Not Engaged Yet — The Knot Community

IIs, UOs, Confessions, etc.

CLoGreenEyes — Mon, 10 Mar 2014 15:55:47 +0000

I hope it's not too soon to do another one of these, but I'm kind of full of them today.

Irrational irritation: I have this friend who is vegan. It's cool...until we try to hang out. He ALWAYS insists that I pick where to eat. Dude, I'm Italian. Everything I eat involves cheese and meat. So I have to do a ton of research every time we get together to find someplace where both of our dietary quirks can co-exist in harmony, and it takes FOREVER. I wouldn't even mind if it was just I'll pick this time, he'll pick next time. It's EVERY. TIME.

Irrational irritation: I spent all weekend when the weather was in the 60's and sunny inside. SAD FACE.

Confession: I feel like my friends are a little boring, and that makes me feel horrible, because they are super-wonderful people and have been there for me through all this stuff, especially over the past few months. But we have nothing to DO together and not much in common since they all graduated and got careers and SOs and stuff, and I kind of regressed, went back to school, and became single. This might be that weird time in my life where I have to find some new friends; not to replace anybody, but just to expand my circle. And that scares me.

Confession: My hands smell funny, even after I washed them with the same soap I've always used. It's concerning me.

I don't think I have any UO's yet today, but I'm sure I'll think of one. Your turn!

Am I Being A PITA? (WR)

buddysmom80 — Tue, 11 Mar 2014 16:49:13 +0000

I have a WR question for everyone.

Last week, I received our contract for our venue. It's a standard contract, but due to the fact that our wedding is off-season, our rates our lower for certain things that are in the contract. FI and I went over the contract line by line and emailed her back with the changes we would like before we signed off.

She emailed me back with the same contract with the only change being that instead of a head table, we were having a sweetheart table.

I have an email drafted going over the points that we would like changed in the contract before signing off, but I don't want to seem like a pain in the ass. I'm always thinking worse-case scenario and if something happened, the contract is in black and white to cover both us and the venue.

These were the things I asked to be changed:

1) change the verbage of having ALL ceremonies outdoors to having the ceremony in the North Room (our wedding is in December in New England)

2) change the ceremony fee from the on-season price to the off-season price

3) putting an addendum to the contract stating we can rent black overlays from the venue at X cost per table

Let me know what you guys think. If I'm being a pain, I'll just cut my losses and sign the contract, but I just want to make sure we're both in agreement.

New here--not engaged YET!

BreMR — Thu, 06 Mar 2014 02:44:39 +0000

Hey everyone!!

I've been lurking around for a few days and have found you guys so entertaining! I love to see a board of people who have forged friendships over the internet and who are honest with each other! I hope you don't mind if I join in... I see that there is a questionnaire for newbies, so I'll start there!

Screen Name: BreRhodes
Age:27
Significant Other's Age:27
What You Do: I work in real estate, but I have one more year of school before I'm a teacher
What SO Does: He is an auto technician, but also in school, only he wants to be a pilot
State of Relationship: Not engaged yet, but it's coming!
How Long You've Been Together: It will be 12 years in March
How You Met: I am best friends with his cousin, we started chatting on AOL instant messenger as teens
Wedding Date (if you're engaged/married): Not yet decided
Real Babies: a 6 year old daughter
Fur Babies: 1 cat
Loves: How I met your Mother, ice cream, margaritas, the beach, netflix, wine, Christmas, pizza... maybe I should just say eating in general.
Hates: Winter!! 'Tis the season, right?
Pet Peeves: People who ignore the 10 items or less sign at the grocery store, loud chewers in the movie theater, and people who don't drive AT LEAST the speed limit.
Hobbies/Activities: I'm a winter bum, but in warmer weather I love running, rollerblading, swimming, drinking on patios, and I love reading.
Favorite Thing About Your SO: He makes me laugh... a lot! He is also always incredibly warm, it's like having a personal heated blanket when I want it.
Least Favorite Thing About Your SO: His use of horrible language when he gets mad at inanimate objects.. it's hard to teach your kid not to use the F bomb if your dad yells it at his malfunctioning computer.....
Describe Your Personality: I would say I'm pretty easy going, and fun to be around.. nothing hypes me up more than political differences I have friends who refuse to talk to me about politics.. but that's okay.. it's not necessary
Snark Level (1 [low snark] - 10 [high snark]): In my head usually about a 9... what I let out... about a 3.
I've Been On TK Since: I joined awhile back when my SO and I were discussing a quick wedding in Mexico last year.. but I changed my mind and realized it was important to have my family there.
How You Came to Be On TK: If you look up anything wedding related, it ends up leading you to the knot eventually.

