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Friday Chatter

Swazzle — Fri, 12 Jul 2013 12:27:38 +0000

Morning ladies! I've been at work for an hour and a half now and we've done 0 trades. I predict this day will suck. Let's chat.

What do you have going on for the weekend? We're having company stay over tomorrow night so I will spend tonight suffocating in my hot apartment while I scrub it. I desperately need to clean my closet and put clothes away. It's been a disaster area since before my wedding. Tomorrow night I'm going out with some friends for my birthday (early). Sunday I want to go to the beach and then H has an early hockey game that I'll probably go to.

I know I mentioned this in the accountability thread yesterday but OMG I love my egg cooker. I think it's my favorite thing that we got from our registry. I need to start coming up with better ideas for my eggs, though, because I'll start getting bored with my egg "salad" (3 hard boiled eggs -- 2 with no yolk, 1 with yolk, 1 tbsp of dijon, 1 tsp of light mayo all mixed together in a bowl). I also have the option to soft and medium boil the eggs but I'm not sure what I'd do with those.

Thursday Questions

Swazzle — Thu, 11 Jul 2013 12:50:42 +0000

What are you wearing today?

What's the weather like where you are?

What's your favorite fast-food place?

Would you rather go to the dentist or gynecologist?

What's the last TV show you watched?

What did you have for dinner last night?

How often do you have sex?

Do you like to bake?

In what city have you lived the longest?

What's something you're looking forward to in the next month?

Friday Accountability

Swazzle — Fri, 12 Jul 2013 11:28:26 +0000

B: Egg salad (144), english muffin with butter (192)

S: Greek yogurt (80)

L: Salad with turkey, avocado, onions, tomatoes and balsamic vinegar (265)

S: Apple (72)

Chicken with lemon basil pesto (236), roasted potatoes (160), broccoli (30) -- Was supposed to make this last night but ordered pizza instead. Oopsie!

Total: 1179 -- a little low, I will probably have some sort of snack after dinner.

Thursday Accountability

Swazzle — Thu, 11 Jul 2013 12:32:47 +0000

B: Egg "salad" (162), ham (60), toast (87)

S: Greek yogurt (80)

L: ST buffalo turkey burger with slaw (208), salad (70), apple (72)

S: Banana (121)

Grilled chicken with lemon basil pesto (236), roasted baby potatoes (130), broccoli (30)

Total: 1256

I just bought THIS egg cooker and I'm in love with it. I hate hard-boiling eggs, it takes too long and it's too easy to screw up. I threw 3 eggs into my new egg cooker while I was getting ready this morning and brought them to work with me. I just peeled them (they're fresh eggs and surprisingly peeled REALLY easily) and they are PERFECT. I highly recommend this egg cooker if you like hard-boiled eggs but hate making them. It also has the option to poach eggs which I'm planning to try out this weekend.

Celeb Unpop Ops

GoldenPenguin — Wed, 10 Jul 2013 16:42:01 +0000

I know everyone hates the Kardashians, but I will be really sad if Lamar actually cheated on Khloe and they get divorced. I love them together.

I HATE Cameron Diaz with the fury of 1,000 suns. She is easily one of my least favorite celebrities. I will not see a movie simply because she's in it.

I don't know if this qualifies as an Unpop Op or what, but I am absolutely obsessed with Jay Z's new album, and he says the n-word a lot, and it doesn't offend me. I feel like that makes me a bad person or something.

Random Questions For Fun :)

ShallowSeas — Tue, 09 Jul 2013 16:14:43 +0000

I'm need to take a break from work! Humor me I found these online.

Last thing you listened to?
What is the closest book to you?
What phone do you have?
Do you have any dogs? If so, what breeds? Name(s)?
Favorite Disney movie?
Do you have any piercings? Where?
Any tattoos? Where?
Last movie you saw at the theater?
Look out the window whats the first thing you see?
What does your hair look like now?
If you could move somewhere else, where would it be?
What was the last gift someone gave you?
If you were a crayon what color would you be?
If you could only wear one type of make-up, what would it be? (eyeliner, mascara, lip gloss...)
Last concert you went to?

