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Color for Mother of the Bride/ Groom dresses

Knottie9174117 — Thu, 22 Jan 2015 11:06:37 +0000

Hello All,

I am having an October Wedding and my colors are periwinkle blue and dark brown. I am not sure what colors to suggest to my future mother in law or my mom. I want something that will look great in pictures and champagne has been suggested but my dress is a light gold Sottero and Midgley and I worry they will be too similar in color. Also should they wear similar colors?

Here are links to my bridesmaid dresses and mens tuxes

http://www.actux.com/Tuxedos/Cocoa-Kristoff-by-Savvi-Black-Label-613.aspx

http://www.alfredangelo.com/Collections/Bridesmaids/7290L/?pg=1 In Beyond the Sea

2 MOH? How do I ask them to be in my wedding?

auoneal — Thu, 16 Oct 2014 20:58:15 +0000

I want my sister to be my MOH, but she currently lives in the Netherlands. I have a close friend that is near by that I also want to be my MOH. She is due to have a baby in February 2015 and my wedding is in October 2015. I would love to have her up there with me, she is as close to me as a sister is, but I know she will have a lot going on as well. Plus, it would be nice to have some help locally since my sister will not be in the country until probably a week or so before the wedding. My questions is a 2-part:

1. Do I have conversations with both of them explaining why I want 2 MOH?

2. I was planning on asking all of my attendants formally at our engagement party. Do I need to ask them unofficially before so they don't feel put on the spot if they need to think about it or see if is is something they will have time for?

I am a total planning newbie! Any helpful advice is welcomed. Thanks ladies!

MOH invites a non-mutual friend

akire0307 — Sun, 25 Jan 2015 14:42:06 +0000

So, my MOH lives out of state and will be coming in the Monday before my big day, Saturday. We were talking about having fun together in the city with the other bridesmaids. Meanwhile, I was speaking with another bridesmaid about all of the bridesmaids sharing the cost of a 5 bedroom vacation home. All of my bridesmaids are friends from college except my sister. So, two of my out of state bridesmaids know each other and one does not. So, I was mentioning that the 3 of them could share a space and split the cost. As I spoke with one of my bridesmaids about this option, it comes up that my MOH has invited a non-mutual friend to fly in for the time prior to the wedding.

I sort of addressed the issue by focusing on how busy everyone will be with the wedding the week prior. However, I feel really jealous, like this week is suppose to be about me making special memories with my friends, especially my MOH who is my best friend. However, she invited her other best friend to join in. How do I go about addressing this without sounding like bridezilla?

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anne2018 — Tue, 20 Jan 2015 11:27:15 +0000

I know better than to post online.

Uninterested Mother of the Bride

marlitabandita — Sun, 20 Jul 2014 22:27:47 +0000

My mother is more of a hands off parent and has always let my aunt take over. That's normally fine but I thought for the wedding she would want to be involved more, especially because she told me personally how excited she was to do the whole Mother of the Bride thing. But now she just doesn't want to go the shower (forget planning it!) never helped with the dress or even went to a fitting, hasn't helped with a single vendor or even attended a single wedding related thing. We sat down and talked about budget at the beginning, and I told her that I only wanted her to contribute what she knew she could and we would plan our budget around that, and of course she hasn't even come up with a quarter of what she said she would, which now my fiance is having to work overtime constantly to make up the difference. I've told her I would like her to be more involved and it just doesn't work, in fact the only time she's been here during the engagement (she lives in another city) she was asked repeatedly by me and my family to get off of her cell phone (e-bay) and be involved and she couldn't be bothered! We've already had a lot of issues with this wedding and it would be nice to at least have support from my mom, so what do I do??

Do I have to buy a gift for my future Mother-in-law?

[Deleted User] — Wed, 21 Jan 2015 20:34:53 +0000

I have 9 months until my wedding and my FMIL is not part of the wedding. I don't think she will be coming to the wedding at all. My question is do I still have to buy a gift for her or try to include her in anything if she doesn't show interest in the wedding thus far? She even refuses to talk to my FH which drives me crazy. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks

Bridesmaid dresses help

charlottesmom0626 — Sat, 17 Jan 2015 16:04:09 +0000

Hi ladies-
So originally my BMs and I discussed having them buy or wear a dress they would wear again for the wedding. I didn't want to ask my girls to go to a store to buy matching dresses for this one day that they won't ever wear again.

