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fmil vent again

i2012do — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 14:58:56 +0000

I feel like I am always venting about fmil. she is so far away, and does really little. So she shouldnt bother me so much. but its the LITTLE that she does that does bother me.

So I sent an email to FMIL sending her the mock up of our STD's etc. She said they were nice and then i asked her a question on inviting someone in their family. She didnt answer my question and said "its your wedding, do what you want, if you hurt someones feelings in my family, you hurt them". I figured she took what i wrote the wrong way and i wrote back that i was trying to ask her advice so NO on'es feelings were hurt.

Then i got to this part of the email. That really Set me off. When we first got engaged, Fiance wanted to get married in 2011. However, after speaking to his parents they said they thought they'd be financially unable to save up and attend a wedding in 2011 across the country (where we now live and where i am from). So we planned a 2012 wedding- mainly to help them save and give them time to plan. In retrospect it helped us pay off most of the wedding so we arent ending up in debt too and allowed me to become wedding-obsessive diy nutbag that i am.

well int he email she wrote "i don't know how we are going to make it work, but we are going to HAVE to make it work finanically and igure out a way to get out there to attend my son's wedding. I wish money grows on trees, and im not sure if you know this or not, but it doesnt. It is REALLY expensive and we REALLY have to start saving for the wedding if we are even going to be able to make it there. I am sure if your parents had to travel theyd understand and be struggling too. This is so hard"

Here is the thing, we are SO blessed that my parents are paying for 75% of the wedding. So the cost of planning and pying for the wedding is likely almost 10x the cost of their plane tickets. Also, my parents have offered to let them stay, at their home so they don't have to pay for a hotel. So I feel like my parents DO have a financial burden and WE do too. and she is totally not taking that into consideration. I didn't email back.

I wouldn't be so mad, if they didin't drive to vegas this weekend.....

sorry. had to vent

Bridesmaid gift ideas?

sarafoley98 — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 18:21:22 +0000

I'm trying to think of gift ideas for my bridesmaids that will be something they will actually enjoy and not like the boring things I've gotten in the past. I did get all of my girls earrings and necklaces that match their dresses, but honestly, I got them SO CHEAP (less than $10 each... major sale) that I'm not even counting that as part of the gift. Two of my girls are pretty hard to shop for to begin with (They seem to have everything already) so I'd appreciate some fresh ideas. I'm looking to spend about $50 each.

Thanks!

MOH Remorse??

kstirton — Mon, 14 Nov 2011 03:20:00 +0000

So, I made a rash decision and chose my MOH to be someone who I think was much more interested in the title then being my best friend. This is a girl I've known since I was in 8th grade, and whom I've considered a good friend since then. However - I've come to some harsh realizations with a few things, especially after asking her to be MOH about a month ago.

It's a big no-no to change this decision isn't it? I guess my DF has had some say in this in that he just doesn't really understand why I chose to ask her. He's pointed out a few things that were hard for me to come to terms with. Such as, I was in her wedding as a guest book attendant, how the most I had heard from her was when I used to do her hair for free, and that she wants me to come over when it seems she has something to paint, or needs help moving her furniture around. I guess in the beginning I asked her b/c I knew that she'd be great at planning, and would be able to give me a bridal shower and bachelorette party that I'd be proud of. However ... now with her newly developed singledom (after obsessing over her own wedding) and now is seperated a year later ... it seems as if she has all the time in the world to go out with her new fun, partying friends, then she does to get together with me. She hasn't really asked how the planning is going, or how our engagement shoot was, and I've had to initiate a text/phone call since asking.

Anyone else regretted? I still have 10 months before my wedding too!! Advice??

"Flower Girl" or "Junior Bridesmaid"

Invidosa — Mon, 14 Nov 2011 18:26:07 +0000

I'm wondering what you guys think,

I have a rather mature neice who will be 11 at the time of our wedding and I want her to be included in the ceremony, but I'm not sure if we should have her as a junior bridesmaid (for which she seems a little young) or a flower girl (for which she seems a little old, and I know she will be grumpy over) and drop leaves instead of flower petals since we are having an outdoor fall wedding.