SO brag-fest

CLoGreenEyes — Wed, 10 Jul 2013 12:47:21 +0000

BF has been so wonderful lately. I don't know if he is just being extra-loving or if he remembers what it was like to have no free time while in school, but he has been doing EVERYTHING. Fixing the vacuum, and then using said vacuum and other assorted products to clean my house. Building me a new closet system that *isn't* falling out of the wall. Making sure I have semi-decent food in the house, and/or taking me out to dinner. Being extremely patient with me when I am stressed out and get a little short. Planning our vacation in August so I have a little something to look forward to as motivation. And every time I say, "I need to remember to buy [whatever]," he shows up with it the next time I see him (I have stopped saying that as much, lol.)

I have always been fairly independent and just take care of my stuff myself. Our relationship is very equitable in who pays for what, the amount of effort we each put into things, etc., but lately he has totally stepped up and taken care of everything I need and a good chunk of what I want. I feel guilty about it at times, because he is doing a LOT and spending more on me and our relationship than when I was working full-time. When I said that to him, he just told me, "You're in school. You doing well in school is important for our future, and if me buying you dinner or cleaning your bathroom will help you with that, I am happy to do it."

In short, I definitely got a winner. So, to turn this into a thread, share something helpful or sweet your SO has done lately!

Not engaged yet but still do dream of my perfect day. :)

[Deleted User] — Tue, 02 Jul 2013 12:16:37 +0000

My boyfriend and I aren't engaged yet and don't intend to be anytime soon but that doesn't mean we haven't had any serious discussions about a future together. We've discussed what we would want in a marriage and if we have kids. I think overall we pretty much can tell each other anything Which is wonderful because I want us to always be open and honest with one another. We both see each other getting married in the future but currently With our long distance situation for now, getting engaged and married will have to wait. He has even told me that he wants to be married in his early 20s and not to have a very long engagement which is pretty much what I want to. I know that if and when he does propose, it'll be when he's financially ready and when we're in a stable situation. I love him so much and I am going to cherish every moment we spend together before being married.:)

excuses...excuses...excuses

LyndsayN — Wed, 10 Jul 2013 02:06:10 +0000

This is all I hear from my boyfriend is excuses. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 and 1/2 years we have lived together now for 2 years. I have been in all long term relationships and they all lasted a while however nothing ever seemed to work out I was cheated on so now with being in this long term relationship and us living together I feel like he is just comfortable with just living together. I always feel like the same thing will happen i'm just the girl someone wants just doesn't want to marry. I know it's because of my past and I know I should move on but it's hard to do when it's all emotions. I thought by now I met the right guy and thought he was different however he's just the same still no proposal and just full of excuses. I feel like this should not be how it goes me asking are you going to ever propose to me , do you want to marry me or what? I feel like he is in no rush he doesn't care that all his friends are married, getting married or have kids. My family has asked is he ever going to propose to you what's taking so long you both aren't getting any younger. How do you think that makes me feel? Both of his brothers have kids but aren't married I think he thinks that's okay and since his parents never said Oh do you ever plan on getting married or proposing to your girlfriend. His family loves me his grandmother even made a statement of us getting married. We have been through a lot with him losing his job to him getting a great job now his excuse is when he gets a raise we can go out that day and look at rings well he makes good money now and I know he hasn't even tried to save for a ring. I don't think that should be it I think it should have happened already no one is ever financially stable and if you ask me people get married, buy a house, have kids. There is always going to be an expense, life is never easy. I think I am frustrated with not just him and his decisions but with myself I feel like I am not good enough for anyone. I feel like a failure I have a decent job I know what I want in life just don't know if I have the right guy I think about it all the time it's not about the ring I even said I'll propose to him but he laughed at me. I feel like we are both going to push each other away and i'll be back to square one which im fine with maybe im destined to be alone... so his excuses are pathetic and if he wanted to be with me or wanted to propose or wanted to marry me he would there wouldn't be ANY excuses! I am just an emotional wreck.