How I like my potatoes: Do I have to pick just one way??? I love french fries, cheesy hashbrowns, mashed potatoes, baby reds with garlic, scalloped, baked.... YUM!

Favorite book/author: Sooo hard to choose. I love JD Robb/Nora Roberts, Jodi Picoult, James Patterson, Diana Gabaldon, the list goes on!

Tell Us Something Interesting About Yourself: Maybe nothing too outwardly interesting, i have clubbed thumbs... not interesting as much as weird! (look up Megan Fox... those are my thumbs)

AW: I ordered my dress (picture heavy)

Dignity100 — Mon, 10 Mar 2014 12:55:31 +0000

I ordered my dress!!

I went to my appointment on Saturday with FI's sister and niece. I pretty much knew which dress I was going to get but thought I'd still try to top it. When I went to the store they had the list of dresses I liked that I tried on previously. I had already cut that list down to 2 - my dress and the one you girls liked best. The consultant went to get my dresses and came in the room saying 'I have bad news but I have some good news - somebody purchased your #1 pick so you cannot try it on, but it's still in the store so I can show it to you and you're still able to look at it, it's just you cannot try it on'.

I tried on the popular dress from here - but FI's sister and neice didn't care for it on me - they said it was pretty but just didn't like it for my venue. The consultant went and got the dress I liked and held it up to me and we decided that was the one.

I did not take pictures of any of the other dresses - but I have quite a few of the one that I love (and ordered) that I didn't previously share. I did NOT order the veil and will be looking online for something that's similar (I don't think I can justify the $200 price tag but depending on my OT maybe I will splurge... but I doubt it)

So here's the pictures (sorry if they're huge):

My Local Board Is A Dud.

dreamlover129 — Mon, 10 Mar 2014 02:43:05 +0000

I don't know who or what scared them away, but it is a ghost town! I first joined the knot back in 2005 or so and my local boards were very active at the time. Sadly my marriage didn't last but I am back. I was on thenest for awhile but those ladies started a new board. Anyway, hi!

BSC no more!

blabla89 — Sun, 09 Mar 2014 05:03:52 +0000

Because I'm ENGAGED! It hasn't really sunk in yet. Don't get me wrong, I've been so so so happy and excited all evening, but it still just seems a little surreal that it finally happened. I'm so glad that y'all kept me from going too crazy waiting for it. It was sunny and warm today so C and I took a spontaneous trip to Athens for dinner and a stroll through the state botanical gardens. We were standing on a balcony overlooking the wooded area, just talking about life and stuff. As we turned to leave, he popped the question quite unexpectedly. He got down on one knee and gave a lovely speech but it's all a blur now...hoping he jotted it down somewhere because I wish I could remember what he said. He told me later he had planned a big, elaborate thing complete with a photographer to propose to me at the Atlanta Botanical Garden three weeks from now, but the ring came in sooner than expected and he didn't want to wait. I'm happy that it turned out this way because there was no pressure, and it was just us there. He already payed the photographer so we have a engagement session coming up in three weeks!

I spent the whole ride home calling family. My grandma was the first person I called, and before I could tell her our news she told me that my aunt has kidney cancer. That really put a damper on the whole thing...I almost felt guilty about having good news after that. Really bummed because I don't get to see my aunt and her family very much, and they were finally going to visit in April, but now they can't. I'm thankful to have this community where I can share my excitement and not feel guilty.

Anyway, on to the important part! Picture! We asked a stranger to take a picture of us and it turned out horrible, so all I've got to show right now is the disembodied hand until we get legit engagement photos.