Then I showed them color swatches, examples, pictures, and shopped online/window shopped with the girls.

Recently they have showed me the dresses they bought. None of them are within the color scheme I suggested, and they're all very different in terms of cut, fabric, etc. I know this is the reason why most people just buy the same dress for all of the girls, or go someplace like David's Bridal to pick out dresses by the same designer.

So I guess my question is what do I do now?
Do I ask the girls to return their dresses (if possible) and try to find new ones that go better together?
Should I pick-out new dresses, get their approval, and then offer to buy them myself?

I'm very worried about their budgets because this wasn't an expense we previously discussed. I assumed if they were buying their own dresses they would stay within their own budgets.

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doglover1992 — Fri, 16 Jan 2015 23:03:23 +0000

New to board. Flower girl gift to bride

mhickey426 — Tue, 13 Jan 2015 15:19:01 +0000

Hello

My cousin is getting married this year. I am a bridesmaid and my daughter is a flower girl (2yrs old). I want to get a nice present from my daughter to give at the shower. I would like it to be something for the wedding or sentimental instead of just something off the registry or as part of my gift. Any ideas? I will check with her mom if it is something for the wedding to make sure she doesn't have it. Thanks in advance

How did you ask your flower girl?

marie2785 — Thu, 16 Oct 2014 18:32:38 +0000

I'm curious how everyone asked their flower girls to be in their wedding. Did everyone ask the girls themselves, or just let it filter down from the kid's parents?

In our case, the flower girl is my FI's 8 year old goddaughter, and the two of them are very close. Her parents already know she'll be in the wedding, can't wait to buy her dress, are so excited, etc (they're just an awesome family all around). BUT her parents haven't told her, so I'd like to formally ask her to be in the wedding so that she knows it's not just my FI, but also me who wants her to have this "VERY important" role. Our friend is hosting an engagement party for us this weekend and she'll be there, so I thought I'd ask her then.I want to make it special somehow though. I am thinking of pulling her aside and giving her a tiny bouquet of flowers and asking her, or something similar.

Thoughts/Ideas? Did any of you do anything special for your flower girls when you asked them?

Can't decide on maid/matron of honor!

Knottie5410184 — Fri, 26 Dec 2014 18:50:40 +0000

Hi everyone, Last April I was in my best friend's wedding and I was not her maid of honor. I want her to be in my wedding but I don't know if I said make her my matron of honor or just a bridesmaid. I have some one in mind to be my maid of honor but I feel like my best friend will be so hurt if I make her just a bridesmaid. Help!!

MOH Help

Dot825 — Sat, 17 Jan 2015 01:37:01 +0000

So my MOH is basically Martha Stewart. She's perfect for the job. Everything was going great (she threw me a beautiful bridal shower) and we were just about to order their dresses when she like flipped out on me (out of now where) and basically said "f**k your wedding, it's stressing me out." Like seriously. Out of now where. I was surprised and asked the other BM's if I was being crazy and overbearing. They all said no. I honestly haven't asked them to do anything except pick out their dresses (literally, I let them pick out whatever they wanted under certain color guidelines) and get back to me.

My MOH later apologized and said she took out some personal life stuff on me, but now I feel so weird. It's almost wedding time and I'm having crazy body/stress issues and I would normally talk to her about it, but I feel like I can't. She was not just my MOH but one of my best friends. I don't really know what to do and I don't want to bring anything up to her for fear of her being stressed by it. Any advice?

Mom not so excited?

Blackbird230 — Tue, 16 Dec 2014 22:13:40 +0000

My FI and I got engaged when FI had a job. FI no longer has a job and we've had to postpone the wedding. From the get go, my mother hasn't been too excited. I don't think it's felt real to her that I'm getting married. I'm the youngest and I'll be 23 in January. My older sister got married about a year and a half ago. I just want to feel like the bride. She tried to duck out of visiting the venue we are looking at about five times. She just hasn't been supportive. I've asked her to go look at dresses with me just the two of us. I just need something to kickstart feeling like a bride and feeling like she's happy I'm getting married. I've had sit downs with her and she claims she's supportive, but I haven't felt the excitement. I'm really hoping she says yes to dress shopping because I just need something.

Anyone else in a similiar situation?

