Not Engaged Yet — The Knot Community

As promised, your new KG!

KnotJackie — Tue, 14 May 2013 18:02:50 +0000

Hi Knotties!

So, remember when I promised you a full-time person who will be your advocate and their only focus would be on the boards and TK members?

Well – she is here! Introducing @KnotPorscha!

Knot Irene and I will be sticking around – but she is going to be handling the day-to-day community needs. So, while she gets comfortable and acclimated, please page “KGs” (Knot gods, obvi) on threads and one of us will respond.

Give her a warm (and drama-free) welcome!!

Jackie

Cooking

kmbryant2413 — Mon, 13 May 2013 20:50:24 +0000

Is it sad that I'm looking forward to cooking dinner because every time I do, it's accompanied by me drinking wine? It's pretty much my favorite thing to do, and at least I don't feel guilty for having a few glasses. It always makes dinner more fun for me, and I tend to get high-stress about getting things perfect, timing, etc. When I drink, I have more fun cooking and am less concerned (not sloppily so) about making this beautiful.

Anyone else like cooking under the influence?

Sad Cat Diary

Peaseblossom55 — Sat, 11 May 2013 04:57:55 +0000

FI showed this to me and I thought it was hysterical.

Enjoy!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PKffm2uI4dk

Excited! Going home on vacay!!

thejinxchan — Tue, 14 May 2013 19:48:08 +0000

Just have to share... sooo excited in 5 days will be getting on a looooong 16 hour flight back to the States, and will be bringing BF with me! Not his first time to the US, but will be his first time to LA, Phoenix (home) and Vegas, AND of course he will be meeting my family for the first time and we'll be asking our family for a blessing so he can propose!

It has been a little stressful though, because unlike my previous trips home, I actually have to plan every single day and event since it's all new for him. We'll be hitting up Los Angeles and visiting friends, Disneyland, typical touristy things like Hollywood (gag!), then heading to Phoenix to spend most of the time with family, and then a quick 2 nights in Vegas. Anyone want to suggest a good show to see?

Weee!! I have 2 more flights to work and then it's homeward bound!

On another note, BF spoke to his mom about the heirloom rings they have in the family... BF's parents live on a boat in the Mediterranean and have said the rings were packed away years ago somewhere in the attic, and they won't be going back to the UK until August (we are visiting them on the boat in July.. and I think BF had plans to propose on that trip, because when he found that out, he was extremely bummed, maybe even moreso than I am!) so wondering what he will do about that now...

Family stuff vent

CLoGreenEyes — Tue, 14 May 2013 02:18:34 +0000

So, I'm pretty sad right now about some family stuff. I texted BF to let him know what's going on, but I don't want to keep him up talking, and I really wouldn't know what to say about it anyway. I just kind of want to put it out there and whine a little. So if anybody here is awake anyway, vibes, perspective, and/or distractions of any kind are welcome.

Both of my younger brothers are heroin addicts and have been for five or six years. The one has been doing well recently and has a job, is trying to save up for a reliable car, etc. The other, who has been living with me and my mom, is more volatile, and he is also a type I diabetic and does not take care of himself in that respect. He had been doing better with stuff like blood sugar checks, learning to drive, and job-hunting, but over the past week or two he has been acting very "use-y," for lack of a better word. Come to find out he has been doing crack, heroin, and everything else he can get his hands on. Although nothing of mine has gone missing, I wouldn't be surprised if he has stolen money or pawned something to pay for it, as that is how he has funded everything in the past.

I was in my bed doing a word search and starting to get drowsy when I found all of this out just a little while ago. My mom and her friend came up to his room and I could hear my mom crying, so I went out to see what was up, although I pretty much could figure it out from context. She is kicking him out, which is probably a very overdue course of action, so things are changing here.

I am just very sad, angry, and disappointed all at once. My other brother was kicked out when he turned 18, and so much shit went down after that - arrests, homelessness, etc. Now that this brother is 18 and newly out on his own, especially with the diabetes, I am really afraid for him. While anyone can see that he needs a kick in the ass, I just don't know if he will get the message before he ends up irreversibly hurting himself. I am also irrationally angry with the people he has used with; I have got to remember that these are all his choices and that he's not the cute little brother I grew up with and love and am quite close to. He decides for himself, and obviously the gravity of his decisions are totally lost on him.

