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E-ring=dedication?

Blackbird230 — Tue, 04 Feb 2014 15:11:17 +0000

I saw this (CLICK) blog post this morning and as a girl engaged without a ring, it made me mad.

As much as I know every girl wants a ring, to directly attach that with your man's determination and dedication seems really wrong. Yes engagement rings signify a union. It's a promise. However, in no way should a man have to work his butt off and spend tons of money to "show his dedication and worthiness."

Engagement rings are a great gesture and they mean a lot, but what's more important is what the couple together can handle financially and what they want. Attaching worthiness and dedication is way more pressure than guys need.

Thoughts?

Fun WR Questions

Peaseblossom55 — Fri, 07 Feb 2014 18:51:03 +0000

The afternoon is dragging here and I'm exhausted....

What was your something borrowed? If you haven't gotten married yet what will be it? So far I've got nothing for my something borrowed. I asked my mom about something that might work but she has nothing really. I may ask FMIL.

What cake flavors did you have at your wedding, or what are you going to have?

What was the best wedding cake flavor you had as a wedding guest?

Amuse me!

Got the STD in the mail...

mbross3 — Thu, 06 Feb 2014 22:51:50 +0000

For BF's friend's PPD in May. She had asked me to be a BM, but I declined do to legitimate school and money concerns (...and bc I was worried some of my snark might leak out), but BF is a GM for her hubby.

So we get the STD in the mail yesterday and it is addressed to BF "and guest". AND GUEST. ouch. BF and I live together, she came to our going away party, we've been dating 2 years...she knows all of this.

I was offended, but BF was mad and BF never gets MAD. He wanted to call and talk to her about it right then, he thinks she's being passive aggressive and that she doesn't like me. I told him not to and to just let it go. Today he is still mad about it, they have some history (years in the past now) and he thinks she's "not acknowledging our relationship". I am just like, she is married, yes it's rude, but let's just let it go. In the end though, she is his friend and I don't want to tell him what to do. I just think it would be better to let it go.

It's just, now I'm starting to question whether I should go at all. BF could bring his sister (she lives out of town but she knows BF's friend and might fly in for the PPD if BF asks her to be his "guest"). I feel like she must really not want me there if she wouldn't even put my name on the STD?

I know this isn't really a question, partly I just wanted to rant and partly I'm honestly interested in what any of you would do in a similar situation. Skip it? Go anyway?...

Reverse Proposal Gift?

Shaner&Tastie — Thu, 06 Feb 2014 16:41:25 +0000

Hi everyone!

I'm going to propose to my guy and I'm wondering what ideas you have about a gift to present to him? He's not really into jewelry and he's kind of a nerd. Very into creating things himself, handmade or antique kinds of things. He's also very much into outdoors stuff like hiking and biking, I'm getting him a pocket watch as a groom gift for the wedding day. Also, we've talked about it and he for sure wants me to ask him, so I'm just looking for advice on what I can present to him when I ask.

Thanks!

Weekend!

Swazzle — Fri, 07 Feb 2014 12:45:12 +0000

Morning! What's up for the weekend?

Tonight, H and I have a Devils game but he might have to work too late for us to get there in time and that would be fine with me because I really want to watch the Opening Ceremony for the Olympics.

Tomorrow, I have brunch plans with @buddysmom80 and @hummingbird125! I haven't seen either of them since they got engaged so I'm even MORE excited than normal.

Sunday, I'll be a little lazy and clean a little and then H and I are going to dinner with his step dad, brother, and SIL.

Who else is excited for the Olympics? What's your favorite sports to watch?

Friday Accountability

Swazzle — Fri, 07 Feb 2014 12:47:43 +0000

B: Turkey, egg, cheese on an english muffin (6)

L: Chicken noodle soup (4), ham on a sandwich thin (4)

I still haven't made the chicken pot pie soup (6)

S: Mini babybel (1), baby carrots (0)

AW: Weight Loss

bethsmiles — Tue, 04 Feb 2014 23:12:54 +0000

I broke out of the 170s today! I'm so excited! I haven't been lower than 170 in over a year! Also, I ran 2 miles today without stopping to walk at all. I've been really great about going to the gym since my friend started coming with me. I really feel like I can reach my goals this time!

