Not Engaged Yet — The Knot Community

I'm soo annoyed!

natswild — Sun, 27 Oct 2013 15:26:41 +0000

I went into the jewellers yesterday to have a diamond ring I've had for decades made into a pendant, which I'll give to my BF's daughter as a MOH gift. What makes me annoyed is that we ordered my engagement ring September 21, was told it would take six weeks. No problem, except when I went in yesterday, I was told, " oh, somebody dropped the ball, and we just ordered it and put a rush on It." WTF? REALLY? It will be in before Christmas, I was told. I really hope so, he is planning to propose around Christmas!! Couple of side notes, when we discussed getting married, I let him know that I would be asking his daughter to be MOH, and I will not be asking or requiring her to wear the pendant. I'm one of the wear what makes you feel comfortable types:)

Blunt?

loves2shop4shoes — Fri, 25 Oct 2013 14:52:33 +0000

So, I've known many of you for years and years. And I've been told I'm blunt by just about all of you (if not ALL of you.) And I talked to my husband about it last night (idk how it came up)...and he agreed that I'm blunt, and some people can be put off by it. The thing is, for me, I'm not intentionally TRYING to be blunt...it's not even a thought for me. I just say what I think (and usually, I use some sort of a filter.)

I was wondering...

What do you mean when you say I'm blunt?

Does it have a good or bad connotation in your mind?

Is being blunt off putting to you?

Has there ever been a specific time when I said something and you were like... "Girl is BLUNT as a spoon"?

Do you feel like my bluntness has gotten better, worse, or the same over time?

Other thoughts about this?

I'm not trying to start drama, and I won't be upset about the responses. I'm genuinely curious about these things, since this is such a subconscious part of my behavior.

Another Allegiant thread -- this time with SPOILERS!!

Swazzle — Wed, 23 Oct 2013 15:47:14 +0000

I just finished.

I am sad right now. I cried.

And I obviously now understand why Veronica wrote it in 2 points of view.

I will say, I liked the ending of this better than the ending of HG.

I'll have more soon, I'm still trying to recover.

Thursday questions

Swazzle — Thu, 24 Oct 2013 12:29:03 +0000

Explain your TK username.

When is the last time you cried?

Have you ever smoked a cigarette?

What time do you usually wake up on weekdays? On weekends?

Who is your celebrity crush (PICK ONE)?

Have you ever gone skinny dipping?

Have you ever stolen anything?

Have/would you ever bungee jump? Skydive?

What's your favorite animal at the zoo?

Have you ever fired a gun?

What's your favorite holiday?

What's your favorite winter activity?

What's the last book you read?

Are you an organ donor?

What's your favorite movie theater snack?

Let's be nice today :)

GoldenPenguin — Wed, 23 Oct 2013 13:34:10 +0000

I got lots of warm, fuzzy feelings from Liv's love post yesterday, and I know it made her feel good. I think everyone can use a little boost sometimes. So, let's all pick three posters, and say nothing but nice things. Yes? (And no, I'm not digging for loves. But if someone wants to pick me, I'm okay with it. :-p)

1. @buddysmom80 - My fellow tall girl, you are effing hysterical. We share a sense of humor, and the same views on just about everything. I'm so glad that we have become close. I can't wait until this weekend!! Love youuu!

2. @swazzle - My Sisser!! I don't know what I'd do without you, our obsession with teen tv dramas, our random FB dates, and our twin asshole cats. You terrified me when I first started posting here (scary Jersey bitch), but now I can't imagine not having your friendship. Love youuu!

3. @sakalicious - Well, first off, I made up your screen name, so there's that. We love to eat meat & cheese, watch Pitch Perfect, and drink wine. You are a strong, brave little lady, and I love you for your quick wit, your smart science brain, and your Minniekins!! See you soooonnn!!

Woo! Friday!

Swazzle — Fri, 25 Oct 2013 11:10:25 +0000

What's up for the weekend, ladies? Mine will be filled with laughs, beer, and midnight orgasm cupcakes.

Today, I'm leaving work early to catch the train to @Brisox81's! I get there around 6 and we're going food shopping for the weekend. @buddysmom80 will get to Bri's by 8 and then the 3 of us are going to pick up @Sakalicious and @CSousa1 at the bus station. @LivLeighton will also be arriving at some point tonight!

Tomorrow, we're going to be pretty lazy until we have to go to a college hockey game tomorrow night.

Sunday, my bus home is fairly early so I can get to the bar to watch the Eagles/Giants game with my cousins. And then food shopping with H and Sunday night shows.

I hope the next 7 hours FLY by!!!

The Secret

katieg520 — Thu, 24 Oct 2013 13:56:44 +0000

Do you believe in The Secret??

