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AW: Wedding Rings

phira — Sat, 13 Sep 2014 03:16:45 +0000

J was having a horrible week at work, so I ended up going with him to pick up the rings (after I went bra shopping). We are SUPER in love with the rings!

Mine is white gold, made to match the band of my engagement ring and to sit flush against it. What's nice is that the wave in the band is very minimal and almost not noticeable. If I want to wear the band without the engagement ring, I can wear it as is, or I can just twist it around to look straight.

J, whose fashion sense is ... ehhh, decided that he wanted to get a rose gold ring. I was super skeptical, as was the jeweler. But ladies, lemme tell you: it looks phenomenal on him. I love his ring more than I love mine, no joke.

1: My ring!

2: J's ring

3: Just my band, with the wave in front

4: Band with the wave hidden

5: Band and engagement ring!

I'm the least photogenic person EVER, and clearly my hands are no exception. The rings fit very nicely and look wonderful in person, but for some reason, they look super ridiculous and snug in the photos.

Thursday Accountability

Peaseblossom55 — Thu, 18 Sep 2014 13:02:47 +0000

B- hot chocolate, yogurt with almonds

L-minestrone soup

S-apple

D- homemade pizza

S-trail mix and may be some wine

E- abs work out and Just Dance depending how sore I am from dance classes yesterday

One day early - happy almost wedding day @ollie08!!!!!!!

Blue & White — Fri, 12 Sep 2014 10:55:01 +0000

Dearest Ollie, I hope you have the best wedding day ever!! You're getting married the day after my bro and on the same day as @LaPeanut1018‌ 'a bachelorette party so I just know your wedding will be beautiful and super fun if anything :) your girls and you and q will always remember this great day!! I am SO excited for you!!!!! Blue & white Ppppps - post honeymoon date at HHN on Nov 1st?! Please circle yes or no!

OLW

Blue & White — Wed, 17 Sep 2014 11:10:35 +0000

@swazzle, I'm so psyched to read about your cat sanctuary progress!!! The home inspection will probably come back terrible but we are using ours as a starting point for our "repairs needed" list. Be sure to check for fleas (ugh) And ugh about the eagles but I will get over it if the colts win ever this season :) -never on NEY cause of work MIL Don't drive me crazy this weekend :) let's have fun -DIL Algebra skills, Please return yourselves to my students. -Kthx

Wednesday Accountability

Swazzle — Wed, 17 Sep 2014 12:03:12 +0000

I did great yesterday! I stuck to my plan, stayed within my calories, finally went grocery shopping, and took the pup for a nice long walk which is the most active I've been in months.

On another note, I got on the scale this morning for the first time since June and let's just say it was not good.

B: 2 hard-boiled eggs, 4 slices of turkey, black coffee

S: Apple with PB

L: Leftover ST Harissa Turkey Meatloaf (YUM!), cucumber and tomato salad

S: Banana

ST Jalapeno Popper Stuffed Chicken, steamed mixed veggies

E: Long walk with Lucille

W: 3 liters

Tuesday Accountability!!

BreMR — Tue, 16 Sep 2014 11:28:12 +0000

Hey ladies! I've obviously been slacking on the board, but I am trying to add my work outs to the morning, so I figured I'd come on and start the accountability thread

B: oat revolution oatmeal with 1% milk

L: Turkey burger no bun, w/roasted carrots and canned peas

chicken stuffed w/jalapeno & cheese wrapped in bacon (I'm certain this is not healthy)

S: yogurt, pretzels

E: just completed the Jillian Michaels body Rev workout 2

Yesterday I was WAY under my calories, so I need to be more conscientious of my snacks.. the last thing I wanna do is store food because i'm in starvation mode.

Tuesday Chat

lmcooper86 — Tue, 16 Sep 2014 12:49:06 +0000

Morning all! How's everyone today?

I am home sick today I blame FI's nephew; he's good at sharing his germs! But I can nap and take care of some laundry that's piled up, and I need to follow up with a few wedding vendors so I might actually be somewhat productive.