Tuesday Accountability

Swazzle — Tue, 11 Mar 2014 11:31:09 +0000

B: Banana cream greek yogurt (2), maple and brown sugar oatmeal (4), strawberries and blueberries

L: Carrot ginger soup from ABP if they have it (5), clementines

Grilled buffalo chicken strips (5), skinny blue cheese (2), steamed veggies

S: Mini babybel (1), WW roasted almond bar (2), frozen greek yogurt bar (2)

Total: 23/26 -- Fruits and veggies are technically 0 pts but I think they should count when you eat multiple servings throughout the day so I'm ok with being a little low. They were points the first time I did WW and that's when I was the most successful.

post-DST Monday chatter

[Deleted User] — Mon, 10 Mar 2014 13:04:35 +0000

anyone else dead to the world today?

last night, I couldn't fall asleep. then Bax woke us up at 4:37 AM with nuclear fishbutt (his anal glands get stopped up and we have to clean them out, isn't that grand??). I was so hungry that I couldn't fall back asleep after that. I poured too much milk with my coffee this morning (my hand slipped!) and forgot my badge at home so I had to turn around and go get it. I forgot my water bottle (it's a glass one) at home, so I had to grab a dirty cup that H left in the car from the restaurant we went to on Friday night, wash it out, and use that for water. it's got some NSFW writing on one side so I'm trying to keep it turned around so I don't get any complaints.

nothing really big is wrong, but lots of little things are just kind of "off" today. is it just me??

Speaking of hair problems...

Pepperally — Mon, 10 Mar 2014 11:29:07 +0000

Do you feel guilty when you switch to a new/different stylist? Do you feel like you're cheating on your old one?

I'm rather picky about who cuts my hair, as I'm sure we all are. I have naturally curly hair, so I usually leave the salon looking like a bad '80's video and I have to go home immediatley and wash and restyle. Once I find someone I like, I am pretty loyal, but if I get tired of the way my hair looks then I think if I find someone new then I will have this incredibly fabulous new do.

My last girl, she was great. She knows a lot about styling curly hair so she was one of the only people who I could go to and then actually go out in public afterward without having to run home and redo my hair. Well, she's a bit of a drive, and charges a bit more for the curly cut. I didn't mind, but I've grown lazy. I also wasn't thrilled with her hair coloring skills. So last week I switched. I feel guilty, as my old girl had friended me on FB and everything (we do have a lot in common, too). Anyway, my new person was decent enough...but I had to run home and wash/restyle. At least she's only five minutes from home.

Door Four

tuarceatha — Thu, 06 Mar 2014 14:07:51 +0000

Today is the 4th anniversary of me being on TK. TK just told me that.

What was going on in your life four years ago?

I was about to graduate from grad school. I was a bridesmaid. I was anticipating working full time in my new career. I had never lived with a man before. Or posted on a message board. Or met anyone IRL through the internet. I had just learned that my parents were full of unimaginable drama. Later this month, four years ago, H brought up marriage in the "soon" sense.

Monday Accountability

Swazzle — Mon, 10 Mar 2014 12:08:34 +0000

B: Vanilla Greek yogurt (2), cinnamon oatmeal (4)

L: Crockpot ranch chicken (4), peas (3)

Something involving chicken because that's what's defrosted

S: Clementines, WW key lime pie bar (2), mini babybel (1)

Total: 16/26 (not including dinner)

AW: I bought my wedding dress!

kaitlynmichelle — Thu, 06 Mar 2014 07:22:24 +0000

For those of you that have not seen my dress via FB, here it is! Apparently my pictures insist on being sideways. My FBIL's GF and I went to a place near our old apartment that has only sample gowns, which I was hoping for originally as I was on a tight budget. We spent a few hours there. I tried on 12 dresses, this being the last. I tried on my other favourite again but I knew this was it. Especially when the other dresses made me happy but this one made me cry. It just felt right. I didn't think I would go for something so elaborate but oh well - I love it anyway! I wasn't planning on buying a veil but I got an amazing deal on it and the flower too. The ladies were great and dropped the prices so that I could get everything and stay right on my budget. Score! I wasn't sure if I would end up purchasing anything that day but it is honestly a relief for me to just have a dress I love and not stress about it. I want to play dress up and wear it around the house but I'll resist for now. Just over 6.5 months to go...which seriously blows my mind.