Bridal Party Gifts HELP!!

asiegle87 — Thu, 08 Jan 2015 11:32:07 +0000

I am having a difficult time deciding on gifts for my bridesmaids. I've heard all kinds of ideas from robes, jewelry, sweatpants with their names, tote bags, etc. While I like the idea of jewelry that they could wear for the wedding and after, my MOH is allergic to all jewelry except white gold, which leaves me at an expensive start. While I want to spoil my girls and show them how much I appreciate all their hard work, a pair of earrings and necklace would start me at probably $200 per girl, and I don't want jewelry to be the only thing I get them. I want it to be thoughtful, personal to each girl, and something they would use after the wedding. I do like the robe idea also, but I just don't foresee my girls getting a lot of use out of them. How do people feel about the matching sweatpants? I would put their names on them, not "bridesmaid." I also wanted to do a little tote bag with wedding day "must-have's," flip flops, stuff like that. And then I was thinking maybe a gift card for a mani/pedi or something. And I also wanted to do something a little extra for my MOH for going above and beyond. Any ideas/suggestions would be GREATLY appreciated!!!

MOH, BM, Mother drama

JaimeenJosh — Tue, 30 Dec 2014 03:41:27 +0000

I need to start this by saying that I never thought in a million years I would ever be close to my middle sister. Not to go into too much detail but her father is not my biological father and there is a 10 year age gap between us, that coupled with my resentment towards her father and other things led to us having a very difficult relationship. However fast forward to her turning 17, getting her license, and just wanting to be away from our mom for a night led to her and I bonding. Now she is as close to me as we are to our mother.

So with that in mind I had for quite some time intended to have my best friend as my MOH. Her husband, though he is one my FI's best friends, is not the Best Man. I knew she felt awkward about not being paired with her husband. Then after a conversation with both my sisters I found out that the youngest did not want the MOH title, and would not be hurt or upset if I chose our sister as MOH.

I thought "problem solved", I give my sister, who as I said I had become very close to, a special honor, and my best friend gets to be paired with her husband.

My best friend decided to take this as a demotion and proceeded to remind me every time wedding stuff came up that it was Sarah's (my sister) job now.

Now that the wedding planning is in full swing, deposits have been made, the date it set, suddenly she is changing her tune.

She tells me to my face that she is just a bidesmaid and will do whatever the MOH and my mother tell her to do. But to the rest of the bridal party she (according to them) inserts herself into everything, has tried to actually start planing the shower without talking to the MOH first, and goodness knows what else.

I should also mention, and I apologize for rambling, my mother does not very much care for my best friend. She and I have had some rough spots in the past, but I love her and couldn't imagine not being friends with her.

How do I defuse what I feel is a ticking time bomb. I want my best friend to feel like she gets to participate. But I am so incredibly close to my family that I don't want to take anything away from them.

Mom is "Missing All the Fun"

[Deleted User] — Thu, 04 Dec 2014 17:37:40 +0000

Hi Ladies!

I live in IL and my parents live in AZ. I recently posted on my Facebook wall that I'd found my wedding dress. My mom congratulated me but said she's "missing all the fun."

Any suggestions for how I might be able to include my mom a bit more in the planning process even though she is thousands of miles away? Because of the amount of vacation time she gets, I don't think she'll be able to fly / drive in before the actual wedding. (They were here over the summer though and we were able to at least show them our venue, so they got to see that.)

As info, my fiance and I are paying for everything ourselves.

Thanks!

sister/bridesmaid issue

callyfc4123 — Mon, 29 Dec 2014 15:23:00 +0000

Hi all! I would like some advice on an issue i'm currently experiencing. Sorry in advance if it's slightly long. Here goes....

I'm getting married in Oct. 2015 and have asked 4 girls, one is my sister, to be my BMs and my future step-daughter (7yrs. old) to be my Jr. BM. I made them each a cute little box with gifts and a card to present to them when I asked. When my sister opened the box, I explained to her that I am not having a MOH because I want my suture step daughter to feel just as important as the big girls and have the same 'title' as everyone else. I was worried that this might cause a slight issue, but that's why I explained the situation to my sister, she said she understood...so I thought.

Later that day, we (my, mom, sister and another BM) went shopping for my dress. After we found 'THE ONE' we were walking down the street to get some lunch and I overheard my sister complaining to my mom that, "I guess I'll never get to be a MOH". If there weren't people around, I would have let her have it. But I kept my cool and my mouth remained shut. My mom told her to drop the issue as well.