What do you think, how old is too old for a flower girl? How young is too young for a jr. bridesmaid?

To back out or not-Long

Stina51286 — Mon, 14 Nov 2011 14:06:06 +0000

My sister is getting married in Aug 2012. A wk ago there was an altercation between her FI and myself ,him drunk, me not drunk, in which I told him I did not want to discuss whatever he was trying to yell at me for. He ended up getting so mad and storming away leaving my sister behind which in return got her upset, crying, and basically saying she wasn't happy, she resents one of her kids bc if she never had him she wouldn't be with him but basically getting married for the wrong reasons....

Well a week later (this past fri) I get a nice long letter from my father,who I have not talked to in 4 months, basically saying all this stuff that never happened, that I will be divorced from FI bc he doesn't want kids,well either do I, and that I forced our engagement even though he had my ring picked out and paid for before anyone even knew but didn't propose until 8 months after the fact and in this time my sister got engaged. My dad goes on to say all these nasty things based on what my sister and her FI told him, not asking me if any of this is true. Bc of them and the crap they pulled my dad has "removed me from being his daughter".

Based on my sisters words of not being happy and the BS she pulled lying to my father, do I wait to see if she "kicks" me out of her wedding or remove myself, or not do anything? I have been telling my mom I really do not want to be her MOH anymore based on her bridezilla ways the last few months and now this. I know this is going to cause some issues with my sister and myself, but the things she lied to my father about have really pushed me over the edge. I cant trust her, I try to help and give her ideas for her wedding and she turns around acting like all I care about is my wedding, and an example of this is when my mom and I went out shopping she didn't know I was looking for things for her and her bridal shower just for ideas and she flipped on me yelling at me thinking I was shopping for mine. And her FI is a huge a$$, puts her down, treats her like crap, and is basically going to get her into some legal trouble with some of the things he does.

Help!

my mom

gouc23 — Mon, 07 Nov 2011 18:56:52 +0000

Okay i need some help or advise or something. I love my mother to death. However, she is pretty much blowing me off anytime i have questions about relatives or guest lists or anything like that. She also blows me off whenever i want her to come do wedding things with me ie( my dress shopping) and When i do get her to come she stays for a whopping 1/2 hour or less because she is always so busy. I know its not her responsibilty to do everything with me but i feel like she quite frankly doesn't give a darn about me unless she wants something. ie( watch my brother so she can go to the bar). How do i deal with this. Do i just say screw it and not ask her to participate in my wedding or do i continue to try. I'm honestly to the point where i don't even want her at my wedding because she is being such a Beotch. someone please help. :(

To pick or not to pick a bridesmaid (a little long sorry)

KMHixon — Sun, 13 Nov 2011 04:40:02 +0000

I've had this friend since I was in middle school. We were always very close and talked about our weddings many times. I always thought she would be standing right next to me when I got married. In April she and I got in a huge fight and didn't talk for at least a month. At that time she claimed that my then boyfriend (now fiance) had "changed me for the worse". No one else had said that. We sort of talked on and off throughout June, but nothing was fixed. I told her that I knew there was a purposal on the way and she said, "Cool". My fiance and I were engaged in July and rather than picking who I would call after my mom I sent a mas text out. She seemed excited, but said later that she always thought I would call and tell her that stuff. About a month after we were engaged she came to me with some fears about her health and we began talking again. I still feel like things aren't totally fixed with us, but are getting better. I have picked out 3 of my 4 bridesmaids and I sort of want her to be my forth. At the same time I have this friend at work who I'm getting really close to and has talked to me about the wedding and my fiance and I a lot. I really feel like my other 3 bridesmaids will contunue being friends with me long after my wedding, but I'm not sure which girl to pick for my 4th. Any advice? Should I just push through the drama and stick with the girl who has always been with me, or the one who is starting to be there?