On the plus side, our STDs were delivered yesterday! They turned out so well, I'm really happy! FI wanted to get envelop liners, which are nice and everything, buuuut we have to stick them into all of the envelopes. I started that last night and got about 1/5 of them done in an hour, so we should be able to get those all done pretty quickly.

And FI is making the argument that I should have to buy all of the ice cream from now on: CLICK

weekend recap and Monday chat!

[Deleted User] — Mon, 15 Sep 2014 12:19:13 +0000

it was a big weekend for NEY-ers!!

@Ollie08 & @lennondkc both got married! I doubt they'll be around much to recap, but I can't wait to see all the pictures and hear about it!

@southernpeach89 threw @LaPeanut1018 a bachelorette shower... girls, let's hear from you!

what else happened this weekend?

Friday I was off work at 10:45 because I had too many hours that pay period. we had some huge drama with the health insurance situation, but my H's work is going to take care of it so I think everything will be okay.

I got my front porch all fall-ified. I need to pick up some pansies and actually pot my mums (they're still in the containers), but it's looking super cute!

I can't remember anything else that was super exciting about this weekend. I got a mani/pedi and had Italian with a girlfriend... we had our first cold day (it was upper 40s at night, 50s in the day) so I had to wear some boots and a scarf to my PMP class. we had our Spanish service in the main church yesterday, so H and I were exhausted from that. I napped, did homework, cleaned. that's about it!

For all the cat ladies

lmcooper86 — Fri, 12 Sep 2014 14:50:39 +0000

I feel like we talk about our asshole cats a lot on this board.

16 Things Only People with Terrible Cats Understand

Happy Friday!

New setting for heirloom ring

chloe97 — Sun, 14 Sep 2014 17:36:05 +0000

My bf inherited a diamond ring that belong to his great-grandmother from his grandmother who passed away recently. He would like to reset the diamond into a new setting (that I pick out). I worry that his mother and her sisters will have a strong opinion about this and feel like because it's their grandmother's ring that they should have some sort have a say in what the new ring would look like or feel like or feel like the diamond should stay in it's current setting. I worry that this will come up constantly and for the rest of their lives. They were all very close to their Grandmother. I should note also that he has not told anyone about this plan b/c his mom and her sisters and loudmouths and he wants to keep from asking too many questions about our impending engagement before it happens.

Does anyone have any experience with this issue. Does it cause family drama? My boyfriend could afford to buy a new diamond for me, but we'd rather save that money for a nicer honeymoon. Is it worth it or should I suggest that we keep the ring as it and I can wear it on my ring finger for special occasions and loan out to his sister and female cousins?

Ring Shopping - AW/PIP

LabLove86 — Thu, 11 Sep 2014 01:43:06 +0000

We went ring shopping a couple days ago!!!

We are looking at 2 of them - Either way - will be ~1ct equivalent moissanite princess center stone

We both like this one:

But my first choice by a LONG shot is this one:

BF didn't give MUCH opinion - but he looked at the second one a lot longer than the first.

Also - I think he is becoming much more excited about our upcoming engagement. Initially when we talked about it - it was "The ring will at least be ordered by christmas." Then "You'll have the ring by christmas." And just last night he said - "We'll go back to the store in a few weeks to pick out and order the one you want, and at somepoint between October and Christmas, it'll be on your finger."

He's so excited, its so cute. He always talks about it when we're with his family/friends about how this is what we're doing and how its coming soon. ) I love him so much, and I love that he as excited about this as I am!!

Friday!

Swazzle — Fri, 12 Sep 2014 11:28:47 +0000

WOO HOO!

I'm starting off the day with NO BOOT! It was glorious walking down the steps and then back up the steps and then to the train without it. So happy!

After work I'm meeting my BFF and some of her "home friends" for happy hour.

Tomorrow I plan to sleep in with the pup and then I have no plans. I might switch out my summer and winter clothes since it's starting to get a little chilly here.

