deployments they can't leave the base (25 miles from it) a month before D -day. Should I move my wedding up a month???? I am so worried he will miss it!

what should i do???

And... just like that everything is a cluster again

shan87 — Tue, 07 Dec 2010 23:47:31 +0000

I was really excited to finally have things a little figured out -- at least FI Aircraft and his next base. I was under the impression that his training would take place at his next base, so was he. Well I/We just learned tonight that its not .. and its 6 mos long so he will be training up to and prob a few weeks after the wedding....

We have to wait until next week when he will receive his report dates to learn more. So we are back at square one --- we may not even be able to keep our date...... we are pretty sure we are okay but I wont feel okay until we get those leave papers approved.
This also reopens the issue of moving ---

I have to remember that God has a plan for us and that it may not be the same as my plan but thats okay. I just need to repeat this to myself a million more times!

Wedding Insurance - who did you use?

rinanmatt — Sat, 04 Dec 2010 18:52:22 +0000

Hi Fellow Knotties,

I've been on and off the boards and have just resumed wedding planning again (forgive the outdated siggy...still trying to fig out how to change it!)

We have finally set a date for September 10 next year and we will be finalizing our venue this weekend. Yay! I figured it was time to start puchasing wedding insurance in the even that Fi has to suddenly get deployed. He was told that his unit will not deplay until 2012 however, many of his friends in his unit have already been deployed with other units.

For those of you who purchased wedding insurance...who did you use? There are so many out there, I'm not quite sure who to go with.

Any and all advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks!

USAF Dress Blues and a fall/winery wedding

ash11224 — Tue, 30 Nov 2010 02:12:02 +0000

Hi there,

I know there are some posts out there about mess dress/dress blues and that at the end of the day, it is up to him. He knows my preference (no dress blues, his just are not that sharp looking IMO and...they're blue!). But I'm just going to assume my FI wants to wear it...mainly because he doesn't want himself or his GM to rent/purchase a tux.

We want a fall wedding at a winery and I had my heart set on a combination of fall-ish browns/greens/oranges. Has anyone had this approximate color combo work with dress blues? Pictures would be much appreciated! I'm afraid that brown dresses will clash with the blues. Should I just plan and ignore what's going on the right side of the alter?

Thanks!

wedding venues

gindon123 — Tue, 07 Dec 2010 22:35:59 +0000

Hi:)
My fiance and I are in the Navy and we are getting married next year. I wanted to let you know if you are looking for a awesome wedding place that works with the military, check out these people because they have really fabulous venues in ny and virginia beach.
www.nyweddingvenues.net

Two Weddings??? HELP!

nikkien9 — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 05:29:27 +0000

My soon to be finace and I are planning on getting married before he deploys in Sept 2011. At first we thought we'd have a small wedding with immediate family members and close friends and then have a big wedding (vow renewal with the reception being a big party) when he comes back from deployment. Its always been my dream to have a big wedding, but I'm wondering if by having a small wedding if the big one will be pushed to the side and just never happen. Is it smart to just go through with the small wedding and have a big one later or should we just have a medium sized wedding that way we don't have to plan two weddings. My Marine is fine with either option so I just don't know what to choose!! Any advice would be appreciated :)

Invitation Wording

MilitaryBride2Be — Wed, 01 Dec 2010 16:51:14 +0000

For those of you whose FI are wearing their uniforms at the wedding how are you wording the invitations? I feel as though it would be proper ettiquette to incude his rank, does that sound right? Also FI and I are hosting if that matters. Any suggestions? I've looked at the examples on the knot and they weren't jumping out at me...

Military Brides — The Knot Community

Air Force Engagement

I need...

Don't Know What To Do

Newbie

i think im gonna be sick...

our wedding

change of wedding date?

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Getting married on base...

Both of us are military

Should we make it legal before the wedding date?

Opinions on this dress

Question about a certain color

FI assigned -- He is not happy :(

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Save The Dates!

Umm.. Seriously!?

davids bridal

So excited!

who pays for the move?

With the arch of swords

Army Cake topper

FI wants a list of questions for the recuiter

about to deploy

And... just like that everything is a cluster again

Wedding Insurance - who did you use?

USAF Dress Blues and a fall/winery wedding

wedding venues

Two Weddings??? HELP!

Invitation Wording

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