First World Problems

GoldenPenguin — Thu, 06 Mar 2014 16:43:31 +0000

We all have them. Let's share.

- My office window lets in too much sun, and it causes a glare on my dual monitor setup, so I have to close the blinds.

Hair Problems :(

ShallowSeas — Thu, 06 Mar 2014 14:34:35 +0000

My hair has been SO staticy (is that a word?) lately, to the point where I can't even where it down anymore because I look like a fright. A co-worker told me that she uses dryer sheets on her hair to help with static, but I've noticed when I brush my hair there's a lot of static coming from my brush as well. When i put on jackets my hair freaks out and goes crazy. I'm tired of wearing my hair up. Anyone have any suggestions or tips for static hair, clothes, and brushes??

Wedding Dress for SALE!!!!!

LoveYen85 — Sun, 09 Mar 2014 13:11:18 +0000

I currently have 2011 Maggie Sottero - Adara style dress that I am selling. It's style#: VSM7125. I bought it for $1,100. I'm selling my one time worn and altered dress for $900. It was a size 16 dress that was altered to a size 12. I guess you can say that I went crazy with my wedding workouts. It has a beautiful sweetheart neckline, corset and a good size train. I encourage people to look up this dress online to see how beautiful the dress looks. I still have my accessories such as my two tiered rhinestones edged elbow length veil, rhinestones head piece, Jessica Simpson white pumps, matching style earrings and bracelet to the dress and even the cute ring bearer pillow. I'm willing to work with the price on my dress and accessories. Please feel free to contact me via email at YenTran001@gmail.com.

Internship Interview Advice?

FoxandBunny — Thu, 06 Mar 2014 05:48:06 +0000

So, this is totally last minute, but hopefully some of you ladies will be able to help before I head off to my interview tomorrow (Thursday) morning.

I have my first summer internship interview tomorrow. I'm super nervous about it. I've never really interviewed for anything before, especially not something like this. I've looked up sample questions and had a hard time answering some of them, but I think I'll be ok. I have resumes printed out to bring with me and a nice suit to wear (it's a conservative wealth management company). I've done some research on the company, but feel a little under-qualified, even though they called me 2 days after I gave them my resume.

Do y'all have any advice for me? Any helpful tips? I figure you ladies have done this kind of thing before as y'all mostly seem to be past this stage in life. I guess there are some advantages to being the young one on the board, huh?

FRIDAY.

Swazzle — Fri, 07 Mar 2014 13:05:20 +0000

FINALLY.

What's up for the weekend?

H and I are going to the Poconos tonight with my family. Our hotel is pet-friendly so Lucy gets to come too!

Tomorrow morning H will go off to snowboard with my cousins and I'm taking a ski lesson with my mom and my aunt. I snowboarded once in my life and that was 13 years ago. I've never skied. Tomorrow night the whole gang (me and H, my parents, grandmom, aunts, uncles and cousins) is going night-tubing and there is going to be a parade and fireworks!

On Sunday, checkout is 11am so we'll probably head home around then.

Friday Accountability

Swazzle — Fri, 07 Mar 2014 13:22:40 +0000

B: Banana bread oatmeal! (4), greek yogurt (2)

L: Steamed shrimp with marinara (6), chopped salad (4)

Not sure yet, we're hopefully leaving here around 4:30 so we'll probably eat when we get to the hotel.

S: Clementines, WW key lime pie surprise bar (2)

18/26 (not including dinner)

Oh hello...re-introduction!

lmcooper86 — Thu, 06 Mar 2014 14:31:10 +0000

Hey all! I posted an introduction here about a year and a half ago, but then broke up with my SO a few months later, was sad, and stopped visiting TK. A lot has changed since then, I am now with the most incredible man I could imagine, and I have been back lurking on here for a few weeks. I feel like a total stranger here again, so I thought I would re-introduce myself!