Thursday Accountability

Swazzle — Thu, 06 Feb 2014 12:42:52 +0000

B: DD egg white, turkey sausage, and cheese on an english muffin (7)

L: Ham and dijon on a sandwich thin (4), baby carrots (0)

ST Chicken Pot Pie Soup that I didn't make last night (6)

S: Quakes (3), mini babybel (1)

Total: 21/26 -- I'll find a way to eat those last few points throughout the day.

OLW

CLoGreenEyes — Wed, 05 Feb 2014 11:31:12 +0000

Dear TK,

I hate you for eating this thread the first time I tried to make it!

No love,

CLo

***

Dear school,

So, I kinda wish you had called the delay BEFORE I woke up at 0430 to go to clinical, but it's all good. Now I've got extra study/Knotting time! And I will say that the icy trees were extremely pretty to look at in the wee hours of the morning, so there's that.

Love,

A begrudging early riser

***

Dear Darryl,

OMG YOU'RE BACK ON SUNDAY NIGHT YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

Love,

A Walking Dead fan

***

Dear self,

It's OK to not listen to every word your mom says as the gospel truth! You should still consider it, because she's older and wiser and all that good stuff, and has had some life experiences you should respect. But seriously, if it doesn't ring true after you give it your full consideration, it's truly and honestly all right to smile, nod, and do your own thing. That's what grown-ups do!

Love,

Your smarter side

***

Dear C,

*Sigh* I miss you. I'm really pushing myself not to contact you yet, even though I really want to know how you're doing and what's going on in your life, but it's hard. I know it's only been three months, and I feel like I need to wait a little longer out of respect for where you probably are in your own process/journey/whatever. But I hope you know that I do miss you, care about you, and hope you're doing OK.

Love (yeah, still, in some weird way),

***

Dear BFF (other than the one I usually talk about on here who's getting married in April),

I'm excited for our Valentine's Day date! I'm gonna start brainstorming what we should do right away!

Love,

Your home slice

***

Dear games and crafts for the bridal shower next weekend,

Please finish yourselves, I'm not good at this shit.

Love,

Someone who is not talented in the area of hosting stuff and things

Birthday Gifts for BF

Dirtybella1 — Tue, 04 Feb 2014 21:03:53 +0000

My bf's birthday is February 13. We both have that day off of work so I was planning to make him breakfast etc. however I have no idea what to get him as a gift. I got him some good stuff for Christmas and everything I know that he wants is a little out of my budget right now. I am hoping to spend around $100 on a gift for him. Anyone have any creative ideas? TIA!

Wednesday Accountability

Swazzle — Wed, 05 Feb 2014 12:13:29 +0000

B: Turkey, egg, and LC cheese on an english muffin (5), banana (0)

L: Honey ham and dijon on a sandwich thin (4), baby carrots (0)

ST Chicken Pot Pie Soup (6), ST Garlic Cheddar Biscuit (3 -- if I can get to the grocery store)

S: Apple (0), mini babybel (1), Quakes (3)

Total: 22/26 -- I'm ok with "undereating" today. It'll help make up for the 4 slices of pepperoni pizza I devoured last night for dinner.

I HAD to Share...

ShallowSeas — Thu, 30 Jan 2014 17:08:35 +0000

I was looking for different bridesmaid gift ideas and came across this thread on WeddingBee...i'm speechless. Like, is this real life?

Poster: is it like super rude not to give a gift....cuz i really dont have the money.....like really dont....i can barely pay for my wedding/masters degree/rent---thats why i was thinking of just giving them sum bars sounds weird but arkansas folk love thier xanex

Poster: i dont really have money for bridesmaids gifts....i already having trouble paying for my wedding---- i know this sounds weird but i was thinking of govogn each of them like 3 bars since i have a script. and they are always asking for them....