Sunday I have a hair appointment and football. My Eagles don't play but I'm probably going to head into the city and watch the games with H and my friend.

A very relaxing weekend for the most part!

Thursday Chatter

Swazzle — Thu, 11 Sep 2014 12:37:09 +0000

Morning, ladies! One more day until Friday.

So, today is 9/11. I can't believe it's been 13 years. I know everyone handles it differently but I needed to at least acknowledge it. My aunt worked for the company who lost a ton of people in the WTC and she survived so I spend most of today thinking about her, the victims, and everyone else who lost their loved ones on that day.

On a much, much lighter note, I have an appointment with my doctor later today about my ankle so I should only have to wear das boot for roughly another 8 hours which is a huge relief.

Confessions/Vents/UOs/II

labro — Wed, 10 Sep 2014 14:41:54 +0000

II/Vent: FI is a night owl and I'm not. I get up every morning and make us both breakfast and lunch and take out the dog and feed her breakfast. FI stays in bed and hits snooze/sleeps until I bring him breakfast and wake him up. I feel frustrated today because if I choose to sleep in 10 minutes later, then we leave 10 minutes later, and we sit in 15 to 20 minutes more of traffic than if we left "on time". But we've been together for over 3 years, so it's nothing new to me. I guess that's why this is an II. FI always says how much he appreciates my help in the morning...but I'm extra crabby today. Sometimes I just don't want to be the responsible one.

Confession: There are two couples I wish I had invited (one of FI's indirect managers and my parent's neighbors) and didn't because I'm really hoping for an overall guest count of 125 or less. It's looking like we're going to hit around 119 people and I desperately want to send them an invite too. B-listing is bad...but I never realized how tempting it actually was.

Spoiler Alert PLL Discussion

speakeasy14 — Wed, 27 Aug 2014 16:37:33 +0000

I know many of you are also PLL fans, so let's talk about the finale.

For starters, I found this season to be really slow, but last night made up for it. I was surprised they killed off Mona, I liked that there were two villain-type characters. The end with her eyes open completely freaked me out.

I can't wait till October, even if it is a teaser episode! What was everyone else's reactions? Predictions for next season?

So, I have news....

Swazzle — Wed, 10 Sep 2014 11:26:28 +0000

WE GOT THE HOUSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We found out around 9 last night and H and I screamed (well, I screamed, he smiled) and we are just SO BEYOND EXCITED!!!!! As of now, our closing date is October 20th which, holy shit, is in just over a month. OMG THIS IS REAL.

I will likely be spending the entire day on Pinterest.

Thank you so much for your vibes and for caring and for just being there!!!!!

New and E-ring Questions

PowerDoc — Tue, 09 Sep 2014 02:32:17 +0000

Hi all! I'm longtime lurker, but new to posting and now talk of engagement rings is in the air. So I have a few questions and I'm hoping you all might be able to help me out--it would be super appreciated!

Firstly, the BF has been trying to get me to go to jewelry stores with him, but I'm like, nah, don't like being harassed while I shop. He was trying to say he was trying to figure out my style in case he wants to get me bracelet as a gift. I don't wear bracelets. So as it turns out, he's thinking about rings, and I'm thinking that I want to pick out my own. BF seemed such disappoint. He wants things to be a surprise. I hate surprises. I'm really picky, especially about an item I'll wear for the rest of my life, but I don't want to kill his dreams of surprise and eros. How can I compromise so we both get what we want?

Secondly, in looking at rings, I've found I like marquise cuts, but I want moissanite. The problem is I need to see a stone in person before I buy it, but I can't seem to find jewelers that distribute it. Does anyone know if there's any jewelers using moissanite in either the Chicagoland or Twin Cities area?

Also related, I want to get him an engagement ring, but I feel like unless I go ahead and buy one, he wouldn't wear one, since I think if I tried to get him to shop for one, he'd deflect like, "oh you don't need to do that." But I'd really like his input. Did anyone here get an e-ring for your SO?

Thanks guys! I'm excited to meet you all.