So that's what's up. Thanks for reading what the new girl has on her mind. Hopefully I can sleep now after getting that off my chest.

Wait for it...

RWS2011 — Tue, 14 May 2013 15:42:07 +0000

It's The Final Countdown!

Note to self: Must renew Netflix now. The trailer for Arrested Development has left me impatient for the start of the new season.

CLICK

How did you meet your SO?

behsco90 — Thu, 09 May 2013 03:23:33 +0000

After lurking for many months I decided maybe I should start posting.

Anyways, I love hearing how couples met. How did you meet your BF/GF/FI/DH?

As for me, I met my BF while we were both working at a retail store. We were friends for 5 years and best friends for the last 2 of those years. He started dating a coworker and I realized I was jealous. Fortunately things didn't work out between them and one night we finally got things out in the open.

We've been together for a little over a year now. An engagement is probably in the near-ish future but the timing is all up to him :-)

Pre-Planning or Just Keeping Informed?

Belle2188 — Mon, 13 May 2013 23:45:16 +0000

So BF and I are flying back to NY (where I'm from) over Labor Day Weekend for a wedding. Because it's a holiday weekend, I really want to book the flights soon before prices go up, considering the end of August is only 3 1/2 months from now and that's when we would be leaving. It's going to be the first and last time we get back for a while, and BF can't really take more than a few days off at that point in the year. We'll most likely be engaged by then, and I only know this because BF has said on many occasions that we will be (on his own accord) and we've discussed visiting wedding venues while we're there because it's probably the only chance we'll get for a while since we live in CA.

My concern is that because it's a holiday weekend, catering halls will be busy or closed and they won't be taking appointments for quite a few of the days that we're in town. Despite not being able to take a long trip, we do have some flexibility with the two or three days that we can take off in terms of whether they are before or after the weekend--I'm just not sure which is best. So, my question is whether or not it's completely insane to do a little intel and find out from a few places when/if they are taking appointments within that time frame. I reallyreallyreally don't want to pre-plan--not only because it's crazy but also because I feel like it takes the excitement out of the real planning when the time comes, but I'm worried that it's stupid to just leave it to chance when I know this is our only shot for a while.

So, what do you guys think? I'm a little worried about being flamed for this, and it's okay if you think it's a dumb question--just know I'm not intentionally being an ass, I'm just really not sure what to do.

Updates and such...

lennonkdc — Fri, 10 May 2013 20:16:37 +0000

I haven't been posting here very much, just the odd comments from time to time but maybe its time to come back and post an update...

FI and I moved out of our apartment 2 weeks ago, but we don't close on the new house until 5/24 (yay 2 weeks!) So in the meantime we've been staying at FIL's house with our two kitties. We're currently having some FHA required repairs done on the house (roof fixed and paint touched up) so its been fun finding contractors and such. I'll post some pics once we're all moved in.

On the work front, my boss leaves for basic training and JAG school in a month. I'm going to be running the day to day operations of the firm until he gets back in October and I'm both excited and a bit nervous to be lawyering on my own. He's lined up a good network of people I can call on for help, so thats good. He's also given me a raise, moved me to salary and I'll be made a full Associate when he gets back.

Wedding front- nothing to report I promised FI we could wait until we were in the house to worry about the wedding, which seemed like a fine promise when we put in our offer last October (stupid short sale...) But we'll have been engaged for one year in June and I'm antsy to start planning. With my raise we can afford a wedding next year, so thats awesome news. The only wrinkle is that his sister lives in Japan, and she can only afford to come home once a year. Since we hadn't set a date yet, she agreed to be MOH in her MOH's wedding in June 2014. So, she (and FIL's) have been really pushing for June 2014 so she can just stay the month and attend our wedding, if not we'd have to wait until 2015, since FI wants his sister there.