...um, what???

Tuesday

Dignity100 — Tue, 04 Feb 2014 13:08:53 +0000

^^ Had to share that little guy, isn't he cute?!

The Handmaid's Tale

audrewuh — Mon, 03 Feb 2014 21:01:39 +0000

I mentioned last week that I downloaded the audiobook and was going to listen to it on my drive to see Elle. Audible listed it as 11 hours long, but it was really only 2.5 hours. That was a shock when I was less than halfway home with nothing to do.

For those of you that read it, what are your thoughts? I'm having a hard time processing the book.

Tuesday Accountability

Swazzle — Tue, 04 Feb 2014 12:29:08 +0000

Today is my WI day and I was -1.4 which brings me to a total of -5lbs since getting back on WW 3 weeks ago! WOOT WOOT!

B: Egg, turkey, and LC creamy swiss on an english muffin (6), banana (0)

L: Asian Chicken Salad - grilled chicken, carrots, zucchini, squash, cabbage, wasabi peas, cilantro, scallions, mandarin oranges and orange sesame vinaigrette (I'm estimating 9)

Not sure yet, H and I have a Devils event tonight and I'm not sure what time we have to leave and where will grab a bite.

S: Apple (0), mini babybel (1), caramel Quakes (3)

Total: 19/26 -- leaving me with 7 for dinner which is doable.

Eggs

IllusionsDepths — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 12:03:55 +0000

Since I'm bored and currently making eggs, I was wondering how everyone likes theirs? Personally I'm an over easy kind of person.

Monday Accountability

Swazzle — Mon, 03 Feb 2014 12:41:30 +0000

B: Ham and egg on an english muffin (5), mini babybel (1)

L: ST Cilantro Chicken Salad (4) on a sandwich thin (3)

ST Chicken Pot Pie Soup (6)

S: Baby carrots (0), apple (0), Caramel Quakes (3)

Total: 22/26

Hey! I miss everyone!

psychbabe314 — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 00:38:25 +0000

So, life has been slammed for me! I hardly have time to hop over here and talk to you ladies. But, no homework tonight! YAY, so I will spend a bit of time on the board today trying to catch up with everyone.

So... Catching up
FI met cousins, aunts, uncles, etc. in Wisconsin right before Christmas. It went great! My parents have finally finalized their own divorce papers (I was so happy I almost cried at work when I heard). I started my semester at school and am currently fighting to get my apartment complex to clean my carpets for me. I also started a 2nd part time job last week at my FIL's as a secretary. I have to say, I am loving the job! I wish I could quit job #1 and work for them all the time! I might even look into getting the official certificate for it and choose it as a potential career.

How about everyone else? How is life going?

Anxiously waiting on my proposal

cpalasz — Thu, 23 Jan 2014 18:15:05 +0000

Hey all!

First time poster here. I shall give you a bit of a backstory. My BF and I are planning our wedding, I'm just waiting on my "actual" proposal. We've known for a long time that we wanted ot get married, talks got more serious over the summer and in the Fall he basically said "We're getting married this summer" and we picked our date! We decided to start planning without the actual proposal for a few reasons. 1. Summer is a busy time and with more limited options venue wise where we live we wanted to make sure we got what we wanted before it got booked up (our date was non-negotiable). 2. My BF has a grand proposal idea (and this is where the anxious part kicks in)....I know he's been planning this since the beginning of November, or wedding is in July....this must be some grand proposal (which makes my head swim of what it could be).

I'm waiting as patiently as I can but sometimes I want to shake him and say "hurry up already" lol

Thoughts and Prayers for Allusive and Her DH

lunarsongbird — Wed, 29 Jan 2014 03:44:08 +0000

Hello All!