Wednesday Accountability

Peaseblossom55 — Wed, 10 Jul 2013 11:59:30 +0000

B- hot chocolate, yogurt with blueberries

L-orzo vegetable soup

S- apple

D- I may be going out with a friend for dinner so either that or gnocci with marinara sauce

S- guac and chips

E- none again so much for working out in July :-/

It Happened!

nyiri89 — Tue, 09 Jul 2013 04:14:16 +0000

I don't get to post on here as much as I'd like, but I'm just so happy and really want to share - I'M ENGAGED!

My FI (!!!!) and I have been together a little over two years and started to talk about taking the next step. He had been acting really weird lately and I'm not going to lie, he was starting to bug me a little bit. We went to the Catskills (I used to vaca there with my family when I was a little girl - beyond thrilled to share a part of my childhood with him) and went horseback riding at the same stable my grandparents took me to as a kid. We came back from a trail ride, and he wanted to go take pictures by the lake with all of the mountains in the background. I was hot, sweaty and had some serious helmet hair - I was begging to just go back to the hotel it was that hot. He said "I have something to ask you" and I said "awesome. ask me in the air conditioned car".

And then he dropped down on one knee. I slapped him on the shoulder (I thought he was messing around) and told him to get up I wanted to go. And then the ring box came out and I was speechless. Could not believe what I was seeing at all. I turned around and walked a few steps and looked back to make sure what I was seeing was real. And once I realized this was happening - I fainted! I feel ass first in to some muddy pondish water mud mixture - embarrassing! Once I regained some semblance of what was going on, he was still holding the box and was just like "Will you say something?!" and I said yes! It's certainly not a conventional engagement story, but I think it's a good one!

Then of course all of the phone calls to family and friends ensued. It really didn't start to sink in until yesterday, but I'm just so beyond happy right now! Just had to share!

Throwing a Baby Boy Shower-Ideas Please!

radleyboo — Mon, 08 Jul 2013 19:34:47 +0000

Hi girls-

I am throwing my first baby shower in years for my cousin who is expecting a baby boy in September. We are having a brunch gathering at 11am at my house and outside of a delicious breakfast casserole dish that my mom is making and a cake, I'm not sure what to serve, do, etc. Throw your best and favorite ideas out there for food, games, decor, prizes, anything at all. I'm excited to be doing this for her.

Thanks in advance!

ALLUSIVE

Swazzle — Mon, 08 Jul 2013 19:57:08 +0000

@allusive007!

Nice try sneaking back on the board without telling us all about your wedding and honeymoon!

I demand pics!

Tuesday Accountability

Swazzle — Tue, 09 Jul 2013 11:29:36 +0000

B: Frittata with ham, onions, tomatoes, and cheddar (171), Greek yogurt (80)

S: Apple (72)

L: Grilled chicken with pesto (147), salad with raspberry vinaigrette (70)

S: Banana (135)

ST Sausage Stuffed Zucchini Boats (306)

S: 1 (large) glass of wine during PLL (250)

Total: 1231

Carbs: 42%

Protein: 33%

Fat: 25%

Mini-vent and in need of advice

bride2b71614 — Sun, 07 Jul 2013 21:05:00 +0000

I have a dilemma involving a close male friend. He is like a brother to me, and we've never been in anything other than a platonic relationship, and this is clear to everyone we know. We grew up in the same apartment complex, have stayed in touch through out college, and our families are very close to each other (we set up his mother and step father, and often celebrate the holidays with each other). He got engaged to a woman he dated during college, and I was excited for him because she makes him extremely happy.

That being said, I saw him and his fiance earlier this year. His FI started talking about politics, specifically about abortion and adoption. I should have kept my mouth shut, but she asked for my opinion. She said some very off color things in regards to my viewpoint about abortion and adoption. As someone who is adopted, I believe that its someone's right to choose, she disagreed and then went to a "bad" place where Jesus was brought up, and how I would feel if my biological mother aborted me. At that point I didn't have the energy nor did I want to waste my time creating a harsh comeback. I paid my portion of the check, said a cordial goodbye, and left.