Now, onto the BM dress issue...I asked each girl their $ constraints and thoughts on dresses. I told them my only requests were color (navy) and the dress needed to have a matching or near identical jr. BM version (again, to make my step-daughter feel the same). I picked a few options, some short, some long, some strapless and some with straps and sent all the BMs an email with the dress options. Everyone said all options are great and whatever everyone was most comfortable in would be the pick. The day before our appointment, my sister sent me texts of dresses she found and liked (no matching Jr.BM dress and even out of her own stated price range!!!) I explained to her that the dress was identical to one I had sent her, didn't have and matching Jr. BM dress, and was even out of price range she stated!! Her response, "oh, I didn't know that a matching Jr. BM dress was a deal breaker." um, hello? I explained this to you via emails and have had a conversation with you regarding wanting my future step-daughter to feel just as important as everyone else, hence the no MOH.

Day of dress shopping, the girls decided on a dress. My one BM (who lives out of state) even agreed over video chat and loved the dress! That day, my sister didn't order the dress because she didn't have the money to do so. Ok, no problem, we have plenty of time to order. Fast forward to Christmas and my out-of-state BM was home and we went to get her sized and ordered. The girl at the dress store informed us that the dress was being discontinued and my sister still hadn't ordered. Her size was no longer available and would have to be ordered larger. I sent her a text with this information (not demanding, but I told her the situation) and again, her response was no money around Christmas and she was going to wait for her income tax to order.

I don't think my sister is going to be able to order this dress and she's been ridiculously rude at every step of this planning process so far. Yes, we've had issues in the past, but she is my sister and I would like her to be part of our day. I've tried being the mature, reasonable one and I think that I've been doing things 'the right way' so far, but please let me know if there is something I'm missing!!! Is it me? Is she just a b*tch? What do I do? If she can't order, should she be out? Help!

Not feeling Like the Bride!

xcassie2coolx — Mon, 08 Dec 2014 02:13:59 +0000

SO lately I haven’t been feeling like the bride! I have a bride mind that is being to overly opinionated about almost everything especially bridesmaids dresses that I have pick out for my wedding day. For some reason she hates shorts dresses and I pick out this pretty lacey short plum that will look good on anyone, she keeps trying to push me away from short dresses but its what want for my wedding. She also giving me a hard time about not going to the appointment to get size and if ti fits I need her to order it right away because that dress is discontinued but she claims she has no money. One of one my other bridesmaids offered to pay for her dress to help her out but she won't take it. I also told her if we do have to order it she would only have to pay half of the dress at that time. She still won't do it. Another reason why I don't feel like the bride is because of my mom and my aunt they both made me change the appointment for the bridesmaids twice because they weren't happy with the times. After I did that they wanted me to change the time again!! I don't think it’s right for my friends and family to make me feel extra stressed and making me change appointments because they are not happy with the times. What do you brides think, am I wrong for not changing the appointment again?

Mom wants my wedding

EmiLinden — Thu, 01 Jan 2015 21:57:22 +0000

My mother and her boyfriend became engaged a few years ago. There have been complications in their wedding planning, and she hasn't been able to plan anything. Even when they marry, it will have to pretty much be quick and on the spot, however no one is actually sure when this will be. So, their options are pretty slim with any planning (can't plan a venue, party, etc.)

My fiance proposed over this past summer, and plan on taking our time with wedding planning (tentative date of November 2016). I eagerly would like her to be apart of the planning process because she adopted me and raised me on her own, of which I am truly grateful. However, every time I discuss information or ideas for the wedding, she consistently replies with "That's exactly what I envisioned for my wedding" and "I would pick that in a heartbeat." Even when we I picked my wedding dress, she said "I was looking for a dress exactly like yours."

I understand that this is her first wedding and marriage, however I find that she is having a hard time differenciating between my wedding and hers. This is causing a big rift between us and I find that I no longer want to share anything with her for fear that she will continue to make those statements. I'm not sure how to say anything to her. I don't think she is doing it out of malice, and means to say that she likes what I am choosing. But I am not sure how to say anything without hurting all parties involved.

Any advise?