Screen Name: lmcooper86

Age: 27

Significant Other's Age: 32

What You Do: Healthcare regulation

What SO Does: Construction management

State of Relationship: Trying to figure out how fast we can move forward without everyone around us thinking we're crazy

How Long You've Been Together: 3 months

How You Met: Online

Wedding Date (if you're engaged/married): N/A

Read Babies: N/A

Fur Babies: A bratty cat named Gambit

Loves: Cooking, running, yoga, movies, concerts, the bratty cat

Hates: Rudeness, socks, my food allergies, this never ending winter

Pet Peeves: Leaving dishes in the sink, people who can't follow directions

Hobbies/Activities: Running, yoga, knitting, binge watching entire TV seasons/series'

Favorite Thing About Your SO: His honesty and open communication. No guessing required!

Least Favorite Thing About Your SO: He is ALWAYS wearing a hat to cover the fact that he's starting to go bald

Describe Your Personality: Friendly, compassionate and loyal, with a side of judgy and snarky

Snark Level (1 [low snark] - 10 [high snark]): 8 - 9 in my head, 1 - 8 out loud depending on who I'm talking to

I've Been On TK Since: 2012, with a lengthy hiatus!

How You Came to Be On TK: Looking at flowers for a coworker's wedding

How I like my potatoes: Any and every way! Seriously, just get in my stomach!

Favorite book/author: Jen Lancaster and any other funny female writer

Tell Us Something Interesting About Yourself: I did a couple of month-long volunteer trips a few years ago, and miss that sort of travelling now

Anyways, glad to be back here!

NWR Birthday gifts?

mbross3 — Thu, 06 Mar 2014 16:00:47 +0000

Hello everyone! This is really random. BF has been spending every night for the past week or so in the basement clearly working with power tools (which I didn't even know he had!). At first I was like what the heck, because as a law student I don't have much free time, so we try to spend evenings together as much as possible. When I asked him what he was doing he said "Working on your birthday present--you're not allowed in the basement!" I would never dream of ruining the surprise he has planned (today's my birthday--so hopefully I get to find out soon!). It just got me thinking about what it could possibly be!

Have you ever gotten a handmade gift from your SO? Or given one?

Thursday Chatter

Swazzle — Thu, 06 Mar 2014 13:58:48 +0000

Morning, ladies.

I am SO tired again today. I've been sleeping normally but for some reason I've felt so exhausted all week.

What's going on with you all?

Thursday Accountability

Swazzle — Thu, 06 Mar 2014 12:42:56 +0000

B: Oatmeal (4), Greek yogurt (2) 3 clementines

L: Spicy tuna roll (13), salad with ginger dressing (3)

Grilled buffalo chicken strips over romaine with blue cheese dressing (6), side of broccoli

28/26

Going over my points today and IDGAF. I want 2 spicy tuna rolls, damn it!

Tell me about your hair care products

Ollie08 — Mon, 03 Mar 2014 19:35:16 +0000

It feels like I'm always looking for great hair care products, so tell me about yours!

1. What type of hair do you have? (i.e. color treated, frizzy, curly, straight, hot mess, etc)

2. What shampoo and conditioner do you use?

3. Do you have any products you use post-shower that are a must have?

Yoga

ShallowSeas — Wed, 05 Mar 2014 16:49:28 +0000

FI decided last night that he wanted to start Yoga. We bought a yoga dvd and we are buying our mats this evening and starting it. He is hoping to reduce stress, relax, and lower his BP with it. I'm doing it because he asked me to and I think it will be nice to share something like that together. Have any of you ladies done yoga or currently do yoga? What benefits have gotten out of it? I don't really know much about it and I'm not sure what I should be expecting to get from it.

hump day chit-chat

[Deleted User] — Wed, 05 Mar 2014 13:41:35 +0000

good morning, ladies! what's happening?

I'm currently in Mail Jail at work (my email inbox is too full) so I'm waiting for 15 minutes to go by until I am "free" and can go in and start deleting things. *sigh* what a way to begin the day!