I'm cool with going ahead for June 2014, but we need to at least lock down a venue soon. Every time I bring it up FI gets...not upset, nervous (?) maybe is the better word. He just changes the subject or makes no committal responses. I'm trying really hard to not be insecure and take this as a 'sign' that he doesn't want to marry me, or that he was just trying to buy time or whatever. I know that its because he's focused on the house right now, and once that's settled he'll be more open to talking about the wedding. But its difficult b/c I'm beginning to feel like a joke. 'HAHA the couple thats been dating 10 yrs got engaged and they haven't set a date in 11 months of being engaged.' I don't like feeling like a joke....

anyway, thats whats new with me. I promise that I am truly trying (and for most of the time succeeding) in enjoying this stage in our relationship, but I just needed to vent amongst friends for a bit...

Friday Accountability

CASK85 — Fri, 10 May 2013 14:56:02 +0000

TGIF, you guys!

B: 1 cup egg whites, 1/2 avocado, 1/2 cup spinach, 1/4 cup fat free cheddar, 1/4 leftover ground turkey taco, 4 cherry tomatoes, coffee (358)

S: 20 almonds, 2 prunes (190)

L: Turkey-swiss-hummus lettuce wraps, a carrot, celery and peanut butter (363)

S: 1 cup LF cottage cheese, mixed berries (190)

BBQ Chicken pizzas - making on a tortilla (480ish)

S: Plain yogurt mixed with protein powder and either cocoa powder or pb&j (250ish)

E: Legs and Back + Ab Ripper X (HRM: 850) - I really struggled with this workout. I was shaky about 25 minutes in. Time to up my carbs I think. Thank god next week is a recovery week.

We're back!

Stina51286 — Mon, 13 May 2013 15:34:18 +0000

It works now.

Frustrated....with myself?

FutureMrsReyna — Sat, 11 May 2013 04:30:03 +0000

So I've been on TK for a while..mostly lurking and commenting here and there..but I've finally gotten to my breaking(?) point.

Here's the deal...

My BF and I have been together for what will be 6 years the 27th of this month...we have lived together for about 4 of those years and have 2 children together. We lost our first child at 25 days due to him being 3 months premature...we got our own place together durring our second pregnancy because after what we went through the first time he didnt want to be away from me. we lost several loved ones throughout our time together, open heart surgery for my dad, and his mom who was recently diagnosed with cancer has moved in with us and our 3.5 year old because none of her other sons will deal with her crappy attitude....So when I say we've been through a lot...I really mean it.

Through all of this we have touched on the Marriage thing a hand full of times...I never felt that I needed to be married to have a good relationship or be a good mother. I always dreamed of getting married but was never really in a rush to do it...especially after everything that has happend in my life, I feel that there are bigger things to focus my energies on. But the older I get, I'll be 27 this month, and more of the people around me are getting married...I'm pretty envious. I hate it, or shall I say myself, for feeling this way.

The BF and I have a wonderful relationship and our little family is just fine...but I really am ready to go further. The few times we have talked about Marriage the BF is into it, he doesn't start to get weird about it...without being officially engaged, we came up with our guest list, color scheme and even started researching venues...I kinda ditched the whole effort because I felt I about to start planning a wedding that was really non-existant. BF never told me to stop or for that matter to continue. Should I just have continued and moved forward knowing that he would eventually have to pop the question to make it official? By me stopping did it send him the wrong message? I want so bad to talk with him but I dont want to sound whiney about it...I know he will have an honest conversation with me if I inititiated it, but I want it (engagement) to happen naturally. The BF is very the "If it ain't broke, don't fix it" type, so I'm afraid that he's content with how things are and feels no push to take the plunge.

Don't get me wrong, I'm happy with us and our life but I just want it to be more than just BF/GF, I feel that we've earned more than that title and it just sounds very....childish to me. I never thought that I would feel this way about it and it bugs me.

Thoughts?

Book lover? Tattoo fan? Click here...

radleyboo — Thu, 09 May 2013 15:08:02 +0000

I am a bookworm, have 2 tattoos, and was just saying to FI that I am done, don't care for any more ink. Then I came across this and I might just change my mind. Tattoos inspired by some of the most amazing books ever written, thought I'd share because I know there are a bunch of fellow bookworms and tattoo lovers that haunt this page. I love the Gatsby and Giving Tree tattoos...

http://www.buzzfeed.com/alannaokun/tattoos-inspired-by-books

Any favorites? Anything you would add?