MIL making me crazier (vent) kinda long

jmconley08 — Sun, 13 Nov 2011 19:42:08 +0000

So my FMIL and I have always gotten along fine. We're not super close or anything but shes nice. Since we've been wedding planning she's driving me a little crazier than I already am.

First it was the hotel. She wanted us to stay in the same hotel with her and her family (the wedding is not at a hotel). I/we (mostly me, I'll be honest) didn't really want to because of privacy and the fact that I just wanted to relax the night before after we're done the RD. She was all upset about this because she wanted to hang out the night before and see her son in the morning. As far as I know he plans on golfing and then getting ready with the guys. So we haven't booked a hotel yet but will soon.

Now it's the rehearsal dinner which she generously offered to pay for with FFIL. Great. I picked a place thats in the budget and nice with amazing food. She isn't sure if we can have it there now because the menu will change for summer and she need's to have steak on it for FFIL. Ok, usually restaurant's have some steak option on there and this one does for the winter menu. She say's since they are paying for it there should be something they like to eat which yes, I do understand and agree but it just annoys me since my mom is paying for the entire reception (170ish ppl) and hasn't said a word about our food or anything else.

Now comes the issue of having no young kids there. I have an 11 year old brother who will be going. FI has a 2 year old niece. FMIL says she has to go. I say she doesn't. I want it to be adults/older kids and FI says he doesn't really care either way. My MOH with all have a 6 month old who will not be invited. She knows this and respects it too. I also just found out I did not go to my dad's wedding (he married when I was 3) and I am not hurt at all haha.

What do you think about this stuff? Some of them are just little but it's really annoying that my mom is being so supportive and his is not and kind of making it about her family. I am stressed enough about planning (which is fun but hard since we're doing it from 1500 miles away). Also, we are in the process of trying to move and find new jobs and FILs know this.

Did you guys have similar experiences and how did they pan out in the end? Thanks for any input :)

One of my bridesmaids just started dating one of my ex's...

mandctaft — Sun, 13 Nov 2011 06:48:58 +0000

Now, aside from the "friend rule" about not dating each others ex's, and her initially saying she wasn't interested in dating him and then going behind my back and doing it anyway, I'm faced with a problem.

When I asked her to be a bridesmaid in my wedding, she was single. She asked if she was going to be allowed to bring a date. I told her I didn't mind if she brought someone, because everyone else in my wedding party will have a date. That was months ago. Now I know the wedding is still a few months away, but I told her before they started dating (jokingly) that he wasn't going to be invited to the wedding. Because she "wasn't" interested, I thought it was just a laugh.

Now that they really are dating, she's mad that I am sticking to that. She said because I told her she could bring a date, I shouldn't take that back. It's not like this is some John Doe off the street. This is my EX! It's not even one I tried to stay friends with. When we were together, if we were in public, he'd pretend we were friends, and then he was cheating on me in OUR bed. I can't stand him.

I'm pissed at her for going behind my back about it and I'm pissed that she expects me to forgive him so easily. I hope it won't even be an issue by then, but what should I do. I really don't want to lose her as a friend, but it's mine and my fiance's day. My family and I would be extremely unhappy and uncomfortable with him there. What should I do?

Bachelorette Party!!!

chesslover — Sun, 13 Nov 2011 15:17:40 +0000

My MOH is my sister and she lives in Mexico actually all my friends and family, My FI family lives here. My Fiances Sister wants to plan my bachelorette party in NYC, in which my sister and friends will not be here. I am looking for some ideas for a bachelorette party to do with my sister and friends when they get here!