Wednesday Chat

Hummingbird125 — Wed, 10 Sep 2014 12:10:59 +0000

Hey people!!!!

We made it almost halfway through the workweek! How is your morning going so far?

I had a nightmare(?) last night that I went to some bar and ran into my college roommate. Our friendship ended on really bad terms with both of us pretty much hating eachother, and when I ran into her in my dream she looked absolutely FURIOUS and.... she was naked. Because it was a clothing-optional bar. I met up with some friends and then was telling a bartender about my roommate and mentioned that she was just sitting at the other side of the bar, naked, and the bartender said "Well yeah, you don't need to wear clothes here." and started removing all of her clothes. So yeah, I had a dream about several naked women, one of which despised me. I'm not quite sure what that means.

Tonight I'm supposed to go into the city to meet up with @Swazzle to see "This is Where I Leave You", unless she has new house stuff to do?

48 hours from now it will be Friday, I'm just hanging tight to that fact...

Finally have our engagement photos! (AW/PIP)

lmcooper86 — Tue, 09 Sep 2014 21:48:36 +0000

We had to wait 4 weeks because our photographer had 17 weddings to take care of in August, and I was definitely getting crusty near the end of the wait, but it was totally worth it! I love our photos and I usually hate photos of myself, so I'm feeling pretty happy about our choice of photographer!

We're leaning towards getting the second one printed (included in the cost of the engagement session) and we used the third one for the front of our STDs.

YAY!!

Ash Scattering at Sea

psychbabe314 — Tue, 02 Sep 2014 23:31:49 +0000

Has anyone ever been to an ash scattering ceremony at sea? We will be spreading my dad's ashes this January off of the USS Missouri. The woman who is helping me to arrange it has told me that typically people go and throw the ash, along with flowers, followed by a moment of silence. I would like to end it with a song, bringing on board with us a single ukelele player to play a song in honor of my dad (I have not gotten approval for this yet though). I want short and sweet. We already have had a funeral (as some of you heard me rant about) so this is just to fulfill my dad's final wish and to hopefully provide closure to those of us who did not find any with the funeral. I could use some ideas ladies! Or maybe at least some ideas to bounce back and forth with the coordinator.

Also, I will be personally calling some close family members/friends and letting them know the details in case anyone would like to come with us to Honolulu. I just don't want it plastered all over Facebook, like the funeral was. I also don't think that I need to do invites, but my mom said that if we aren't going to start a Facebook group, we have to send out invites. That just doesn't sound right to me...

Tuesday Chatter

Swazzle — Tue, 09 Sep 2014 11:54:53 +0000

Good morning! I am unreasonably tired today. I was in bed before 10 last night! I think it's because it's SO dark in the morning now. I don't like it!

There were two other offers on "the house" yesterday. I was so sad when our real estate called and told me. We submitted our 'best and final offer' this morning and the others have the chance to do that today before 5pm and then from there, the seller will make a decision. I feel good about our offer either way, whether he accepts it or he goes with one of the others. We love the house but if it doesn't work out then I guess that means there's something better out there for us. I'm trying to stay positive but it's hard. I'm glad that we don't have to wait long for a decision at least.

Is anyone else looking forward to the Apple event today? I'm excited for a new phone, I'm due for an upgrade on the 18th so I'll most likely be getting whatever is unveiled today.

"25 things we do in the fall"

[Deleted User] — Fri, 05 Sep 2014 14:02:15 +0000

I saw this on my FB feed and thought it was hilarious, because I fit the majority of it! I don't like that it says "white girls do this", but whatever, just ignore that part because it's dumb.

