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Need Extra Material for Bridesmaid Gown!

ckiselak — Mon, 16 Apr 2012 13:10:09 +0000

Hi Everyone,

My wedding is in 41 days. My maid of honor is pregnant and her dress just fits her. Her dress is from Allure Bridesmaids. Does anyone know if the company will sell me extra material since its too late to order a new dress? Has anyone else been in the same situation and has any other suggestions? Thanks!

Mom is driving me CRAZY!!!!!

KKurkosky — Mon, 16 Apr 2012 06:35:13 +0000

We are 68 days out from the wedding and my fianc and I met with my mom to go over what still needs to be done for wedding planning. She has officially freaked me out over all of it and offended my fianc by saying his mom didn't have to put the deposite down on my dad and brother's tux rentals. This was done to help with the expense and now my fianc is upset with her. How do I stay out of the middle and smooth things over without having either one of them flip out on me???

Is this rude - FIL?

rsanna — Wed, 11 Apr 2012 19:21:15 +0000

I am just curious about what everyone else thinks of this. My FI's family isn't really supportive of our wedding, and he would really like them to be. They have told him family is the most important thing yet they have this impression that by getting married he is leaving them. Even though I am not very fond of my in-laws right now (long story), I want to try and keep them updated on what is going on.

We are putting down a deposit tomorrow and officially booking our day! My parents know this and were even nice enough to give us the money for the deposit. (FI and I just moved into an apartment and so we are short on disposable income for a little bit, but we wanted to book our day.) Would it be tacky or rude if he called his mom and told her we put down a deposit and have a set date and that he really hopes he will be able to see her and the rest of his family there?

I'm losing it!!!!

NicoleBreeze2013 — Sun, 15 Apr 2012 06:46:42 +0000

Ok I say sorry now for the vent that is gonna happen... My FH and I moved into a rental last year which was great after living with his parents and sisters older and younger Fast forward to December one week before christmas my FH was laid off at work due to new owners taking over... So we lived off my single income til January when my work made budget cuts and I lost hours, we gave away our rental and his parents welcomed us back with open arms...so I thought Since moving back we are expected to help with the bills I'm fine with that but FFIL keeps asking for more money which we don't have and getting abusive when we say no. We never have any privacy from his sisters and haven't had alone time in months. Every day when his dad gets home from work he gets abusive with FH demanding what has he done around the house my FH attends TAFE and a job seeking service btw his younger sister gets 150 off the parents a week to keep the house clean. I can kinda put up with this but EVERY night my FFIL demands we go out find our own place he doesn't want us anymore... It makes me cry cause I want just me and my FH but we carnt afford it yet I now work two jobs just to pay the bills... I'm sorry for all this but I'm at a loss please help!

Thank You to BM for help- need suggestions

agu101 — Fri, 13 Apr 2012 16:13:23 +0000

I posted this on my local board, but thought this might be a good place to get some input as well.

One of my BMs is designing my wedding invitations for me. I'm going to have them printed and do all the assembly myself, but she's doing a good bulk of the work designing everything. I want to get her something to thank her for doing this and to compensate her time. I was initially thinking of buying her BM dress for her. Does that seem appropriate, or should I get her something else that she can use, like a gift card? To complicate things a little bit, she lives in Europe so I can't exactly get her a gift certificate to a restaurant or spa since I have no idea what is near her home. TIA!

Mother of the Groom - Completely Removed

Dassie snoop — Fri, 06 Apr 2012 08:23:52 +0000

I'm really struggling t ocome to terms with the way my future Mother in law has behaved since our engagement in January. We have enjoyed a good relationship with both our families throughout our relationship and his Mother was always asking excitedly when her son was going to pop the question. We do tend to spend more time with my family on the whole as, being of Italian descent that is just how we are. My family also makes alot more effort. This has been an under current issue with my future MIL, that often recieves snarky comments.