To pick or not to pick a bridesmaid (a little long sorry)

KMHixon — Sun, 13 Nov 2011 04:40:41 +0000

Football vs. my wedding! Seriously?! Kinda long sorry.

volleygurl0306 — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 15:31:16 +0000

So my FI and I had to move our wedding date due to financial issues (his parents are giving us some money but the rest is on us and due to a few work-related moves our savings account is dismal). We pushed it as far back as our venue would allow us to next September. They didn't give us a lot of flexibility AND my older brother is getting married in July so wanted to avoid being too close to his. So we picked our new date and are excited about it. Well, my younger brother plays football for an Ivy League school. I use "plays" loosely because while he was king at his high school he is the second string at college and plays one series every other game. My dad is totally disillusioned about his little "star" athlete. So the fact that my wedding now falls on a game day, my dad says he's not going to influence my brother either way because he'll be grown (21 yr old) and can decide to miss the wedding or the game on his own. And, my dad says I should understand the tough spot I'm putting my brother in IF he's a starter. Uhhh he has played football since he was 5 yr old....this one game is seriously more important than my wedding. I also feel like my dad not sticking up for my wedding IS an influence because he's condoning my brother to miss it. I'm normally not a selfish bridezilla. I've been laid back thru this whole thing but this has me devastated. I think talking to my brother will help because he wouldn't want to upset me (or my mom who is besides herself over this one and thinks its ridiculous to miss my wedding) but I don't want my dad in his other ear saying its ok. I feel totally betrayed/abandoned by my dad. What should I do?

Family issues (deleted post)

dixiefeltus — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 00:42:53 +0000

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Mom & Stepmom Hair and Makeup

EllieBee79 — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 21:28:09 +0000

I am trying to figure out if I should invite my mom and stepmom to have their hair done with the bridesmaids and myself.

With my mom, the only question I have is whether the standard is to have your mom's hair done with the bridesmaids? I've been in a few weddings and I don't recall the mothers of the brides having their hair done with us.

With my stepmom, however, my questions are completely different: I get along well with her but have only seen her 2-3 times in the last 10-15 years. She's buying a special dress for the occasion and will be seated with the parents. I'm also planning on incorporating her into at least some of the pictures. On the one hand I want my stepmom to feel included but on the other hand, I want to be sure my mom feels extra special.

I'd ask my mom what she wants but she'll tell me she wants whatever I want.

Any advice?
EllieB

Bridesmaid Dress..under 100?

slpankuch — Mon, 07 Nov 2011 17:31:19 +0000

I am looking for a black bridesmaid dress for under $100. My MOH prefers to stay in the $50-75 range but will go to $100 if she absoultely has to.

I am willing to buy online because we have had little to no luck at malls or department stores. She wants something with straps, cocktail like but prefer down to the knee. I am putting a red sash around the waist of the dress so it has to be able to have that tied around it.

Does anyone know of any good online websites or stores to check out? Or have you seen a black dress that fits this description? Please share!

Thanks!!

BM Dresses

gouc23 — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 20:34:33 +0000

I have decided to let my bridesmaids pick the dress they want to wear for the wedding (same material, length color etc.) and i have gotten a few answers from my girls back and i'm not like what i am seeing. We are having a casual barn wedding and some of my girls want to wear these blinged out dresses. Since i told them they could choose, am i aloud to say no to it if it is too over the top? i don't like to be difficult but i really am not a fan of be-jeweled BM dresses especially when i am weraring a simple dress (pretty much no bling on it) Help!!!

How to honor parents at wedding?

JMot7 — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 22:12:43 +0000

Hello, ladies!

My folks are doing/have done a lot for FI and I throughout this whole wedding process and I would like to honor them somehow at the wedding itself. The only thing I could think of would be a video montage but my venue wouldn't be able to do that.
Any suggestions?