I got engaged a few months after that dinner. My friend and I have been in contact since then, and it seemed like there was no harm done between us. Recently he asked me how my wedding planning was going (via gchat). I gave a short response, and there was a long pause in the conversation. He then proceeded to tell me that his FI didn't want my family and I on their guest list because my viewpoints didn't go with her values, and that they didn't feel as though our families were close enough to make the guest list. He then faltered to say that they reached capacity, and that it was nothing personal. I brushed it off and tried to carry on the conversation while avoiding the pink elephant in the room.

It is my understanding that the bride's family is paying for the wedding, but I don't understand where this is coming from (especially after knowing him for so long), and my family is fairly upset about this as well. I didn't want to say anything during that chat because I felt upset and I didn't know if she was looking over his shoulder at that time. I am trying really hard not to take this personally, but something inside me feels as though this is a response from that dinner. I don't know how to approach him to ask if there was something I did, and if so, how can I make reparation? At this point I don't care about the invite, I care more about our friendship. What should I do?

Electronics Overload

minskat30 — Mon, 08 Jul 2013 15:56:34 +0000

H and I are spending wayyyy to much time in front of TVs/computers/electronic gadgets when we get home from work at night. We are planning a game-night one night a week without electronics on and a night where we cook in candle light only, then eat without any electronics on. Any other date-night activities that are home-based and not too expensive? Also, any board game suggestions for two people?

H's first language isn't English so Scrabble/word games might be a little harder and I'm not a fan of chess/card games. We are going to try Clue tonight but I have a feeling it will be way too easy with only two people. Suggestions?

Monday Accountability & Meal Plan

Swazzle — Mon, 08 Jul 2013 12:02:32 +0000

Morning ladies! I have been eating anything and everything lately. Getting back on track starting now!

B: Frittata with ham, cheese, tomatoes, and onion (171), Greek yogurt (80)

S: Apple (72)

L: Mixed greens with turkey, avocado, tomatoes, onions, & balsamic vinegar (335)

Thin spaghetti with lemon basil pesto (402)

S: Brownie Brittle (120)

Total: 1180

Dinner Plan (lunches will be chicken or leftovers all week):

Monday - Thin spaghetti with lemon basil pesto

Tuesday - ST buffalo turkey burgers with blue cheese broccoli slaw

Wednesday - ST sausage stuffed zucchini boats

Thursday - Grilled chicken with lemon basil pesto, steamed broccoli and potatoes

Friday - Leftover zucchini boats

Saturday - Baked tilapia with lemon and garlic, steamed veggies

How was your weekend?

Peaseblossom55 — Mon, 08 Jul 2013 11:16:18 +0000

How was your weekend?

I'm posting early while still home to show a pic of the dress I said yes to this weekend. I'll only leave the pic up for a little while, but here you go. It's a little too poufy but that will come down a bit. I love it I was crying. Ok I'm late for work more later.

Sides to go with grilled burgers? Sick of everything right now ...

KeptInStitches — Mon, 01 Jul 2013 20:59:20 +0000

So my dad is grilling burgers for Fourth of July and my mom was wondering what sides she could put with them. We've done a lot of baked beans and coleslaw, fruit salad, and the like lately. Anyone have a killer side dish they like with burgers?

Want

tuarceatha — Sun, 07 Jul 2013 16:35:53 +0000

My birthday is coming up and people keep asking me what I want.

What do you want right now? Say you had 100 bucks in Visa/Amex gift cards, what would you buy yourself?

Need to Vent

bethsmiles — Fri, 05 Jul 2013 23:58:55 +0000

My mother is driving me absolutely insane. Since BF graduated he has been job hunting. It's stressful but we are both staying positive about it and know that eventually he will get something. My mom has decided it is helpful for her to bombard me with e-mails about jobs for him. It's infuriating me. The majority of the jobs aren't even in BF's field and the ones that are he's already found on his own and applied to (because he is more than capable of using the internet to search for jobs, he's not stupid). All these e-mails are accomplishing is stressing me out - I can't really explain why except that I have pretty bad anxiety problems and the e-mails trigger it.