Re-intro

thelamarrs — Wed, 08 May 2013 15:02:39 +0000

Screen Name: thelamarrs
Age: 21
Significant Other's Age: 22
What You Do: Full tie student. Also... I work in a video game store.
What SO Does: He's a full time student, also.
State of Relationship: Same old, same old. :)
How Long You've Been Together: 6 years this month!
How You Met: High school.
Wedding Date (if you're engaged/married): not even close baby
Real Babies: none (i hope)
Fur Babies: Dexter! My adorable kitty.
Loves: Reading, writing, crafts, gaming... did I say reading?
Hates: shaving my legs
Pet Peeves: People who require constant, unnecessary validation,
Hobbies/Activities: Making crafts! And writing.
Favorite Thing About Your SO: Very even tempered.
Least Favorite Thing About Your SO: Very reserved. Sometimes even I can't tell what he's thinking.
Describe Your Personality: Quirky and friendly, also very mild tempered. It takes a lot to make me angry.
Snark Level (1 [low snark] - 10 [high snark]): 1
I've Been On TK Since: 2011 I think?
How You Came to Be On TK: I was a BSC 18 year old girl.
How I like my potatoes: Mashed, baked, hashed, scalloped and cheesey.

Favorite book/author: I love Jodi Picoult, Tamora Pierce and Meg Cabot (gotta get that shameless YA fix) to no end and read everything they publish. As far as series go, I love Harry Potter and the Hunger Games. :)

Tell Us Something Interesting About Yourself: I like to make things. Out of wood.

Thoughts ?

suzie211 — Fri, 10 May 2013 14:06:29 +0000

So I came across this letter this morning. I thought it was very well written and wanted to share.

I do understand both sides to it. On the one side there is the struggle to be accepted, and on the other is a company working in a marketplace full of competition and trying to set themselves apart. It struck a cord with me.

So what are your thoughts?

Click me!

My jaw is still on the floor.

cAllkEttleblack — Mon, 06 May 2013 13:41:53 +0000

Hey ladies. I need some advice, thoughts, or even comfort on how to handle this situation. BF's mom knows about TK and knows that I'm on it quite a bit, so I need to post this as an AE away from the main boards. Ya'll know me, I promise I'm here for a reason.

Let me preface all this by saying that none of this is jealousy, or comparing, or judging. The details I put in here are just facts, not judgements. I love my (someday) FMIL and I love my BF's family just like my own. Also: Bf and I live with his mother and family. We are moving out in August, but have been fortunate enough to be able to live rent free for a few months to get saved up, and I am eternally thankful for that.

BF's mom has been dating a guy since February. They met on christianmingle.com. He lives an hour away so they see each other about twice a week since then. They've gone on three vacations together in the three months they've been together. BF's mom has been skirting her parental duties (BF and I put the youngest, 11, to bed, feed her, pick her up and take her to school/dance at least twice a week) so she can spend time with her boyfriend. She has admitted it openly to us, that because her ex husband was so awful to her (cheated multiple times, never hit) that she deserves to be happy and she will be. I agree, she absoltuely deserves to be happy.

This guy is creepy. The whole family has truly only spent about 5 hours combined with him, and I think that is being generous. To me, he seems like he's got some skeletons in the closet, or something. They are still VERY MUCH in the honeymoon phase of their relationship. Something is just..off. She seems happy though, so good I guess? It's still hard for me to wrap my head around the fact, even, that she admits to skirting being a parent because she 'deserves' it. Before she met him, she has been an absolutely wonderful and attentive mom, and also has told BF and I that we shouldn't get married anytime soon, you're going to be together forever anyways, why rush, yada ya. Never bothered me, I agreed with her.