Thank you!

nieces, nephews & hurt feelings

jbouchard10132012 — Thu, 10 Nov 2011 15:20:21 +0000

I am in need of dire advice. I thought I had my bridesmaids and flower girl chosen, however after a very stressful conversation with my oldest sister I'm majorly stressing out....
What i want to do is have my 3 sisters and 3 sister-in-laws be my bridesmaids with my "godchild" as my flower girl- Godchild is in parenthesis because she has not been baptized, my sister in law is jewish and my brother is catholic... (She will be 4 at my wedding currently 2). I have two other nieces, that are currently 10 and 8 so they will be 12 and 10.. (in one family) , and two other nephews that are 3 months and 2 so they will be 2 and 4 (in one family) and i have one niece or nephew on the way with 3 sisters "trying"... My older sister was basically yelling at me telling me that I have to have all the kids in the wedding because they will be too hurt if just my godchild is. and that she isn't even my real godchild so why should I treat her differently...
I don't want to have a 20 person bridal party... I want to just have 1 flower girl and thats it What do you guys think? Am I being cruel?

Momzilla in the making?

sarahjohnson08 — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 23:49:40 +0000

Dont get my wrong, I love my mother very much but she is driving me insane. I recently got engaged (less than a month ago) and my finance and I alreday decided we would be waiting about 2 years until we get married in order to save (we are paying). We also agreed that we would wait to begin planning for at least a month after we got engaged. All of these feelings and plans were reiterated to my mother and yet, she feels the need to go and look at wedding venues without me or my finance? I am beyond pissed because I feel like she is not listening to me or my finances wishes. How can i deal with this situation in a way that will not allow this to happen for the next 20 months of our engagement?

Anyone Elses Mom being a PITA

broomstick88 — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 21:54:32 +0000

my mom is being a total pain in the a$$. some of you know the great dress debocale we had over the weekend (I found a dress shopping with my dad and my mom is being aweful about it) . she has declared that "it's your wedding, do whatever you want" but she hasn't spoken to me since we went dress shopping. i did order the dress and now she's ignoring my existence.

anyone elses mom being a pouty little snot when they don't get their way about your big day. i need to hear other people's awsome WTF stories for some support.

BM Gift

JaimeD727 — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 00:48:12 +0000

What is the typical amount to spend on the gift for the bridesmaids? I really want to buy them jewelry to wear with the dress. I found something I love, but not sure if it's too pricey. I only have 4 bridesmaid's so I feel like I can spend a little more.

Keeping out the bad relatives? (prolly long)

kibskix — Mon, 07 Nov 2011 05:57:51 +0000

So I just got engaged a few weeks ago (wee!)
FI and I have been dating about 3 years. I get along with his family for the most part.
He's an only child, only grandchild, etc, and his mom is very protective in that only-child way, and i'm anticipating and willing to accomidate how much of his extended family may want to attend. It's early in the process, but after reading a LOT of FMIL drama on here, I think I may come out lucky on that.

Naw, I think the trouble's going to be with MY family.

Both my (divorced and re-married) parents are GREAT actually. The trouble comes from 1. My brother, and 2. my aunt, uncle, and their two kids (about my age). My brother... how do I put this... y'know how older brothers can sometimes be just needlessly cruel and abusive and bratty as kids, and pick on you and start trouble and just be an all around %$#%$#^? Well my brother is almost 30 and still in FULL @#$%#!#$ mode. I don't know how to describe it other than he's an incredible narcissistic, rude, insulting person who thinks his worth is MILES above anyone else. He's simply always been that way. There's no rhyme or reason to it, and as a result we do not interact much at all.
Not even a week ago I made a comment on my FB page that I was looking forward to my new sibling (my step-mom and dads) being born so I could be an older sibling and torment them so i'd get to know what it was like. TOTALLY in a joking, playful manner. My brother saw it, and left (I KID YOU NOT) a 12 paragraph long diatribe on every tiny little thing, real and imagined, that I ever did to him as a child (Did I mention he's in law school and likes to do this a lot? like, starting arguements where there are none). I say imagined because he said a bunch of things I supposedly did to him that were flat out lies.