If you're unfamiliar with what I'm referring to, it is a book written by Rhonda Byrne and it basically details how the energy you put out will be returned to you. Meaning, if you put out positive energy and thoughts, then that is what will be happening in your life - positive things.

I generally believe in it. I do believe that if you want something to happen or to manifest in your life that you have to speak it and bring it to you. I believe nothing in life is a coincidence. We are all living out the destiny we have brought upon ourselves. I could give examples from my own life of how this works, but I know people may view me as crazy or coo-coo lol.

So I just want to get your opinion and perspective on this. I know we all have different views on why things happen to us in life.

I also wanted to add. I DO believe in God and do label myself a Christian. I believe that you have the power to ask God for things and if He sees fit for you and His plan for you, it will be brought to you. I'll give examples from my life if the conversation goes in that direction.

Happy Thursday, ladies!! xoxo!

AWing my professional pics finally

doubleSS07 — Thu, 24 Oct 2013 21:44:16 +0000

Hey Ladies,

I'm way behind on this but I thought I'd still share We got married August 17th at a winery in N. CA. We got our pics back a couple weeks ago and this was the first chance I have had to sort through them. We ended up with 3 ladies taking pics that day and had over 400 pictures. It was a beautiful late summer day that turned in to a gorgeous evening. Everything went smoothly and the only thing I could have wished for was for it to last a while longer. We had so much fun and it truly is an amazing day adn experience. Nothing really prepares you for the feelings you have when you marry your BFF. I hope you guys likey!!

Clicky

No Ring Yet.. Am I engaged or not?

MSFRN — Tue, 30 Oct 2012 00:04:32 +0000

My boyfriend and I picked out my ring and he went to put money down on it and secured the ring.We also decided pn and set a date. Should I still consider myself just a girlfriend or can I say I am his fiance even though technically I am not wearing a ring as of yet??

WCW!

ShallowSeas — Wed, 23 Oct 2013 18:27:28 +0000

It's Woman Crush Wednesday!!! Just wondering who everyone's woman crush is!

One of mine is definitely Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge. Besides the fact that she's married to a prince, has an engagement ring to die for, and is beautiful, she is so classy and seems really down to Earth. I never get tired of reading about her and Prince William.

so, this happened...

lennonkdc — Wed, 23 Oct 2013 23:30:15 +0000

So, some of you know already know this, but I was laid off today. I more or less saw it coming as my boss is as "fishy as a trout left in the sun", (thanks for that one MotoLyn). In the end he said the firm just couldn't 'afford' me any more. I'm getting a modest severance package, he won't contest my filing for unemployment and he's paying for a training program I had wanted to take. Oh, and I took a pretty decent civil case with me.

At this point I'm sad, b/c hey, no one likes getting rejected. But now I can focus on my love of criminal defense, after the training I will be a certified Guardian ad Litem and I have an awesome professional network. So I'm going to take a few days and figure it all out, talk to some other lawyers I know and respect, but I think I'm going to be starting my own law firm!

But right now I'm gonna go drink and snuggle with FI, who is just being even more wonderful about this than I could have imagined!!

I wanna play! AMA

bride2b71614 — Thu, 24 Oct 2013 02:04:35 +0000

Since all the cool kids are doing it, ask me anything!

Thursday Accountability

Swazzle — Thu, 24 Oct 2013 11:59:05 +0000

B: 1 egg, 1 slice of pork roll, banana, iced coffee with a splash of skim

S: Fruit cup

L: ST buffalo turkey burger with some blue cheese crumbles on top, side salad with FF raspberry vinaigrette

S: Apple

Not really sure yet. I have a Devils game tonight.

Goal: 80oz of water

I miss all the fun :(

Swazzle — Wed, 23 Oct 2013 11:13:41 +0000

Why was the crazy thread closed yesterday?

Allegiant!

Swazzle — Tue, 22 Oct 2013 11:16:43 +0000

For my fellow Divergent fans, the 3rd book is finally out!

I read Divergent again starting last Friday and finished it yesterday morning and immediately started re-reading Insurgent which I finished last night.

I'm so excited!

@500days

tuarceatha — Wed, 23 Oct 2013 15:54:44 +0000

@500days

Hi. Was it you that shared that funny standup about Rhode Island accents? What was the link again? (I dunno if you even remember sharing it with me, but yea. Let me know if you have no idea what I am taking about.)

Thanks!