When we got engaged my fiance's parents were out of cell phone signal range in the countryside for the day, so een though we phoned our Mothers first, I could only leave a excited message on MIL's phone. She unfortunately only picked up the message by 7pm that eveining by which stage we were well into celebrations with my family.

Clearly miffed that she didn't have the news earlier, the 'congratulatory' phonecall went something like this: ' Hi, congratulations on the news. I must just warn you that marraige is terribly difficult and you're going to have to work at it everyday'. Wow!! Talk about a mood killer!! Is it really expecting somuch to say 'we're so happy for you both, welcome t othe family, I'm sure you'll make a wonderful wife to my son....'????? Anything positive??

Since then she has not picked up the phone even once to ask if I need any help, if they could have us round for a congratualory dinner, nothing. My family has gone out of their way to share our happiness and excitement.

Just to put this into perspective my fiance is one of 4 brothers (all of whom I get on very well with and adore)...but yes MIL is a mother of 4 boys. My fiance is the oldest...and the first to get married.

I really don't know what to do. I'm so upset, and it just gets more and more awkward the longer this inexplicable silence endures. I don't want to put him in the middle or cause a drama, but really now...this can't be normal???

Any advice would be much appreciated!!

Thanks
_K

I'm losing it!!!!

NicoleBreeze2013 — Sun, 15 Apr 2012 06:45:54 +0000

Planning a bachelorette party!

rjohn185 — Thu, 12 Apr 2012 15:49:32 +0000

I'm the MOH in my cousin's wedding and I've been trying to plan her bachelorette party! She's not really one to go out clubbing or wild and crazy night of drinking so I was wondering if anyone had any ideas! I was thinking of doing dinner and then a night in for lingerie party and a little drinking and desert.

Help?!

I dont know how to delete a post

colleengallagher — Wed, 11 Apr 2012 20:11:05 +0000

Never mind

Am I being Selfish? kind of long

AlaskaDee23 — Wed, 11 Apr 2012 12:28:28 +0000

So I am a complete stress ball right now and need outsiders opinions...
My MOH is currently not speaking to me? I have NO clue what I did wrong, other than not go to a mutual friends little guys 1st birthday party due to my FI and I opening up our business the same day, which mind you the mutual friend completely understood and went on and on about how excited they were for us and they will feel guilty if I wasn't with my FI. Anyway, last week MOH texted me and asked if I was going, when I replied No, hoping to be open for business that day...she replied WOW and that was the last we have spoken :( I have sent emails regarding shoes, texted her to wish her a Happy Easter and nothing! Finally I did text her about shoes and she did reply but it was a short reply....I think what hurts the most is that she has yet to acknowledge our huge accomplishment of opening the business. My FI has been working so unbelievably hard over the past year, building from the ground up to get this place up and running
I know this may sound sill but I have been putting a lot of promotional stuff on Facebook and even at that she hasn't acknowledge anything.
A little background....we don't see each other very often But do live in the same town. Life is crazy, she has a little guy and is preggers again Actually she's due 4 days after my wedding date, which is also frustrating because I have been so supportive about the fact that she could not be at my wedding or extremely miserable and 9 months pregggers because I am truly happy for her, which I have expressed numerous times! I just don't understand...
My FI said to my last night that I appear so stressed about her that I don't even seem excited about the business, which makes him sad :( I thought this was to be a happy time for me....

MOH wedding gift to the bride

nic4024 — Wed, 11 Apr 2012 03:31:58 +0000

as a bridesmaid and MOH, i am wondering, what is appropriate to give as a gift to the bride and groom? is it ok to get a gift and chip in with other bridesmaids since we are spending so much money on dresses, hair/makeup, shoes, bridal shower bachelorette party etc.? or is it expected that as the MOH i should i be giving a large check? im bringing my boyfriend to the wedding so i know i have to consider that as well that the gift is from 2 people. HELP!!