She got engaged yesterday. She wants to get married this summer (so in the next 2-3 months). Her mother moved in with us yesterday for a month, and FMILs FI knew she was moving in weeks ago. BF and I are pretty much responsible for her care. I offered for her to hire me because I was a home health aide before, but she says no. Mimi wanders. She has stress-related medical issues (she picks at her face constantly). She forgets some things in a matter of 10 seconds, others she remembers. So far, she is not hostile but I have heard she can be. She has Alzheimers very badly and BF's mom GREATLY underestimated the care that she would need. Less than 8 hours after she is moved in, she is already trying to coordinate how we are going to be watching Mimi because she has trips and vacations planned, that she will not reschedule.

And now she is planning a wedding. Her divorce decree just came in the mail 2 months ago. It states that she cannot cohabitate until the youngest is 18 or she'll get taken away, as will the 10,000 a month she gets in child support/alimony will get yanked. In a heartbeat. She says she doesn't care, and will get a part time job if she needs to (her FI does not have a job right now, he was a lawyer but shut down his practice). Everyone around her has told her she is making a huge mistake, and she says that she does not care and God has planned this for her.

Her daughters have came to her crying, and she says that if they put up a fuss and get taken away, then they didn't love her in the first place. This happened last night. BF's mom is a great lady. I don't understand that she has straigtht DERAILED her crazy train and... I don't know. I have been REELING since last night. I can't wrap my head around this, and I am afraid it is going to tear 1. His family apart 2. BF apart HIMSELF, and 3. Our relationship apart. BF's dad still loves his mom very much and is very, very depressed. While having the youngest might help him 'live for something', this might be the final straw in sending him over the edge.

This is very, very long but I had to write it down, maybe even just so I can see my own words 'on paper' and try to come up with a game plan. I love his family too much to not fight for them, as does BF. We're at such a loss as where to even begin. I cried all last night, it's all I can think about now, and I feel broken.

ETA: The worry about this whole mess tearing BF and I's relationship apart is VERY FAR down the totem pole in comparison to protecting his sisters, the girls that I love.

ETA2: If you'd like to know who I am, for whatever reason, you can PM me.

Happy Friday!

peekaboo2011 — Fri, 10 May 2013 13:51:35 +0000

Thank god it's finally here. This week has been the longest ever.

What are you up to this weekend?

Tonight I have a GS Mother-Daughter Sock Hop, and then I might go over to BF's for the night. Tomorrow mom and I are doing a 5K with the puppies as our Mother's Day thing, and then I'm going out to her place to help with painting and other assorted things as they continue trying to move. Sunday I think I'm going to sleep in, but we'll see.

It has been almost a week...

AprilH81 — Fri, 10 May 2013 13:47:49 +0000

... since BF has moved in! So far the transition has gone pretty smoothly. Moe (his cat) has settled in nicely and seems to be more active than she was at his apartment (a good thing because she is a fat cat).

We still have some organizing, and probably some more purging, to get things settled to my standards. Next item on the list is to "train" him (I use that term tongue in cheek) to put his stuff away and not leave a trail of shoes, wallets, phones and other stuff as he comes in the door and makes his way to the couch. lol

I'm looking forward to spending the weekend on some household chores that have been neglected the last few weeks as we were bouncing around between homes. I hope you all have a fabulous Friday and a lovely weekend!

Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn..... :D

p0tt3rgl33k — Thu, 02 May 2013 18:27:29 +0000

Hey, I have been apart of The Knot for a while, but mostly lurking and reading articles that get sent to my email. :) But since the "DAY" is coming up, I figured I would introduce myself.

I have been with my amazing guy for 27 months (yes, we count months)... and he has seen me through a bunch of insane things (and vice versa)... and he is still here. He is an amazing role model for my daughter, and seeing them together always brings a smile to my face.

I have been passively planning this wedding for a long time, but just looking at things and saying "ooo, I want that"... not actively planning. I already have my dress. It was brand-new with DB tags at a thrift store that I frequent. I just had to alter it, and voila. :D My style is very DIY and Budget-y... lol.

So, yeah..... that is me. If you have any questions, just let me know. I am an open book..... :D

Board changes coming!

KnotJackie — Wed, 08 May 2013 18:45:54 +0000

Hi ladies,

The new board updates are coming to you by May 10th! Here are some things you need to know about what is changing:

The Knot Community Update– FAQ

How To:

· Tag a fellow Knottie in the discussion or post?

o Just use the @ symbol - @KnotJackie

· Manage my Notification Preferences?

o Go to your community profile, click Edit Profile

o You can decide if you want to be notified by email or a mini-popup while in community

· Earn badges?

o You can earn badges for a variety of actions – more info coming!