I love Spirit Week!

katieg520 — Wed, 23 Oct 2013 14:03:29 +0000

So, most of you know I'm a high school teacher. One of the best things about this job is Spirit week and Senior Week. This week is senior week, where the seniors and the teachers can dress up with designated themes each day. This week's days are:
Monday: Kindergarten day. (I wore jeans with a minion shirt and pig tails. The kids loved this and thought it was hilarious!!!)
Tuesday: pajama day - I mean, who DOESN'T want to wear their pajamas all day?
Wednesday: Senior Citizen day - I borrowed a MuMu from my FMIL and wearing slippers. Ah yes, this is very comfortable, lol.
Thursday: twin day - I don't have a twin so I won't be participating.
Friday: Team day - wear a t-shirt, jersey, pants, whatever you've got supporting your favorite college or NFL team. I shall be decked out in PURPLE and GOLD for my LSU Tigers!!!!

NEY Crafters

Blackbird230 — Tue, 22 Oct 2013 13:09:08 +0000

I know @KeptInStitches is a knitter and some of you also knit or crochet. What are you working on right now? I've got a scarf I've been attempting to knit, but I'm a slow poke and have no patience so I work on it incredibly sporadically. I also used to quilt when I had time and have made probably 4 quilts so far?

Wednesday Accountability

Swazzle — Wed, 23 Oct 2013 11:13:03 +0000

B: 1 egg, 1 slice of pork roll, iced coffee with skim

S: Fruit cup

L: Leftover crockpot salsa chicken with 1 tortilla

S: Apple

Beer

Finally!!

dixie7701 — Tue, 22 Oct 2013 22:01:01 +0000

Let the planning begin!

I love Liv because...

loves2shop4shoes — Tue, 22 Oct 2013 17:48:32 +0000

It's pretty obvious from all of @LivLeighton's posts today that she's feeling in the dumps.

I know how many of us absolutely adore her, and so I think what we should all do is let her know why.

I'll start!

I love Liv because...

1) She's smart.
2) She's logical.
3) She is helpful and supportive.
4) She can get through an entire menu of martinis. In one sitting. And be a champ about it.
5) She's funny and appreciates my sarcasm. Sometimes.
6) She's GORGEOUS.
7) She loves ALL THE ANIMALS.
8) She shotgunned a beer at my wedding.
9) She's courageous.
10) She is resilient and inspires me to press on when I feel like giving up.

YOUR TURN, BITCHES!

Talk to me!

CLoGreenEyes — Tue, 22 Oct 2013 10:50:08 +0000

I haz questions for NEY. 1) What do you love about yourself? Like a list of qualities, not just one or two things. 2) What does your SO love about you? 3) How important is it to you that those lists overlap? Why? 4) Is loving someone more about who they are or about *how* they are? Why? 5) What makes your relationship now "different" from those before? What has changed and improved that makes this better?

I'm Bored...AMA?

loves2shop4shoes — Mon, 21 Oct 2013 17:25:17 +0000

I'm bored. And I know a million AMA threads have already been started...but really, what's one more?

So, it's go time, bitches!

S/O of Amapola's post

Sakalicious — Tue, 22 Oct 2013 11:53:16 +0000

What don't you like about yourself? Do you plan to do anything to change that?

I ask this because I've really been struggling with "liking" myself over the last few months and I'm having a difficult time going about making the changes that I want to make. I blamed my temporary leave on work in my AMA post, but the truth is, I've been struggling with a lot internally recently and I needed to rid myself of distractions. I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else feels like they really want to make changes but don't know where to begin.

I think the big question is around the corner!

sarahelizabeth93 — Mon, 21 Oct 2013 08:53:49 +0000

My boyfriend and I bought & moved into our first home this past May. We had been renting a room from family before (for two years) but, being on our own just made more sense. So, we made the decision that we would get "our" first place. Technically, it is his house. But, he made sure that it was going to be OUR home before purchasing it... Now, Fast forward six months; he began talking more about us getting married. He knows I want a kind of long engagement & that I have always had my heart set on 10/10/15 for our wedding date.(It is a Saturday & will be our 5 year dating anniversary). So, I started to wonder why he was asking so many questions, & I really started hoping the BIG question was soon. But, I dismissed the thought until this past week. He asked me to go on his phone to search for something & his browser was on James Allen & in his shopping bag was a princess cut solitaire, just like I want! I pretended I did not see a thing. Later that week I went to make sure our electric bill went through with the online banking. I rarely pay attention to the savings. He does the saving, I just make sure the bills are paid on time. But, I noticed that it had decreased. Decreased just enough for the ring in his James Allen shopping bag. But, I tried not to think of it because I had a friend who knew about the ring and went CRAZY waiting for so long. So, I just told myself well maybe he bought it but that doesn't mean its going to be soon. Well, this past weekend he started asking me to plan another day trip to NYC for mid December. We went last year mid December, & I fell in love with all the Christmas Decorations, the huge tree & watching the ice skaters. While we were there I saw a proposal by the large ornaments and one in the ice rink. & I told him that Christmas time NYC proposals are magical. So, I am hoping that he is going to do it on the trip. What do you all think?