My mom has a really bad anger problem so confronting her about it really isn't worth it as she will just blow up. I just really need to vent.

Is anyone else working today I'm bored

Peaseblossom55 — Fri, 05 Jul 2013 14:23:59 +0000

Is anyone else working today? I really wish I had taken off today.. I hope 4pm gets here quickly I have no patients and one of my co workers is being an a$$.
Did anyone do anything exciting yesterday? Any good weekend plans?

Wednesday after my half day I did more dress shopping but I'm done now. I found the one and it was one I tried on last weekend so tomorrow I am going to get measured. I am so happy and excited!! Then we went to a friends' house for a BBQ and played CAH it was a good time. Fireworks did get cancelled though because of the weather. Yesterday we prepped our backyard for the paver patio FI is installing. Today an excavator is coming in while FI is off of work to dig the area. I kinda wish I was there to see it. Nothing else exciting is happening otherwise.

Is it 4 yet?

Interesting article on age and fertility. Thoughts?

suzie211 — Tue, 02 Jul 2013 19:12:35 +0000

My sister and a friend recently both shared this article with me. I found it interesting that many common statistics thrown out didn't have a whole lot of science to back them up. I know there are a few of us ladies on here that have baby brain, and thought I would pass this along as well. What are your thoughts?

I know 35 is creeping up on me, and I've been told too many times that my eggs are drying up and I should get on the baby train. FI and I plan to start trying after the wedding, but that's not only based on age. It just happens to be what we're ready for in our lives.

Does age scare you?

Click here!

OLW

buddysmom80 — Wed, 03 Jul 2013 11:11:17 +0000

Dear Homeowners Insurance,

Fuck off.

No Love, a disgruntled homeowner

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Dear Hurricane Sandy and Winter Storm Nemo,

Fuck you too, since my homeowner's insurance went up because of you

Please no bad weather for the rest of the year.

No Love Either, me

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Dear BF,

Please STOP saying "we'll do whatever you want" when you made crystal clear plans on Sunday what we're doing tonight. It makes you seem like you don't give a shit about what we do. I'd like to leave the house once and a while and sit down and have dinner and not have to freaking clean up after. You said I was "frustrating" you this morning, and I bit my tongue so hard because some days I'm frustrated with you too but never tell you. Just grow some balls, make plans and stick with them. I still love you.

Love, your gf

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Dear trip to Europe,

Thanks for planning yourself, one less thing I have to worry about.

Love, me

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Dear Work,

We need to work out something so that I'm not here 11 hours a day for a week. I'm tired, I'm bitchy, I'm punchy, I'm fucking up left and right. Please work on this.

No love

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Dear Buddy,

Sorry I kicked you off the bed last night, you scared me in your state of shaved-ness and I got scared. Dude, you look like a freak, I can't help it, but I love you.

Your horrible fur mom

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Dear Quigley,

Next week we're bringing you to a concert, please be good. Please be good to the kids coming over tomorrow. I can't wait to get some training done with you.

Your fur mom

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Dear NEYers,

I forgot to AW a couple of things, so here you go. The first picture is of buddy's lion cut. He looks like such a freak but he loves it! I've never seen him prance around so much. The second picture is of a craft I've been talking about on here for WEEKS I finally completed it, I loved how it came out. Also you ladies rock. I don't know what I'd do without you!

Love, Buddysmom

Tuesday questions

CLoGreenEyes — Tue, 02 Jul 2013 15:23:05 +0000

Because I'm at work and bored out of my skull, and probably some of you are too!