LINK

I do:
#1 - don't like the PSL, but love the PS muffins/cookies/everything else and then a toffee nut latte!
#2 - love fall leaves!
#3 - started this week, burning a caramel swirl latte candle.
#4 - I have done that before, but I was younger... might need to bring it back!
#5 - or I make a zillion PS desserts/breads/etc.
#6 - I have done this once, and this year I'm going to buy a new phone (probably just an iPhone 5c) after the new one comes out.
#8 - in my younger days, now I don't dress up.
#9 - *guilty*
#10 - OH YES.
#11 - I don't have Uggs, but I crunch leaves in my riding boots!
#12 - this reminds me of @Hummingbird125's shirt she's wearing for her e-pics... and I just bought a flannel-ish shirt to wear for our family pictures!
#15 - I just buy a bunch of candles because I can't wear their lotion
#16 - with s'mores.
#17 - H is making me wait until next weekend to put up fall decorations. party pooper.
#19 - I don't dye my hair, but I do like to look!
#21 - I've got up at 3 AM before, but only once or twice... do not make a habit of it!
#22 - I might have done this once....
#23 - every year.
#24 - we always have a small family Thanksgiving before Thanksgiving (just me and H) so I can practice my recipes for the real thing.
#25 - not an infinity scarf, but normal scarves, yes!

what about you?

AW PIP: HEY GUYS IM MARRIED!!

ShallowSeas — Sun, 07 Sep 2014 15:19:28 +0000

Hi ladies!!! Thank you all so much for all the kind wishes on the other thread! We had an AMAZING wedding!!! We're driving down to Gatlinburg, TN right now so I have some time (5.5 hours) to Knot :) Nothing went wrong last night!!! Everything was so perfect. My 2 year old nephew was ring bearer and decided that while he was standing up with us during the ceremony that he needed his backpack with all his toys so he grabbed it and brought it up with the bridesmaids :) I have a couple pictures that friends and family took, and we should be getting a couple "sneak peeks" from out photographer soon! IM MARRIED!

Tuesday Accountability, y'all!

[Deleted User] — Tue, 09 Sep 2014 12:30:43 +0000

B: homemade bistro box: 2 HB eggs, 1/2 WW english muffin, Justin's PB packet, small apple, a few grapes, ~1.5 oz muenster cheese
S: apple cake that I brought to work... just a little, guys. promise.
L: tomato soup, pesto chicken salad over aruglua with provolone and sliced tomatoes; nectarine
leftover Irish Stout Beef Stew, fruit

WO: JM YM L1 and maybe L2 or a walk/jog. tonight is the least busy night of the week so I want to get in a really good work-out.

Monday Chatter

Swazzle — Mon, 08 Sep 2014 11:05:23 +0000

Morning ladies! How are you today?

I'm good! Mildly hungover, but good.

I had an awesome weekend! On Friday, my mom, H, and I met our realtor at "the house" and we're so in love with it! We looked at another house after that one and it was really nice (completely move-in ready and needs NO work) but it just wasn't us. It didn't have the same feel as "the house" and I knew H didn't like it at all. So.... TODAY WE'RE PUTTING IN AN OFFER!!!! I'm so excited but trying to hold back the BSC but it's SO HARD.

Saturday, my mom and I went to breakfast then rode back over to "the house" so she could see the neighborhood during the day. We met up with my aunt and got our nails done and mini-massages and then I met H and BIL and SIL's to see our nephew for a little. We had dinner with my mom and aunt and then saw "The November Man".

Yesterday, I drank way too many Yuenglings and Fireball shots. And my Eagles won! WOOHOOOOOO!! My voice is so hoarse today from screaming at the TV. I had Wendy's for dinner (my favorite), watched Big Brother and went to bed early.

It was an awesome weekend

Ugh Facebook

speakeasy14 — Mon, 08 Sep 2014 16:58:25 +0000

So I was going to include this on Monday Chatter but figured this deserved a new thread.

I was on facebook looking at photos that family has shared from my sister's wedding and I saw two posts on my newsfeed that I just have to share:

1. Girl-A was planning her wedding and then got pregnant so had a small wedding a few months ago. Had a PPD over the weekend. And had about 20 statuses referring to finally having her perfect day.

2. Girl-B posted a status and tagged about 30 people and said - out of state people this is when my wedding is... if you want to come let me know...

For some reason TK is hating me and not letting me put up images, so will someone please provide to perfect reaction gif because I have no words...