I got off the phone with Allusive about an hour ago and found out that her husband's father had a stroke today. She says it is pretty bad. He is on respirator and the stroke happened close to his brain stem; so they are afraid that even if he does recover that he may not have a very good quality of life. He is only 70 and it was very unexpected. I can't even begin to imagine what she is going through. She says that DH has not even said a word since he arrived at the hospital. It's breaking her heart.

You are all very special to Allusive and she considers you a very important of her community and support system; So I told her that I would let you all know what was going on.

Many thoughts and prayers for comfort and miracles are wanted.

Do you happen to know if Allusive participated in Elfster or a Christmas card exchange? If not- I would gladly share my address with you if you would like to send a physical card or token of thought.

I hope this message finds you all doing well!

(I still think of you all very often and I'm glad that I am connected with many of you on facebook.) Thanks for your T&P for Allusive and her husband! They are both such amazing and loving individuals. It is hard to seem them hurting.

P.S. Allusive isn't saying anything on Facebook, since many family still doesn't know. I told her she could shut down her wall, but she may not have a chance.

People calling you "honey"

Blackbird230 — Mon, 27 Jan 2014 20:03:46 +0000

This may be a bit of an irrational irritation, but I hate when people my age call me honey.

Backstory: Sunday night FI and I met his best friend's new girlfriend. I knew some background about her, but it wasn't really on the top of my mind. (Going through a divorce, married right out of high school to her parents' disapproval, has done drugs, big smoker.) She barely spoke with anyone all night and when we left, I told her it was nice to meet her. AND SHE CALLED ME HONEY. She's a year older than me. I feel bad because she has a smoker voice so it was really deep and it just completely got on my nerves. I'm trying to not make it cloud my judgment of her, but even if my hairdresser/waitress at a restaurant/anyone calls me honey except my SO, it's just not appropriate.

Thoughts? Are there names that people use casually that really bug you?

FRIDAY!

Swazzle — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 13:04:13 +0000

Morning ladies! This has been the neverending week from hell but it's FINALLY Friday!

So what's up for the weekend?

As I'm typing these, I'm realizing that I have a whole lot of nothing planned. H will be at work all day tomorrow so I will likely clean and do laundry. Sunday, we made no plans for the SuperBowl so I'll probably throw some dips together for us to eat while we watch. And that's about it.

Wow. I'm boring.

Friday Accountability

Swazzle — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 12:51:19 +0000

B: Homemade ham and egg on an english muffin with my new breakfast sandwich maker!!!!! (5), mini babybel (1)

L: Leftover ST chicken criolla (5), brown rice (4)

Leftover ST kalua pork (4), some sort of veggie, maybe a kale salad

S: Fruit cup (0), Caramel Quakes (3)

Total: 22/26 -- leaves me plenty for adding stuff to dinner

Duplicate Post

minskat30 — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 13:01:17 +0000

@Swazzle - I beat you to the same thread but yours involves GIFs so you win.

Thursday Judges

GoldenPenguin — Thu, 30 Jan 2014 16:46:43 +0000

Because I'm wearing my bitchy pants today. Join me.

- I sideeye how many people under the age of 25 that have posted on the Getting to Know You Thread recently. Especially those who can't correctly form a sentence, are "promised," or have wedding dates "planned." Chill the fuck out.

- I also judge newbs who burst in without an intro and call us names. GTFO.

- I judge myself for the state of my car right now. It's supposed to be light blue, I swear, but the salt from the road has turned it a murky white/gray. Every time I decide it's time to wash it, it's either freezing (aka frozen doors) or it's going to snow again. Poor Subie.

- I judge sensationalist journalism. For example, there was an article on CNN recently headlined "College Athletes Read at 5th-Grade Level." It pissed me off because that's not the majority, nor is it the norm. Do NOT lump my Mars Rover-building student-athletes in with the guys who are breaking every NCAA rule known to man. It's unfair, and it's the reason why some people have the perception of college athletes that they do - reading the comments almost made my head explode. (Someday I'll learn.)

Thursday Questions

Swazzle — Thu, 30 Jan 2014 13:24:12 +0000

1) What's the weather like where you are?