-Nicole

MOH Nightmare- HELP!!

sara102012 — Wed, 11 Apr 2012 03:26:50 +0000

I happen to work (closely) with my MOH, recently things have taken a dive for the worst. Keep in mind my Wedding date is 10-6-12. First, she tells me she is pregnant and is due 10-26-12, although she did ask me if I minded if her and her husband started trying, of course I said I didn't mind because I don't want them to revolve their life decisions around my wedding, but I did say just try not to make it around the wedding if you can. Well now she is and is due 10-26-12, which would make her 9 months pregnant. Not only that now, she has completely changed at work towards me, she is always putting me down to our other coworkers and our boss (although our boss knows better) and being a complete B! It has me stressed to the max. I don't know what to do?!?! Dresses have not been purchased or anything major like that. My fiance says to kick her out, but its not that easy especially since we work together. Any advice? Please HELP!!

Sister/Matron of Honor - Vent

Sscholfield — Tue, 10 Apr 2012 23:59:59 +0000

I'm sorry, but I just need to vent about my sister, who is also my Matron of Honor. Sharing duties with my Maid of Honor, my sister desperately wanted to throw the bacelorette party. First, she sent party invites with the wrong date. Then on the invite she noted that our meeting spot was to be a hotel, where we were supposed to stay, however that hotel was completely booked and she didn't book a room before sending out the invite. So now we have the wrong date and a meeting spot where nobody can stay. To top it off we found out that there's a large event in the town that day and NOTHING is available. No rooms, no restaurant reservations, nothing. So the other bridesmaids and I scrambled to plan something, and now my sister emails me today and said she can't come to the bachelorette party because she can't get off of work. We decided on the date months ago! For those of you who are debating on whether or not to make your sister you Maid/Matron of Honor, don't do it! Maybe if she's your best friend it'll be ok, but my sister and I are not that close and she's given me nothing but a headache! All I can say is thanks goodness for my friends, who always save the day!

"Will you be my Bridesmaid?"

supersportgirl — Tue, 10 Apr 2012 17:27:40 +0000

If anyone is looking for a cute way to "propose" to your bridesmaids you should check out Flour Pot Cookies http://flourpotcookies.com. Mine are all spread out around the country and so I sent them all a cookie with a little note. The cookies are SO cute and the girls absolutely LOVED them!

FMIL Problems

dancerchick801 — Tue, 10 Apr 2012 16:29:54 +0000

So me and my FI have been engaged for only about a month, but we have been together for 5 years now. We won't be getting married until at least 2014 (I have to finish grad school and get a job and such..) but we are in the exploratory stages of wedding planning.

I have dreamed since I was little of having a traditional wedding with all my family and friends. But as I have really began to reserach the cost of a traditional wedding, I have come to realize that it is huge investment, not one that either me or my FI can afford. I have started to reserach different opportunities for weddings and I have fallen in love with the idea of a destination wedding on a beach (really love OBX) with just our parents and grandparents. And besides, a destination wedding is MUCH cheaper than the traditional wedding. I asked my FI what type of wedding he would like and he tells me it is whatever I love he loves.

So the other day, we were talking with his parents about it and I said that I want a destination wedding. His dad doesnt say anything (I really don't think he cares but he will just say whatever makes the FMIL happy) and FMIL gets all defensive. She keeps trying to tell me that distination weddings are so much more exspensive and that its better off being here with all our (really his) family and friends (including his grandma's 7 sibblings and family...). My FSIL stands up for me and is trying to explain to them that a tradiational wedding is more expensive and most of the quotes dont include everything (hall fee, bars, centerpieces ect.). But my FMIL just does not get it.

And now my FI says he wants this big wedding with all his family and friends there when before he said that it was what I want. He keeps saying that he is scared that his family will disown them or hold a grudge against me if his family doesn't get what want. And now, me and my FI can't even talk about this topic without starting a fight.

What I hear is her problem is that she doesn't feel like she is invovled in the planning process (again, this is all exploritory and we wouldnt get married for at least 2 years) and basically, since my FMIL doesnt think that my FSIL will ever get married, she wants our wedding to be that big wedding that she will never get to go to as a parent. And I think that his family members would all get offended if they werent apart of our day whereas my family would understand why we would have a destination wedding (even some are encouraging it).