Should I pay for part of my ring?

cotton8744 — Fri, 29 Aug 2014 19:33:34 +0000

Back story: My boyfriend and I just had a baby two months ago. We are now at a place in our relationship where we want to get engaged. We went looking for rings last night (for about ten minutes) and I pointed out the one that I loved (I had seen it previously and looked at it online). Later that night he told me that the price (6,000$) was too much, and I should shoot for something around 3,000$. I said okay, but I was slightly disappointed. He is divorced and had bought he ex a 5,000$ ring when they were married. I get with the child support payments, our new baby, etc he wants to save money, however money isn't tight (we are comfortable), he has a great job and he is in is 40's so he isn't a broke college kid. I also do NOT want a wedding. I want to just go down to the courthouse and sign papers, so that will save money immensely. However, I have ALWAYS wanted a nice ring. I also make less money than him, and our finances will never be combined. I consider myself to be realistic with money, however I know very little about rings and how much to spend (I don't believe in the three months salary BS). So here is my question: There are two rings that are less money but are similar. One is almost 5,000 and one is 3,000. I would be perfectly happy with the almost 5,000 one. I do not wish to make my boyfriend spend more than he wants to. So should I offer to pitch in the remaining 2 grand? I don't particularly like the smallest one. Should I pay for part of the ring (since I am the one who wants something bigger), or should I settle for the smaller one I don't like as much, or keep looking for something else? I have liked this ring for months and months (the 6,000$) and the almost 5,000 one would make me happy too. Or should I save my money and let him buy something he can afford?

Monday Accountability

Peaseblossom55 — Mon, 08 Sep 2014 12:48:04 +0000

B- hot chocolate, yogurt with strawberries

L-vegan matzoh ball soup

S-apple

D-quinoa, green beans and some pizza bagel bites

S-wine and pita chips

E- abs work out only today

FRIDAY chatter!

Swazzle — Fri, 05 Sep 2014 12:05:58 +0000

Morning ladies and happy Friday!

My mom is driving up later today and going to look at houses with H and me. We're going to show her the blue house that we love and I'm hoping to see a couple other houses as well. Our realtor is a friend of @GoldenPenguin and I'm really excited to finally meet her!

My mom's staying over and I'm going to take her to breakfast at my favorite local diner and then we're going to my aunt's house for the day. H will pick me up there when he gets off work.

SUNDAY IS FOOTBALL!!!!!! I am SO pumped for the season to start. I'll be leaving my house at 11:30am and getting to the bar at noon for the Eagles game. I go to the same bar every Sunday throughout the season so I'm excited to get back there and see everyone. Go birds!

@Severmilli12 It's Your Wedding Day!!!!

labro — Sat, 06 Sep 2014 12:21:10 +0000

Just wanted to start a thread sending you best wishes and good vibes for a beautiful, amazing day!!! I hope you're able to take a moment to step back and take everything in! Congratulations (a little early)!!!! You are going to look so gorgeous! I can't wait to see photos!

Not Engaged Yet — The Knot Community

AW: Wedding Rings

Thursday Accountability

One day early - happy almost wedding day @ollie08!!!!!!!

OLW

Wednesday Accountability

Tuesday Accountability!!

Tuesday Chat

weekend recap and Monday chat!

For all the cat ladies

New setting for heirloom ring

Ring Shopping - AW/PIP

Friday!

Thursday Chatter

Confessions/Vents/UOs/II

*Spoiler Alert* PLL Discussion

So, I have news....

New and E-ring Questions

Wednesday Chat

Finally have our engagement photos! (AW/PIP)

Ash Scattering at Sea

Tuesday Chatter

"25 things we do in the fall"

AW PIP: HEY GUYS IM MARRIED!!

Tuesday Accountability, y'all!

Monday Chatter

Ugh Facebook

Should I pay for part of my ring?

Monday Accountability

FRIDAY chatter!

@Severmilli12 It's Your Wedding Day!!!!

Spoiler Alert PLL Discussion