Wednesday Accountability

buddysmom80 — Wed, 05 Mar 2014 11:05:36 +0000

B: Uncrustables, Clementine

L: Burrito from the food cart outside (chicken)

S: None, I'll be STUFFED. If I get hungry, I'll sip on some green tea

Pork Chops Saltimbocca (new recipe). I was going to make the chicken curry crockpot recipe that @lmhollister gave me, but we had chicken last night! I'll make it this weekend (FI and I are really excited about this recipe hahahahaha)

E: Nada

OLW

IrishDreamer — Wed, 05 Mar 2014 14:44:49 +0000

Dear mom, Please help me get back on track with getting up in the morning... I need someone to holler at me and get my butt up. I've been having a rough time this week. Love, Daughter Dear Starbucks stranger, Thank you for paying it forward and buying my coffee this morning. The kind gesture was desperately needed this morning. Love, Overslept all week. Dear self, Get your shit together. You were doing well and then let one bad week kick your butt. You're better than that. Get with it. Love, Determined Dear cold sore, You've been obnoxious for going on two weeks. I understand you were gi-fucking-normus, but go the hell away. I have some things I would like to be doing that you are preventing. No love, Girl who wants her face back Dear BFF, Why must you be in dc when I'm going to be in st Pete??? Love, Girl that needs best friend and nephew time Dear ex-rental company, I disputed your bullshit charges, now get me my damn paperwork showing your bullshit charges and explanation so I can further dispute. No love, Girl that's managed properties and you can't fuck with easily.

Tuesday Accountability

Swazzle — Tue, 04 Mar 2014 13:18:26 +0000

YOU GUYS! I WAS -2.2 TODAY!!!!!!!! This weigh-in puts me over my 3% goal for month 1 of Dietbet and puts me at -6 lbs total. I AM HAPPY AND I FEEL GREAT!

B: Greek yogurt (2), oatmeal (4)

L: Pulled pork with BBQ sauce (6), steamed veggies (1)

Leaning towards Subway. H and I have a Devils game. (~10)

S: Clementines, mini babybel (1), WW chocolate pretzel bar (2)

Total: 26/26

Monday Accountability

Swazzle — Mon, 03 Mar 2014 12:52:03 +0000

B: Greek yogurt (2), oatmeal (4)

L: Taco salad (6)

Pulled pork on a roll (10), steamed veggies

S: Mini Babybel (1), WW chocolate caramel bar (2), clementines

Total: 25/26

Monday (booooo)....

buddysmom80 — Mon, 03 Mar 2014 13:07:16 +0000

How was everyone's weekend???? My weekend went by way too fast! But I had so much fun!

Friday night FI and just sat around and watched TV, we didn't really do anything (that I can remember hahaha)

Saturday we got up early, went to the post office, then went to the outlets nearby. FI bought some new boots and work shoes and he bought me a pair of sunglasses that I've been debating to buy since the last time we went to Mexico. I was sold when @brisox81 came over and showed me hers! I want all the sunglasses now!!!!

After the outlets, we came home, I cut FI's hair and we met with the florist. I was SO nervous about our budget for the florist. She sat us down and asked us to show her some inspiration pictures. FI was very specific about bouts which shocked me! After I showed her what I wanted, she went in the back and came back with a quote which was 30% of our total budget!!!!!!!!! The florist worked with my dad's assitant, and they're friends so we got an additional discount above and beyond what she posted on her FB page. So now we have another surplus in our budget which we'll use for favors and/or more guests. I'm leaning towards more guests since I had to cut a few of my friends out so that FMIL could accomidate her guests. It's still early, we'll see what happens.

Saturday night we went out for Mexican with one of my work friends. She is hilarious!!!!! I can't wait to hang out with her again.

Sunday I did laundry and watched the last season of Breaking Bad. I have so many feels about the show now. I really get mad at show finales sometimes because the BEST series finale was Six Feet Under and no other show has lived up to that finale IMHO. FI and I went to bed early since I had to get up at 4am today for work. No, we didn't watch the Oscars

I've had about 3 cups of coffee so far this morning! Yay!!!!