My family doesnt mind either way and they just want me to be happy with whatever decision I want. I don't want to leave the burden on my parents to pay for a huge wedding that my future in-laws want while they havent stepped up to offer to pay for anything. My parents still have another kid to put through college and this isn't something that I want them to have to deal with finacially. Me and my FI want to help pay but right now, we really can not offer much financailly.

Is there anything to calm this situation? The logic that my future in-laws provide just irritates me. I am the person that I only care that my parents and grandparents are there for me. It's not that I don't care about the rest of my family, but these are the people that have been with me the most.

Selfish Mom

futuremspita — Mon, 09 Apr 2012 02:46:17 +0000

My mother is very self absorbed and planning anything with her is very difficult. We are having a destination wedding. My mother lives out of state which makes things even more challenging. I would really love for her to show some excitement towards our wedding. I had paid for her to come visit back September so that she could help with the beginning wedding planning and get to know her future son in law. She kind of just did her own thing and had no regard to spending time with FI and me. Mom did not even congratulate us on our engagement. I have asked her to look at the different packages that are offered at the resort we are choosing. She keeps telling him she doesn't know what she can afford. I have offered to pay a portion but will not pay for it all. I need to give me a good show of faith that she truly wants to be there. She just seems very uninterested. If anyone has any suggestions of how to make her come around. Or has dealt with difficult mother during their wedding. Thank you for input

shoe drama

kerrilenay — Mon, 09 Apr 2012 23:55:31 +0000

My bridesmaids are wearing knee length dresses, so when we discussed shoes they all decided that the same shoe would look best for pictures. However, since looking at shoes they cannot agree on the same height of shoe...some say they cannot wear over a one inch heel, others want to have 3+ inch shoes. Can I just pick a shoe that I like and tell them to get it? Or should I let them choose something that is comfortable for them, even though they wont be the same? I don't expect them to wear the shoes all night, so I feel like a higher heel wouldn't be a big deal, but I am a girl who loves shoes, no matter the height, so I don't know if I am the best judge.

Clash of the BMs (Long post-sorry!)

KnoxBrideHarris — Thu, 05 Apr 2012 21:50:55 +0000

I have five women in my bridal party. My MOH and and one BM get along great -- they are probably even best friends! One is my sister and one is FI's sister - both live out of town and will mainly show up at the wedding shower, bachelorette party, and the wedding weekend. (Both girls are still in college.) My final BM, however, clashes with everyone! BM #3 has yet to show up for any group events - dress shopping or planning in the last 3 months. When it came to shopping for BM dresses, she didn't want to go with the group because she was worried about her weight -- her dress was ordered in a 10 (the other girls are 6, 10, and 2 - 14s and I'm a 16). My FI now jokes, "Do you think she'll show up at the wedding?" My mom calls her "my runaway bridesmaid." FI and I just moved into our new place last weekend, and are wanting to throw a get-together - sorta a pre-Rehearsal Dinner thing. We emailed everyone asking them what dates worked for them - and surprise! She didn't answer! We narrowed it down to two Saturdays and have asked her to pick the one that works the best -- Her husband comes home from a business trip the Friday morning before the 1st Sat (so that's out) and she's pretty sure she works the other Saturday (until noon--the dinner wouldn't start until 7pm).

Needless to say, I'm hurt and frustrated! I know I need to to talk to her, but I'm not sure how to start! She can be amazingly supportive (when I lost my job and had to cut back on wedding stuff and nix the honeymoon, she offered her timeshare and when my dress got back ordered until the week before the wedding, she offered to have hers altered for me)....but I am sooo over her trashing the other 'maids. How do I start this conversation?