Mostly, I was mad because our family, grandparents, and MY clients (i'm an LMT) see that page, and it was childish and disrespectful and downright BULLS$#% for someone who's almost 30 who has a wife, kid, and one on the way. So I deleted it, wrote him a private message telling him my page doubles as a professional page my clients see, and if he has a problem to message or call me privately, and not try to be a law school attention whore (not what I said, exactly) in public, and blocked him completely. As a side note, he's actually done the same thing to my mother AND grandmother at some point. So I just blocked him and forgot about it, because sadly it's nothing new.

A few days after, my FI gets a message on HIS page from my brother, about how he needs to look into my past and make sure I have everything "taken care of with *ex-husbands name* before he gets stuck with me"

WHAT. THE. %#@^.

Backstory, i'm 26, and was briefly married when I was 19 in a young and dumb phase. Its been "taken care of" for 6 years, and of course FI knows about it.
At this point, I don't want anything to do with him. I've had very little contact with him as it is, but now I don't want to see him at all. ever.
But here's where it gets hairy. I like his wife, we were friends before they started dating, and my nephew is awesome, as little as I see him. I spoke to my dad about this and he says he knows what i'm talking about, but that he keeps the peace because he wants a relationship with his grandkids.

My gut tells me that I want NOTHING to do with someone like my brother. Our relationship has been crap ever since I was born, so I don't really feel like i'm losing anything. Whats bothering me is that if I -don't- invite him, all I will get at my wedding is "Where's your brother?" "omg, you didnt invite your own BROTHER??" etc etc.
Same goes for my aunt/uncle/cousin situation. Long story short, half of my extended family on my dad's side is one religion, and half isn't and they all live in the same small town, literally down the same street. My grandmother who is very religious, is just the sweetest, perfect "granma" type lady in the whole world. My aunt/uncle and his family, are the opposite. They're judgemental, they spread rumors and talk trash and cause drama, to the point that I've only been in their presence when I accidently see them in a store or happen to be visiting my grandmother when they are around and its been that way for at least 8 years. Because I am not their religion, they tell everyone I am a bad influence and that my mom and dad were horrible parent's etc etc. I'd be fine with ignoring them if they don't like me, but its the passive aggressive gossiping even when i'm minding my own business that pisses me off. So by leaving them out of the wedding (honestly I have NO relationship with these people), I can only imagine the gossipy crap that would probably ensue.

Like with the situation with my brother, my gut tells me I do not want to have these people talking crap in the back of my mind on my wedding day. Its stressful enough, and i'm on a mission to make this as stress free a process as possible. But at the same time i'm worrying about the backlash with all these relatives in the same town, and how i'm supposed to deal with my brother when I don't have any problem with his wife and wouldn't mind HER being there, but I can't just invite her without coming off like i'm being spiteful or something, y'know?

Blah. sorry this is so long. :(

Shower Invites

christamarie713 — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 03:23:47 +0000

We are having a very small, intimate wedding, just family. Can we invite people who aren't invited to the wedding to the shower. The bride still wants to hang with them and celebrate with them, or does that seem to be bad manners?

Pippa Replica BM Dress

PaoPao820 — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 15:28:54 +0000

Hey Ladies,

I need a bit of help... I am looking for a replica of the Pippa Middleton BM dress she wore to the royal wedding, the white one (although I want it in blue). I know that Jim Hjelm does a version of it but I'm wondering if there are any other designers or other places you might have seen it. Thanks for the help ladies!!!

step daughter title

christinavita — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 04:12:06 +0000

my future step daughter is 7 and i would like her to have a special title for our wedding... we have flower girls, junior bridesmaids, and my sister is my matron of honor... im trying to think of a title that is just for her that makes it special for her and makes her stand out in her own way... any ideas?