FMIL Drama

stepana44 — Thu, 09 Oct 2014 19:44:49 +0000

Back story: My FMIL is a drama queen and very unreliable. Everything has to be about her and every family function is a "poor me" when it comes to her health issues. She has had 2 hip replacements in the past, but when it's nice outside she's always fine to go out on a boat, shopping, etc. Also, you can read my previous FMIL post about how petty and ridiculous she can be. About a month ago, she told me in private that she thinks (not sure why the doctors haven't figured out exactly what is wrong with her yet) she has kidney failure and "is dying, but will try everything to make it to my (Nov 15) wedding." I know there is something wrong with her but she is definitely exaggerating a lot. A few weeks later she told the rest of her family (most of them have quit talking to her for some time) what was going on, a few days before my bridal shower. The day of my bridal shower my FI went to pick her up 4 hours (he knew she'd be super late) before the shower started and she only lives about 45 min from where the shower was, yet she managed to be an hour late to my 3 hour shower. When she finally did arrive she made a huge deal that she was there. Close friends of my Dad's who have never met or heard anything about this lady made comments to my dad about this. I was furious and hurt she would do this. I also feel horrible for my FI because it obviously hurts him the most. My issue is that I am now terrified she will pull a stunt like this for the wedding. My BMs, my mom, and FMIL are getting ready at my parent's house the day of the wedding. FMIL has willingly agreed to this. However, I think she will be late getting there in time for hair/makeup. Worse, what if she is late for the actual wedding? Should I have FI say anything to her or should I just ride it out with the notion that if she is late, too bad, show goes on? I absolutely will not be late to my wedding for her (or anyone) but I don't want to ruin my FI's day because his mom was not there on time. If she would miss the pre-wedding activities she would also blame my mom somehow. She hates my mom but only has met her a few times and my mom always goes out of her way to be nice and include her in wedding details. She always makes shitty comments to ME about MY mom. It makes me totally uncomfortable. By the way, my parents and myself/FI are paying 100% for the reception. FMIL generously gave me X towards the honeymoon. I'm just at my end with all this drama.

1 bridesmaid/1 groomsman?

lindsey61811 — Wed, 03 Dec 2014 19:15:45 +0000

Hello! We just got engaged over the weekend but of course I am already planning like crazy. I have my best friend who is also our daughter's god mother, and I do have other girlfriends but none as close as my best. My fiance on the other hand really only has his cousin who he is close to (and also our daughter's godfather). He has other friends of course but they have all grown apart over the past year. So, I am thinking of just having my best as a maid of honor and his cousin as best man and that's it. Is anyone else having just one bridesmaid/groomsman?

We are planning on a fairly small/simple wedding so I feel like just having one bridesmaid will be plenty in terms of her helping me but I am not sure if we should have more bridal party members.

How to narrow down your wedding party?

Knottie1512423 — Wed, 24 Dec 2014 03:25:44 +0000

I'm really stressing over my wedding party and need some completely objective opinions. I have 3 sisters and have had the same best friend for 15 years - my best friend is going to be my MOH - for one thing my sisters are all younger and have never been in a wedding, and for another 2 of them live in southern Florida (I'm in NJ) and I really don't feel comfortable choosing between my sisters. I also have 2 cousins who I grew up with, very close to and they would be extremely offended if I didn't include them. I also have 3 friends from college who I'm extremely close to, and while they would understand if I chose not to have them in my wedding party, they are the only ones out of all of them who have been in a wedding before. I don't really want 9 bm - my fiancé and I are paying about 50% of the costs ourselves and a huge wedding party would set us way off budget. BUT I don't really want to cut anyone on that list out. My cousins would be a possibility, but I don't think saving a few $$ is worth the headache I'd have the rest of my life over it. Who would you cut? Or should I just suck it up and have all 9??

When to order bridesmaid dresses?

arrrghmatey — Fri, 19 Dec 2014 15:39:47 +0000

Happy Friday, all!

How far in advance should I give my bridesmaids the details of their dresses so that they can order them? I'm picking out a color and a fabric (lots of options to fit their budgets), so they will be picking out their own style of dress to fit their needs/budget/comfort/personality and whatnot. Shoes and accessories are also up to them. I want to give them plenty of time to shop around, or try some on if they want, and to save money if they need to. But I don't want to inform them TOO far in advance for fear of coming off as a busy-body or making them feel like there is any hurry.

Thanks!

2 Pregnant Bridesmaids!

Ameselle — Fri, 28 Nov 2014 21:27:03 +0000

I'll be getting married October 10, 2015. 2 of my 4 bridesmaids just told me (within the last week) that they are pregnant! I'm BEYOND excited for both of them, plus it means I'm going to be an aunt (by marriage). They're due in June and July - that's 3 & 4 months before my wedding. Have any of you had experience with pregnant bridesmaids? Stories, please!!!