Funny story, Cross-cultural gaps

ElisabethJoanne — Thu, 05 Apr 2012 17:07:27 +0000

My future mother-in-law asked me 3 times if it would be OK to wear black to my wedding. I just repeated, "Wear what you're most comfortable in." "Wear what you like." "I'm sure whatever you select will be great." ["comfortable," even for my formal wedding, was OK in the context, which included discussion of whether guests should buy new clothes. I don't think it implied "casual."]

So imagine my surprise when my fiance told me his mother had bought a white dress for the wedding. I laughed at the irony that the "no black to weddings" rule, now mostly ignored, had somehow gotten through, but not the still-in-effect "only the bride wears white" rule.

Further context: My future in-laws are immigrants who never fully assimilated into American culture. They're from the USSR, which of course suppressed a lot of wedding customs the family might otherwise have. So they're (mostly very kindly) feeling out this whole wedding thing. It's fascinating what things they pick up, like no-black, and some idea I should have a diamond in my wedding band because there isn't a diamond in my engagement ring, and what they don't.

My fiance told his mother to buy a different dress before he told my about the white one. His problem with the white dress was something other than it being white, so, we'll see. I just never in a million years would have guessed I had one of THOSE mothers-in-law who wears white. I've never seen her in white otherwise, not even in pictures, not even for her own wedding.

I'm sure yall get this alot...

LindzMarie19 — Tue, 03 Apr 2012 19:28:43 +0000

my FMIL is completely obcessed with children. Not just her children, but anyone's child. Her best friend's daughter had a baby ( just out of high school) and ever since then has been hounding both of her son's about when their gonna have a babies.

ITS SO ANNOYING!! especially since we've been engaged, which has been just over a year.

I"m 21... Im in nursing school....i love my FI and want kids... NOT now though...

does she really think we're ready? im in school and we have a VERY small apartment? is that even a relevent question? obviously we're not gonna be having kids anytime soon?

any advice, funny stories, some not so rude things to say back? lol

Do I have a right to be upset?

lovetorunyeah — Sun, 08 Apr 2012 14:59:12 +0000

One of my bridesmaids just told me that she isn't sure if she can come to my shower because they have to go to her husbands cousin's high school graduation party out of town on the same day. I was okay with that until a few days later she told me she wouldn't be coming to our reception either (we are having our reception a few weeks after our wedding) because they have a family reunion that same weekend.

I am trying to stay positive and be happy that she will at least be there for the actual wedding, but I am feeling a little hurt that she won't be at the other events, especially since I was in her wedding and did all her wedding stuff. She also had a baby a few months ago and I was the one who threw her a shower and was involved with all her baby stuff.

Do you think I have a right to feel hurt?