This sucks!

natswild — Tue, 22 Oct 2013 19:58:12 +0000

I work at a site where I sit in a truck all day, I looked out of my window, mad there was a bunch of spiders, ugh!!! I'm pretty phobic about spiders, this really sucks! Last job that I was on, and staying in a hotel, I'd gotten 9 spider bites, so that really doesn't't help how I feel about them . They'll all over the windshield, and I can see one crawling up to the power pole across the road! Sorry, I just needed to vent, because my skin is crawling right now

Work-related vent

phira — Fri, 18 Oct 2013 03:41:35 +0000

@bethsmiles and other teacher types: you might appreciate this (or maybe it'll cause you to tear out your hair)

I'm the teaching fellow for an honors level course at my university. Our class has almost 120 students, and a great deal of them are pre-med because of course. The normal professor for this course is wonderful, but we have a visiting scholar this semester who was required to teach, so she's teaching the course instead. Because of the language barrier (she's from Europe) and because she's basically a new professor here teaching someone else's course, the class has kind of devolved into a mediocre course at best.

That being said, I am getting very frustrated with the students. The entire point of discussion, which I teach, is that we are learning to read scientific papers. I'm leading the paper discussions, and I come in with questions I've written up to help them understand the paper. I've told them from the start, the goal is for them to start doing this kind of legwork on their own, and by the end of the semester, they should be able to lead the discussions almost entirely on their own.

We're halfway through the semester, and I am appalled by how badly everyone prepares for discussion. I ask the same damn questions about every figure (like, "What was the goal of this figure?"), and when I ask, five papers into the course, no one has bothered to try to answer the question on their own. There are terms that no one bothered to look up. After class, I get a ton of people saying, "Well, I wasn't sure what this meant, so I wanted to wait till after discussion to ask," as if I don't have an email address.

What's more, they all focus on completely pointless stuff and resist every attempt I make to get back on track. We end up not being able to finish the papers every week because no one is prepared and they're all asking legitimately pointless questions.

Tonight has been the last straw for me. There is a quiz next week. It'll be easy, and they already know what'll be on it. So naturally, no fewer than 10 students have asked to meet with me for an hour (separately from office hours) to "go over the papers." I've started telling them that no, I no longer have time for an appointment, so they can email me with questions or come to office hours. Here is a general exchange I had this evening:

Student: Can we meet next week on Monday or Tuesday to go over the papers before the quiz?

Me: I'm sorry, but I don't have time. If you can't make it to office hours on Tuesday, feel free to email me your questions.

Student: Oh, well, I can't come to office hours. Is it okay if I reread the papers and then send you concrete questions?

I replied politely, but I'm fuming right now. You should reread the papers BEFORE you would meet with me. You should have concrete questions BEFORE you would meet with me. Meeting with me should be reserved for when you actually can't make heads nor tails of a paper, not when you just want a refresher or a personal tutoring session from the TF.

Ladies, I've had enough and I'm joining the circus.

Sorry, but I want to join in on the trend!

ShallowSeas — Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:07:57 +0000

So, I post here and there on the NEY and Chit Chat boards but most of you are probably like, "Who is this random girl we don't know?". I've noticed within the last week, many of the new posters doing AMA posts and I really think its a great idea. I hate feeling like a "stranger" on these boards because they are very helpful and a good way to pass the time. So here is my AMA post, and a little bit about myself...

My name is Shyann. I work as a mental health social worker in a male juvenile prison...its an exciting, crazy, and challenging job, but I absolutely love it. I am from Indiana, which I'm not real crazy about. I was married once,was cheated on, and filed for divorce 3 days after I found out. I am now with an amazing guy, B, who I met in 2007. We were Biology partners in our Biology 101 class, became friends, and remained friends, then decided to take it to the next level. We have been together since January 2013 and just recently (yesterday) started looking at engagement rings. Whew, that was a lot...okay, GO!

Diamond question

FutureMr&MrsG — Mon, 21 Oct 2013 15:41:32 +0000

Does anyone know what the difference is between a diamond from a "discount" site such as Blue Nile and a diamond with the same specifications (clarity, cut, etc.)from a typical jewelry store?

Thank you!

Hitch me to the AMA wagon

CLoGreenEyes — Tue, 22 Oct 2013 13:00:01 +0000

I am work today and we literally have two patients. If you're not out of questions, I want to answer them!