Shower/ bridesmaid rant

TallyKyle — Mon, 07 Nov 2011 04:21:42 +0000

Hey all,
Have any of you had a shower and none of your bridesmaids showed up? My dad's side is throwing me one next saturday and oonly one of my bridesmaids will be there. Plus, my FI's mom and step-mom both won't be there. I'll be honest, I'm kind of hurt.
On a related note, I have two incredibly shy maids. One is a jr, so I understand her, but my other one refuses to come to my showers b/c she doesn't know anyone. She has four kids (one's a newborn) so I understand it's hard to get out of the house, but I still can't help but feel a little hurt.
I'm not looking for anyone to be snarky back, just looking for similar stories,

Advice? (Long...)

ramisenh — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 00:34:53 +0000

I'm in a little bit of a pickle and need some advice.

One of my bridesmaids is a pledge sister from my college sorority. We were very close while we were both active, drifted apart for a bit, but then got close again about a year and a half ago when she returned to finish school. I asked her to be a bridesmaid and everything has been great.

Things get a little complicated by the fact that I'm also her boss for two different jobs. We've always said work is work and so any issues stay at work. This last semester she started having some attitude issues at work and eventually it escalated to a point where she quit and if she hadn't, she would have been fired. It really disappointed me to see how she handled the situation because I have stuck up for her all along and I feel like I got slapped in the face.

We haven't talked in over 3 weeks (since the incident at work). I know it's rude to kick out a bridesmaid so I don't want to do that. But how do I figure out if she is going to still be part of our wedding? Part of the complication is she is planning on joining the military after graduation so she may not be around for the wedding next summer but I don't think that thought has crossed her mind.

One thought I had was to email the BMs about their dresses (I've finally made up my mind!) and wait to see what her response is. Any other ideas?

PLEASE HELP!

NICOLE CROMER — Mon, 07 Nov 2011 03:29:20 +0000

Hi ladies,

I am looking for a bridesmaids dress:

Alfred Angelo #7123 in Navy. I am looking for a size 14 or larger....

The trick is...

I need it in LESS THAN TWO WEEKS! If any of you had this dress for your wedding or were a bridesmaid that wore this dress and would be willing to sell it to me I would GREATLY appreciate it!

I know this seems impossible, but I figured it's worth a shot! Thanks so much! Feel free to email me if you would like: nicole.elias1@gmail.com

PLEASE HELP!

NICOLE CROMER — Mon, 07 Nov 2011 03:28:37 +0000

Hi ladies,

I am looking for a bridesmaids dress:

Alfred Angelo #7123 in Navy. I am looking for a size 14 or larger....

The trick is...

I need it in LESS THAN TWO WEEKS! If any of you had this dress for your wedding or were a bridesmaid that wore this dress and would be willing to sell it to me I would GREATLY appreciate it!

http://www.alfredangelo.com/collections/productdisplay.aspx?productID=deb2ff02-d430-4965-8ca7-2011506cf3ce&categoryID=772f03c9-de43-4942-bfa0-da77e21ebd65&pg=0&colorId1=

I know this seems impossible, but I figured it's worth a shot! Thanks so much! Feel free to email me if you would like: nicole.elias1@gmail.com

Positive words of advice?

TLD12 — Sun, 06 Nov 2011 16:56:19 +0000

A friend of 27 years (not the greatest friendship, but still) decided to remove herself from not only the wedding, but from our friendship. I had been thinking of removing her myself, but had wanted to talk about things first. She "dumped" me last week, with a text message. I let things cool down, and when I went to her house to try and talk things out, and maybe end things on a better note, but she wouldn't even let me in. She said she had nothing to say to me, and she didn't care what I had to say.

Im sad a 27 year friendship has come to an end, even tho it had become toxic, and Im pissed she wouldnt talk about it. A lot of mutual friends seem to think she is jealsous, which I hate thinking because it sounds so immature. But maybe?

I always pictured her in my wedding party, and even MOH when we were kids. Im mostly ok with us not being friends, its something that will take time to get used too. But are there any positive words of advice as to how to let this go, and not always think about it during my upcoming festivites and wedding?

Thanks