Thanks!

How and/or should I un-ask a bridesmaid?

happymrsd2b — Sat, 13 Dec 2014 12:28:20 +0000

This bridesmaid and I used to be really good friends. We do not talk as much now. Plus my fiancé thinks that she uses me, but he is not the kind of person that would ask me to choose. The situation that really got me thinking about un-asking her is this: I told my bridesmaids three weeks in advance that we would be trying on dresses and ordering them on a particular Saturday. Well I contacted everyone a day or two before to make sure it was still okay with them and asked IF we needed to change the date to the following Saturday. The other bridesmaids were fine with the chosen Saturday. This bridesmaid informed me that she no longer had a job (and at this point she thought I had changed the date because I suggested to change the date). Well I told her to come anyways to choose a dress and we could wait and order at a later time. Granted.. that text might have confused her, but she claimed she had made plans for the whole Saturday because she thought I had changed the date. She couldn't even take 30 - hr out of that Saturday to try on a dress. I had the date planned for three weeks AND the shop was in the town where she lives. Also, I texted that Saturday to ask if she was coming... NO REPLY ALL DAY! Then she proceeded to text me the following Monday to ask a favor (without mentioning anything about that Saturday). Like I said, we used to be really good friends. Idk what to do. Thanks!

Why do bridesmaids get fired?

taralee1983 — Sun, 14 Dec 2014 18:56:09 +0000

I've heard of it happening a lot, but I've never heard the reasons.

Has your knot account ever gotten you in trouble?????

ambiguousbride — Thu, 11 Dec 2014 23:58:05 +0000

I know that this question may seem a little silly but has anyone ever had a bridesmaid or their mom or FMIL confront them on a post?

Momzilla FMIL

riva0067 — Tue, 17 Jun 2014 13:27:11 +0000

Hi!

I have been running into repeated issues with my future mother-in-law (FMIL, as I've learned from other boards) and she has become completely obsessed with wedding plans. We have 12 months from now to plan, and she is constantly giving me unsolicited advice on everything. She asked me my "vision" on the bridesmaid dresses, I showed her a picture I liked, and the next day I received an essay long e-mail rant on why she completely disagreed with what I liked; she disagreed with my decor ideas, had problems with our venue choices, etc. She has already basically planned the whole wedding without us, and has started calling and e-mailing vendors without my knowledge of it. While I am extremely grateful for her enthusiasm and sincerely appreciate her help, she has become incredibly overbearing and won't seem to bend or flex on any of my suggestions if they don't align with her vision.

The final straw came when she forwarded me an e-mail conversation she had with a floral vendor she liked. In her initial e-mail, she wrote to the florist: "The bride's family has proposed a limited wedding budget. My husband and I are of a more progressive bend and anticipate sharing in the wedding expenses." First of all, I feel my parents were very generous with their financial offer (considering there are three of us kids they will have to contribute to weddings), and second, I found it incredibly rude of her to go around telling vendors that my family is being stingy. My fiance has already addressed this, and she felt bad that I found out she said that, but I don't think it's ok of her to go around saying this potential vendors.

My fiance has had repeated conversations telling her to back off a little bit and cool down with the extravagant wedding plans, we are more bohemian-type, wanting a relaxed and fun wedding, we are not competing for wedding of the year with Kimye. I am one phone call away from telling her to "wear beige and shut up." What do you suggest I do, without me getting into a huge fight with my FMIL?

Thank you for your suggestions!

Sister with Anxiety/Depression

Carrotcake6 — Sun, 23 Nov 2014 20:21:16 +0000

My sister suffers from anxiety and depression. It can get so bad that she will not leave the house for days. She does not live in the same state as I do and would have to fly in for the wedding. I would love to have her be my made of honor. But with the stress of travel and being around so many people (she's often set off by large crowds), it's impossible to predict how she will feel that day.

I want her to be part of my wedding, and not feel that I'm don't want to have her be in my bridal party because of her anxiety/depression. I would love to have her there, but fear that if she does accept it and thinks she could handle it, she would have an episode the day of and not be able to do it. I've heard of heard of having people give readings at weddings to make sure their a part of it, but I'm not sure if it would offend her to offer her that instead of asking her to be a bridesmaid.

Has anyone else had to deal with this sort of situation? Thanks!

Moved: Stuck in the snow

MairePoppy — Wed, 10 Dec 2014 15:17:48 +0000

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