What career have you always wanted to try?
What do you like on your pizza?
Who do you wish would just fall off the planet right now?
Do you practice any supersititions?
What sitcom character can you most identify with?
Quick, make three wishes!
If you had to choose between world domination and world peace, which would you pick?
When you looked at yourself in the mirror today, what was your first thought?
What is a word or phrase that you overuse?
Who is your celebrity crush? How does your SO feel about that?
What should you be doing right now?
What do you spend the majority of your money on, other than basic living expenses?

Wednesday Accountability

Peaseblossom55 — Wed, 03 Jul 2013 12:11:26 +0000

b- hot chocolate, yogurt with blueberries

S- apple

l- leftover linguini rustico

D- veggie burgers and bbq stuff and drinking

I will be eating and drinking all the things tonight!

E- none unless trying on wedding dresses counts. I fail this week at any working out :-(

Tuesday Accountability

Peaseblossom55 — Tue, 02 Jul 2013 12:55:51 +0000

I didn't even attempt to work out yesterday...sigh....

B- hot chocolate, yogurt with blueberries

L- bean and tomato salad

S- apple

D- Linguini rusitico a new recipe pasta garlic, chick peas, I forget what else but it looks yummy

S- guac & chips

E- hopefully a small abs work out

AW: As Long Duk Dong would say, 'She get Meddied! Sheesh!' PIP Heavy.

radleyboo — Tue, 25 Jun 2013 19:42:33 +0000

Hi girls-

After a crazy pre-wedding week, our day was amazing. It was a fairly warm and humid day, with storms threatening. We had some sprinkles here and there throughout the morning, but by the time the ceremony started outdoors on the lake, the skies had cleared up and the sun was shining. The ceremony was perfect and our dinner reception was great, the cupcakes were fantastic! I don't have a lot of photos yet, but here are a few that H's mom, my friend Amanda, and my cousin snapped:

Floral delivery-I was so happy with the way they turned out!

Friend Amanda, myself, and my sister before the ceremony.

Aisle markers.

Family flower ceremony.

This one shows off the back of my dress.

I love this of my daughter, she looked like a little princess and it was amazing to have her next to me.

Cupcakes!

Tables at reception.

Sunset on Lake Macatawa after reception. Perfect ending.

What's the hold up?

cplouden — Mon, 17 Jun 2013 23:48:14 +0000

My lovely SO and I have been talking about marriage for awhile, and we picked out a ring together.

He's had many opportunities to pop the question, but has said, it wasn't unique enough for him to ask.

He's also said that since both his parents have had previous marriages, that he's worried. I've tried to talk to him about that, and comfort him.

I'm worried that he's still wanting to be a kid, and doesn't want to grow up and ask. I know he loves me and I love him. But...When's it gonna happen? lol

Anyone else running into this?

Background: We've known each other since middle school. Been together for almost 2 years and lived together for a little over 6 months.

Just a bad week. -mini vent-

Vintagelove4 — Fri, 28 Jun 2013 02:51:45 +0000

So this can really be summed up into this: FI and I where laid off within two days of each other. The wedding is 65 days away. I have no idea what we're going to do.
I'm so stressed right now.

Prayers and good vibes would be wonderful.

Not Engaged Yet — The Knot Community

Friday Chatter

Thursday Questions

Friday Accountability

Thursday Accountability

Celeb Unpop Ops

Random Questions For Fun :)

SO brag-fest

Not engaged yet but still do dream of my perfect day. :)

excuses...excuses...excuses

Wednesday Accountability

It Happened!

Throwing a Baby Boy Shower-Ideas Please!

**ALLUSIVE**

Tuesday Accountability

Mini-vent and in need of advice

Electronics Overload

Monday Accountability & Meal Plan

How was your weekend?

Sides to go with grilled burgers? Sick of everything right now ...

Want

Need to Vent

Is anyone else working today I'm bored

Interesting article on age and fertility. Thoughts?

OLW

Tuesday questions

Wednesday Accountability

Tuesday Accountability

AW: As Long Duk Dong would say, 'She get Meddied! Sheesh!' PIP Heavy.

What's the hold up?

Just a bad week. -mini vent-

ALLUSIVE