2) What are you wearing today?

3) Broncos or Seahawks?

4) What's the best/coolest thing you've ever won?

5) How do you like your coffee/tea?

6) What's something you're self-conscious about?

7) What's your morning routine?

8) Do you have any tattoos or piercings?

9) What kind of phone do you have?

10) What's the last TV show you watched?

11) What was your first car?

12) Your next trip is 100% paid for. Where would you like to go?

13) What one thing would you eat everyday forever?

14) What's your favorite thing about your job?

15) What's the reason you last took a day off work?

Little brother/sister gifts by Judgy McJudgerson

tuarceatha — Thu, 30 Jan 2014 14:32:34 +0000

Last night I had dinner with some family and H and somewhere in the dinner convo I brought up how my nephews do that thing where the little brother gets gifts on the big brother's bday. Several gifts, sometimes the exact gift that the big brother got. I was pointing out to the group that I thought that was dumb and unnecessary. How you only get one birthday, and why do you have to share it with your siblings if you don't actually share a birthday date with them (as in, you both were actually born on 01/29, for example). I said how it annoys me how it takes away from the actual birthday boy's birthday.

H pointed out that it is not just his nephews, but it is a real thing that people do. And my mother mentioned that the family across the street celebrates Brother's Day and Sister's Day, like Mother's Day and Father's Day. She said they don't have any family beyond the four of them, and it is a special and nice that they do that.

I guess my point is to see what you all think of all this. Did your parents do that with you? Do you do that with your kids? Would you? I'm sure I'm biased because I feel my younger sisters grew up getting a stuff animal or other toy every time they went out because my parents had the money to treat them. And they would always get a hot chocolate or something like that every time my parents took them to Starbucks (daily, sometimes more. My parents are Starbucks addicts). Anwyays, please discuss.

RE: My BF's mother is dying update

shaivana — Thu, 30 Jan 2014 07:02:59 +0000

A few months ago I anxiously posted about my SO's mother and was worried she didn't have much time left. Here's the update. SO's mother had no chance of living without a heart transplant and there was only a 5% chance they would find one to match her blood type. She went into a comma a couple of times, life-support for a month, her kidney's were failing and she had about 9 surgeries in the last 3 months. Crazy! But I guess it's true that prayer works because a miracle came through. She found a heart in two weeks and the transplant went really well! She's on the road to recovery and should be able to function normally soon.

I'm so glad I posted because I was loosing my mind and you ladies helped me not jump the gun. I didn't say anything to SO because I was able to be there for him without thinking about the future or about our relationship. Most importantly, SO is not going to loose the only person he has left and he was able to focus on her through that terrible time. Things turned out to be ok, and I have stepped off the crazy bus.

Excited!

IllusionsDepths — Thu, 30 Jan 2014 10:50:03 +0000

So, once again my little sister shares her birthday with the super bowl lol. I miss her terribly. When I moved last March I never thought I would miss my family as much as I have. Money has been tight so I haven't been able to fly back to Las Vegas to see them. I did take her birthday, as well as numerous other days around it (4 day weekend, much needed, super excited) off so I can call her and jibber-jabber all day. Plus it's a religious holiday for me (Imbolc, aka Candlemass) and a very important one at that. I'm truly starting my year and a day studies on Imbolc, as is tradition. So yea lot of exciting, and bittersweet, things going on this weekend. Oh! And SO and I are looking at apartments/houses today when I get off work in about 4 hours. Happy day! Our cat needs windows...we live in a basement atm lol

Thursday Accountability

Swazzle — Thu, 30 Jan 2014 13:05:25 +0000

B: 2 hard-boiled eggs (4) with dijon (0), fruit cup (0), mini babybel (1)

L: Leftover ST Kalua pork (6) on a roll (2) with Sweet Baby Ray's (1)

ST Crock Pot Chicken a la Criolla (5) over rice (4)

S: Quakes (3), baby carrots (0)

Total 26/26