I remember why I moved out when I was 17

misshollywood17 — Wed, 04 Apr 2012 22:55:37 +0000

My mom is driving me nuts and making this so much less of a beautiful wedding. I'm genuinely concerned that she is going to not show up and blame me for it or come and isolate herself with the "intent on being out of my way." With my wedding, I realized that mom has gone back to being her controlling self. She took on her own list and made a whole bunch of hideous things that suited her pallet and not mine. So naturally I was upset to find out that she made a bunch of stuff without me knowing and that I was less than pleased with it. She criticized me for not accepting it as a gift even though I didn't like it. She keeps buying things even though she is going to run out of money and will be using my credit card (that I put her name on) in case she runs out of money. And, she is so insecure about my guests that she sends me email messages calling them bad names and then insulting me about how my fiance is unemployed right now and that its not her life so what does she need to care. As you can see thats very contradicting to insult me and then say that its not her life so she doesnt need to care. Now she is threatening me to ask her to not come to my wedding. She reminds me that its MY wedding and how I made it a point that its MINE. But of coarse it is. Then she told my dad that I didnt want him to walk me down the isle, so now he feels bad. I never said that - she suggested a long time ago that I have my brother walk me down the isle because we have a divorced family and it would be awkward to decide which dad should walk me. She continues to isolate my FI mother because my mom "thinks" she doesnt like her and has never met her. She called my FI's dad a A*hole without knowing him. But now she talks about him like they are BFF's because he's the only person in my FI's other side of the family who can make it to the wedding and my mom has sympathy for him because we are a small family too and my mom things that my FI's mom said is going to overrule the wedding. I cant even get her to pick up the phone. She just sends LOOONG email messages that dont make sense and are mean. She wont sit down and talk, and she wont apologize even though I have asked. I asked her to not talk poorly about my guests, but she does it anyway and then says "what do I care, I dont ever have to see these people ever again after this day" without regard to how its going to make me feel. She refuses to apologize to me by responding that "she is an adult and I am her kid and thats the reason why she doesnt need to apologize for anything and why she never has to me in my entire life." She knows that if she doesnt come to my wedding that I will be embarrassed by it and have to explain it to people or that she will make up a story for me that she is sick or something. But if she comes, she will make it so uncomfortable because I know she is isolating herself, or blame me for sticking her in the kitchen the entire night and being the "hired help" as she likes to call herself. I have never once asked her to do anything. She offered to take on way too much stuff and then gets mad when I offer to take it off her plate. She is making me miserable and I dont want her involved at all. I am in contracts now with catering companies that she decided on to pay for, so either way I now depend on her for the food money and I'm obligated. Just one more thing she is throwing over my head. She also plans to call my brother to tell him how horrible I am being. I'm concerned because he also contracted with someone who I will be responsible for paying if I overreact to this situation. I hate this. My mom forced me out when I was 17 year sold (I would have moved out sooner if it was legal) and I have been paying for all my own expenses included field trips, clothing, etc since I was 14 and got my 1st job. She has called me horrible names my entire life even though I was a good kid, and I feel like this is her moment to regain all that control that she lost when I moved out. My MOH doesnt like to talk about it because she feels like its negative discussion and will drag her mood down, and my other bridesmaids had really good lifes and cant relate, or I cant tell them because they are the ones my mom has been talking bad about. I feel bad for my fiance because my mom criticizes him to without him knowing and I dont want to ruin this special day because of my overbearing mother. I dont know what to do you guys. I'm very woried my entire day is going to be ruined because of my mom.

FMIL still pushing + wedding = family reunion?

birdofparadise8 — Tue, 03 Apr 2012 01:49:09 +0000

I posted a few weeks ago about my FMIL trying to be really involved in our wedding plans and our personal life. We asked her to give us a little space and let us plan the wedding our way, and we'll come to her when we need help (but it's such a simple wedding, we don't really need much help). She isn't offering to help pay, just so everyone knows, my family is paying for everything.

When we first got engaged in November, she made a TON of phone calls and told everyone about our engagement and when the wedding would be, and she told us a lot of people expressed interest in coming out for the wedding. When we showed her our guest list, she made a pretty big stink that we left off her husband's cousins (there are 13 of them, we have 119 people and our venues capacity is 120). My FI and I don't even know these couins, and she hasn't really seen them either. Since we made our guest list and showed it to her (back at the end of December) she has brought it up at least once or twice a week, insisting we add them to the list (there isn't anyone else we can cut out though, everyone on the list is super close to us).

We keep telling her no, we keep saying there isn't room, and we'll send announcements to everyone else after the wedding. She believes if we don't invite them we'll hurt their feelings, because they'll hear about other family members that were invited and feel left out (she also keeps saying, back in the day we invited ALL the family to our weddings, back in the day this is just how it was done, this is how a wedding SHOULD be).

I haven't been talking about the wedding around her anymore because I got tired of the suggestions and opinions. My FI already asked numerous times for her to let this one go and she won't. She's very concerned with appearance, and we're worried she extended an invite to them already and now she's nervous they won't get an invitation and they will think less of her (she's almost been begging out of desperation for us to add them). I've been ignoring her requests and comments, should I do or say more here?

Also, I understand that a wedding is the joining of two families and inviting guests does sort of turn your wedding into a family reunion of sorts.... but I'm starting to feel like she thinks this is her family reunion and not our wedding.