When will I receive notifications?

o New contribution to a discussion you started

o Been mentioned / tagged in a post

o Earned a badge

o Been warned

o New private message

o New posts in your bookmarks

What is changing with Private Messaging?

o More prominent on member profiles

o You can now message multiple users in one PM

o You will be notified when new messages

What are my new options when creating a new thread on a board?

o New discussion

o New poll

o New question

· Creator of question can designate one reply as the answer, awarding points to the member who submitted the chosen/best answer

How do I ignore a user?

o User goes to her preferences page

o There is a ‘Ignore List’ as an option in the left rail

o Click this and type the name of the user, save.

o There’s a max of 5

What is the process when the community rules are violated?

o Warnings take points away from users

o Each warning is for a specified time period

o 5 warnings equate to ban

o Moderators/TK Administrators can send message to users with a warning

MODERATORS --- you will be getting your own Private Moderator board. If you see it, you are a mod! We’ll be posting mod names on the boards as soon as the updates continue. Once the board is live, we will be posting your new roles and permissions there.

Putting this out there

cu97tiger — Wed, 08 May 2013 14:50:08 +0000

I was just thinking today about DH's 20th HS reunion and realized that it is just about 7 weeks away. With my half-marathon now over, this will be my next big goal... so I'm putting this out there: I will give up sugar until after the reunion. After today, no dessert, no soda, no wine. I will continue to run a couple times a week and will start doing classes at the gym every week, as well as maybe starting Insanity.

What do you want to commit to today?

Awesome relationship...why do I want marriage so bad?

ABSmorocco — Tue, 07 May 2013 15:40:03 +0000

Hello everyone, I'm 40, divorced, mom of 2, and independently fabulous. I'm in a 2yr. relationship with an awesome guy who is also divorced with an adult son. We have a great time together even when we are doing yard work. We take care of and care for each other. He has said he wants to be married and so do I - because religiously it's the right thing to do. He has given his intentions to my Mom and Dad when they visited (so sweet). They live in another country. He wants to wait for his Mom to visit to give our intentions to her. She lives accros the country and is caring for his ailing Dad and his Grandmother. I'm trying to understand and be patient because we want to do things properly, but we are bouncing between homes at this point. On the other hand, why on earth do I care about marriage the institution (pun intended, lol)? I wouldn't trade him for the world. He is the man for me. Advice?

Thursday Accountability and a little AW

[Deleted User] — Thu, 09 May 2013 13:25:30 +0000

B: egg + egg white, oat bran toast with preserves, 1 pc bacon, 1/2 c. watermelon
S: if any, pineapple
L: pinto beans/ham soup, roasted green beans, blackberries
S: watermelon, cheese stick
D: salad (from the garden!) and Papa Murphy's pizza

E: gardening (if the weather allows), mad-cleaning the house before ILs show up at God-knows-when this evening.

AW!! since I was diagnosed wtih PMDD in mid-March, we've switched my BCPs to see if that helps alleviate the symptoms I get 2x a month. for months, I have not been able to do much of anything during the "bad weeks". I'm talking, I get up for work (sometimes) and then go to bed after work. but last night, I was able to finish a 30DS workout even though I had a really tough PMDD day (anxiety, sleeplessness, extreme fatigue, anger, crazy hunger, unfocused/confused) and a 10 hour work day. it's the first time in I don't know how long. I am just so excited... the rest of the week I functioned almost normally, instead of spending the whole week in bed. yeah!

Hello, Wife in Training!

soupmikesgirl — Thu, 02 May 2013 01:34:28 +0000

Hello, New to theknot.com and my boyfriend tells me that he wants to marry me and he knows what he wants and it's me.. and then he talks about having a short time frame in which to get married.. we've only been dating about 6 months.. the 20th of this month will be 6 months. People at his work dated for a short time before getting married and his co-workers ask him when he is getting married..

KUI Anyone?