Her family reunion is two weeks before our wedding, and she can't afford to go it. Yesterday afternoon she said (in front of me, to her other son), "We can't afford to go to the family reunion, but it's fine because they're all going to be coming here two weeks after it, so we'll still get to have our family reunion this summer. I just wish person X, Y, and Z could come... it would be so good to see them." She hasn't said anything about being happy for us, being excited for our wedding.. we showed her our invitations last night and she just glanced at them and asked if we included her and her husband in the wording.

Every comment she's made regarding "the wedding" has been about her family, seeing her family, which people in her family she feels we should be inviting, how great it will be for everyone to reunite in August (when our wedding is). Am I wrong to feel a little hurt by this? My family is paying for this wedding because they love me and my fiance, and she has made so many demands, and I feel like they are all about her and what she wants, how she wants to be perceived at teh wedding by her family that will be there... I feel like she wants us to invite more of her family that we don't know so the reunion will be bigger.

Has anyone else experienced something like this and felt hurt because of it? or am I just being really stupid here...

Helping Bride-To-Be have the best day...

gigi40 — Wed, 04 Apr 2012 23:13:34 +0000

My closest girlfriend will marry this Saturday the 7th, and I am so honored to be her Maid of Honor!
Saturday morning I will pick up Bride-To-Be and Bridesmaid and have a breakfast together at our favorite spot, pick up flowers, then head to my home where I plan to have her favorite coffee brewed, fruit, cheese, crackers and fruit salad for a mid-day snack, her favorite wine chilled for a girls toast, dresses laid out for each of us. I have collected needle and thread, first aid kit, nail files, and a variety of other odds and ends to keep on hand lest something is needed- much of what I learned here at The Knot. My toast for the reception is ready as well!
I am so excited to be a part of this day and just want to be ready for anything! Any tips from those of you who have been through their ceremonies already to be sure I'm as supportive and prepared as possible are greatly appreciated!

Hostess worries

cocobuny — Fri, 06 Apr 2012 03:25:42 +0000

My wedding colors are ivory, champagne, and tan. I am having hostesses at my wedding to escort guests to there seats, check rsvps, and sign guest books. What color should I have the hostess wear?.please help.

Maid of Honor

Janel & Gerry — Fri, 06 Apr 2012 15:21:28 +0000

How do I deal with a "its all about me" maid of honor? My cousin is recently single with two kids and wants me to pay for her airfair to Vegas. I told her if she is unable to attend due to her money situation we understand. I'm not willing to pay for her for I have other things to worry about. SInce I'm not a selfish soul like her I do worry and its starting to consume me. What to do?

MOVED TO JUNE 2012 BOARD SORRY

lb1212 — Fri, 06 Apr 2012 01:03:25 +0000

*MOVED TO JUNE 2012 BOARD* SORRY

I forgot where I was! =)

Need Advice: Need to tell friend she is not MOH

nicolemartino — Thu, 05 Apr 2012 00:08:58 +0000

I recently got engaged and already everyone is asking a million questions. Most of all one of my best friends has always assumed she would be the MOH. We have been friends since college and I will of course have her in the bridal party. My MOH is a best friend from high school and will forever be my friend despite anything we go through. I considered doing a Matron of Honor and a Maid of Honor but I really want my best friend from highschool by my side to have the responsibility and spotlight. We have shared all our special occasions (ie. I was her MOH, I am the godmother of her son) and we have been planning this for a long time.

In short, how do I tell my friend that she is not the MOH? Do I bite the bullet and just go with both?

Please help - I am so lost.

Bridesmaid drama

londi42 — Wed, 04 Apr 2012 13:30:38 +0000

MOB- What color should I wear/BM wearing plum

Luvtoshag — Wed, 04 Apr 2012 01:56:48 +0000

The BM are wearing plum. As the MOB what color should I wear? My youngest daughter is the junior BM so I want the family pix to look uniform. Bride is wearing ivory.