Elle1036 — Thu, 09 May 2013 02:02:32 +0000

I've had a weird, stressful today and I have the day off tomorrow. I want to drink wine and talk about stuff. Anybody in?

Anyone bored and feel like shopping?

Elle1036 — Mon, 06 May 2013 14:55:07 +0000

My 10-year HS reunion is next month and I need a dress.

Now, this may come as a shock to you guys, but I wasn't exactly one of the cool kids in high school. Nerdy, quiet, insecure... Basically, high school was the hardest part of my life so far. I wouldn't even go to the reunion, but I'm hoping that I may be able to reconcile some of my old feelings about it by going and having a good time and feeling good about myself around the people who were mean to me as teenagers.

So, basically, I need to look hot. Help? It's an evening event at a country club, so I'm thinking cocktail attire, right?

It's IN!

doubleSS07 — Thu, 09 May 2013 00:11:25 +0000

I just got the call that my dress is in! I'm so excited and just wanted to share. Now I just have to wait for the UPS man to deliver it from CA to my door in TX.

NEY and everyone has something to say

s-aries8990 — Tue, 07 May 2013 19:35:25 +0000

It's like they're coming out of the wood work!

All within the past like month BF and I have had at least a dozen different people inquire about our relationship.

Several of his friends have kids, a few are married, and they're asking him when we'll contribute to the play date or get married. Just because you're married doesn't mean I'm ready to re-prioritize my life.

His grandparents grilled him again on Sunday about when we're getting married and making babies (at least they'll take us places when we do! - Linky). Again, I will get married when I feel like it damnit!

My cousin, on the other hand, is telling me to not rush anything, that I'm still so young, she was engaged when she was young and they grew apart, and that will happen to me too...blah blah, blah- and then my mom chimed in on how it's because I'm "afraid to leave him" - meanwhile she's off & on with the guy who has cheated on her several times (but I digress)... We've been together for 6 years and I'm not in any rush sooo what the problem is?

Do any of y'all get grilled on your relationship status? Maybe I shouldn't have posted the photos of the flowers he got me for our anniversary...

OLW

KeptInStitches — Wed, 08 May 2013 13:06:09 +0000

Since no one else has started this, I'll have a go if that's okay:

Dear universe,

Remember last week when I asked for a break? Yeah. This was the opposite.

No love,

Want something to go my way

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Dear NEY,

Sorry I'm vague-knotting. There's some isht going down right now for me personally and professionally, and I'm burning out really really fast. I need a place to vent, but I'm not ready to share all the details.

Thanks in advance,

Stitches

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Dear DB's GF,

You know, now that you're going to be working at my favorite coffee shop this summer, I can't go there as often because I don't want you to know about my coffee dependency. But I'll never say it to your face, of course ...

Love,

Stitches

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Dear Mom,

You know, all I ever wanted was for you to be proud of me. No matter how this shakes down, that's still true - can you find a way? I"m really trying over here.

Love,

Stitches

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ETA:

Dear Sak/anyone else on here relying on funding:

Saw this (LINK) and thought of all of us ...

-Stitches

Counseling

kmbryant2413 — Wed, 08 May 2013 14:04:52 +0000

Alright ladies, questions:

I'm going to individual counseling. I went for a while for my ED but I quit going because 1. it was 125 a week and 2. I was awkward and not sure what to do/say.

Now. I have some issues. Some past issues that make me fight like a nasty honey badger, and some issues with how my parents treated me/how exH treated me, etc. I want to be better, so I am going.

Also, BF and I are going to counseling. We want to learn to fight productively and not just yell at each other. We also want to make sure we're on the same page about things (even if we disagree), and BF has some issues that make him the way he is too, and with no insurance, this is a good way to get him some help.

How do I start with a counselor? Do I say 'Look, I have some issues, I don't know 100% what they are but I know I'm angry and don't want to be. Halp!'? So I just follow a counselors lead? Do I make a list of things that I know I harbor anger for and know affect me?

How do BF and I start? We have a good relationship, but I want it better and it's sort of a pre-marital counseling for us. Do they usually know what they're doing and therefore they will ask all the right questions?

So for those of you who have been through counseling......counsel me :)